Guess What was on my Kid's School Shopping List
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I would have to say that I think it's rude for a teacher to ask parents to bring in candy for incentives. Especially since this is not a classroom requirement and something the teacher made up and put in place. She should be responsible for the purchase 100%. On another note, I don't think candy should be used as an incentive period. With health, nutritional and fitness concerns tredning right now, I think the teachers should be a little more sensitive to the subject and when asking for certain things.
Cuz it's the candy's fault?0 -
As far as the candy. No not cool.
But I send my kid with the supplies on the list and we mark our name on all of it. I also include a note to the teacher that says
"These supplies are for MY kid and my kid alone. My child knows that if they run out, they are to let me know and I'll supply more. If my child is out of a particular supply needed for that day, unfortunately my child will not participate."
I refuse to pay for someone who is simply too lazy to provide their own child's school supplies, and I understand it's not your fault that the school doesn't provide teachers with the necessary tools to run the classroom, but poor planning on schools and deadbeat parent's part does not constitute a handout from my pocket"
I do feel bad for those kids that are made to walk to school with no backpack, or school supplies, dirty clothes and no food in thier tummies, I really do, but there are resources out there. We have to stop letting these parents get away with doing this to thier children.
Huh. I feel bad for those kids too, so we always buy extra school supplies with a note to the teacher that says: "These supplies are for you to add to your stash for kids who come to school in need, because we're all a part of this community and we're in this together."
But your approach is nice too. *shudder*0 -
IIT: A bunch of people who make me glad I'm never having kids and so won't have to deal with other parents. You can't even let kids have candy every now and then or birthday treats without people freaking out, damn. You helicopter types are why we can't have nice things.0
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I thought treats were used to train DOGS!
What happened to bad grades or punishment being the "incentive" to do well? No wonder childhood obesity is on the rise....
I can't speak for all schools but my son does not get his candy rewards for doing what he is supposed to do, he gets it for going above and beyond. For example, giving some of his lunch to a girl that was hungry got him a reward. All kids start their day on green, as they get worse they get the warning colors of yellow, orange then red (call home). Doing good deeds that are not asked of them earn them blue, purple and pink level of rewards. His reward for the 'pink' day, a single jolly rancher. Not like it's a full size candy bar...
My son is in Kindergarten and they have a snack about 30mins before they go home, probably because they eat lunch at 10:45. His teacher has asked that parents help out with stocking the snack cabinet when they can but requests that sugary treat be saved for special occasions like birthdays.0 -
Never asked to send candy but was asked to send Polaroid film.
Sorry should add that was 10 years ago before the digital camera became affordable.
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IIT: A bunch of people who make me glad I'm never having kids and so won't have to deal with other parents. You can't even let kids have candy every now and then or birthday treats without people freaking out, damn. You helicopter types are why we can't have nice things.
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As far as the candy. No not cool.
But I send my kid with the supplies on the list and we mark our name on all of it. I also include a note to the teacher that says
"These supplies are for MY kid and my kid alone. My child knows that if they run out, they are to let me know and I'll supply more. If my child is out of a particular supply needed for that day, unfortunately my child will not participate."
I refuse to pay for someone who is simply too lazy to provide their own child's school supplies, and I understand it's not your fault that the school doesn't provide teachers with the necessary tools to run the classroom, but poor planning on schools and deadbeat parent's part does not constitute a handout from my pocket"
I do feel bad for those kids that are made to walk to school with no backpack, or school supplies, dirty clothes and no food in thier tummies, I really do, but there are resources out there. We have to stop letting these parents get away with doing this to thier children.
Huh. I feel bad for those kids too, so we always buy extra school supplies with a note to the teacher that says: "These supplies are for you to add to your stash for kids who come to school in need, because we're all a part of this community and we're in this together."
But your approach is nice too. *shudder*
That can't be real...Really?0 -
Never asked to send candy but was asked to send Polaroid film.
