WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2021

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  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    I'll do it (take the elevator down to the 1st floor). no big deal. I just feel tired and grouchy and not like doing anything at all - not even lifting a finger - for the next few hours.
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    our collective has a post going viral. usually we get about 10 likes maximum and 5 shares maximum and today we got 100 + likes and 55 shares (not to mention likes of shares, etc, etc). We also got an answer from the president's office today- but i THINK it was through the post (thus would not be in response to our viral post that went out 3y6 years ago). It's dated last Friday, 2 days after we had a day long discussion (about 10 people and we had a big place) with some government officials. It's election season - and we have been more active on social media - including posting in visible places- so - no guarantees, but the president might well like to seem nicer. Our case is solid, and ignoring it doesn't look good, especially if we are gaining in visibility.- At the meeting last wednesday i had joked (it was really a joke) that if he agreed to our request we might possibly vote for him. He i in fact - not really of the political bent for most of us to vote for him in 1st round - one of my colleagues quickly said 'in the 2nd round' - which could well be the current president and an extreme right candidate as was the case in 2017.
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    got the chills!!! shivering. this happens from stress.
  • GodMomKim
    GodMomKim Posts: 3,708 Member
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  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,394 Member
    cityjaneLondon wrote: »
    I never had to care for my parents either. My father died just before his 72nd birthday, of emphysema, from smoking most of his life. It was the most horrible death ( and life, for many years) and I never, ever, had any desire to smoke.
    I chose to live some distance from my mother and she chose to live near my brother. My DSIL and her mother took most of the load in the last few years. I visited and stayed over after she had her heart bypass, but I could not have cared for her long term. Fortunately, she never needed full time care, other than care assistants visiting towards the end. She only took two weeks in hospital for her decline and death. I was there. COPD.
    DH never did any caring and little visiting. We both had very ambivalent relationships with our parents.
    I do envy those of you who really love, or loved, your parents. I 'loved' mine, but in a more complicated way, because of the family history. The upside of that was that I never felt obliged, or the urge, to be a carer for them. I think you have to love someone very, very much to do that. It has to be part of your 'spiritual' journey. A gift of love and an occasion of growth for you. So very, very hard.
    I, like Lisa, really admire those of who who have taken on this path. <3<3<3

    Love to all the carers. XOXO Heather UK

    I am much like you with my parents. When my dad died of colon cancer I was living in TN and was there for his last week of life. My mom chose to connect and live with my youngest sister. She is still alive in an assisted care facility. She is actually doing better there than she did with my sister.

    RvRita
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,795 Member
    Julie - So sorry about your new growth. Must be alarming and frustrating. Just look after yourself. <3
    I had a couple of days of feeding cold this week because I was tired out. Much better today. I think our bodies know when we should rest.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,795 Member
    My friend G is off to Munich tomorrow to see her granddaughter, aged 7, that she hasn't seen for 2 years, because they live in Singapore, which is closed to visitors. The other grandparents are also making the journey to rendezvous, even though the husband has severe cancer. A chance not to miss. They are arriving later that day.
    I am very excited for her.
    She texted me this morning saying that she was worried. The parents have not told the girl that the grandparents will arrive as they want it to be a surprise. ;) She had the idea that her granddaughter will say, when she appears, "Oh, I'd rather have my other grandparents! "
    I said that she would probably know better at that age! :p Unless she has been very badly brought up! I'm used to DH being the favourite one and it doesn't bother me at all. It doesn't mean they don't love me. In fact, the other night, when I took the photo of Edie in the rabbit suit, she had especially come downstairs to talk to me! :D<3
    I am very excited for G as she has been pining for so long. I'm hoping for updates and photos.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,361 Member
    Working on it!
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  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    cityjaneLondon wrote: »
    Julie - So sorry about your new growth. Must be alarming and frustrating. Just look after yourself. <3
    I had a couple of days of feeding cold this week because I was tired out. Much better today. I think our bodies know when we should rest.

    Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx

    Thanks Heather, yes, I was kind of nonchalant in the office as she removed it but I have to say it is not uplifting news! it's funny as I was being very offhand about it recently - considering it no big deal -- I'm annoyed that I can't take a bath! again it's way less bad than so many other things but that is not always a consolation in life!
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    edited October 2021
    Tracey – Smokey air is horrible. I am sorry to hear you’ve had wildfires in Saskatchewan. We had horrible fires in Oregon a year ago. I hope your air quality is okay. :star:

    Heather – My parents were both chain smokers. My dad smoked his last cigarette on his way to the hospital. I drove him there and stayed with him until he fell asleep. He died that night. Mom passed away a few years later, also from chain smoking. She was in a medical facility near us when she passed away. :cry:

    JanetR- I hope Jack will be okay for years to come. :flowerforyou:

    Kim – We had a Fisher wood burning fireplace insert in our last home. We loved the quality of the heat and enjoyed the cozy feel of our home. :bigsmile:

    Allie – Enjoy your new sink and new countertop. :star:

    Vicki – So sorry to hear that your DGD’s father in law passed away. :broken_heart:

    Machka – A phone call with one of my adult children makes my day better. They live far away in miles but are readily available via phone. I love talking with them. :heart:

    RV Rita – Your new friend is likely the biggest ever, but you are prettier. :flowerforyou:

    Pip – It appears that you’re working on your landscape. I will enjoy seeing future photos. :flowerforyou:


    We both have appointments for Pfizer Vaccination #3 at Walgreens. We have had one and two, plus flu vaccinations. We are planning to travel to Virginia to see our son and daughter in law, and our grandson. We want to be as safe as we can on our flight there. CoVid 19 is still a concern. I don’t understand why some people don’t take the shots, other than those who have serious allergies. I think they help us stay safe from the disease. We want to be as well protected as possible, and we certainly don’t want to bring any sickness to our family.

    Katla

  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,272 Member
    GodMomKim wrote: »
    Hi Gals,
    Wood – and MFP chopping wood is SO much harder than stacking it, I used to chop much of my fire wood, but decided it wasn’t worth it and then a friend with property offered me wood if I would help pay for the log splitter so I get ¾ of a cord of wood for $20 each winter and that’s my contribution to the log splitter LOL a cord is usually over $400. Thank goodness for friends. I stacked about 1/2 of it yesterday and the rest will be done over the next few days.

    Pip – what a great trip bonus! I am sure you were active playing and walking with yogi

    Debbie – I wondered if you ever dry pears in your dehydrator. I got given a bunch of pears and most of my recipes are for pear deserts – I’ll make a bit of pear apple sauce, but I love dried pears – I did a couple of trays of them and they are ok, but wondered if you had any hints. I peeled /cored, and sliced them then put them into a water/lemon juice mixture they taste good, but dehydrated into such small pieces….. I’m wondering if halves would work…

    Kim in N. California

    I have dried pears in the dehydrator-I haven't tried halves before. They would take quite a bit longer to dry. Slicing thin is very easy (if you have a mandolin, just be careful) and they dry in just over a day. I just slice and put them in. I don't remember putting any lemon juice in the water, although it might keep them lighter color. I do not peel any of the fruit. I do apples all the time- don't do anything special to them and they barely turn any color. I need to do some more. We shared our bag of dried apples with a little girl that my daycare girl likes to play with at the park. If I leave them in longer, they get like chips, nice and crunchy. The ones we shared with Tatum were a bit soft but she loved them- asked for them the second day.
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,361 Member
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  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,272 Member
    Caring for parents- Thankfully, I am not quite at that point. I do go up and spend time with mom and help her in the garden but she is very self sefficient- She is even planning on buying a tractor so she can work the garden herself this spring so she doesn't have to depend on someone else. I am trying to talk her into just paying someone to do it instead of waiting for a neighbor to do it for free- when you pay, they come when you need them.
    I did do some of the care for dh's aunt. She lived in an assisted living facility but I did her meds every night to save some money. There were nights where I was so tired(working 55 hrs a week taking care of newborn triplets) and I had to really push myself to go. I took her to most of her dr. appointments. The deal was, I took care of her and dh could take care of his mother's stuff. His aunt and mom didn't get along. His aunt and I felt the same way about Fumiko so she was someone who understood how I was feeling. She passed away at 97yrs old. She had always said she wanted to " go to bed and wake up dead"- as in, she wanted no pain, wanted the easy way out. She had a massive stroke at dinner and was gone less than two weeks later.
    I am planning to take care of mom in any way needed. I look forward to spending more time with her. The first thing she will need help with is driving. Her eyesight is starting to get worse. The friend that plans on moving on the property(not IN the house, thankfully- I get my room when I am there), has been driving her around a lot. Mom could do it but JoAnn likes to drive and has tons of free time.
    My plan is to take care of her at her home and hopefully never have to put her in a rest home. I want to do what ever I can to do what she wants. I would have done this for my dad if I was given the chance- to have more time with him but that wasn't meant to be. But, thankfully for him, he didn't suffer at all. went so quick- damn Covid
    One thing that is a blessing of having parents that had us girls very early in life is that I got to have them for a very long time. I was almost 59 when dad passed. Mom is 78 now.

