Less Alcohol ~ OCTOBER 2022 ~ One Day At A Time

Breathe57103

Had 2 beers today, but not because I was lonely or depressed. I met some great new people to golf with and played really well for me. I went off the anxiety meds the doctor put me on in July and honestly I feel so much better. I think they may have impacted me in such a way that i didn't feel the real lows or real highs. I'm just not comfortable taking them because i truly believe they contributed to my husband's suicide.

I ate healthy all day and stayed under my calorie goal.

10/1 A
10/2 AF
10/3 AF
10/4 A

Have a happy Wednesday.

Stockholm_Andy

Even Steven's for the month now.

2 A and 2 AF

joans1976

Hello group! 🦋
Maybe a sober October?

10/1: AF
10/2: AF
10/3: AF
Doing some serious resting up, I feel like I could sleep for 3 days straight and still be tired.
Good news is mom doesn’t need surgery on her knee (🙏) bad news is she has to wear this monster of a brace on her leg and she is very uncomfortable. And everyone around her is going to hear about it. No driving either. Six weeks. We’ve been through worse and will definitely make it through this.
10/4: AF

Womona

@Breathe57103 so glad you had fun with new golf buddies! Feeling better overall, staying on course with eating, you go girl!!!!!

MissMay

So many "firsts" going on for us since relocating to Florida. It makes me feel younger in a silly way.

Taking our time to find the right place to settle. Right now we are staying at a Marina right on an inlet. Of course this lifestyle is short term, I lived on an "island" for 40 years before, I don't need to see water everyday(said no one ever🤣)

@Lilylady3k we had checked out margarittaville living, my goal is to rent with simplicity and not get back into the purchasing of a home.

I just literally, sold, gave away or donated over 75% of my personal belongings in the last year and a half. I came to the conclusion I did not NEED all those things and don't want to drift back into the habit of buying stuff.

Buy yes, that retirement community is 20 minutes from here and looks like a great place for parrot heads. LOL

October accountability:
3AF
1A( one chocolate gelato rum martini)

Lilylady3k

@MissMay - I can understand the wish to rent not buy AND to not weigh yourself down with "stuff". Also the parrot head community might just be a little too much with the drinking but I understand they have great activities. I have friends that are moving there ... one day when they retire.

I'm still cleaning out my home "in case we move" but really after 10 years of decluttering don't think we'll move. We'll see if that changes. The good news is the special toys that I saved over the years in the attic (legos, duplos, American Girl dolls, books, etc that the kids loved) are getting pulled out for the next generation and will move to my kids homes over the next few years. This is the last of "their stuff" that I have in our home since I made them clean out their rooms the summer between high school & college.
I've been cleaning out my holiday bins as I pull them out for the season reducing the decorating headache to just the special touches that I really enjoy! Baby steps.

lmlmrn

Hello to all!
I am getting bad about posting..yikes.
The article about drinking. It was for me just like my thoughts in many ways. And like so many of us when it comes to weekend indulges. I can do great M-Th and I am finding now that weekends are usually (just) 2 what I call medium weight beers.
I have and can go without on the weekend (I managed it 1 time, really!) But I am still working n skipping that Friday, and making just a Saturday or a Sunday adventure.
But considering where I was 1.5 years ago, I have come a long way baby! From the large super sized bottle of spirits gone in a week (hubby dipped in but not as much as me) to two beers, two days a week.

Another change, it does not look like we will be selling and moving in 2023. After my mom's covid health scare and watching her slowly recover. She now has to make several trips to the grocery store a week because she is unable to carry what she needs in one trip. She calls for little things and I love doing them but I see this as her progression to needing more care. Until she is ready to go to some type of assisted living that is how things will be. I do think in 2023 she will make some changes. She will be 89 in March.

Thanks for listening, this group is such an inspiration to me.

forestdweller1

Thanks for the birthday flowers, ladies.

@lmlmrn Virtual hugs to your Mom. The after effects of covid can be long lasting.
Independence is a hard thing to give up...but have you considered using a delivery service for your Mom's shopping ? Instacart has been a game changer for me. I "splurged " on a membership to get free delivery & also discounts on other charges. Groceries, drug stores, big box stores, just make your list online & the elves leave your purchases at the door. Don't know if your Mom is friendly with computers ?? Or she could give you her lists.
Might free you up to do more fun things with her, like hair appointments, or take her to lunch.

Good to hear that your local liquor store is missing your business. 😭

Getting more "days" from a bottle of wine than I used to...couple 4 ounce glasses & the cork goes back in. 😇

tmbg1

10/1- A
10/2-10/3-10/4-10/5 AF

Womona

I couldn’t face cold club soda tonight, so I opted for a glass of red wine instead- all of this after a long, busy day at work. I didn’t even enjoy it. I felt the effects after 4 sips and didn’t like the feeling, plus I didn’t even enjoy the taste. Huh. That’s a new one for me!

