WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JULY 2021
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"Get to do"s and "chose well"sChose well: BP, dogs to powerline, dog group,
Bonus:
Get to do: take BP, dogs to powerline, church, filing, review June council minutes, county ARP project proposals 111.co.curry.or.us/ figure out how to see what’s using all our mobile data, USE those torture bands/do that BB&B video, call S, fire district: drop off cookies, clarification of chief’s report, finish and email draft minutes/meeting announcement, ongoing: input 2019 call sheets into NFIRS, work with chief on equipment letter, substance abuse policy, NFIRS mutual aid and other missing details, ask for boots donator contact info, appreciation letter or certificate to boots donator, index mutual aid files; watch STAS Day 20, declutter sideboard, learn new dances (Nothing but You, Do Your Thing, A Little Less Broken, Blame it on my beating heart, Homesick; practice dances: One Margarita, I’m so used to being broke, All Night, Pure Movies to Wine, Beer, Whiskey, I ain’t never gonna love nobody but Cornell Crawford (Alley cat),); finish mulching flowerbed, invest another 10 minutes in prepping living trust, Freddie’s for complete series TDAP <$48, get Shingrix vaccine, find and configure a screen time popup, figure out where to plant the last of the naked lady bulbs, and soon as it warms up above 50 and dries out below 60% humidity I’ll tape and spray paint those rusted areas of Aunt Elsie’s stove, ask Terry about GB’s FD firetruck tax levy – contacts, media, advocate???, Reward: inventory seeds, plan this fall’s garden, wishlist replenishments (Milena F1 orange peppers and beit alpha cukes next year).
Jump back July:
10-Reach out to someone you trust and share your feelings with them:
11-Look for something positive in a difficult sitiuationi:
Oops! Did NOT take BP yesterday, and today fell down the internet hole for hours and hours researching supplements, both quality and costs. Signed up with Consumer Reports (gulp) so time to watch the rest of what I want from Hallmark and cancel that subscription to offset.
Julie something seems to be working for you, you sound happier!
Heather :…Leave check for $150. Thank you” :laugh:
Penny Brr!!! But sooo beautiful!
Terri checked “Swallows and Amazons” out from library thanks to your mention. What a charming book, but cannot imagine children having such freedom and adventures nowadays…
Allie prayer said for you and Dan. Hope the sleep test gives good answers.
Carol glad to hear the good eye news. Your gratitude for being relieved of dog sitting duties made me smile.
Pip
that poem. Happy 66th, Kirby!
Machka you are probably three years’ worth of exhausted. Glad you’re finally getting some sleep. Thanks for understanding about giving the gift of listening. The “childhood punishments” meme made me snort my water. :laugh:
Tracey the Michaela and chair pics. Did your DH build the chair?
Beth (((hugs)))
Kiz “collecting fabric and sewing fabric are two different hobbies. Same with seeds” Ah yes, collecting seeds vs sowing and tending … that would be me!
Welcome @jaimie1757 ! There are gals here at every stage of the journey.
Kim thoughtful post about gifts. I’m delighted when something appears that would be “just right for X” but struggle with obligatory gift giving events. Fortunately have few to buy for (Joe, T, C, D and now R).
Too many glasses of red wine and sweets shattered my CI<CO run. Barely made steps. Do much better when strolls with T, D or R are scheduled. Need to figure out alternatives.
Back to the internet rabbit hole, this time to start researching a new to me suv.
Lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
July: leaner/stronger/kinder than June.2021: choose to be leaner/stronger/kinder NOW
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how is the SUV seeking going? why an SUV?
mood: life is full of ups and downs. not being semi-confined and the mild summery weather certainly contribute to being more on the up side or less on the down side.
