WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2021
Options
Replies
-
Seems like my phone is really really running out of storage space this time. It's been limping along for a year now. Time to put the work into getting a new one. The technology choices are scary, but the reality is that anything new would be better.
Annie in Delaware1 -
Happy Wednesday!
Carol in GA1 -
Hello ladies!
Busy summer. I've been MIA for a while but try to pop in every couple days to see what's new with you gals.
Mary - LOVED the photos of the aurora borealis! Gosh! I used to see them sometimes as a kid in Indiana. Being out on farmland away from the lights and trees and houses really helps the view. Our earth is amazing.
DH situation:DH is in decline mentally and physically. He had a "brain event" over Labor Day weekend, balance shot, some incontinence, short term memory trashed. He showed all the signs of advanced Alzheimers. BUT, he has since mostly recovered. He has no memory of his behavior that weekend.I kept busy doing outside tasks (DH could still mow). Stacked 2 1/2 cords of firewood in the woodshed, 1/2 cord in the greenhouse. Every little log had to be cleaned/wiped as the load had lots of sawdust I didn't want tracked into the house. And it was actually just fine, gave me some good "therapy time" and I got to see the huge unstacked pile grow smaller all the time.
I finally was able to convince him to see his doctor, Doc diagnosed it as a sort of delirium similar to what older ladies can get with UTI's, says he must have had an infection somewhere, and if it happens again, call him on his cell ANY TIME.
The results of blood tests came back, low thyroid and low folate, so DH has been on meds for a month now, holding pretty steady. He definitely has early stage dementia but his sense of humor is back, he still has some good reasoning ability. I am so grateful.
I pulled out our Medical Power of Attorney forms we did ten years ago, delivered them to the doc's office. I'm amazed at what a good job our attorney did and how it's pertaining to this situation. Not needing it just yet. DH wants no heroic measures no matter what happens. He has an aortic aneurysm that wasn't at the critical stage just yet 4 years ago, probably is now and he does NOT want it repaired and does not want it checked further. Doc is good with it.
Doc suggested I read "The 36 hour day". I bought the book but here's a free copy to read/download (so they claim). I realized everyone declines at their own rate. [PDF] The 36-Hour Day: A Family Guide to Caring for People with Alzheimer Disease, Other Dementias, and Memory Loss in Later Life Book by Nancy L. Mace Free Download (324 pages) (blindhypnosis.com)
Machka and Rori, I thought of you often this summer and what you went through with your DH's. I really miss my handyman, and have been scouting for someone to do the faucet changing and many small home maintenance tasks DH used to be so good at. I'm learning to do a lot of things myself, my physical strength limits me though.
DH's low energy and bad balance prevented him from doing it this year, it would have been treacherous for him, literally.
I'm now in charge of bringing in the firewood and getting the woodstove going every morning. It's great exercise and I actually look forward to it. I'd gotten out of the habit of lifting weights but this is coming in as a close second for leg, arm, and back strength. With the woodstove, I hadn't ever built a fire in the little thing. Had a couple smoky mornings at the start, but with DH's coaching and some analysis on how to place the kindling, I now get it blazing in no time, no logs threatening to jump out.
I put new plastic on the greenhouse all by myself. So grateful I'm tall! It took some critical thinking and engineering but managed to do 99.99% of it. DH came out when I was nearly finished to "help". I thanked him and it's now done, no arguments and best of all, no leaks.
We'll need a lawn maintenance person next summer to weed eat/spray and take over some of the mowing. That part did get out of hand this year and the kids I hired to do some of it didn't do a very good job on most of it, but did some fabulous weeding out front I give them an A+ for!
As long as DH is alive, and I can manage, we'll stay here in this house with great neighbors, great privacy. This is where he wants to be and I don't blame him. He'd do the same for me.
Pain Control:Sorry to hear so many of you are experiencing pain, NSAIDs not doing the job. That's part of DH's problem, hips and shoulders shot. Since we're in an "MJ" state, he keeps it under control smoking the stuff, and I give him stern warnings NOT to overdo it, because it slows him down and affects his balance.
I think I have mentioned Dr. David Hanscom in the past, he's a retired orthopedic surgeon in Seattle who realized surgery wasn't always the answer to back pain and has turned to other ways to manage all types of pain. Here's his website: Back in Control – The DOC (Direct your Own Care) Project
I recommend downloading the booklet here, called "Plan A: Lowering inflammation lengthens life." Instructional Booklets – Back in Control It's a good read, many practical things to do and it's aimed at coping with the nasty virus. I pull it up and reread it every few weeks.
