WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR FEBRUARY 2021

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  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    edited February 2021
    Machka9 wrote: »
    dlfk202000 wrote: »
    bananasandoranges wrote: »
    Debbie, i'm sorry, i can understand not wanting to start again. My sister, whose marriage was ok, said she felt she got lots from her friendships.

    Thanks-
    I am going to be 59 in a few weeks. Done this twice, don't want to go for a third. IF I had the chance to be back with # 1, like I thought might happen, I would consider it but that is no longer an option so will just hang in there and start doing more for myself. More time with my mom, more time doing things that help get me healthy(walking, Zumba if they start classes again), and staying in touch better with my friends. I have only a couple casual friends over here, most of my close friends are in the town my mom lives(my hometown).
    Debbie

    Yes, focus on you!

    I have no intention of leaving my current husband (with the severe traumatic brain injury) and every intention of staying with him till the end. I love him.

    But if he goes before me, which is reasonably likely, I also have no intention of locating a #3.

    I envision spending my last remaining decades on my own and I am quite comfortable with that idea. I have a vague notion of finding a quiet seniors complex of some sort in a flatter more cycling-friendly area, renting or buying a cute 2-bedroom, decorating it the way I want, and spending my days walking, hiking, cycling, and enjoying the outdoors ... or curled up on my sofa reading a novel with my cat. :)