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CICOweight not down at all.
continuing on experiment with intermittent fasting. (not eating early in day) it doesn't seem to make me lose, but may make stability easier.
one advantage is that I'm very GF (high intolerance: gluten gives me dramatic liquid runs, naturally accompanied by exhaustion, and vitamin deficiency), and breakfast, especially when travelling is the meal where it's not so easy or almost impossible to find GF when out. So it might well be easier to travel if I skip-ish breakfast...or have very late one... though I do like breakfast and its regularity.1 -
Regarding weight --
I have developed the knack of maintenance. After decades of up and down, I have maintained my weight for the past couple years! While maintaining is better than gaining, I'd like to lose weight.
But how?
I try to keep the number of calories I consume prior to 6 pm reasonably low. I eat lower calories foods and try to keep the quantity down. Until 6 pm, I'm on track.
Then I come home.
My husband makes dinner and sometimes that's OK, he'll make something fairly low cal but other times it's fairly high cal. I also get some really interesting combinations!! He has no sense of smell or taste because of his brain injury, so it doesn't really matter to him what he puts together ... and he doesn't really understand calories. I have made some attempts to explain but he doesn't seem to get it. I also cannot tell him that I don't want something because it upsets him. And finally, the Australian way of serving food is still weird to me ... the cook serves everything onto each plate rather than putting the food on the table in bowls. So he'll often serve me more than I want ... and if I mention I'd prefer less, that can upset him too.
Then he likes his sweets after and wants me to have them too. I talk to him about eating less and we do for a little while, then the quantity increases again.
So I've tried to eat less earlier in the day, but that just makes me grouchy hungry by the time I get home.
And I've tried to exercise more, but that can be hard to keep up ... I get tired.
I'm not sure what to do.
Machka in Oz
Hi Machka I think you just need to stick your guns.
it's not fair for anyone to be pushed to eat more than they want to because a husband, wife, mother, grandma WANTS you to eat more.
maybe you can say. this is delicious but as I'm smaller I don't have as big a stomach, so I'm happy to save some of this delicious food for tomorrow.
same for desserts.
I think it can be a tricky situation for many couples. I haven't been in a couple for. awhile but in my last couple I did most of the day to day cooking. when I'd cook I'd use like 1 tsp of cooking oil per person max or so. he could use a quarter cup for the 2 for 1 meal of us in his veggie cooking. it was very tasty I'm sure, but... and I think if I asked him to use less oil he didn't like having his style cramped...so I ended continuing doing most of the food prep.
It's really common for people in the same family not to eat exactly the same food and certainly not the same quantities.
You can also ask for it to not be served onto the plate OR serve it onto the plate yourself.
There needs to be a bit of compromise.
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I tried to add something I forgot yesterday on my food diary but impossible today, to go back or forward. anyone else have that issue?0
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bananasandoranges wrote: »Regarding weight --
I have developed the knack of maintenance. After decades of up and down, I have maintained my weight for the past couple years! While maintaining is better than gaining, I'd like to lose weight.
But how?
I try to keep the number of calories I consume prior to 6 pm reasonably low. I eat lower calories foods and try to keep the quantity down. Until 6 pm, I'm on track.
Then I come home.
My husband makes dinner and sometimes that's OK, he'll make something fairly low cal but other times it's fairly high cal. I also get some really interesting combinations!! He has no sense of smell or taste because of his brain injury, so it doesn't really matter to him what he puts together ... and he doesn't really understand calories. I have made some attempts to explain but he doesn't seem to get it. I also cannot tell him that I don't want something because it upsets him. And finally, the Australian way of serving food is still weird to me ... the cook serves everything onto each plate rather than putting the food on the table in bowls. So he'll often serve me more than I want ... and if I mention I'd prefer less, that can upset him too.
Then he likes his sweets after and wants me to have them too. I talk to him about eating less and we do for a little while, then the quantity increases again.
So I've tried to eat less earlier in the day, but that just makes me grouchy hungry by the time I get home.
And I've tried to exercise more, but that can be hard to keep up ... I get tired.
I'm not sure what to do.
