WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2021

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  • pipcd34
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  • KetoneKaren
    KetoneKaren Posts: 6,412 Member
    Tracey

    Michaela is your mini-me!

    The photo is adorable.

    Karen in Virginia
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  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
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  • auntiebk
    auntiebk Posts: 2,611 Member
    "Get to do"s and "chose well"s
    Chose well: take BP, RiteAid for booster, Freddie’s for rx, dogs to powerline, practice WBW, DM, SWTD, SL, GDLL, T’ai Chi, answer C’s and R’s texts.
    Bonus: 37 mins grooming Tumble, Post Office, Freddie’s.
    Just one thing: oops
    Get to do: take BP, dogs to powerline, practice WBW, DM, SWTD, SL, GDLL, dog group if not raining, backup files, then call pc guy to schedule tuneup, fill in booster vaccine form with Joe, fire district: board meeting minutes, research district tax exemption for volunteer firefighters, AFG grant requirements including NIMS, call NFPA cancel inactive accounts, clarify benefits included in annual dues, input 2019 call sheets into NFIRS, work with chief on equipment letter, substance abuse policy, NFIRS, index mutual aid files and share with L; start Part D research with new rx info, watch STAS Day 20, declutter sideboard, learn new dances (Tequila Little Time, Homesick, Nothing but You, A Little Less Broken, Blame it on my beating heart, Do Your Thing, practice dances: All Night, TGIF, I ain’t never gonna love nobody but Cornell Crawford (Alley cat), One Margarita, I’m so used to being broke); finish mulching flowerbed, invest another 10 minutes in prepping living trust, Freddie’s for complete series TDAP <$48, get Shingrix vaccine, find and configure a screen time popup, figure out where to plant the last of the naked lady bulbs, and soon as it warms up above 50 and dries out below 60% humidity I’ll tape and spray paint those rusted areas of Aunt Elsie’s stove, ask Te about GB’s FD firetruck tax levy – contacts, media, advocate???, Sunday: call S, Reward: inventory seeds, plan this fall’s garden, wishlist replenishments (Milena F1 orange peppers and beit alpha cukes next year).
    Reminder: Weekly: Mon=15 mins SWSY. Tues=30 mins line dance at home. Wed=30 mins T’ai Chi & 1 hr pack walk. Thurs=15 mins BB&B. Fri=30 mins T’ai Chi. Sat=1 hr pack walk. Sun=15 mins pilates, yoga or wii balance games.
    October
    22: Share a hopeful quote, picture or video with a friend or colleague: this is a hard one. T is worried about my booster choice, sent a video with love and prayer. Tried to respond likewise.
    23: Recognize that you have a choice about what to prioritize:

    Pfizer booster today, immediate metallic taste, sore arm, minor headache. Felt well enough to take dogs to powerline and make step goal marching to Clanadonia on YouTube.

    Kim in Brisbane I am so jealous of your aquarobics! Con VERY gratulations for taking off those inches.
    Julie, what Kim in N Calif said. ((hugs)) Sounds like you’ve already grieved, maybe this former friend is finding it easier to say “$cr3w you, goodbye!” than “I love you, goodbye.”
    Debbie thanks for the CBD info.
    Beth son’s interview sounds hopeful. Well done!
    Heather congrats and cheers!
    Rebecca wise words about giving ourselves grace to feel our messy emotions. If we just stuff them down, they come out in really undesirable ways. Agree about the “get over it” kind of “advice.” How lonely those advisors must be!
    Allie brava for keeping on even though tired. Hope your sleep tonight is restorative.
    Welcome back @cormierannie! Would you let us know what you’d like to be called and your general locale?

    Joe’s daily mailbox walk with Shadow gives me a structured time to groom Tumble. When Joe and Shadow leave, she runs to the door, barks angrily, then wails/howls/woo woos brokenheartedly. That’s my cue to put her on the table, give her special grooming-only treats and work on those mats. Making progress!