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I think it's silly to request candy, of all things, but no child is going to get fat or even get cavities from a once-a-day/once-a-week/occasional candy at school. If you don't want your child participating, I'm sure you can send a little note stating that.0
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all I can say is......I'm glad I homeschool and don't have to deal with this stuff!0
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If I ever have kids, I'm going to be the parent who has to call the teacher and explain why my child will not be bringing in all the extra crap they ask for. If the school won't provide it, well, teachers get a tax write-off for whatever supplies they purchase with their own money. Start using it.
Do you think teachers get paid a lot of money? I mean, the write off is nice, but you have to spend the money first.
I mean come on!
ETA: And some teachers don't have a homeroom (like music teachers) and have to buy EVERYTHING on their own since supply lists only are allowed for homeroom teachers.
Wow. I'm a teacher in England and we get a departmental budget and buy exercise books, pens, pencils, glue, rulers etc. kids can borrow anything they like. I do work in a deprived area so we do have to lend a lot of stuff out every lesson, which probably doesn't happen in schools in more well off areas.
The only time I'd ever give out sweets would be at Christmas as I usually do a quiz and give a prize to the winners.
We have something called vivos at my school as a reward system, and you get a certain amount you can give the kids, and then with their vivos they can buy things like pens and so on. We also have a consequence system which can result in detention or isolation.0 -
Or... you could make the kid brush their teeth properly and let them be a kid...0
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Maybe we are progressive here but the schools are not allowed to reward children with any form of food. They even go as far as not allowing it on birthday celebrations. I can send in little prizes like stickers etc. on my son's birthday but no cake or candy or cupcakes etc. (which I think is ridiculous) Also, he is in kindergarten and they have late afternoon snack time but you must send your child with a nutritious snack and water is the only option for a drink and during snack they learn about nutrition... Glad they are teaching them about good habits but sometimes kids should be able to have treats. Especially with their friends on their birthdays.0
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As far as the candy. No not cool.
But I send my kid with the supplies on the list and we mark our name on all of it. I also include a note to the teacher that says
"These supplies are for MY kid and my kid alone. My child knows that if they run out, they are to let me know and I'll supply more. If my child is out of a particular supply needed for that day, unfortunately my child will not participate."
I refuse to pay for someone who is simply too lazy to provide their own child's school supplies, and I understand it's not your fault that the school doesn't provide teachers with the necessary tools to run the classroom, but poor planning on schools and deadbeat parent's part does not constitute a handout from my pocket"
I do feel bad for those kids that are made to walk to school with no backpack, or school supplies, dirty clothes and no food in thier tummies, I really do, but there are resources out there. We have to stop letting these parents get away with doing this to thier children.
Huh. I feel bad for those kids too, so we always buy extra school supplies with a note to the teacher that says: "These supplies are for you to add to your stash for kids who come to school in need, because we're all a part of this community and we're in this together."
But your approach is nice too. *shudder*
That can't be real...Really?
Of course it's real. I worded it less cheesy but I did it. Acts of kindess, biznitches.0 -
Never asked to send candy but was asked to send Polaroid film.
Wait what?0 -
Um, it's a bag of candy for the entire year? I am sure you could send sugar free.
Teachers have no budgets for their classrooms. I seriously doubt all you boo hooing over this NEVER had a single piece of candy throughout your school career.
Giving a kid a piece of candy don't cause obesity. Not having access, for whatever reason, to proper nutritious foods does. Period.0 -
We do not have to send in candy or anything else for incentives, but I was really shocked to see a box of Band Aids on the school supply list (which I refused to send), along with the cleaning wipes and germ x. We also have to send a ridiculous amount of pencils, glue, and many other regular supplies, when I know that my child does not need that many. Our teachers put everything in "community" boxes where the children just go get whatever they need when they need it... So I am pretty much taking in supplies for parents who do not send supplies in for the children. It irks me. I found out that on the last day of school the teachers just throw away any unused supplies such as pencils, pens, markers, crayons, paper, ect.... and the janitors just go through every trash can and cash in on the leftovers. Why cant the teachers put the leftovers in a tote and use for next year? I was livid when I found this out and so I sent my daughter with the least amount of supplies for the "community" boxes and have the rest of her stuff at home for when she needs it.
Thanks for making the rest of the parents and teachers make up the difference for you. :flowerforyou:
Yep, thanks. I'll just add that to the grand I dropped last year.