Machka in Oz
Hi Machka I think you just need to stick your guns.
it's not fair for anyone to be pushed to eat more than they want to because a husband, wife, mother, grandma WANTS you to eat more.
maybe you can say. this is delicious but as I'm smaller I don't have as big a stomach, so I'm happy to save some of this delicious food for tomorrow.
same for desserts.
I think it can be a tricky situation for many couples. I haven't been in a couple for. awhile but in my last couple I did most of the day to day cooking. when I'd cook I'd use like 1 tsp of cooking oil per person max or so. he could use a quarter cup for the 2 for 1 meal of us in his veggie cooking. it was very tasty I'm sure, but... and I think if I asked him to use less oil he didn't like having his style cramped...so I ended continuing doing most of the food prep.
It's really common for people in the same family not to eat exactly the same food and certainly not the same quantities.
You can also ask for it to not be served onto the plate OR serve it onto the plate yourself.
There needs to be a bit of compromise.
All that might work with a person without a brain injury ... unfortunately, it's a bit more tricky with a person with a brain injury.
Making the evening meal is an independence thing for him, and it's his way of telling me he loves me. Also it is really hard to explain things to him. So much misunderstanding and tears.
M in Oz6 -
Allie—Good luck with your medical procedure.
Michele—So sorry that Vince’s car was hit by someone. :ohwell:
jaime1757—Welcome! :flowerforyou:
Machka— You have quite a dilemma. The only thought I have is to use smaller plates. :ohwell:
I am having a good time knitting a baby blanket. Our daughter-in-law is expecting a baby, due in November. We plan to be there so DDIL and our son can go to the hospital for the birth and we can stay at their home with our grandson.
Katla in NW Oregon
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I'm thinking I need to become more consistent about lunch walks ... less browsing through shops, more walking. That might help the CO side of things.
M in Oz2 -
FLOWERS This is not my post...
I'm into cut flowers of late. I know it's not ecological in most cases (it's an industry like another with it's pros and cons), but it does brighten up the home. lately I've been getting a single Lily with a few flowers on the stock which lasts a good week. I dislike the strong smell, so I remove the stamen/center and that seems to sort the smell out for the most part. I love their big flowing form.[/quote]
I am getting flowers from my gardens now. When I cut them or get fresh from the store. I compost them when they are finished. I try to compost the organic matter I can because that is what creates the methane in the landfills.
Went to DSIL memorial service yesterday in Spruce Wisconsin. Lovely spot by an old church in the country. I did bring flowers from my yard and son's. One of the flowers was feverfew I got from my mother in law (her mother). From son's house I picked what were his favorite. They were they only fresh flowers there. I am glad I brought them. DH was going to end his speech with all the dificuties she had in her life. All I said is I would leave out about the job troubles. Something must have gotten through either me or his sister because he ended with how well she overcame her troubles and with how proud she would be to see how well her son and daughter-in-law are doing. Her son and her had a difficult relationship. They are now expecting twin boys.
Beth I just saw video adding Magnesium so calcium is absorbed better helps too. Use Epson salts for the magnesium not sure of ratio. Info would be on line. Hope this helps. Margaret
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Machka - It's no wonder you are tired. I'm sure you will think of something to get round the situation.
Couple of good things today.
Firstly, I made a spinach and feta pie for dinner, while I was preparing lunch. Haven't had one for ages. Will make coleslaw, plus chips for DH.
Secondly, I gently suggested to DH that he could Zoom the family for the match. He looked a bit doubtful, but this morning I asked him if he had given it more thought. At breakfast he texted my son who thought it was a brilliant idea and is going to invite him 15 mins before it starts. The kids will love it!
This afternoon I walked into town to exchange my soda syphon cylinder. I popped into Tesco, a giant supermarket, to buy a couple things that they do the best. They have started hugely discounting some products if you have their Clubcard. At the till I told the lady that it was the last time I was coming and she should tell her manager that I considered it bullying and coercion and bad practice. Grrrrrr! I refuse to do loyalty cards.