    Lighter, lovelies!
    f8qt1s098sxm.gifBarbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
    October: leaner/stronger/kinder than September.
    daily: sit with Joe:22, weigh/wii: 22/3/46; steps>7228=7349 vits=22, log=22, CI<CO=22, CI<250<CO=18, Tumble=21, Shadow=20, mfp=22, outside=25, up hill=21, clean 10=16.
    wkly: Sun:P, Y or W=3, Mon:SWSY=3 , Tue:LD=3 , Wed:TC=2.87 , PW=2, Thurs: BB&B=3.2, Fri:TC=3.97, Sat:PW=3, rX x4=3.
    wt=1/31:141.3 2/28:142.4 3/31:145.3 4/30:141.5 5/31:142.4 6/30:141.5 7/31:140.2 8/31:140.0 9/30:141.2 10/3:141.3 10/10:141.8 10/17:141.8 :astonished: 10/24: 10/31:
    mnthly: board mtg=1 , grant=2, plan=, waist=42.
    bonus: AF=14, play=46 sew=
    2021: choose to be leaner/stronger/kinder NOW
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    cityjaneLondon wrote: »
    Tracey - I can just feel that snuggle. <3 I love a one-to-one. :)

    My book is now live on Amazon. It's called THEREFORE I AM. It's in both paperback and Kindle. Of course, I would love those of you who are interested, to buy the actual book I laboured so hard over, but it is more expensive. I set the lowest price they allowed. It is also on Kindle Unlimited. The actual purchase of the Kindle edition is underneath, at the bottom, in small print, but it is there.
    My name is Heather Eyles. You will probably have to type in both name and title to find it.
    If you are interested in buying it, and I know some of you bought the first volume of the memoirs, Me I Am, please read the blurb carefully to make sure it is right for you. It is fairly explicit at times.
    I hope it is also fun. Life as a teenager in the 60s. :o:p;)
    Thank you everyone for being so supportive as I went through this process. It's been several years to get this one out. You have kept me going....and going....and going...

    Lots of love to all, Heather UK xxxxxxxx

    Awesome Heather - congratulations - I would like to read it. - at present I'm stuck int he whirlwind of my current writing (and related reading) obligations, but that will come to an end at some point and the book will still be there. ! woo hoo!
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    auntiebk wrote: »
    "Get to do"s and "chose well"s
    Chose well: take BP, RiteAid for booster, Freddie’s for rx, dogs to powerline, practice WBW, DM, SWTD, SL, GDLL, T’ai Chi, answer C’s and R’s texts.
    Bonus: 37 mins grooming Tumble, Post Office, Freddie’s.
    Just one thing: oops
    Get to do: take BP, dogs to powerline, practice WBW, DM, SWTD, SL, GDLL, dog group if not raining, backup files, then call pc guy to schedule tuneup, fill in booster vaccine form with Joe, fire district: board meeting minutes, research district tax exemption for volunteer firefighters, AFG grant requirements including NIMS, call NFPA cancel inactive accounts, clarify benefits included in annual dues, input 2019 call sheets into NFIRS, work with chief on equipment letter, substance abuse policy, NFIRS, index mutual aid files and share with L; start Part D research with new rx info, watch STAS Day 20, declutter sideboard, learn new dances (Tequila Little Time, Homesick, Nothing but You, A Little Less Broken, Blame it on my beating heart, Do Your Thing, practice dances: All Night, TGIF, I ain’t never gonna love nobody but Cornell Crawford (Alley cat), One Margarita, I’m so used to being broke); finish mulching flowerbed, invest another 10 minutes in prepping living trust, Freddie’s for complete series TDAP <$48, get Shingrix vaccine, find and configure a screen time popup, figure out where to plant the last of the naked lady bulbs, and soon as it warms up above 50 and dries out below 60% humidity I’ll tape and spray paint those rusted areas of Aunt Elsie’s stove, ask Te about GB’s FD firetruck tax levy – contacts, media, advocate???, Sunday: call S, Reward: inventory seeds, plan this fall’s garden, wishlist replenishments (Milena F1 orange peppers and beit alpha cukes next year).
    Reminder: Weekly: Mon=15 mins SWSY. Tues=30 mins line dance at home. Wed=30 mins T’ai Chi & 1 hr pack walk. Thurs=15 mins BB&B. Fri=30 mins T’ai Chi. Sat=1 hr pack walk. Sun=15 mins pilates, yoga or wii balance games.
    October
    22: Share a hopeful quote, picture or video with a friend or colleague: this is a hard one. T is worried about my booster choice, sent a video with love and prayer. Tried to respond likewise.
    23: Recognize that you have a choice about what to prioritize:

    Pfizer booster today, immediate metallic taste, sore arm, minor headache. Felt well enough to take dogs to powerline and make step goal marching to Clanadonia on YouTube.

