WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR DECEMBER 2021
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"The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non-essentials."--Lin Yutang2 -
Lisa in AR
He talks a lot - that's a frontal lobe damage thing: lots of rather uninhibited quite negative talk. I have to rein him in sometimes when we're out in public. And if he talks about specific people, they usually end up dead by the end of the story. "I knew someone who owned a house here, blah, blah, blah ... but he's dead now."
It gets so negative sometimes, I just listen with one ear in case I have to say, "uh-huh" occasionally.
But knowing where the conversation will go, I can't bring up anything in the news to discuss over dinner and even things that happen at work are often not "safe" topics as he'll go off on a rant and start accusing various people I work with of things like drug use etc. So I keep my day and my thoughts to myself most of the time.
M in Oz
That is exactly what I do to my DH. You are describing him to a T! He must be suffering from the same type of brain injury your DH has!
Another day with 8/9 year olds. I feel bad for these kids. They all have very bad family lives.
RvRita in Roswell NM
Boxing is notorious for brain injury. It's a horrible "sport".
Frontal lobe damage can happen quite easily, it's a common area to damage, and it doesn't take much to cause quite a bit of damage.
In my husband's case, he has a small area of damage in his frontal lobe, and a large area of damage in his left temporal lobe, plus a diffuse axonal injury which are "dots" of damage scattered everywhere. All those areas are damaged enough that they are "dead" and show up on MRIs as scar tissue.
So the uninhibited, negative talking is one of his many symptoms.
Machka how could the possum get into Rhody’s catio? Can you secure it? What a distressing aspect of TBI, having to cope with negative talk and limit your topics of conversation. Do you have anyone else you can talk to without having to pre-edit?
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
Right now, the door is just tied shut when Rhody is in there. We'll try to get a latch or something to make it more secure. I put Rhody on his leash last night and Inspector Rhody did an investigation of where the intruder got into our property and where it went. There was much sniffing. He's like a bloodhound!
I've been coping with the negative talk and limiting my topics of conversation now for about 3.5 years. I discovered this was going to be an issue early on after his accident.
I don't really have anyone else to talk to. Most of the time that doesn't bother me - I've always kept to myself. But sometimes, I'd like to sit down and have a good discussion with someone. It would be nice to have a decision making talk with someone at times - one of those talks where you weigh up the pros and cons of something with the other person helping you brainstorm and providing ideas you hadn't thought of ....
But the cycling events we organise are good for him because he'll talk to the cyclists about their bicycles and things cycling-related for a while, and that's positive ... as long as he doesn't get too tired.
And I can usually talk about gardening with him, and take him to garden centres and things. Even building our footpath had him talking about building our footpath which was also positive.
When we do anything bee related, he'll talk about bees and bee-related things. So that's good too.
So I'm learning what works.
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Rita been there with that type of class. It is an eat your Wheaties type of class. They need you to be firm and fair. They will also test you to the limit. It is a good to teach them breathing exercises as much for you as it is for them. I also found my self saying sometimes to them and sometimes just to myself Just because you see the hook does not mean you need to bite. There can be a lot of reactive behavior with a group like the one you have. Teaching them to put a space between what triggers them and how they react is a gift that might save their life someday. I had a student who did not learn this lesson and it destroyed his life and the others around him. I think this was true for my son too.
Drew up date. The meds vet wants to give Drew are not right for her. I don't believe an ulcer is what is causing her problem and if it is an auto immune disease giving her meds that upset her system will only make that condition worse. She will need gut support to make her immune system stronger. No wonder she threw that med up twice. To get her to keep it down she would have to take another medication and another for constipation.That would make five meds to do this treatment. It took three days for her system to recover from that drug. I am not about to give it too her again. The drug made her constipated for three days. If she does have this disorder I am thinking about finding an holistic vet to help her manage it. It is a gut issue and she will need the right treatment to help her get her inflamed gut cooled down and functioning better.