So many fabulous tips that keep me happy and somewhat sane, lol.
That's what's going on here. I'm still walking 2 miles most mornings with my great neighbor. Exercise and therapy rolled into one, lol.
Barbie, you are a shining example of the benefits of hitting the trail as often as possible, preferably with someone who lifts us up when we need it, dogs and/or human!
That's it. Stay safe and healthy.
Lanette
Rainy SW WA State
Hoping I don't get kicked off for posting links!
11 -
4 -
Lanette -
So good to see your post, and so pleased that your husband's brain was able to come back after the event over Labor Day weekend. All kinds of hugs winging your way - and much respect for your ability to capitalize on what is possible. Your optimism is bracing, and I'm sure needed by your DH. Check in when you can so we know how you're doing, dear heart.
Love,
Lisa in AR5 -
0
-
Hello Lanette,
Good to see you.
You have really had a huge amount to cope with over the year. May life be kind to you from now on.
I am in awe of your resourcefulness and energy.
I can smell good smells from downstairs where DH is making his signature chicken stew. I have been feeling exhausted today, no doubt a reaction to all the energy I have been putting in to publishing my book, and just couldn't face cooking dinner. I asked DH I'd he would step up and he was delighted.
He doesn't really understand why I am so tired, but he is happy to help.
I managed to walk around to the fish market with him, but the rowing has gone by the board. I am content with my 700 burn today and treated myself to a nap. I'm sure I need that more, as my nights have been very short.
I bought fresh tuna, smoked haddock, two skate wings, and large, frozen King prawns.
Some old friends that I emailed about the book have got back in touch. I have loved hearing their news. A couple were old students who are still writing. One had been quite successful in a poetry competition. Another I had met on a writer's retreat years ago. It warmed my heart to hear from them.
Doing nothing tonight, apart from watching TV. Bliss! We were meant to be going to the French Circle, but I am listening to my inner voice which says, "REST."
Love to all, Heather UK xxxxxxxx4 -
Morning,afternoon, evening ladies,
Today dark and gloomy..
I took miss pissy pants to school today and went and picked up groceries.. I remember how horrible being a teenager was but I dont think ever in my life I ever backtalked to my grandparents ever.. she is a sassy little.thing..
Oh well..
I have to put another call into social security , as they have not deposited the lump sum backpay andbit has been 2 months,i dont want to hire an attorney as they will take 33%
2 -
Hi Gals,
Routines have been very helpful to me, especially upon waking, I can almost just do my routine without too much thought process, which helps it happen more times than not…. Now when something means my morning routine must change, I have to post notes or set timers/reminders on my phone – or I just do my “normal” routine. For me it is the first 2 hours – up, dress, brush hair, Levi out to do his business and I go out with him and stretch a bit, then get jacket plus depending on weather, leash up Levi, hop in the car drive to a suitable location, walk for about 1 hour (2-3 miles), home, breakfast for Levi, breakfast for me, coffee made, brush teeth, check calendar to see what the day holds. After that my schedule is variable….
Someone asked what I did with a 4 hour power break, Actually a bit longer would have been ok. I straightened up my desk, then I did all the thread trimming of the items I had embroidered the day before, and then started raking the back yard.
Heart rate, I have no idea of my heart rate, and have never figured out how to take it – there is one spot I can feel it but if my finger slips even a very tiny bit I can no longer feel it and between that and counting and trying to watch the second hand on a clock, I am always missing something…. I often get to some where in the 20’s and then lose track of something – This is one of those multi task things I can not do! LOL
Smiles Kim N. California
2 -
Rebecca- the very first time my mom met current mother in law, all she did was talk about her OTHER son, even pulled out a pay stub to show mom how much Albert was making. Mom was polite but so confused. I was dating Frank, NOT Albert.
Albert was her favorite. She didn't like Frank and if she didn't have to totally depend on him now, don't think she would now either. She has no choice. He is all that is left. Her new meds are helping though2 -
"Get to do"s and "chose well"sChose well: take BP, wetlands/beach walk with Joe and the dogs.
Bonus: recycling, Post Office, Freddie’s
Just one thing: picked and delivered chanterelles to B, Joe's rx info from Logan @ Dr. S.