    Kim in Brisbane I am so jealous of your aquarobics! Con VERY gratulations for taking off those inches.
    Julie, what Kim in N Calif said. ((hugs)) Sounds like you’ve already grieved, maybe this former friend is finding it easier to say “$cr3w you, goodbye!” than “I love you, goodbye.”
    Debbie thanks for the CBD info.
    Beth son’s interview sounds hopeful. Well done!
    Heather congrats and cheers!
    Rebecca wise words about giving ourselves grace to feel our messy emotions. If we just stuff them down, they come out in really undesirable ways. Agree about the “get over it” kind of “advice.” How lonely those advisors must be!
    Allie brava for keeping on even though tired. Hope your sleep tonight is restorative.
    Welcome back @cormierannie! Would you let us know what you’d like to be called and your general locale?

    Joe’s daily mailbox walk with Shadow gives me a structured time to groom Tumble. When Joe and Shadow leave, she runs to the door, barks angrily, then wails/howls/woo woos brokenheartedly. That’s my cue to put her on the table, give her special grooming-only treats and work on those mats. Making progress!

    Lighter, lovelies!
    f8qt1s098sxm.gifBarbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
    October: leaner/stronger/kinder than September.
    daily: sit with Joe:22, weigh/wii: 22/3/46; steps>7228=7349 vits=22, log=22, CI<CO=22, CI<250<CO=18, Tumble=21, Shadow=20, mfp=22, outside=25, up hill=21, clean 10=16.
    wkly: Sun:P, Y or W=3, Mon:SWSY=3 , Tue:LD=3 , Wed:TC=2.87 , PW=2, Thurs: BB&B=3.2, Fri:TC=3.97, Sat:PW=3, rX x4=3.
    wt=1/31:141.3 2/28:142.4 3/31:145.3 4/30:141.5 5/31:142.4 6/30:141.5 7/31:140.2 8/31:140.0 9/30:141.2 10/3:141.3 10/10:141.8 10/17:141.8 :astonished: 10/24: 10/31:
    mnthly: board mtg=1 , grant=2, plan=, waist=42.
    bonus: AF=14, play=46 sew=
    2021: choose to be leaner/stronger/kinder NOW

    I don't know - he thought I was being over sensitive - maybe I was - on one point - not on all - he was less irate than I was yesterday actually. there is no way to know how one will feel bout this or that in a week but to get there ! thanks for your kind words.

    KIM thanks for your kind words too.

    TRACEY thanks for explaining your ceramics. it sounds like you got into it, which is good since you said you were feeling tired.
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    I'm at café and was re-correcting 10 pages this morning; that was a good - not too hard task to get me into it today.

    thank goodness- this helps me less be in a more acceptable and bearable mood than yesterday.
    it is nice to be progressing.

    I feel bad about my part in online tiff. I think the fundamental stuff is his issues more - but

    I have a corrector - and sometimes she doesn't understand all (often my mistake and sometimes she doesn't know the specific terminology - just from time to time -rarely).

    So I need to go through the pages line by line and answer to her corrections or questions. then she sends it a 2nd Tim I review a 2nd time and send it back and she does a third maybe (by this time it might be just a 2 or 3 corrections and we call and see any outstanding questions.

    I had sent her 5 pages more a few days ago which she is working on so I need to work on the next 5 to send her today - since I have a deadline. I'm working on a detailed plan - so it's not really that hard to work this way, since the plan is already clear. 1st 10 pages intro plan next 10 1st part plan, next 5 2nd part plan, last part 3 part plan. I can refer to long conclusion sent and skip conclusion plan if we are tight which we probably will be.

    We are each trying to aim for 5 pages per day- sometimes we manage and sometimes we don't.

    Today :
    -30 min exercise ,
    1h cleaning,
    -5 pages produced and sent,
    -track all

    if time maybe go to a short art -y art performance by someone I know a bit - at 7pm, juste to get out of the house and not become a total hermit.

    usually I'm too tired and can't be bothered - and so have become somewhat of a post- confinement hermit.

    my feet are rather chilly (didn't put on wool socks and I'm outside on patio and it's currently 53° degrees out at midday.