I believe if this is the problem stress and getting a vacination she did not need are part of it. I am also wondering if the flea and tick oral meds are too much for her system. I am her third home. Also this year she had the emergency vet visit with eating Cadberry eggs and the other emergency visit with an ultra sound that took all day when she had black poop. I dropped her off at 8 in the morning and did not get her back until 7 that night. DH illness is also a stressor for her and me. She is so sweet and rarely complains that I think I missed the signs how stressed she became. Her illness woke me up.
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Accountability:Chose well: BP, dogs to powerline, made up last Wednesday’s T’ai Chi, started learning Homesick Heart, line danced 30 mins.
Bonus: Lone Ranch with T and Shadow, finished laundry, grant emails.
Just one thing: 40 minutes filing.
Do good December
8: Do something helpful for a friend or family member:
After Lone Ranch beach walk with T, and power line, another 15 mins playing games in the office for breakfast kibble. Be consistent Barbara!
Allie thanks for the Twining’s Christmas Tea recommendation. My favorite seasonal is Celestial Seasonings Nutcracker Sweet, but haven’t seen it in the stores the past two years. Stick to your guns!
Katla one of the major downsides to livestreaming church is I cannot escape hearing how truly bad I sound when singing. A heartbreaker as I love to sing, but when I do return, I’ll spare my pew buddies. ;`{
Carol neither have I put up any decorations. Thought about it a little today but …
Heather how very scary that your friend is being so careless of potential permanent eye damage, all to “carry coals to Newcastle” If you can’t persuade her to lighten her loads, can she use a porter or do curbside check in?
Vickie prayers for Friday’s appointment. So glad you had laughter and good company at the Women’s Christmas party. Laughter can be so very healing.
Mary thanks for sharing the good news about your family.
Betsy ((hugs)) prayers and more ((hugs))
Michele like your koi, has an ancient Asian look, very appropriate.
Lisa your pot roast sounds yummy. Not just less expensive, but more wholesome than packaged lunch meat. Corey is a lucky guy.
Rebecca those brownies look NAUGHTY
Welcome @deniserzaj from New Jersey. Would you let us know what you’d like to be called?
Pip lucky Yogi to have such a sweater. Did he get tangled up in his leash?
Machka I’d want you to be my advocate in whatever I faced. You are invincible.
Margaret while waiting to get in to see the holistic vet, try giving Drew some canned pumpkin. Bland, easy on the gut, good fiber to help restore balance. Some breeds are sensitive to heartworm preventatives, our dogs get Interceptor instead of Heartguard/Ivermectin for that reason (Tumble is a Skye Terrier, Shadow has border collie in the mix.)
Just heard we didn’t get the grant to pay for security upgrades to our fire house. Disappointed. Will try again next year. Learned of a seismic retrofit grant, but I hesitate. Application requires Engineer's preliminary evaluation (at what co$t, if there is even a seismic engineer available within 100 miles) and a Benefit/Cost analysis I don’t feel qualified to perform. We’ll see what the Chief and board say tomorrow night.
Lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
2021: choose to be leaner/stronger/kinder NOW
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There has been a cluster of quakes 400 miles west of our Oregon Coast at the plate's western edge. Haven't felt any but it's worrisome. We're not in a tsunami zone, but if the shaking gets bad and makes it all the way here our bridges are toast and we are cut off. We are south of the 101 sign on the map, near the California border.
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Barbara - Scary! I hope they stop grumbling.
I did my best to persuade my friend. She will have help to get on and off the train, but there are several transfers to get to Heathrow. I tried to persuade her to ditch most of the stuff and to get a taxi from the station to Heathrow, but she was horrified at the suggestion of spending that kind of money. Her son unexpectedly paid the air ticket so she got a refund on the price . I said she could spend some of that on a taxi.
I'm the kind of person who is happy to spend money to make life easier for myself. I don't consider it an extravagance. She is very mean about that kind of thing, but madly extravagant with 'stuff'. I rarely buy stuff and don't like it. We are all different.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx2 -
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It's still Tuesday somewhere, isn't it?
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Boxing is notorious for brain injury. It's a horrible "sport".