Get to do: take BP, T’ai Chi, dogs to powerline, make up 30 mins Tuesday linedancing (practice WBW, DM, SWTD, SL, GDLL, SWSY,) dog group, backup files, then call pc guy to schedule tuneup, fire district: research district tax exemption for volunteer firefighters, AFG grant requirements including NIMS, call NFPA cancel inactive accounts, clarify benefits included in annual dues, input 2019 call sheets into NFIRS, work with chief on equipment letter, substance abuse policy, NFIRS, index mutual aid files and share with L; start Part D research with new rx info, watch STAS Day 20, declutter sideboard, learn new dances (Tequila Little Time, Homesick, Nothing but You, A Little Less Broken, Blame it on my beating heart, Do Your Thing, practice dances: All Night, TGIF, I ain’t never gonna love nobody but Cornell Crawford (Alley cat), One Margarita, I’m so used to being broke); finish mulching flowerbed, invest another 10 minutes in prepping living trust, Freddie’s for complete series TDAP <$48, get Shingrix vaccine, find and configure a screen time popup, figure out where to plant the last of the naked lady bulbs, and soon as it warms up above 50 and dries out below 60% humidity I’ll tape and spray paint those rusted areas of Aunt Elsie’s stove, ask Te about GB’s FD firetruck tax levy – contacts, media, advocate???, Sunday: call S, Reward: inventory seeds, plan this fall’s garden, wishlist replenishments (Milena F1 orange peppers and beit alpha cukes next year).
Reminder: Weekly: Mon=15 mins SWSY. Tues=30 mins line dance at home. Wed=30 mins T’ai Chi & 1 hr pack walk. Thurs=15 mins BB&B. Fri=30 mins T’ai Chi. Sat=1 hr pack walk. Sun=15 mins pilates, yoga or wii balance games.
October
26: Find a new perspective on a problem you face: attitude of gratitude for the body as it is today.
27: Be kind to yourself today. Remember, progress takes time: and celebrate different kinds of progress, stamina, ease in rising from chairs.
This morning as I fed the dogs, was musing on how effective morning routine/linked habitstake ALA, feed dogs, make tea, weigh in, morning readings and meditation, blood pressure, exercise before solitairehave been, when…
Joe invited me to go to the beach with him and the dogs. YES! An opportunity not to be missed. Misty walk through the wetlands and along an angry sea. Tide was out but not very far so we didn’t linger. Then scampered across border to the liquor store, stopped at farm supply store for special dog cookies, chatting all the way home. Great way to start the day.
Went through the routine after breakfast.
Heather whatever is a “99”? That card game sounds awful.
Rebecca the first marriage photo album story made me laugh out loud!
Vicki ((hugs)) selling the motorcycles is a hard reminder of life changes.
Gentle ((hugs)) softly held extra long to Lisa, Beth and Tracey.
Michele “…I have a hard time watching the baking shows because then I get cravings for baked goods” amen, sister, AMEN!
Machka thanks for the alternative arthritis remedies links.
Katla I’m dreading the longer nights, shorter days and time change. Think I’ll splurge on some of these:
https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0819PCKSL/ref=ask_ql_qh_dp_hza
Looks like we have some black trumpet chanterelles in the front yard. Will ask the folds at Black Trumpet Bistro if they'd be willing to barter...
Time to go back to sleep….
Lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMODOctober: leaner/stronger/kinder than September.2021: choose to be leaner/stronger/kinder NOW
daily: sit with Joe:26, weigh/wii: 26/4/65; steps>7228=7393 vits=26, log=26, CI<CO=25, CI<250<CO=19, Tumble=25, Shadow=22, mfp=26, outside=28, up hill=24, clean 10=18.
wkly: Sun:P, Y or W=4, Mon:SWSY=4 , Tue:LD=3 , Wed:TC=2.87 , PW=2, Thurs: BB&B=3.2, Fri:TC=3.97, Sat:PW=3, rX x5=4.
wt=1/31:141.3 2/28:142.4 3/31:145.3 4/30:141.5 5/31:142.4 6/30:141.5 7/31:140.2 8/31:140.0 9/30:141.2 10/3:141.3 10/10:141.8 10/17:141.8 10/24:143.5 :sick: 10/31:
mnthly: board mtg=1 , grant=2, plan=, waist=42.
bonus: AF=15, play=46 sew=
Do you have wild chanterelles that you pick?? I used to love going mushroom picking with my dad- hadn't done it in so many years. We stopped when some illegal pot farmers started a big farm in the middle of the wooded area we would go- back when it was totally illegal. Wasn't safe- they were armed. Loved just spending time with him. I would never go by myself- he knew the the edible ones.