This is DH's poem for the kids tonight.
ENGLAND ENGLAND WE LOVE YOU THE BEST
YOUR FOOTBALL IS BETTER THAN ALL OF THE REST
AND JUST FOR TODAY THE ONES WE HATE BITTERLY
ARE ALL OF THE FANS WHO ARE SHOUTING FOR ITALY
BUT WE PROMISE TOMORROW WE WON'T HATE THE BLUES
IF OUR ENGLAND WIN AND THEIR ITALIANS LOSE
Edie was playing her first proper football match today. DDIL sent a video of her nearly scoring a goal!
Much love, Heather UK xxxxxxxx
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I'm taking my cousin back to the airport in a bit. She had an eventful trip with the funeral service and hurricane and her mother in the hospital.
Tomorrow I have four hours of Zoom scheduled, including the Writing group. I have an assignment to do for that yet. And then Tuesday my sister is coming with her grandson. He has always been a little diva, nothing gets done when he is around. My mother usually does the shopping for the visit but she seems to be leaving it to me this time. Lots to do. I'm not used to being this busy; it makes me nervous.
Teddy seems a lot better. I skipped his pain pill because he was frisky. I just need to keep my sister's grandson away from him. The kid is nine and I'm told he is getting more mature. But they said that last year and he was a little brat. I really don't like this kid. But there's no sense getting upset ahead of time. Sufficient unto the day are the troubles thereof.
Annie in Delaware2 -
I've been trying to figure it out for some time now.
So far all I've got are:
- exercise more. I do want to start running at lunch a couple times each week again ... and walking more on other days.
- order lower calorie foods and ingredients. He works with what's there.
M in Oz3 -
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Machka: I wonder if you could bring a small container to the table when your DH serves your plate and tell him you want to save some of it for your lunch the next day as you get so hungry at that time. I guess that could backfire if it made him serve you even more on your plate. I used to take dinner left overs for my lunch the next day and it was so easy.
Serving Meals: When I was growing up the food was always served on the table. I continued to do this when I got married but over the years it evolved that we served our selves from the stove. Now, after almost 53 yrs of marriage, DH fixes his breakfast and lunch and I do my own. Then, I prepare dinner and we fix our plates and eat in front of the television. Guess that's kind of sad but it works for us.
Carol in GA
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Good Sunday!
I leave for 24 hours and y'all got chatty! LOL!
Work was good considering I got little done that "needed" to be done. I did manage to get through a pile of papers that needed sorted -trashed and filed as appropriate. Met friends for a meal then headed to Kentucky. I was so full from supper that even my bra hurt sitting on the tummy! I think I was so hungry that I didn't breathe while inhaling food. I ended up taking it off while driving! Felt so freeing! Found no critters under the house- yay! Got rid of spiders. I got to hand feed a cow and she even let me pet her! DH and I sat on the porch with spiked lemonade and just relaxed. It is so peaceful here!
Yesterday was a day of great people. My nephew married a beautiful lady. It was our other nephew's wife's birthday. It was another friend's anniversary. It was Pip's DH's birthday. Popular day!
Gifts- My nephew and his wife sent a thank you note for their gift which was donations to some of their honeymoon experiences. My oldest daughter believes in experiences more than things so I try to use that as my guide. Gift giving is so difficult these days as everyone buys what they want. With the grands all getting older, it is harder to buy things, so experiences work much better.
DH does stock and talk with people on the showroom, but his lack of vision makes helping me out not possible. What I would like from him is more back up. We will see.
Page 28. Need to get some stuffs done, will catch up more in short while.
Kylia currently in Kentucky3 -
Edie and her team.
She is the little one, third girl from the right of the pic. Nice kit.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
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Amendment to last line.
Excitement rising to fever pitch!!!!!
Heather UK, who thinks Italy will win.
Xxxxxx
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Here is a good article on the gut microbiome. Ignore the bit where they are trying to sell something.