    :)
  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,089 Member
    Morning ladies
    Ugh another night of insomnia,this is ridiculous.. im not having caffeine, im not eating before bed ,i didnt turn out the light until 10 and still tossed and turned all night long,finally if fitfully woke up at 7 and have been awake since..
    Heather - congratulations you have done it again.. will have to look into buying both books though im not much of a reader,though when i do read i usually read for hours on end until I finish a book.
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,698 Member
    edited October 2021
    The paperback version may take a couple of days to arrive on the international websites, but it should get there soon. This is the front cover, screenshotted from Amazon. :o

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    The Kindle should be there already.
    I am very attached to the paperback as it cost me blood, sweat and tears . :p

    Love Heather UK xxxxxx
  • Peach1948
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  • pipcd34
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  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,089 Member
    Well i watched videos this morning took my meds had a cup of tea and ripped out the baby blanket .. now going over grocery list.. right now honestly i think im going to take a nap.. with hardly any sleep, i feel i need to
  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,288 Member
    My parents got appointments for booster shots! Yay!

    I'm feeling much better. Staying in bed for a day really helped beat this virus, whatever it was.

    Annie in Delaware
  • bwcetc
    bwcetc Posts: 2,826 Member
    Heather ... Congratulations on the second installment of your memoir!

    Son has made it through the next round of interviews...second one on Monday. We have to go shopping to find him something to wear. (First interview was through Zoom and he got away with looking presentable with a headshot). This has him in a full blown anxiety attack as he has put on a lot of weight and we need to find something "professional" off the rack. I feel badly for him. It resurrects all of my own old "fat fears."

    Beth near Buffalo

  • Katla49
    Katla49 Posts: 10,385 Member
    Bananas - We haven’t used garlic in a long while. DH is especially sensitive to garlic. I use green onions in cooking and salads. We both like them. :smilie: I hope you feel better soon. Pain, chills. fatigue and a headache are miserable. :ohwell:

    Machka – I love your array of mustards. I particularly like Dijon. I am also a fan of parsley, sage, rosemary & thyme in cooking. I have them all growing in pots outside. :star:

    Beth – Sending good wishes for your son. I hope his interviews lead to a job he will enjoy. :flowerforyou:

    Cheri - Love the fall leaves poem. George Cooper is new to me. :smiley:

    Barbara & Rebecca – DH knew the way to the doctor’s office and all went smoothly. They sent a sample of my tissue to a lab for analysis. We haven’t heard anything yet. It was a tiny spot and the dermatologist said it was completely removed with no likelihood of return. This group of women are the best! I am not worried. about test results. :star:

    Terri – We’ve had our third Pfizer CoVid booster shots, too. We each also had a flu vaccination. Hopefully, we’re good to go. We plan to visit our son and daughter in law in Virginia. We have done everything recommended to stay healthy and to avoid anything contagious. :flowerforyou:

    Allie – Fixing knitting goofs is a time-honored experience. Starting over is part of the process. I know that I do it at least once each time I make a blanket. :wink:

    Tracey – The photo of you and your granddaughter is precious! :heart:

    Barbara – DH had a headache after the Pfizer booster, too. :ohwell: I was lucky-no headache at all. :smiley:

    Heather – The cover of your new book is eye-catching. It looks like it will be a big success. :star:


    We have a rainy day and it feels good to be cozy inside.

    Katla in rainy NW Oregon



  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,799 Member
    edited October 2021
    dlfk202000 wrote: »
    Whidislander wrote: »
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    Whidislander wrote: »
    I have been using a spoonful of my olive bruschetta sauce in my soups, my salads, and pasta dishes. It adds a dense "umami" flavor, along with a nice sheen to my soups. I spread it on my avocado toast as well.

    Lee got this 3rd shot the other day at the clinic. He was a bit ache but no feeling under the weather or anything. He's my battery bunny, just going going......