Amateur boxing linked to increased risk of brain impairment and early onset of dementia, study suggests
https://www.cardiff.ac.uk/news/view/2586753-amateur-boxing-linked-to-increased-risk-of-brain-impairment-and-early-onset-of-dementia,-study-suggests
The research team found that men who had boxed in their youth were twice as likely to have Alzheimer’s-like impairment as those who had not boxed. It was also linked to an earlier onset of dementia by about five years.
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Just booked my first train ticket online, with an eticket on my phone. That means I don't have to go to Hove station to get a ticket in advance. Our very local station only has a machine on the wrong platform for me , so this is a good step forward. No last minute panic and a short walk to the station.
DH is cooking dinner tonight 😋. Shepherds Pie.
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Review ... (Distances include cycling + walking + a bit of rowing)Mar-15 … 489.8 km (304.3 miles) = 38 hours 4 minJan-21 ... 208.2 km (129.4 miles) = 24 hours 39 minutes
Apr-15 … 491.94 km (305.6 miles) = 43 hours 6 min
May-15 … 361.81 km (224.8 miles) = 35 hours 50 min
Jun-15 … 569.53 km (353.9 miles) = 41 hours 53 min
Jul-15 … 230.7 km (143.35 miles) = 32 hours 45 min
Aug-15 … 211.3 km (131.3 miles) = 28 hours 8 min
Sep-15 … 306.7 km (190.6 miles) = 35 hour 2 min
Oct-15 … 441.82 km (274.5 miles) = 47 hours 43 min
Nov-15 … 660.21 km (410.23 miles) = 60 hours 41 min
Dec-15 … 499.91 km (282.8 miles) = 54 hours 56 min
Jan-16 … 864.79 km (537.35 miles) = 65 hours 36 min
Feb-16 … 470.53 km (292.4 miles) = 40 hours 39 min
Mar-16 … 917.73 km (570.2 miles) = 66 hours 13 min
Apr-16 … 417.83 km (259.6 miles) = 40 hours 23 min
May-16 … 267.09 km (165.9 miles) = 36 hours 10 min
Jun-16 … 552.1 km (343 miles) = 54 hours 48 min
Jul-16 … 709 km (440.5 miles) = 60 hours 41 minutes
Aug-16 … 775.9 km (482.1 miles) = 54 hours 52 minutes
Sep-16 … 371.3 km (230.7 miles) = 32 hours 20 min
Oct-16 … 649 km (403.3 miles) = 49 hours 46 min
Nov-16 … 403 km (250.4 miles) = 52 hours 16 min
Dec-16 … 511.05 km (317.55 miles) = 52 hours 2 min
Jan-17 … 741.9 km (461.0 miles) = 70 hours 3 min
Feb-17 … 600.5 km (373.1 miles) = 57 hours 30 min
Mar-17 … 1113.2 km (691.7 miles) = 78 hours 25 min
Apr-17 … 1181.9 km (734.4 miles) = 76 hours 45 min
May-17 … 426.6 km (265.1 miles) = 39 hours 21 min
Jun-17 … 575.7 km (357.7 miles) = 41 hours 53 min
Jul-17 … 714 km (443.7 miles) = 52 hours 23 min
Aug-17 … 475.8 km (295.6 miles) = 38 hours 41 min
Sep-17 … 455.5 km (283 miles) = 41 hours 25 min
Oct-17 … 647.1 km (402.1 miles) = 57 hours 19 min
Nov-17 … 427.0 km (265.3 miles) = 50 hours 4 min
Dec-17 … 553.5 km (343.9 miles) = 52 hours 12 min
Jan-18 … 590.2 km (366.7 miles) = 57 hours 49 min
Feb-18 … 826.9 km (513.8 miles) = 57 hours 35 min
Mar-18 … 582.01 km (361.6 miles) = 50 hours 11 min
Apr-18 … 176.23 km (109.5 miles) = 29 hours 47 min
May -18 … 167.6 km (104.1 miles) = 29 hours 08 min
June-18 … 349.9 km (217.4 miles) = 36 hours 58 minutes
July-18 ... 324.2 km (201.5 miles) = 24 hours 26 minutes
Aug-18 ... 210.1 km (130.6 miles) = 25 hours 59 minutes
Sep-18 ... 261.7 km (162.6 miles) = 25 hours 11 minutes
