WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR SEPTEMBER 2022
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Heather - we are so blessed to be grandparents in this era. I think the young adults raising them are incredible, they listen to them and allow them to have opinions and encourage them to be who they are without apology.
My Grandson is growing his hair long, I am not a fan. Last night I asked him if anyone besides me was bothered by it and he said just his Dad and I, even his great grandparents aren’t saying anything. 😂. My daughter says, it’s only hair it will grow back, get cut, get coloured and she is not willing to have battles over it.
Your son and DDIL sure are wonderful, like you I would be beat. We never allowed our girls to be involved in something everyday because of our work schedules.
Rosemarie- I hope your nurse works out.
Lanette - 😂 Love the meme
Carol - that looks great. I love your cabinet/hutch. DH should be prepared, it seems to me you are just getting started. Lol
Lisa - he is getting his gift tomorrow night. I wanted DH to see him when he opened it too. So they are coming for supper.
Karen - I don’t know how the lady at the group home doesn’t have to provide an accounting with receipts for your brothers money. We hold money in trust for some of our residents and we have to balance to the penny in our monthly audits.
Thanks Debbie - the constant upgrading scares me. DH would always want the best and newest until he loses interest about 5 years in.
Pip - that’s unnerving with all of the changes. Glad you are off them.
Lanette- thank you he has that way about him. The ceramics shop I go to had a kids camp this summer. The Grands went. Every week since the owner tells me how much he impressed her and he just keeps telling everyone about him. He’s been leaving impressions since he started talking.
Debbie - I hope something changes for you soon. I have been where you are, it’s not easy at all.
Vicki - the Grands sure do grow fast. I’m noticing already that mine have social lives and aren’t as free to come here.
Katla - I’m so sorry for you and your DH. Here we have busses for seniors that take you door to door. It might not hurt to ask someone.
Michele - I have used mostly acrylics, so I just paint over again. I have only done one glaze project and for that I washed it with a damp corner of paper towel. I had caught it immediately though.
I started a new piece tonight. I’m going to rush doing this piece so Lauryn can have it for Halloween.
Tracey in Edmonton
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Just heard from DD. My husband is being sent to a facility similar to the last one where he stayed last summer. It is an unknown location to me, but DD seems to know where it is. I have no way to get there unless she is able to take me. She has many other responsibilities to her workplace, and not a lot of time to take me to see him. I am sad because I am unlikely to see him for who knows how long.
I’m sure my daughter will try to take me to see him when she can but she is very busy with a challenging career and her own family.
This is so hard to be separated, again.
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Because of your situation, you could be classified as a vulnerable adult. You should check into being assigned a social worker for yourself. They can help you to arrange a PCA to drive you from where you are at to your husband's location. That's the type of care assistance a couple of my family members run. Places like Home Alone, 60 Helping 60. And many others. You can even check into for yourself. You seem very capable of using technology. You can do it on your phone. Even call the place that you were staying with your husband at the assisted care facility and ask for help. If your daughter has even a little spare time she can help. I arranged that type of assistance for my mother. She made a little too much money so she had to do a buy down. I'm going to be working for that type of business a couple days of the week to keep me busy when I get back to Arizona. My job would be a companion or, driver, assist with shopping and so forth.💞7 -
My daughter is a gift. She has been able to find the facility where DH is now. Thanks to her I know he is doing okay and I will be able to visit him soon. I feel better, knowing he is in a good place. I hope to see him tomorrow.9
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My very best wishes to you Katla . Winging love to you all the way from the UK. :flowerforyou:
Feeling restless. Not sure why. I'm between projects and not sure exactly what is my next step. I've several ideas brewing. I've been using my energy up on cleaning, but I know I need to spread my wings on something new.
Tracey - Max toyed with the idea of growing his hair last year, but it didn't happen. His best friends all had luscious, flowing locks. Really fabulous. I was jealous. I think now he is at a traditional school that won't happen, but I don't know what their hair policy is.
My elder son followed 'grunge' when he was around 15, so he had beautiful blonde hair down to his chest! Now he is bald and shaven.
Hair is such an expression of our individuality. For me, my hair is soooo important. When it all fell out in chemo, I was devastated. It was by far the worst thing of my treatment.
As you might imagine, I am a great believer in us all expressing ourselves and staying true to our real natures. Your grandchildren sound as if they are well on the way down that path. You are doing a great job, rooting for them and batting for them. We all need unconditional regard. But it's also right to give our true opinions. It's OK to disagree.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx1 -
Snowflake1968 wrote: »Heather - we are so blessed to be grandparents in this era. I think the young adults raising them are incredible, they listen to them and allow them to have opinions and encourage them to be who they are without apology.