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2021/jul/11/unlocking-the-gut-microbiome-and-its-massive-significance-to-our-health
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx1 -
It is not affecting us. It is actually a good thing. Increases tourism here..
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RV Rita – I understand that they just found parts of a UFO. How’s that affecting you?’
Michele NC
Tracy
You’ve come close to describing my life. He is trying but if there is any new stress, he has a very difficult time dealing with it. He was doing really well, then we got some bad news and he lost it for two days. But he is trying. He realizes the drinking is destroying his health and affecting me too. He does love me but I sometimes think he loves beer more.
On page 22. Had a really busy day yesterday: triathlon in the morning, to town to get lunch, working the rental booth for a while, then I got an hour in swimming then lake!
Today will be lazy day, but still have to work rental office a little while.
RvRita
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Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie I have not been to any al-anon meetings but have read the AA book. I am working on not enabling him. If he wants alcohol, he has to go get it himself. What’s working is that I am testing giving him the grocery money which he has to pay for gas for the car, groceries, and his beer out of it. He puts a lot of value to food showing love so he needs to make the decision of food or beer. This is helping me to support him but not enable him. I hope it works.
RvRita4 -
So thinking of getting my hair cut before our trip. Right now its behind my ears. Husband announced because I didnt get it cut yesterday when he offered to take me, then today I can walk there. So out of spite I have announced that I won't get it cut today, because he was being so cheeky! Men! I might do it tomorrow. I have 4 letters to write before we leave on Thursday. I will take a month break from that hobby.
I will need to take some Tupperware so that when I am in a situation where everyone is eating, but I am fasting, I can take my portion and eat it when my window opens. I still want to be in control of the when. The settling for whatever, whenever sets me in a panic. If I can control one thing in my life, its the when regarding eating. The what, I can settle for what I can get at the time. I know for a fact that I don't function well on any sort of fast food, (except Arbys Reuben sandwiches).👍🙃😋. But burgers will just sit in my gut and make me feel miserable. I would rather not eat than eat crappy. If I have learned anything during this intermittent fasting mind shift is that when I eat, its not lots of chemicals, and preservatives. I owe myself respectful, and mindful eating. I run better on foods that energize, and process well.
Rebecca
Nervous about traveling!4 -
Rebecca - have a look at the article I posted.
Breaking news......my son has just ten minutes ago rung DH and told him that they have all taken covid tests today and are negative, so my son has driven over to pick him up. He has just left.
So happy for him and what a great thing for them to do for him.
Wonderful!
Heather, happy and grateful in Hove UK xxxxxxxx5 -
Rita I highly recommend Al Anon to help you and leave your husband to seek his own recovery 3
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cityjaneLondon wrote: »Rebecca - have a look at the article I posted.
Breaking news......my son has just ten minutes ago rung DH and told him that they have all taken covid tests today and are negative, so my son has driven over to pick him up. He has just left.
So happy for him and what a great thing for them to do for him.
Wonderful!
Heather, happy and grateful in Hove UK xxxxxxxx
Oh, well done for your son and family. Such a lovely gesture. And fingers crossed for England!0 -
bananasandoranges wrote: »Regarding weight --
I have developed the knack of maintenance. After decades of up and down, I have maintained my weight for the past couple years! While maintaining is better than gaining, I'd like to lose weight.
But how?
I try to keep the number of calories I consume prior to 6 pm reasonably low. I eat lower calories foods and try to keep the quantity down. Until 6 pm, I'm on track.
Then I come home.
My husband makes dinner and sometimes that's OK, he'll make something fairly low cal but other times it's fairly high cal. I also get some really interesting combinations!! He has no sense of smell or taste because of his brain injury, so it doesn't really matter to him what he puts together ... and he doesn't really understand calories. I have made some attempts to explain but he doesn't seem to get it. I also cannot tell him that I don't want something because it upsets him. And finally, the Australian way of serving food is still weird to me ... the cook serves everything onto each plate rather than putting the food on the table in bowls. So he'll often serve me more than I want ... and if I mention I'd prefer less, that can upset him too.