I call BS on the teachers throwing away pens, pencils, markers, etc..... (see going to IKEA and golf courses for pencils).
Agreed. That whole statement makes no sense AT ALL. Why would someone actually gather all the leftover supplies and throw them in the trash. It makes no sense...
Def has an "urban legend" flavor to it.
HAHAHAHA... It does seem hard to believe, you know... because everyone on here is full of **** and lying like the way you guys make it seem. But seriously the janitors come right out and tell you. This is a small town, not a big city, so I am sure some things are not the same as your big city schools. And as for the band aid comment...I don't think the teachers are the ones supplying the band aids to the nurses office. I pay my taxes just like everyone else has mentioned. So I know the taxes should fund a lot of the schools expenses. I DO NOT think the teachers should have to come out of their own pocket for supplies or cleaning stuff. I do not mind helping other people out and I do that a lot. I do donate clothes, backpacks, whatever I can to people in need, but I know they are not throwing this stuff in the trash in perfectly new condition. I do not get why everyone is getting so upset about my post as none of you know me or know my situation, you just made assumptions by how you decided to read my post. I am not getting all bent out of shape about what other people or anyone reading this have posted. I was just voicing my opinion just like everyone else. I was not saying that everything should be put on the teachers shoulders or that they should have to pay out of pocket for this stuff... and for the teachers who have read this, I apologize if I offended anyone, as it was not my purpose. :drinker:0 -
Never asked to send candy but was asked to send Polaroid film.
Wait what?
I am guessing for things like "first day of spring" "holiday" "thanksgiving" photos that kids use to make projects.0 -
Never asked to send candy but was asked to send Polaroid film.
Wait what?
I am guessing for things like "first day of spring" "holiday" "thanksgiving" photos that kids use to make projects.
That was 10 years ago when my oldest was in kinder she is now a Jr and everyone owns a digital camera now.0 -
As far as the candy. No not cool.
But I send my kid with the supplies on the list and we mark our name on all of it. I also include a note to the teacher that says
"These supplies are for MY kid and my kid alone. My child knows that if they run out, they are to let me know and I'll supply more. If my child is out of a particular supply needed for that day, unfortunately my child will not participate."
I refuse to pay for someone who is simply too lazy to provide their own child's school supplies, and I understand it's not your fault that the school doesn't provide teachers with the necessary tools to run the classroom, but poor planning on schools and deadbeat parent's part does not constitute a handout from my pocket"
I do feel bad for those kids that are made to walk to school with no backpack, or school supplies, dirty clothes and no food in thier tummies, I really do, but there are resources out there. We have to stop letting these parents get away with doing this to thier children.
Huh. I feel bad for those kids too, so we always buy extra school supplies with a note to the teacher that says: "These supplies are for you to add to your stash for kids who come to school in need, because we're all a part of this community and we're in this together."
But your approach is nice too. *shudder*
:flowerforyou: 
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We do not have to send in candy or anything else for incentives, but I was really shocked to see a box of Band Aids on the school supply list (which I refused to send), along with the cleaning wipes and germ x. We also have to send a ridiculous amount of pencils, glue, and many other regular supplies, when I know that my child does not need that many. Our teachers put everything in "community" boxes where the children just go get whatever they need when they need it... So I am pretty much taking in supplies for parents who do not send supplies in for the children. It irks me. I found out that on the last day of school the teachers just throw away any unused supplies such as pencils, pens, markers, crayons, paper, ect.... and the janitors just go through every trash can and cash in on the leftovers. Why cant the teachers put the leftovers in a tote and use for next year? I was livid when I found this out and so I sent my daughter with the least amount of supplies for the "community" boxes and have the rest of her stuff at home for when she needs it.
Thanks for making the rest of the parents and teachers make up the difference for you. :flowerforyou:
Yep, thanks. I'll just add that to the grand I dropped last year.
I call BS on the teachers throwing away pens, pencils, markers, etc..... (see going to IKEA and golf courses for pencils).
Agreed. That whole statement makes no sense AT ALL. Why would someone actually gather all the leftover supplies and throw them in the trash. It makes no sense...
Def has an "urban legend" flavor to it.