    My Navy Mom Strong group posted an article on "Toxic Positivity". It was interesting. How there are some people that believe in " all will be well", put on a happy face, and "I am fine, everything is fine. But everything is not fine, and showing the true feelings, and emotions is somehow making them less than, in their mindset. I am all for processing, and feeling my feelings. The article talked about the messiness of emotions, and to give yourself grace about feeling them. I equate it to my normal way of cleaning. I usually pull stuff off stuff, move things and there is a moment when looking at the room its nothing but chaos. Then vacuum this, turn couches right side up, move things back to where they were, and I am done. I remember as a little girl I used to play this game in my kitchen. I would open every cabinet, every drawer then sit in the middle of the kitchen. Looking at it, lying, upside down. Take a regular normal thing and seeing it look so different. Then I of course had fun shutting each cabinet and drawer, kinda loudly.😁. Reading this article it made me think of my middle sister. How when I ask her how she's doing, its always fine. In the article it talked about how certain people say things like "get over it" you'll be fine. In other words saying I care but I don't want to invest my emotions in you. So much my sister. I sent it to my older sister, and we agreed our middle sister has many of the issues they mentioned in the article. I love how my older sis and I rely on each other. How she trusts me enough to call me, on days when she feels broken, and we process the problems she is experiencing together. We worked together to clean up the chaos. I feel privileged that she reaches out to me, and in turn, I do the same. That's how relationships are. We see the messy, the emotionally tough things, and the seeing and recognizing, is the most important part. I never mention my younger sailor to my middle sister. It brings up situations when she told me to "get over it". First, she didn't want to help me deal with the messiness of my emotions. Second, supporting me, she would have to be relied upon, a place she doesn't want to be in.

    Today is a gray, gray day. Rained all last night. I have my side table light on at 11:00 am!
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Washington

    Check out this song- it is exactly like what you are talking about- I say I'm fine, yea I'm fine but I'm not;
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j4wYkS8Z3Io

    Oh wow, yes, that! That song made me a wee bit weepy! 💖. I shared with my older sister! Thanks!
    Rebecca

    That is how I feel all the time- really hits close to home.

    He has another one "What If" that is really good
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tt7dpZU6rUY


    The one that gets me very weepy is
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BCc7TCmKcwQ
    The first few lines make me cry every time- thinking about the last time I saw my dad-

    Ohmygoodness! Nothing like a boohoo fest in the morning!!! That second song was about my Mom. Totally. You would have loved her, everyone did!
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    Thanks for the songs!
    Rebecca
    Washington
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,253 Member
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  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,799 Member
    KJLaMore wrote: »
    Heather- Congrats on this second installment of your memoirs! I have the first book; will be ordering this one today! I am a hard copy book reader. I just like the feel of a book in my hands. Looking forward to reading this! I love the sample with the description of the new home deco! I remember those colors from my youth! lol
    Tracey- You and Michaela look adorable! I am aching for some grandson snuggles of my own. Just a couple more months; as I will definitely be heading to Texas once grandson number three is born.
    Barbie- Ugh! So sorry you are having to deal with a "poison pill" for a "friend". Hugs to you!
    Barbara- The slime that I made with the kids was a very basic cornstarch and water slime. For me, the very cool thing about that slime is the can slam their fingers or hands onto it and it remains hard; but when you pick it up, it oozes between your fingers and onto the table or floor below. Perfect example of how something can be a solid AND a liquid.
    Allie- Thank you for sending me the kid craft/activity ideas that you think we might like. I can always use an extra set of eyes looking for new ideas! I totally understand the enjoyment of driving your son once in a while. It is a good time to connect.
    Pip- So many wonderful pics of your fur kids! I love them all!
    Julie- Your statement about how the french view the "happy americans" made me laugh. My daughter brought home many friends from different countries, when she was in college. The "weirdness" of american people being so friendly and smiling all of the time was a frequent discussion. lol They said they were unnerved by strangers striking up conversation while waiting in lines or just passing by. The only two who found the friendliness kind of "charming" were from Amsterdam and Ghana.
    Rita- I saw that you were subbing for a kindergarten class. Just curious if you have a preferred age to teach? (I think I would love third graders)
    Cheri- I L <3 VE that fall poem! Going to steal that and use it on my facebook page!

    I took the kids for our daily walk, yesterday. We walked four miles but at our halfway point the 2 1/2 year old decided she wanted out of the stroller. So I unbuckled her and got her out. She collected about six acorns and a small pine cone and put them in her pockets, then walked to the empty spot at the front of the stroller. lol I Love that the babies know from watching, that once they get out of the stroller, they have to hold onto the sides while they walk. She walked the two miles back to my house. Her older brother holding her hand and telling her things like, "You are a big girl now, Pey!" "You are doing so good!" "I am so proud of you!" Got the pic to send to their mama; because they spend so much time fighting when they are home! lol j3pnxmgyddr5.jpg


    Well, I did my grocery shopping last night. The reason: I got my C-19 vaccine. I figured I might as well do my shopping while I was out; that way, if I had any bad side effects, I could just rest today and tomorrow. Just a bit of a sore spot where I got the shot. Definitely not as bad as the (dTap) shots. Those make my arm ache from neck to elbow. This just feels like someone gave me an "arm noogie".