Womona

@MissMay I hear ya on getting rid of all that stuff. We are pretty good about not having a lot of clutter, but it’s amazing how few things we really, really need.

Breathe57103

AF today. Stayed under goal for calories, 1 hour Pilates class, 1 hour Stretch Zone, flu shot, and got my 10,000 steps wrapped up waiting for my car to get done with oil change. Genuinely feel content today. Taking off early in the morning for New Mexico. Looking forward to loving on 2 of my grandbabies.

10/1 A
10/2 AF
10/3 AF
10/4 A
10/5 AF

Happy Thursday!

Stockholm_Andy

@MissMay Chocolate gelato rum martini That made me smile. One of the things I remember from when I've posted before is that I've almost never heard of the cocktails you order

3 x AF, 2 X A

Lilylady3k

2 glasses of wine with steak dinner as planned.

Trying to target 3 nights AF this week which seems to be harder than I planned. There just isn't enough days in the week! LOL Targeting Tues, Thurs, Sat this week. Thinking through it and what I have on tap social wise ... my plan is to have a drink with friends Friday night but then skip on the beer & other stuff while watching LSU & celebrating my son's birthday during lunch on Saturday. His wife is buying a mini keg from a German beer garden that he really wanted to go to for his birthday but with the little ones it is best to let them have space to crawl and comfy area to sleep during the game. Babysitting the littlest one that evening so if I can make it through the game & celebration I'm good to go for an AF Saturday.

joans1976

Hello group! 🦋
Maybe a sober October?

10/1: AF
10/2: AF
10/3: AF
Doing some serious resting up, I feel like I could sleep for 3 days straight and still be tired.
10/4: AF
10/5: AF
10/6: AF
New psychiatrist today! I’m hopeful/nervous/wary. This will be the first time I can go in 5 years and confidently say I am not drinking. I have to get help for my anxiety, it’s consuming my life!

pezhed

This is my third week of AF weeknights and it feels like it's getting easier. Hopefully having the weeknights get easier will help me keep things under control during weekends. It wasn't my plan to implement dry weeknights, and I will be flexible depending on social activities, but I'm loving how easy this week has been. Obviously the weekend is staring me in the face, but we have so many kid-friendly/driving plans that it would be hard to go too far off the rails. I love love love this time of year. I think we're nearing peak foliage here and it's just the best. I live in the Appalachian mountains in SW VA and it's mesmerizing to take in the views. I lived in Colorado for a while and the gold hues were beautiful but I really missed all the other colors leaves could be. To take advantage, we're going hiking with the kids tomorrow, Saturday going to a pumpkin patch with great views, and Sunday going to a potluck at the farm we get our CSA from. I'm also sneaking out this afternoon for a mountain bike ride with a friend (I love working from home!). Hope everyone has or has had a lovely Thursday

Progress
2 A/3 AF

Lilylady3k

October accountability: 3 days AF
Alcohol: 3 days (6 drinks)
Goal: Limit 1-2 glasses per day; 12-16 AF days per month. Aim to drink no more than 2 nights in a row.

10/6 - AF; DH opened a bottle of wine and I had non-alcoholic Grapefruit Clausthaler which doesn’t go very well with Italian.

Breathe57103

Waited for 4 hours to see the hot air balloon glow event at the Albuquerque Balloon Festival and the weather didnt cooperate. It was going to be all character balloons Heading back at 5:00 am tomorrow. Hoping the weather cooperates snd they will be able to go up.

AF today

10/1 A
10/2 AF
10/3 AF
10/4 A
10/5 AF
10/6 AF

Happy Friday!

globalhiker

Happy Birthday to all the peeps with Oct. Birthdays!

I have no clue where you all get your energy! Send it all my way please....... you are all doing amazing super cool stuff, flying off to Italy or move to a Gulf Coast resort town, landing in AZ to only to turn around and drive to New Mexico, Andy is jetting off to Malta. And Dawn is somewhere on a tropical island.

I feel so boring!! Oh well, logged 5 AF days for the books but today after working so many 12-14 hrs days straight, caved and hit the pinot grigio. The whole bottle.

Fun and self-care is in order this weekend.....I am going to pressure my husband to drive me to Sedona.

Womona

@pezhead your upcoming weekend sounds fantastic! Have a great time doing all those fun activities surrounded by beautiful scenery!

@Breathe57103 your upcoming weekend sound amazing too! Enjoy!!!

@globalhiker I am boring with you! No plans at all for the foreseeable future- except tomorrow we take the boat out of the water for the season. So, basically chores this weekend. Sigh.

One glass of wine last night for “wine night” at work. This one went down much easier!