Then he likes his sweets after and wants me to have them too. I talk to him about eating less and we do for a little while, then the quantity increases again.
So I've tried to eat less earlier in the day, but that just makes me grouchy hungry by the time I get home.
And I've tried to exercise more, but that can be hard to keep up ... I get tired.
I'm not sure what to do.
Machka in Oz
Hi Machka I think you just need to stick your guns.
it's not fair for anyone to be pushed to eat more than they want to because a husband, wife, mother, grandma WANTS you to eat more.
maybe you can say. this is delicious but as I'm smaller I don't have as big a stomach, so I'm happy to save some of this delicious food for tomorrow.
same for desserts.
I think it can be a tricky situation for many couples. I haven't been in a couple for. awhile but in my last couple I did most of the day to day cooking. when I'd cook I'd use like 1 tsp of cooking oil per person max or so. he could use a quarter cup for the 2 for 1 meal of us in his veggie cooking. it was very tasty I'm sure, but... and I think if I asked him to use less oil he didn't like having his style cramped...so I ended continuing doing most of the food prep.
It's really common for people in the same family not to eat exactly the same food and certainly not the same quantities.
You can also ask for it to not be served onto the plate OR serve it onto the plate yourself.
There needs to be a bit of compromise.
All that might work with a person without a brain injury ... unfortunately, it's a bit more tricky with a person with a brain injury.
Making the evening meal is an independence thing for him, and it's his way of telling me he loves me. Also it is really hard to explain things to him. So much misunderstanding and tears.
M in Oz
that sound rough,
maybe only eat dinner ?0 -
Machka: I wonder if you could bring a small container to the table when your DH serves your plate and tell him you want to save some of it for your lunch the next day as you get so hungry at that time. I guess that could backfire if it made him serve you even more on your plate. I used to take dinner left overs for my lunch the next day and it was so easy.
Serving Meals: When I was growing up the food was always served on the table. I continued to do this when I got married but over the years it evolved that we served our selves from the stove. Now, after almost 53 yrs of marriage, DH fixes his breakfast and lunch and I do my own. Then, I prepare dinner and we fix our plates and eat in front of the television. Guess that's kind of sad but it works for us.
Carol in GA
Machka, I was thinking smaller plates too.
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got some nice exercise and tiny bit of housework today but that's about it.0
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Stat for the day-
Housecleaning- 2hrs 29min, 59sec, dust vacuum, laundry, fold n put away clothes, dust sweep, clean patio, fill dog food bucket= 800c1 -
got up early(dh woke me up when he came in from work at 7), couldn't fall back to sleep and actually felt pretty rested which rarely happens, so got up and got the dehydrator going before going to church(planned on setting it up after)- six racks of mango and two of cinnamon apples. I cooked down the trimmings from the mango, added some fresh ginger and a little drizzle of honey to top some pork chops for dinner tomorrow- When it comes to the mango and pineapples I put in the dehydrator- I waste NOTHING except the peels. When I candied the ginger the last few times, I used the syrup to then candy some pineapple- OOOOHHHH SO GOOD then cooked down the pineapple ginger syrup that was left to make like a honey to put in my tea, finally, made tea in the pan that I had made the syrup. Not a drop of it went to waste-just my waist and a friends- she loved it too.
I don't need to candy more ginger right now but think I will just grate fresh ginger into the sugar/syrup and do some pineapple(have 3 whole ones to process) then make more of the ginger pineapple honey. Have other friends that want some.
Going to work on the catnip toys for the rest of the afternoon while the dehydrator is going.
DH is out with a co worker all day again- just me and son(and he is in his room on his computer- I did make him lunch when I realized he was awake)
Hope everyone has a wonderful day-
Rest up a little- get ready for Monday.
Debbie
Napa Valley,CA2
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