My Grandson is growing his hair long, I am not a fan. Last night I asked him if anyone besides me was bothered by it and he said just his Dad and I, even his great grandparents aren’t saying anything. 😂. My daughter says, it’s only hair it will grow back, get cut, get coloured and she is not willing to have battles over it.
Your son and DDIL sure are wonderful, like you I would be beat. We never allowed our girls to be involved in something everyday because of our work schedules.
Rosemarie- I hope your nurse works out.
Lanette - 😂 Love the meme
Carol - that looks great. I love your cabinet/hutch. DH should be prepared, it seems to me you are just getting started. Lol
Lisa - he is getting his gift tomorrow night. I wanted DH to see him when he opened it too. So they are coming for supper.
Karen - I don’t know how the lady at the group home doesn’t have to provide an accounting with receipts for your brothers money. We hold money in trust for some of our residents and we have to balance to the penny in our monthly audits.
Thanks Debbie - the constant upgrading scares me. DH would always want the best and newest until he loses interest about 5 years in.
Pip - that’s unnerving with all of the changes. Glad you are off them.
Lanette- thank you he has that way about him. The ceramics shop I go to had a kids camp this summer. The Grands went. Every week since the owner tells me how much he impressed her and he just keeps telling everyone about him. He’s been leaving impressions since he started talking.
Debbie - I hope something changes for you soon. I have been where you are, it’s not easy at all.
Vicki - the Grands sure do grow fast. I’m noticing already that mine have social lives and aren’t as free to come here.
Katla - I’m so sorry for you and your DH. Here we have busses for seniors that take you door to door. It might not hurt to ask someone.
Michele - I have used mostly acrylics, so I just paint over again. I have only done one glaze project and for that I washed it with a damp corner of paper towel. I had caught it immediately though.
I started a new piece tonight. I’m going to rush doing this piece so Lauryn can have it for Halloween.
Tracey in Edmonton
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It's because she isn't truthful. She will falsify records in a heartbeat. I am consulting an attorney but I don't want Gary kicked out of there before November when (hopefully) he will be able to move.
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Katla, Thinking of you daily. I know how anxious you are to be at your husband's bedside. You have lots of helpers around you who can help you figure this out! We care so much about you, don't forget we are your pocket angels. Hang in there.
Karen in Virginia4 -
Machka — You are absolutely correct about DH. He does need care. He has evidently been transferred to a care facility. I hope to be there to see him soon, possibly tomorrow. Keeping my fingers crossed that he is doing well and hope that I can see him soon.
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Katla
Thinking of you, just read your post, what a worry, sending love.
Viv
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Just brief check-in. Have been reading daily.
Katla-like others have said, check with your residence and see if they have transportation options, They should at least be able to help you arrange something. It is good he is receiving the care he needs. You need to take care of you to stay healthy for him.
Karen-it is so good to hear about your efforts on your brother's behalf. Not everyone has someone to advocate for them. I understand you being cautious with current situation-but am glad you have a plan!
Rebecca-thinking of you and sister.
Busy day today. Morning meeting out of town (considering doing Zoom), PT in afternoon, food pantry tonight. Working half day tomorrow. Get latest Covid vaccine at 1. After that will go to grocery and get laundry and some other weekend stuff done Friday afternoon in case I get hit with reaction over weekend. Vaccines of all sorts tend to hit me a bit hard for a day or so. Therefore, whether it is flu, or tetanus or whatever, I try to get the shot on Friday and plan easy weekend. I will spend most of weekend continuing with the declutter and cleanup prep for surgery.
Off to shower and head into the office.
Take care all,
Ginny in Ohio4 -
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Still plugging away at the Instagram thing. I think today's effort is an improvement. Still to venture into proper video reels, but taking baby steps.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx3 -
Teresa from NY again I could use some friends and the motivation and support and to give back I did a life change with my habits of eating I am proud of myself for how far I have come It has been a struggle at times some days are easier than others
But I miss the support of others and reading about others accomplishments Thankyou for this group9 -
Katla: Thinking about you and your husband.
Lanette: LOL..that is quite the kitchen drawer you sorted!
Carla: Sorry you had someone with ALS in your life. I have been helping my husband for years, but the last 27 months have been more intense. I told him last night, he would have to go to sleep earlier. I can't living on his schedule. I need to go to sleep early and get up early.
Carol: The. hutch looks great! Love the plates: I have plates on the wall in my dining room!
Rebecca: I had a poodle. The dog of my life. I miss him so much.
Sherryann: Welcome!
Tracey: Happy Birthday
Karen: Great you found a desk for your brother!
RVRita: So sorry you don't feel up to posting. Thinking about you.
Debbie: I didn't feel like doing much this anniversary either. Glad you are enjoying the new kitten.
Pipcd: Happy Dog!