HAHAHAHA... It does seem hard to believe, you know... because everyone on here is full of **** and lying like the way you guys make it seem. But seriously the janitors come right out and tell you. This is a small town, not a big city, so I am sure some things are not the same as your big city schools. And as for the band aid comment...I don't think the teachers are the ones supplying the band aids to the nurses office. I pay my taxes just like everyone else has mentioned. So I know the taxes should fund a lot of the schools expenses. I DO NOT think the teachers should have to come out of their own pocket for supplies or cleaning stuff. I do not mind helping other people out and I do that a lot. I do donate clothes, backpacks, whatever I can to people in need, but I know they are not throwing this stuff in the trash in perfectly new condition. I do not get why everyone is getting so upset about my post as none of you know me or know my situation, you just made assumptions by how you decided to read my post. I am not getting all bent out of shape about what other people or anyone reading this have posted. I was just voicing my opinion just like everyone else. I was not saying that everything should be put on the teachers shoulders or that they should have to pay out of pocket for this stuff... and for the teachers who have read this, I apologize if I offended anyone, as it was not my purpose. :drinker:
I get how the BandAid thing seems strange, and YES most schools have some sort of first aid supply kit somewhere in the Nurse's Office (if you have one) or the main office. However, as a teacher, it is HIGHLY annoying to have kids wanting to go to the office for BandAids for little things like hang nails and paper cuts. A lot of times, the student is using a bogus request to just leave the classroom. By having that stuff readily available in the room, it cuts out the time lost by the student being out of the room. I always have a couple of boxes stashed away in my desk. Don't worry though...I buy my own and give them away. No added expense to the tax payers.0 -
I can be bribed with candy 0
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wow I am shocked by most of these comments.
My daughter is starting Pre K this year and I was expecting to see a long supply list. It wasn't. I was able to buy everything on it for less than $20. I know her teacher must be buying stuff on her own. When I go in next week, I am going to ask her what else I can buy for the class. I have no problem buying crayons, pencils, paper, stickers, candy, cleaning supplies, tissues...if the class needs it I will get it. And I have no problem providing extra for the families who cannot afford to or just simply choose not to. That should not be the teachers problem or the kids problems.
And as far as rewarding kids with candy...really whats the big deal? candy, stickers, toys...its all fun! I am sure the teacher is not pumping your kids with tons of sugar. One piece is not going to kill them.0 -
We do not have to send in candy or anything else for incentives, but I was really shocked to see a box of Band Aids on the school supply list (which I refused to send), along with the cleaning wipes and germ x. We also have to send a ridiculous amount of pencils, glue, and many other regular supplies, when I know that my child does not need that many. Our teachers put everything in "community" boxes where the children just go get whatever they need when they need it... So I am pretty much taking in supplies for parents who do not send supplies in for the children. It irks me. I found out that on the last day of school the teachers just throw away any unused supplies such as pencils, pens, markers, crayons, paper, ect.... and the janitors just go through every trash can and cash in on the leftovers. Why cant the teachers put the leftovers in a tote and use for next year? I was livid when I found this out and so I sent my daughter with the least amount of supplies for the "community" boxes and have the rest of her stuff at home for when she needs it.
Thanks for making the rest of the parents and teachers make up the difference for you. :flowerforyou:
Yep, thanks. I'll just add that to the grand I dropped last year.
I call BS on the teachers throwing away pens, pencils, markers, etc..... (see going to IKEA and golf courses for pencils).
Agreed. That whole statement makes no sense AT ALL. Why would someone actually gather all the leftover supplies and throw them in the trash. It makes no sense...
Def has an "urban legend" flavor to it.