A nice walk on the beach then just a nice chat sounds perfect.
I don't watch any of the food shows in the evenings anymore, especially late night- I end up feeling so hungry I have to go get a snack- I can not sleep when I am feeling hungry.
Debbie1 -
Lisa--Sending prayers and hugs. I take a lot of motrin for joint pain. I was taking tramadol but didn't like the side effects after several years. Good luck and keep me posted on what you find that works.
Kylia--Sounds like you are making great steps in getting back to the basic of taking care of you. One Day at a time.
Lanette--Do keep us posted and you are an inspiration of not giving up and taking care of what needs to be done. And not feeling sorry for yoursel. I really needed that reminder. Thanks
Another cold and rainy day. I am working 7-5 today so inside most the day.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NE2 -
Machka ... thank you for the arthritis links. Hot showers are one of the best things I do to receive stiffness in the morning.
Tracey[/b ... hope the physio helps relieve some of your pain.
Lanette ... wonderful to see you posting again, but so very sorry to hear of your husband's problems. You are a strong woman. Post when you can ...I've missed you!
Sun is shining today and I'm tired of sitting in this wheelchair, so making my own walking routine (following weight-bearing guidelines). I just feel like I'm turning into a pudge.
Beth near Buffalo
4 -
dlfk202000 wrote: »Does anyone know where I can buy a specially made key chain- I want this on it:
(not the T)
I found a person on Etsy to do signature on key chains so ordered one for mom with dad's signature.
This lady just does signatures.
Have you looked up: 'custom keychain' in Google?
Place like these:
https://www.customkeychain.ca/ca/
https://www.zazzle.com/california+keychains
https://www.forevergifts.com/key-chains/
I looked up some and decided to just order key chain kits and make my own. A set of 20 is cheaper than ordering one key chain(and I want two of that one)0 -
Kylia - good for you for exercising.Do you like having a routing. Exercises sounds good.hot tub too.
ROUTINES
I have less of a routine than some more than others.
I never pre-track my food. I don't want to decide what Im going to eat all day. even if its just to choose between cauliflower and brocoli and carrots.
it's probably not ideal but that's how it is. on th either hand I go to café daily.
Lots of routines are happy making when I maintain them
meditation, exercise, cleaning, working.
I'm on an off
for YEARS I was better on routing: exercise and meditation for example.
Routine would actually be good now but there is something to be said for slight improvisation1 -
Anniesquats100 wrote: »Seems like my phone is really really running out of storage space this time. It's been limping along for a year now. Time to put the work into getting a new one. The technology choices are scary, but the reality is that anything new would be better.
Annie in Delaware
I had the cheapest of smart phones for a few years. it could only take 3 apps at a time ! if I wanted to get an app I had to remove another! no joke!
now I have a normal one and it's way better. it cost more which I dislike but it works.
1 -
today so-so
1 -
3 -
A. writes to lawyer about issue that A and B are looking at, puts B in copy
B answers "Thanks for this message"
A asks: "Is that an ironic thank you?"
B answers : I am not ironic. If every time someone says something nice and you are suspicious or take it the wrong way, there is nothing to be done.
That is the whole exchange.
What do you think of A and B's ways of writing, speaking. Looking for outside point of view !
thanks !
1 -
Anne I think you can buy a drive to add extra storage to your phone. Former owner of son's house had one sent here. I do not use my phone for much so I have no need for it. I tried to find him to see he got it but to do avail.0
Categories
- All Categories
- 1.4M Health, Wellness and Goals
- 391.9K Introduce Yourself
- 43.5K Getting Started
- 259.8K Health and Weight Loss
- 175.7K Food and Nutrition
- 47.3K Recipes
- 232.3K Fitness and Exercise
- 396 Sleep, Mindfulness and Overall Wellness
- 6.4K Goal: Maintaining Weight
- 8.5K Goal: Gaining Weight and Body Building
- 152.8K Motivation and Support
- 7.9K Challenges
- 1.3K Debate Club
- 96.3K Chit-Chat
- 2.5K Fun and Games
- 3.3K MyFitnessPal Information
- 23 News and Announcements
- 973 Feature Suggestions and Ideas
- 2.3K MyFitnessPal Tech Support Questions