Michele: Yes, I lived in the Back Bay near Copley and Brookline. I went to Bost Univ and later on to Suffolk U. In my early 20's I did sailing on the Charles' River. Later towards the North, I did some wind surfing on a lake. I wasn't good enough to go into the ocean. I would have ended up in Britian! Ahhh I gave my son an IP...I wonder if he uses it!
Teresa: This group has given me new energy! I realize my life is not so different from anyone else's life. I have clutter and struggle to clean and to stay fit and intellectually challenged. I love hearing what everyone is doing!
I did get out yesterday and the weather was better. Today I have a caretaker until 2pm so hope to walk and get some fresh air! I have some dry cleaning to pick up and need to do this!
Rosemarie from GA
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Tracey- I love the pumpkin ceramic! I can't wait to see the finished product! You are so talented!
Katla- I am happy your hubby is getting help with the recovery. Sorry about your being separated for the time being. If your assisted living community doesn't offer a transportation system, have your daughter look into your town/village's transportation options. I live in a small town, but we have little mini-buses (Harbor Transit). You call to schedule a ride (remember to schedule your return trip as well) and they come, pick you up, drop you off. etc. Ride cost is minimal. Most businesses like this one will also allow you to set up rides at the same time every day.
Hair- My DH absolutely hates seeing long hair on little boys (or teens, or men for that matter). I am of the opinion that if a girl can have a short haircut, then a boy should be allowed to have it long. Hair IS a way for people to express themselves. I just ask that whether boy or girl; get it off the kid's face and out of their eyes! I have seem so many little girls struggle with tasks because their pretty long hair is in their eyes, mouth, etc. Syrup, glue, food, paint, everything gets in it when it is down. I also don't mind the fashion of men wearing skirts/dresses/heels or make up. Fashion always changes. What's good for the goose...
I am a bit depressed. I have four part time spots open (M,W,F) and am having a hard time filling them! I have had two families come to interview so far. I think the main reason I am not getting responses is because the kids have to be over 18 mos old. I also think people are a little put off by my more "rustic" back yard. I have a garden, a bare wood structure "tee-pee" that I have harvested all of the green beans and plants/vines, a fire pit filled with flowers, a child sized table, toy storage, and some open spaces under trees designated for imaginative play. Not your average child's play area; but more open ended. People around here are very put off that I don't have a play structure or two. (There is a playground and beach across the street) Oh well.
Kids arriving. I better fly. Welcome new girls! Jump in when the conversation strikes your interest! ttfn xoxoxo KJ9 -
HAHAHA! Yes, still employed Lanette. In fact, she never even answered me. SO frustrating. But VERY long story short, had an issue with printing the other day and the tech guy from our building came to my office yesterday, saw my set up and said (in not these words) "WTH?!?" I told him my long story and he was slightly familiar with the tech ticket that had been turned in LONG AGO. (but nothing done about it) So, 1-he said he'd get to working on it and 2-he said that if they didn't get it figured out soon I could use his monitor bc he never did. WELL, lo and behold, about 10 minutes after I got home from work, I got an email from tech and ALL MY NEW STUFF is at the building and when can they come set me up tomorrow? (today) WOOHOO!!! So I'm off to work early today to buy donuts! LOL
Katla, I'm so sorry. It's very hard to be away from the one you love. Sending big hugs.
Love and Blessings, Carla, in MN9 -
Carla - Great news!
Heather UK xxxxxxxx0 -
Yay, Carla!
Today I will go through more boxes to post to Buy Nothing, and go to the auction house to pick up Gary's writing table.
Thinking something quick & easy for dinner - salad & shrimp scampi, or wilted spinach & bacon salad, or maybe baked potatoes with yummy stuff on them. Nothing elaborate to fix.
Watching the auction site has been an education the last 2 weeks. Some things go for far more than they are worth, and then there are items like a Sigi original which originally sold for $1800 or more, going for a fraction of that. Here is Sigi art if you are not familiar:
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Katla sending hugs.
I got back to Washington yesterday after being gone for the summer. It is good catch up a bit with all the wonderful women on this site.
Betsy (and Ella) in NW WA9 -
Betsy, welcome back to the lower 48! Was so pleased to see your post.
Carla - so pleased your situation may get sorted for you!
Hugs for Katla, and anyone else in need...
Love y'all,
Lisa in AR1 -
minicooper452 wrote: »HAHAHA! Yes, still employed Lanette. In fact, she never even answered me. SO frustrating. But VERY long story short, had an issue with printing the other day and the tech guy from our building came to my office yesterday, saw my set up and said (in not these words) "WTH?!?" I told him my long story and he was slightly familiar with the tech ticket that had been turned in LONG AGO. (but nothing done about it) So, 1-he said he'd get to working on it and 2-he said that if they didn't get it figured out soon I could use his monitor bc he never did. WELL, lo and behold, about 10 minutes after I got home from work, I got an email from tech and ALL MY NEW STUFF is at the building and when can they come set me up tomorrow? (today) WOOHOO!!! So I'm off to work early today to buy donuts! LOL
Katla, I'm so sorry. It's very hard to be away from the one you love. Sending big hugs.