HAHAHAHA... It does seem hard to believe, you know... because everyone on here is full of **** and lying like the way you guys make it seem. But seriously the janitors come right out and tell you. This is a small town, not a big city, so I am sure some things are not the same as your big city schools. And as for the band aid comment...I don't think the teachers are the ones supplying the band aids to the nurses office. I pay my taxes just like everyone else has mentioned. So I know the taxes should fund a lot of the schools expenses. I DO NOT think the teachers should have to come out of their own pocket for supplies or cleaning stuff. I do not mind helping other people out and I do that a lot. I do donate clothes, backpacks, whatever I can to people in need, but I know they are not throwing this stuff in the trash in perfectly new condition. I do not get why everyone is getting so upset about my post as none of you know me or know my situation, you just made assumptions by how you decided to read my post. I am not getting all bent out of shape about what other people or anyone reading this have posted. I was just voicing my opinion just like everyone else. I was not saying that everything should be put on the teachers shoulders or that they should have to pay out of pocket for this stuff... and for the teachers who have read this, I apologize if I offended anyone, as it was not my purpose. :drinker:
I get how the BandAid thing seems strange, and YES most schools have some sort of first aid supply kit somewhere in the Nurse's Office (if you have one) or the main office. However, as a teacher, it is HIGHLY annoying to have kids wanting to go to the office for BandAids for little things like hang nails and paper cuts. A lot of times, the student is using a bogus request to just leave the classroom. By having that stuff readily available in the room, it cuts out the time lost by the student being out of the room. I always have a couple of boxes stashed away in my desk. Don't worry though...I buy my own and give them away. No added expense to the tax payers.
I'm getting bent out of shape because my Mum is a teacher and I see how much she has to pay for out of her own very empty pocket because some parents refuse to give their kids enough stationary. No sensible teacher would throw out stationary, and every sensible teacher pays for BandAids out of their own pocket because that's just what you have to do. Teaching is a grossly underpaid, stressful job, that is responsible for the building blocks of your child's entire future. Have some respect and just send your kid to school with the required supplies.0 -
IIT: A bunch of people who make me glad I'm never having kids and so won't have to deal with other parents. You can't even let kids have candy every now and then or birthday treats without people freaking out, damn. You helicopter types are why we can't have nice things.
Amen.
Amen x 2!!!
Its so funny to see all these parents freaking out haha
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If I ever have kids, I'm going to be the parent who has to call the teacher and explain why my child will not be bringing in all the extra crap they ask for. If the school won't provide it, well, teachers get a tax write-off for whatever supplies they purchase with their own money. Start using it.
Do you think teachers get paid a lot of money? I mean, the write off is nice, but you have to spend the money first.
I mean come on!
ETA: And some teachers don't have a homeroom (like music teachers) and have to buy EVERYTHING on their own since supply lists only are allowed for homeroom teachers.
Wow. I'm a teacher in England and we get a departmental budget and buy exercise books, pens, pencils, glue, rulers etc. kids can borrow anything they like. I do work in a deprived area so we do have to lend a lot of stuff out every lesson, which probably doesn't happen in schools in more well off areas.
The only time I'd ever give out sweets would be at Christmas as I usually do a quiz and give a prize to the winners.
We have something called vivos at my school as a reward system, and you get a certain amount you can give the kids, and then with their vivos they can buy things like pens and so on. We also have a consequence system which can result in detention or isolation.
Whoa... that would be nice! I'm super jealous.
I never give sweets (or eat in my room for that matter) since our school is rural and rodents like to inhabit rooms that do have food in them (never my room!), but I'm tossing around the idea of using a doughnut party for a reward for my recorder classes. The homeroom that gets their recorders in or brings money for a new one the quickest gets the party. It's extra special since they know I HATE having anything but water in my room.
So far, it's working! I haven't told them about the possibility of there being food, but I have a treasure chest they can pick from if I change my mind about the food. There's too many allergies/dietary restrictions for me to worry about.0 -
I find it strange with all the food allergies that anyone is allowed to give out food in schools. My friends have problems sending peanut butter sandwiches in the kids lunches because of nut allergies that other kids have in the same school. I know the schools out here are charging for bus services. My friend pays $300 PER kid (she has 4) for them to ride the school bus for the year.0
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Just goes to show how much I hate teachers. Great point OP.0
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at our schools ask for bags of party favors from the dollar store or money for a mass order to Oriental Trading company or the like. They also do raffles or Lunch with the teacher or Lunch with the principal. (which is nice to have the principal be in a positive roll!)0
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Oh. You're "that mom."
Nothing to see here and nothing to say here, other than that I feel sorry for your kid, and your kid's teachers.0
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