    Anyway, signing off so I can take a shower. ttfn xoxoxo KJ (Kelly)

    Love the story and sweet picture. 💖 My boys were the same, if they got out of the car, they'd hold hands or onto a cart, or even my coat, if I had my hands full. The one thing they never did was dash out in front, especially in a parking lot. We'd go to fields etc, for any of their running. 💖👍
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Washington
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,799 Member
    Katla, glad it went smoothly!
    Lee has a ongoing treatment plan with his dermatologist here at Oak Harbor. Every six months, he goes and gets areas sprayed with liquid nitrogen, or cut away. Usually some on his head, arms, back. The couple of days after he looks bit beaten up, but it keeps tumors from growing. He takes it all in stride.💖👍Hugs!
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Washington
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,188 Member
    grandmallie wrote: »
    Morning ladies
    Ugh another night of insomnia,this is ridiculous.. im not having caffeine, im not eating before bed ,i didnt turn out the light until 10 and still tossed and turned all night long,finally if fitfully woke up at 7 and have been awake since..
    Heather - congratulations you have done it again.. will have to look into buying both books though im not much of a reader,though when i do read i usually read for hours on end until I finish a book.

    Insomnia here too- was about to fall asleep with dh's alarm went off at 1AM then tried to get back to sleep- finally did- at 4AM, then he came home at 7:30 which woke me up. Was able to get back to sleep off and on-for a total of not quite 5 hrs of sleep.
    No caffeine since very early afternoon- not sure why I couldn't sleep. I felt like I could go right to sleep about 6PM but then by time to actually sleep I couldn't.

    Rebecca- I hope you hear from your son soon. I agree- a simple card would mean so much.
    Beth- good luck to your son- that is a big step

    Debbie
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,188 Member
    Whidislander wrote: »
    dlfk202000 wrote: »
    Whidislander wrote: »
    dlfk202000 wrote: »
    Whidislander wrote: »
    I have been using a spoonful of my olive bruschetta sauce in my soups, my salads, and pasta dishes. It adds a dense "umami" flavor, along with a nice sheen to my soups. I spread it on my avocado toast as well.

    Lee got this 3rd shot the other day at the clinic. He was a bit ache but no feeling under the weather or anything. He's my battery bunny, just going going......

    My Navy Mom Strong group posted an article on "Toxic Positivity". It was interesting. How there are some people that believe in " all will be well", put on a happy face, and "I am fine, everything is fine. But everything is not fine, and showing the true feelings, and emotions is somehow making them less than, in their mindset. I am all for processing, and feeling my feelings. The article talked about the messiness of emotions, and to give yourself grace about feeling them. I equate it to my normal way of cleaning. I usually pull stuff off stuff, move things and there is a moment when looking at the room its nothing but chaos. Then vacuum this, turn couches right side up, move things back to where they were, and I am done. I remember as a little girl I used to play this game in my kitchen. I would open every cabinet, every drawer then sit in the middle of the kitchen. Looking at it, lying, upside down. Take a regular normal thing and seeing it look so different. Then I of course had fun shutting each cabinet and drawer, kinda loudly.😁. Reading this article it made me think of my middle sister. How when I ask her how she's doing, its always fine. In the article it talked about how certain people say things like "get over it" you'll be fine. In other words saying I care but I don't want to invest my emotions in you. So much my sister. I sent it to my older sister, and we agreed our middle sister has many of the issues they mentioned in the article. I love how my older sis and I rely on each other. How she trusts me enough to call me, on days when she feels broken, and we process the problems she is experiencing together. We worked together to clean up the chaos. I feel privileged that she reaches out to me, and in turn, I do the same. That's how relationships are. We see the messy, the emotionally tough things, and the seeing and recognizing, is the most important part. I never mention my younger sailor to my middle sister. It brings up situations when she told me to "get over it". First, she didn't want to help me deal with the messiness of my emotions. Second, supporting me, she would have to be relied upon, a place she doesn't want to be in.