    M in Oz

    I read recently that many people over 50, especially women, if divorced, may be looking to meet someone, but are not looking to cohabitate anew. They are happy to be part of a couple but each in their own home. The women don't want to be roped into cooking and cleaning. My dad and his 2nd wife lived apart for 15 years before getting married, when he was around 60 or 65 and she 15 years younger. In that case, in addition to many break ups coming from her over the years, she wanted her kids to be out of the nest before they lived together; Another over 50 friend got married after a few years of weekends with her guy and then they each kept their own houses for several years after the marriage, until retirement. Then he built a huge wood studio in the yard, so he could have his own place to get away to. In that case he was way more a loner and needed to get away.
  • wizzywig
    wizzywig Posts: 1,246 Member
    :)
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 24,817 Member
    Review ... (Distances include cycling + walking + a bit of rowing)
    Mar-15 … 489.8 km (304.3 miles) = 38 hours 4 min
    Apr-15 … 491.94 km (305.6 miles) = 43 hours 6 min
    May-15 … 361.81 km (224.8 miles) = 35 hours 50 min
    Jun-15 … 569.53 km (353.9 miles) = 41 hours 53 min
    Jul-15 … 230.7 km (143.35 miles) = 32 hours 45 min
    Aug-15 … 211.3 km (131.3 miles) = 28 hours 8 min
    Sep-15 … 306.7 km (190.6 miles) = 35 hour 2 min
    Oct-15 … 441.82 km (274.5 miles) = 47 hours 43 min
    Nov-15 … 660.21 km (410.23 miles) = 60 hours 41 min
    Dec-15 … 499.91 km (282.8 miles) = 54 hours 56 min
    Jan-16 … 864.79 km (537.35 miles) = 65 hours 36 min
    Feb-16 … 470.53 km (292.4 miles) = 40 hours 39 min
    Mar-16 … 917.73 km (570.2 miles) = 66 hours 13 min
    Apr-16 … 417.83 km (259.6 miles) = 40 hours 23 min
    May-16 … 267.09 km (165.9 miles) = 36 hours 10 min
    Jun-16 … 552.1 km (343 miles) = 54 hours 48 min
    Jul-16 … 709 km (440.5 miles) = 60 hours 41 minutes
    Aug-16 … 775.9 km (482.1 miles) = 54 hours 52 minutes
    Sep-16 … 371.3 km (230.7 miles) = 32 hours 20 min
    Oct-16 … 649 km (403.3 miles) = 49 hours 46 min
    Nov-16 … 403 km (250.4 miles) = 52 hours 16 min
    Dec-16 … 511.05 km (317.55 miles) = 52 hours 2 min
    Jan-17 … 741.9 km (461.0 miles) = 70 hours 3 min
    Feb-17 … 600.5 km (373.1 miles) = 57 hours 30 min
    Mar-17 … 1113.2 km (691.7 miles) = 78 hours 25 min
    Apr-17 … 1181.9 km (734.4 miles) = 76 hours 45 min
    May-17 … 426.6 km (265.1 miles) = 39 hours 21 min
    Jun-17 … 575.7 km (357.7 miles) = 41 hours 53 min
    Jul-17 … 714 km (443.7 miles) = 52 hours 23 min
    Aug-17 … 475.8 km (295.6 miles) = 38 hours 41 min
    Sep-17 … 455.5 km (283 miles) = 41 hours 25 min
    Oct-17 … 647.1 km (402.1 miles) = 57 hours 19 min
    Nov-17 … 427.0 km (265.3 miles) = 50 hours 4 min
    Dec-17 … 553.5 km (343.9 miles) = 52 hours 12 min
    Jan-18 … 590.2 km (366.7 miles) = 57 hours 49 min
    Feb-18 … 826.9 km (513.8 miles) = 57 hours 35 min
    Mar-18 … 582.01 km (361.6 miles) = 50 hours 11 min
    Apr-18 … 176.23 km (109.5 miles) = 29 hours 47 min
    May -18 … 167.6 km (104.1 miles) = 29 hours 08 min
    June-18 … 349.9 km (217.4 miles) = 36 hours 58 minutes
    July-18 ... 324.2 km (201.5 miles) = 24 hours 26 minutes
    Aug-18 ... 210.1 km (130.6 miles) = 25 hours 59 minutes
    Sep-18 ... 261.7 km (162.6 miles) = 25 hours 11 minutes
    Oct-18 ... 230.8 km (143.4 miles) = 30 hours 15 minutes
    Nov-18 ... 216.8 km (134.7 miles) = 30 hours 3 minutes
    Dec-18 ... 285.2 km (177.2 miles) = 37 hours 49 minutes
    Jan-19 ... 241.6 km (150.1 miles) = 27 hours 2 minutes
    Feb-19 ... 175.5 km (109 miles) = 19 hours 8 minutes
    Mar-19 ... 170.3 km (105.8 miles) = 28 hours 21 minutes
    Apr-19 ... 160.3 km (99.6 miles) = 25 hours 4 minutes
    May-19 ... 164.0 km (101.9 miles) = 29 hours 10 minutes
    Jun-19 ... 246.2 km (153 miles) = 25 hours 40 minutes
    Jul-19 ... 217.3 km (135.0 miles) = 33 hours 45 minutes
    Aug-19 ... 162.5 km (100.9 miles) = 28 hours 4 minutes
    Sep-19 ... 136.0 km (84.5 miles) = 23 hours 10 minutes
    Oct-19 ... 196.5 km (122.1 miles) = 31 hours 27 minutes
    Nov-19 ... 155.5 km (96.6 miles) = 25 hours 01 minutes
    Dec-19 ... 203.7 km (126.6 miles) = 26 hours 54 minutes
    Jan-20 ... 304.4 km (189.2 miles) = 32 hours 49 minutes
    Feb-20 ... 248.6 km (154.5 miles) = 34 hours 50 minutes
    Mar-20 ... 148.3 km (92.2 miles) = 30 hours 12 minutes
    Apr-20 ... 171.9 km (106.8 miles) = 19 hours 28 minutes
    May-20 ... 183.7 km (114.1 miles) = 20 hours 49 minutes
    Jun-20 ... 130.9 km (81.3 miles) = 18 hours 50 minutes
    Jul-20 ... 41.8 km (26 miles) = 9 hours 8 minutes
    Aug-20 ...148.9 km (92.5 miles) = 21 hours 43 minutes
    Sep-20 ... 119.8 km (74.4 miles) = 23 hours 17 minutes
    Oct-20 ... 191.7 km (119.1 miles) = 23 hours 40 minutes
    Nov-20 ... 273.0 km (169.6 miles) = 29 hours 16 minutes
    Dec-20 ... 216.8 km (134.7 miles) = 21 hours 59 minutes
    Jan-21 ... 208.2 km (129.4 miles) = 24 hours 39 minutes

    Monday, 1 February 2021 … 4.5 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
    Tuesday, 2 February 2021 … 5.3 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 1.0 km rowing + 10 flights of stairs PLUS Weights!
    Wednesday, 3 February 2021 … 4.3 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 2.2 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
    Thursday, 4 February 2021 … 4.7 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
    Friday, 5 February 2021 … 2.8 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
    Saturday, 6 February 2021 … 0.0 km walking + 4.7 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
    Sunday, 7 February 2021 … 0.0 km walking + 50.3 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs

    Monday, 8 February 2021 … 2.0 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
    Tuesday, 9 February 2021 … 2.9 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
    Wednesday, 10 February 2021 … 3.3 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 6 flights of stairs
    Thursday, 11 February 2021 … 3.0 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 10 flights of stairs
    Friday, 12 February 2021 … 0.9 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
    Saturday, 13 February 2021 … 0.0 km walking + 20.3 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
    Sunday, 14 February 2021 … 0.0 km walking + 21.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs

    Monday, 15 February 2021 … 0.8 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 7 flights of stairs
    Tuesday, 16 February 2021 … 4.6 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 12 flights of stairs
    Wednesday, 17 February 2021 … 5.0 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 6 flights of stairs
    Thursday, 18 February 2021 … 6.4 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 6 flights of stairs


    2020 Monthly February
    Walking Distance (km): 50.4
    Walking Time (min): 629.5
    Cycling Distance (km): 96.1
    Cycling Time (min): 320.4
    Flights Stairs Climbed Number: 77.0
    Flights Stairs Climbed Time (min): 61.6
    Rowing Distance (km): 3.2
    Rowing Time (min): 41.0
    Other Distance: 0.0
    Other Time: 97.0 (weights)

    Totals
    Total Distance (km): 149.7
    Total Distance (miles): 93.0
    Total Time (min): 1149.5
    Total Time (hr): 19:09:32
  • KJLaMore
    KJLaMore Posts: 2,827 Member
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  • Mrs_Hoffer
    Mrs_Hoffer Posts: 5,194 Member
    edited February 2021
    bananasandoranges wrote: »
    general question
    Do you note down all expenditures ?
    Do you stick to a very tight budget

    I used to do that, and it seemed better. I used quicken which really worked for me.Now quicken is not usable in Europe! Also writing everything down is another thing to do, and it's hard to get through everything in a day.
    But it certainly helped to be on top of stuff. i haven't found a good budgeting software that works as well as quicken did for me, but i think it's also a time management issue too.

    YES to both ! That's how I've paid off almost $25k in personal debt in 16 months! I have one last personal loan (approx $4k) to go and I will be debt free except for our house (which we are paying extra on every month!) When I get this personal loan paid off I will start to funnel everything to the mortgage! I used GoodBudget for awhile (the free version) which is the old "envelope" system. I now use YNAB (You Need A Budget).
  • Mrs_Hoffer
    Mrs_Hoffer Posts: 5,194 Member
    edited February 2021
    bwcetc wrote: »
    Rant regarding older son's return to his group home ....
    Today my older, physically disabled son, returned to his group home after residing with my husband and I all but about 3-1/2 weeks since the pandemic started. You might recall that he was at his group home for about 3 weeks in August when he had a choking episode that required a ventilator after an untrained aide mismanaged a meal; and then, when he finally went back in November, he spent only a week when another untrained aide was negligent in his routine an he ended up in the ER with bladder spasms. We brought him home again. Until today. Today we took him back to his home. He's been vaccinated and I've been having a lot of back, hip and knee problems. The timing seemed right. He was there 6 hours. Just 6 hours when we got a phone call that once again ... I can hardly believe I'm typing this .. yet another untrained aide fed him dried out fish. And he choked. Taken by ambulance he is now in the ER and I am waiting for information. My husband was allowed in with him ... covid restrictions allowing only one person ... and we are waiting for a GI to come in and scope the blockage. He is stable at the moment, but delays in the past are what resulted in the need for a ventilator. I am so angry! The very last words I spoke to the residential manager were that she make certain his meals were finely chopped/ground and served with sauces as swallow specialists have recommended. Someone sent me a picture of his dinner. Unbelievable. Dried out fish with burnt edges. No sauce or even catsup. Served with instant mashed potatoes with no butter. I don't know how we can ever have confidence in this group again. I can bring my son home permanently, but don't know when or if we will find another place that is any better. Most importantly, my son is suffering yet again because others don't communicate or understand what they're doing. He deserves so much more than this.

    Beth near Buffalo

    Oh Beth , I'm so sorry to hear this!! And you're right, he DOES deserve SO much better than that!! I just dont understand why people can't slow down and pay more attention! It's their JOB for heaven's sake!! I'm sure each client/patient has some sort of chart or list of things that they need or CANT HAVE, etc. Slow down and read the stinkin chart!! People today can't concentrate on any one thing for more than 20 seconds. And don't even get me started on how distracted they are by their phones! But I'm like you -- I would be so mad that I could spit -- or worse!! I'm so sorry that you have to deal with this YET AGAIN!! You are in my thoughts and prayers.