Oct-18 ... 230.8 km (143.4 miles) = 30 hours 15 minutes
Nov-18 ... 216.8 km (134.7 miles) = 30 hours 3 minutes
Dec-18 ... 285.2 km (177.2 miles) = 37 hours 49 minutes
Jan-19 ... 241.6 km (150.1 miles) = 27 hours 2 minutes
Feb-19 ... 175.5 km (109 miles) = 19 hours 8 minutes
Mar-19 ... 170.3 km (105.8 miles) = 28 hours 21 minutes
Apr-19 ... 160.3 km (99.6 miles) = 25 hours 4 minutes
May-19 ... 164.0 km (101.9 miles) = 29 hours 10 minutes
Jun-19 ... 246.2 km (153 miles) = 25 hours 40 minutes
Jul-19 ... 217.3 km (135.0 miles) = 33 hours 45 minutes
Aug-19 ... 162.5 km (100.9 miles) = 28 hours 4 minutes
Sep-19 ... 136.0 km (84.5 miles) = 23 hours 10 minutes
Oct-19 ... 196.5 km (122.1 miles) = 31 hours 27 minutes
Nov-19 ... 155.5 km (96.6 miles) = 25 hours 01 minutes
Dec-19 ... 203.7 km (126.6 miles) = 26 hours 54 minutes
Jan-20 ... 304.4 km (189.2 miles) = 32 hours 49 minutes
Feb-20 ... 248.6 km (154.5 miles) = 34 hours 50 minutes
Mar-20 ... 148.3 km (92.2 miles) = 30 hours 12 minutes
Apr-20 ... 171.9 km (106.8 miles) = 19 hours 28 minutes
May-20 ... 183.7 km (114.1 miles) = 20 hours 49 minutes
Jun-20 ... 130.9 km (81.3 miles) = 18 hours 50 minutes
Jul-20 ... 41.8 km (26 miles) = 9 hours 8 minutes
Aug-20 ...148.9 km (92.5 miles) = 21 hours 43 minutes
Sep-20 ... 119.8 km (74.4 miles) = 23 hours 17 minutes
Oct-20 ... 191.7 km (119.1 miles) = 23 hours 40 minutes
Nov-20 ... 273.0 km (169.6 miles) = 29 hours 16 minutes
Dec-20 ... 216.8 km (134.7 miles) = 21 hours 59 minutes
Feb-21 ... 229.6 km (142.7 miles) = 29 hours 01 minutes
Mar-21 ... 259.8 km (161.4 miles) = 30 hours 48 minutes
Apr-21 ... 282.1 km (175.3 miles = 28 hours 42 minutes
May-21 ... 197.9 km (123 miles) = 25 hours 3 minutes
Jun-21 ... 188.2 km (116.9 miles) = 28 hours 5 minutes
Jul-21 ... 244 km (151.6 miles) = 32 hours 33 minutes
Aug-21 ... 234.4 km (145.6 miles) = 27 hours 53 minutes
Sep-21 ... 216.3 km (134.4 miles) = 33 hours 04 minutes
Oct-21 ... 187 km (116.2 miles) = 19 hours 31 minutes
Nov-21 ... 222.3 km (138.1 miles) = 32 hours 34 minutes
Wednesday, 1 December 2021 … 6.4 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 10 flights of stairs
Thursday, 2 December 2021 … 4.2 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 15 flights of stairs
Friday, 3 December 2021 … 0.0 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Saturday, 4 December 2021 … 0.0 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Sunday, 5 December 2021 … 0.0 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 0 flights of stairs
Monday, 6 December 2021 … 1.8 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 4 flights of stairs
Tuesday, 7 December 2021 … 1.8 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 8 flights of stairs
Wednesday, 8 December 2021 … 2.0 km walking + 0.0 km cycling + 0.0 km rowing + 15 flights of stairs
2021 Monthly December
Walking/Running Distance (km): 16.2
Walking/Running Time (min): 202.5
Cycling Distance (km): 0.0
Cycling Time (min): 0.0
Flights Stairs Climbed Number: 52.0
Flights Stairs Climbed Time (min): 37.4
Totals
Total Distance (km): 16.2
Total Distance (miles): 10.1
Total Time (min): 239.9
Total Time (hr): 3:59:560 -
Lamb shanks tonight for my parents. Hope I have the carrots to go with it.