    Debbie
    Napa Valley,CA
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,076 Member
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  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,153 Member
    Katla- that is my daughters sink not me.
    My flu shot was a bit sore,I came home and took a nap ,fed the pup and im just hanging out watching the Waltons..
    Getting excited for the trip... will start packing this weekend.. the weather keeps changing, so i will have to figure out what to pack..
  • Peach1948
    Peach1948 Posts: 2,473 Member
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  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,394 Member
    o:)
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,905 Member
    Looks nice PIP!!!
  • fanncy0626
    fanncy0626 Posts: 7,152 Member
    Pip that looks amazing!
  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Pip - WOW! This is wonderful. 😍❤️😍
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,361 Member
    No workout today, was home, rearranging the kitchen area,repacking bette, made more Spanish rice, etc. probably burned a few doing this stuff just didn’t record it.
  • exermom
    exermom Posts: 6,557 Member
    Worked but did get to the gym to do a body pump DVD. Tomorrow I have work and then the soup kitchen. Afterwards, hopefully, I can do a 10 Minute Solution Quick Tummy Toner DVD. It’s supposed to rain so I guess no walk.

    Lisa – sounds like that primary care doc is wonderful. I’m so sorry you can’t have surgery yet I swear I could smell BK on my shirt, and I’m only there for a few hours a day. So I’m washing my shirt. That smell gets to me.

    Worked then went to the gym, then the Salvation Army, then stopped at CVS to see about getting my booster, but I need the actual (not the copy I have) vaccine card. Then went to this sewing place to see if this pack for Vince can be fixed. He uses it for the scanner at Daytona. Came home and then had to take my car for an oil change. While they were doing that I went to Aldi.

    Going to try to get to work early tomorrow so that I have time to leave for the soup kitchen.

    Smoking: My mother died when I was 9. I remember that she was a heavy smoker. Even at that age, before the American Cancer Society associated smoking with cancer, I related smoking with death. I have never touched a cigarette and can’t stand the smell. I don’t even like touching a butt (like picking it up to put in the trash)

    I remember my father telling me that he asked his second wife (who I tolerated – that’s all) to go with him to see my grandmother (his mother). Her answer? “You go, she’s your mother”. My father, the super-religious person, was actually contemplating divorcing her (for this and other reasons). Why didn’t he? Because then she’d get half of everything. I suspect she was thinking that’s what would happen. Only my father fooled her. He outlived two wives….lol

    pip – wow! You didn’t gain much at all. Lots to be proud of Probably because you were so active

    RV Rita – how do you manage to meet such “different” people?????

    Julie – what horrible news, but glad it was cut out.

    Care giving: we had a lady stay with my father since I was in PA with my own family. I did spend every weekend there so that she could be with her family here in the US.

    Pip – your patio floor looks really nice

    Michele NC
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,153 Member
    Nighty night ladies😴

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