    <3 Teresa in OH
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,042 Member
    edited February 2021
    Michele ice is the worst. I will take snow or rain over ice anytime. We have had patches of icy sidewalks for a month now. Next week it will warm up enough to melt them. Our main roads are good. They clear them right away here.

    Stay home if there is ice on the roads and walks. It is not worth the risk going out. The only reason I do short walks with Drew on these icy walks is I have yaktracks. Even with them I still have to be very careful walking.

    Electricity can be a problem in ice storms so have enough water to drink and flush toilets for a few days and if electricity goes out shut off water and drain pipes. Some in Texas are finding the hard way about burst pipes. It creates a flood in your home. A home here where owners out of town their furnace went out the water in the back of their toilet froze and pipes burst. $50,000 dollars in damage.

    :heart: Margaret
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 16,904 Member
    :) We don't get really bad snow and ice here and when we do, it lasts only a few days maybe as much as two weeks. I like the change of the seasons and the gradual changes in light and dark. Right now, I'm enjoying the luxury of staying indoors except for dog walking. Eventually I'll be delighted that I can go outside and work in the yard every day.

    :) Some days I realize that I don't mind that it's cold, I just find it challenging to have to put on so much outerwear just to walk the dogs for 15 minutes.

    <3 Barbie in NW WA
  • csofled
    csofled Posts: 3,022 Member
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  • drkatiebug
    drkatiebug Posts: 1,939 Member
    bananasandoranges wrote: »
    general question
    Do you note down all expenditures ?
    Do you stick to a very tight budget

    I used to do that, and it seemed better. I used quicken which really worked for me. Now quicken is not usable in Europe! Also writing everything down is another thing to do, and it's hard to get through everything in a day.
    But it certainly helped to be on top of stuff. i haven't found a good budgeting software that works as well as quicken did for me, but i think it's also a time management issue too.

    Yes and no. I use YNAB (You Need a Budget) software. It is web based and tied to our checking account and both credit cards (Kroger and Amazon). Our other accounts are tracked but not tied to the budget so I enter those transactions manually. We categorize every single penny and track all spending. I started doing this when my husband retired and his income was cut more than half. It was life changing for us and helped us to get consumer debt free in two years and completely debt free last year. We never missed his paycheck. What I love about it is that when we use the credit card, the money is automatically categorized and subtracted from the budget category. Then when I pay it off, which I usually do about every two weeks, the only thing it affects is the actual bank balance, not the "available to budget" balance. This way I don't feel like we're living on next month's income. The reason I say no the the "stick to a tight budget" question is that we have some pretty lax categories, so that if we overspend in food or clothing (the two usual culprits), I just move money from another category to cover it. I did stick to the budget quite religiously when we were paying off debt. We budget a month in advance. For example, our March budget was funded and categorized on February 1 using the income we got on the last Wednesday in January (social security) and Feb 1 (pension). We are very strict about that and never, ever move money from one month to the other.

    I could talk about this all day. It is the one area of discipline that I feel like we finally got right. If I could be this disciplined with my eating, I would be at goal. We are incredibly blessed to have stumbled upon this system for our finances and that it resonated with us so that we would make it work.
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,042 Member
    Dee know how you feel. There is a deicing product you can buy at an auto store you can spray on your windows that helps with ice. Unfortunately it is like ice melt up here. It sells out quickly.
  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,028 Member
    I stayed out of the cookies! Yay! But I did have some popcorn that my mother made. There's always something.

    Annie in Delaware
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 16,505 Member
    Snowflake1968 wrote: »
    I just heard that Season 2 of Lego Masters will be airing this summer, for those interested.

    Pip - it’s nice to her be getting these things completed before you move in, but I bet you’re getting antsy to get in.
    Great deal on a beautiful rug.

    Debbie - that will be good for you and your Mom to have a weekend together.

    Beth - I am so sorry to read your post, how irresponsible of them. Is there an advocacy group or local news station that would help at all? Your son and family are in my prayers.

    My Grandparents were married in 1941, he passed in 1997 and she did in 2009. They always had separate bank accounts no joint and they would each pay a portion of the bills. There are numerous entries in Grammie’s diaries of anytime he borrowed money from her and then would be noted as he paid her back. As kids we would get Christmas presents from him and her and then usually a couple from the both of them. That was also noted in her diaries, “Harley bought Tracey a deep wine coloured velour housecoat for Christmas”. “We bought”, “I bought” all very detailed.
    I always thought that they were forward thinking for their time.