I was exhausted yesterday and went to bed early. So now I'm awake at the crack of dawn. Teddy is very adaptable. I should do the exercise I skipped last night.
I will get my booster today. Moderna. No good reason why I waited this long, I just hate making appointments. Maybe I will get a flu shot too.
Annie in Delaware3 -
Morning ladies
Alfie has had his breakfast and is back snuggled up on the bed..
Gee I use Bless there heart meant in a caring way.. guess I shouldnt huh? Lol
Well silly me i ordered an apple watch for myself but i dont have an apple phone.. duh.. so i returned that and got a samsung watch..
It has alot if health features that will help me stay on track..
Well i guess i will venture out later and pick up the crochet hook ,as i really want to start working on Tracys afghan.3 -
Lisa your pot roast sounds yummy. Not just less expensive, but more wholesome than packaged lunch meat. Corey is a lucky guy.
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
A spoiler wherein I get insufferably mushy:Thank you, Barbara, for saying Corey is a lucky guy. While it sounds insufferably smug, I actually can finally acknowledge the fact that Corey is fortunate to have me. Looking back down the dozen years we've been together, the vast majority of it was spent with me suffering imposter syndrome about my relationship.
As in I didn't deserve to be with him.
As in I didn't think he could possibly love me as much as I loved him.
As in I thought he would eventually see the real me, and he'd leave.
As in the first words out of my mouth when he said "I love you," were far too often "Why?"
After this last few years, I know he would do anything for me, and I would do anything for him. We are both truly fortunate people in having each other.
It does, however, lead to more traditional conversations such as "Where do you want to go for dinner," and "You choose, I'm easy." We both want each other to be happy at every level, so we end up eating at home most nights. Which makes both of us very happy.
Love,
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I seem to have found my way back. I hope it lasts because I miss my friends and this site is not easy to access since things changed.
Katla
Katla, when yo get to community, click on you own profile picture in the upper right corner than choose bookmarks. That’s how I get there every day. Easy!
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margaretturk wrote: »Rita been there with that type of class. It is an eat your Wheaties type of class. They need you to be firm and fair. They will also test you to the limit. It is a good to teach them breathing exercises as much for you as it is for them. I also found my self saying sometimes to them and sometimes just to myself Just because you see the hook does not mean you need to bite. There can be a lot of reactive behavior with a group like the one you have. Teaching them to put a space between what triggers them and how they react is a gift that might save their life someday. I had a student who did not learn this lesson and it destroyed his life and the others around him. I think this was true for my son too.
Drew up date. The meds vet wants to give Drew are not right for her. I don't believe an ulcer is what is causing her problem and if it is an auto immune disease giving her meds that upset her system will only make that condition worse. She will need gut support to make her immune system stronger. No wonder she threw that med up twice. To get her to keep it down she would have to take another medication and another for constipation.That would make five meds to do this treatment. It took three days for her system to recover from that drug. I am not about to give it too her again. The drug made her constipated for three days. If she does have this disorder I am thinking about finding an holistic vet to help her manage it. It is a gut issue and she will need the right treatment to help her get her inflamed gut cooled down and functioning better.
I believe if this is the problem stress and getting a vacination she did not need are part of it. I am also wondering if the flea and tick oral meds are too much for her system. I am her third home. Also this year she had the emergency vet visit with eating Cadberry eggs and the other emergency visit with an ultra sound that took all day when she had black poop. I dropped her off at 8 in the morning and did not get her back until 7 that night. DH illness is also a stressor for her and me. She is so sweet and rarely complains that I think I missed the signs how stressed she became. Her illness woke me up.
Thanks for the advice about teaching the kids to breathe. I will try that today!
Matchka thanks for the info on boxing and brain injuries! I will read it with great interest!
Of to the the bee hive!
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