    Today is a gray, gray day. Rained all last night. I have my side table light on at 11:00 am!
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Washington

    Check out this song- it is exactly like what you are talking about- I say I'm fine, yea I'm fine but I'm not;
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j4wYkS8Z3Io

    Oh wow, yes, that! That song made me a wee bit weepy! 💖. I shared with my older sister! Thanks!
    Rebecca

    That is how I feel all the time- really hits close to home.

    He has another one "What If" that is really good
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Tt7dpZU6rUY


    The one that gets me very weepy is
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BCc7TCmKcwQ
    The first few lines make me cry every time- thinking about the last time I saw my dad-

    Ohmygoodness! Nothing like a boohoo fest in the morning!!! That second song was about my Mom. Totally. You would have loved her, everyone did!
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    Thanks for the songs!
    Rebecca
    Washington

    The second one is about my dad for sure- thinking about that last hug, those last words- Wish I had stayed a little longer, hugged a little tighter, etc. It was Christmas day and we were rushing to go see my MIL, which I didn't want to do but had to. Would have much rather stayed there with mom and dad.
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,698 Member
    Beth - many good wishes for your son's interview. <3

    KJ - Such a sweet pic. :p
    Sometimes it feels as if I have been writing about ancient history!! Such a long time ago. My mum's delight at picking out 'contemporary ' items is a precious memory. Now I see such things in a museum.

    Katla - Well done for getting your skin seen to. <3

    Bananas - Good luck with the pages. You seem to be on a good streak. :) Just keep going.

    Love to anyone I have forgotten. I've had tunnel vision for the last few days!!!

    Love Heather UK xxxxxx
  • bananasandoranges
    bananasandoranges Posts: 2,410 Member
    BARBARA I like the friendliness of usa-ers most of the time - I admit the over-fawning sometimes in restaurants is now a bit much for me. I used try to chat with people in lines here, when I arrived but people considered one wierd and suspicious ! I think that is changing a bit since people travel so much now

    KATLA Thanks !

    HEATHER - better streak in general - last 3 days not as good as previous ones.
    Thursday I had to deal with renal apartment thing in morning - and so on... Friday was a foul an lost day! today I worked some in morning - I think about 2.5 hours and then some in evening,at least 2 or 3h - I blew off afternoon which is not ideal

    now I'm beat. rather than (5 pages, I dit 5 rough pages).
    I'll fix it up tomorrow morning and also look at corrections of 5 pages received this afternoon tomorrow morning. I'm beat and my mind is not ready at nearly 10pm/

    ont thing that helped I think Is that I had to have a nurse come daily at 7 am and so I got up at 6 am daily for a good 8 days which got things in march.

    I DID : clean 1h, produce 5 rough pages
    I DIDNT Get 30 min exercise, nor send 5 finished pages.

    I am SO TIRED!

    I was watching some of breaking bad this afternoon. I had never watched it so am enjoying it. I'm glad it's mostly not too violent and is more personal- from 1st bits I think I saw some violent bits and thought it was lots of gratuitous violence, but really not so much. There's a mix of realism and non-realism - which is probably a nice mix for entertainment.

    I think I will get up by 7 again, tomorrow
    15 min on recumbant (
    review 5 pages and send. (maybe 3 h max?)
    review 5 corrected pages and send. (maybe 1h mx)
    write accompanying letter and send.(maybe 1h max)
    See friend at café in morning probably.
    clean 1h
    That's the plan -
    that leaves some free time for farniente which I really feel I need sometimes at present.


    I need to send in a serious part of about 70 pages or so in 3 weeks. That makes 3.3 pages a day with no break days. I think I will aim for 5 per day, giving time for bad days and re-reads. Some parts will be easier, as the 1st chapter is partly based on something I know quite well. I have a good sense of content of the 1st 2 out of 3 chapters in the 1st part. I can conceivably drop the 3rd part if it's too hard.

    I'm going back to watching my series this evening -it's 10pm.

  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,305 Member
    KJ (Kelly) I prefer kindergarten. The third and fourth grades in this school are horrible discipline problems! 😝

    RvRita
  • GodMomKim
    GodMomKim Posts: 3,703 Member
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