Love and Blessings, Carla, in MN
I've found that you've got to go directly to the tech people to get results. In fact, it's good to get the name of a good one within your organisation ... someone you can go to for tech stuff.
M in Oz4 -
Yes, I was always told, butter up the tech people and the secretaries, they are the people with the power. When I had cancer, the most important person was the breast cancer liaison nurse. She could work miracles. The surgeons were putty in her hands.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx4 -
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Good morning ladies!
Well, my best friend had a stroke Monday night and is still in the hospital. No mental damage, but weakness on his right side. He is under sixty, with bad diet and no exercise. That might change!
I feel all keyed up about it, but there's not much I can actually do. He lives about three hours away.
Annie in Delaware9 -
Carla ~ So happy you got the equipment you need for your office.
Rosemarie ~ Hugs
Katla ~ As the others have said, you can probably get the assisted living place to arrange transport to visit your husband. My brother-in-law had that available to get him to dr appointments for a while.
Karen ~ I love the Taxco pendant!
Kelly ~ I am sorry you are having trouble filling up your part time spots. From all the photos you have posted, it looks like the children have wonderful times in your yard and on the walks.
Doing nothing special today. Will watch the granddaughter cheer Saturday if I can make myself get going early enough.
Carol in GA
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Here I am with little boy..on his second nap.. he is doing very well with taking breastmilk from his cup..
And trucking all over the place.. its kind of nice to have a daily routine and glad I can help my kids out..
My son called on his break just to see how things were going..
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Katla--Sorry you are separated again. Is there a bus or van or something at the place you are living that could take you to visit your husband? Saying prayers for both of you.
Tracey--Your new piece looks like it will be fun. Looking forward to seeing when you are done. Halloween and then Christmas will be here before we know it. Our oldest grew his hair out when he was in high school and it was very light blond. He then decided to stripe it with kool-aide. I kept telling myself it is only hair. His youngest daughter is following in his foot steps and colors her hair different every couple weeks. Guess it is a way to express themselves.
KJ--If those parents only knew that you teach the children so many useful things and use their imagination. It is their loss.
Carla--Glad you finally got your stuff, and hope they get it set up like they said.
Betsy--Welcome back.
Blessings, Vicki GRAND ISLAND, NE4 -
Tracey- if your dh is serious about the 3D printer and has questions, just let me know- my dh is more than happy to talk about them.
Tracey and Rosemary-As far as things with dh and I getting better, I don't see that happening any time soon. Not even bringing it up right now. In the mental state he has been in because of his witch of a mother, just trying to talk to him about the huge issue in our marriage would push him over. He can't handle any more right now. Talking about just leaving and never coming back, driving off a cliff,etc. I can't add to that right now and be the straw that broke the camels back, so to speak. I have put up with it for 26 of our 30 yrs married- tried to make things better over the years but hasn't worked. He doesn't seem to see that there is a problem. Like it is normal to say I love you to the cats constantly while he snuggles with them but can't say it to me more than twice in the last 3 yrs. (the day my dad died and he treated me like I had the plague because dad died from covid, mom had it and we were there with them less than a week before) and after me staying up all night taking care of his mom -told me he appreciated it and said I love you.cityjaneLondon wrote: »
Tracey - Max toyed with the idea of growing his hair last year, but it didn't happen. His best friends all had luscious, flowing locks. Really fabulous. I was jealous. I think now he is at a traditional school that won't happen, but I don't know what their hair policy is.
My elder son followed 'grunge' when he was around 15, so he had beautiful blonde hair down to his chest! Now he is bald and shaven.
Hair is such an expression of our individuality. For me, my hair is soooo important. When it all fell out in chemo, I was devastated. It was by far the worst thing of my treatment.
As you might imagine, I am a great believer in us all expressing ourselves and staying true to our real natures. Your grandchildren sound as if they are well on the way down that path. You are doing a great job, rooting for them and batting for them. We all need unconditional regard. But it's also right to give our true opinions. It's OK to disagree.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
my son is letting his hair grow.
This picture was at least a few months ago- him with his girlfriend-
For work he puts it up in a man bun or a ponytail under his hat.
He has always had a lot of hair- first hair cut was at 6 months old after I got tired of every stranger saying She's so cute- Took 3 inches off the back. (at 6 months old, I was still totally bald)5
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