    Lisa - thank you for the smoothie tips.
    Several of our staff lost their sense of taste and smell. All of our staff that has it had it between Nov 15 and Dec 20 and some of them still can’t taste properly.
    I use the Working Feet and love it.
    😂😂 John Travolta.

    Barbara - Yes it is my sacroiliac joints that I just got the 1-2 degree mobility in. When I started I had no mobility in my right hip or sacroiliac joints. She told me the first day that it would be 6 weeks and I’m only half way through. I feel a difference in my mobility but the pain is terrible as all of my joints and muscles wake up and start being used properly again. I’ll be glad when I’m pain free, I just need some patience.

    Terri - “Spending our kids inheritance”, my parents and grandparents were very fond of telling me that it wasn’t their job to leave an inheritance. My Grandparents did though. My parents really had nothing, they lived paycheque to paycheque all their married lives.

    Machka - I hope you do get some good nights sleeps, I think you really need it more than you know.

    Barbie - I wish I had been taught about money growing up, but I think when you have no money and are always robbing Peter to pay Paul and not spending properly yourselves it’s hard to teach your children another way.

    Annie - did your affirmation here work? Did you eat anymore?

    Rebecca - I have the last two This is Us recorded that I need to get caught up on.

    I have not been able to get comfortable since last evening, slept fitfully, and have squirmed more than a toddler in church all day trying to get comfortable. I still did my exercises in hopes that would be a health and not a hindrance but I’ve really not noticed a difference. I think I will take a pain reliever tonight.

    Rodger has blood work in the morning and then is going to purchase the plumbing parts he needs to replace our sink and faucet.

    I hope tomorrow is a better day.
    On the plus side the temperature was only -8 on my way home from work.
    I took this picture at 1826 this evening, this is facing Southeast.
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    Tracey in Edmonton

    Yea, looking forward to be able to put furniture in. Not doing that til the floors are done and cleaned. My head is spinning with the thought of where to place the furniture we have. I don’t like plastering the loveseat and chair against the wall. Pictures are hard too. I don’t put them up til the furniture is in.
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 16,505 Member
    exermom wrote: »
    Pip – lovely rug. What is “offer up”? The Craigs List of CA?

    M – I don’t know what the name of the underground fire is, that was one of my questions of the day, where is the most continuous underground fire? And the answer was Australia. That’s all I know.

    I’ve been reading on Facebook all about how they are supposed to have this really big ice storm in NC. The gym I usually go to isn’t opening until 9 tomorrow. We looked at weather.com and they’re just going to get a small amount of ice. But you know NC – they are freaking out.

    Michele in FL who stomach is growling. Not sure why
    exermom wrote: »
    Pip – lovely rug. What is “offer up”? The Craigs List of CA?

    There is a free app called OfferUp. This is how I sold most of my stuff in Washington. Kinda like Craigslist. You can post stuff and elect to ship what you sold and list your fee to ship or tell the potential buyer to meet someplace or they can come pick up. You can search for something and save it to your “like” list and watch to see if the price goes down or see what else that seller has to offer
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,190 Member
    Our boiler went out at lunchtime today. I'm waiting for a call back from the guy we used for the new thermostat . He said he couldn't do it, but would contact a colleague.
    Luckily, the below freezing temperatures are finished, but we still need heating and hot water!
    Not looking forward to a cold night if the guy can't get to us! :s

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • Snowflake1968
    Snowflake1968 Posts: 6,725 Member
    I have no intention of leaving my husband and plan on being there until the end for one of us. However, I don't know how well I would do living on my own. I don't like being alone and I swear that my Mom's Alzheimer's progressed so quickly because of loneliness. I think that loneliness is one of my biggest fears of growing older.
    So depending on my age, I may date again.

    Dee - That's a beautiful wreath.

    Not much to say, I was in pain most of the evening and no matter what I tried I couldn't get comfortable. At around 8pm I asked Rodger to put my Dr. Ho on my back and it helped. I will do the same this evening, only earlier. If I could I would use it at work.

    I am off work tomorrow so that will be nice.
    Tracey in Edmonton
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,439 Member
    Warm hugs to any of you without heat or power!💖💕
    Rebecca

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