Less Alcohol ~ DECEMBER 2022 ~ One Day At A Time
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This group really helps me hold myself accountable, plus everyone is absolutely great. My monthly goal is 16-19 AF days (3A days max weekly) for weight loss and overall health. I post in the mornings about the previous day.
12/5: AF
12/6: AF
12/7: Drinks (2)
12/8: AF
12/9: Drinks (3)
12/10: Drinks (2)
12/11: AF - I had an NA Lagunitas with homemade chili and a salad with pomegranate seeds (yummy!). I wanted to but didn't snack after dinner (yay!).
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@Womona there are even worse bad words than that for menopause.
Just when I thought I was close to being done, my body said NOPE let's do this for a while more.
I believe the healthier and in shape you are the longer it will be around.
It even gave me a positive on a pregnancy test about 3 years ago 🤯
The sugar cravings along with any forms of chocolate are strong too. It does not help that this season is full of goodies.
Deep breath through it all
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@SunnyDays930 your post had my eyes getting misty as I read it. And it is so true.
Take in those little things and experience them full throttle.
Yesterday morning on my back patio I kept admiring this bright red cardinal sitting so quietly in my neighbors tree.
I was thinking, who from the past is watching over me while I sit here?Then I went up stairs and looked out the upper windows, it was a giant red leaf. LOL
Not having alcohol definitely leaves our minds more open to absorb the smaller things in life to ponder and enjoy.( love your reference to Wizard Of Oz)
Way to go on that 12th day AF
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I am Dawn, I live in SE BC Canada
My primary motivation for drinking less is weight loss.
I throw up if I have more than 3 drinks, so moderation on drink days is rarely an issue for me lol.
My recurring goal is 16-20 AF days per month. I squeaked to 16 last month.
I like to do this diary style to keep track.
Friday December 09 - Drinks including a Rye Manhattan
Saturday December 10 - Drinks including a Stinger with Rye instead of Cognac. Busy week with late nights ahead starting Tuesday, may try to stay AF until the weekend.
Sunday December 11 - AF - I was really wanting a Stinger while I stood whisking a Roux from blonde to caramel to dark to put into my Jambalaya and Gumbo that I was making. Once I started stirring I couldn't stop to create a drink, otherwise I would have had a drink in one hand and whisk in the other. Busy week, maybe AF all week until the weekend.
Rolling total - 6AF day out of 11 days4 -
Hello and good morning to some and afternoon to others? LOL
Started week 11 of my 12 week program and boy I could tell I definitely had alcohol yesterday. I just did not preform to where I think I should have been....Or maybe my good body is taking over the bad body and just not going to tolerate the A the day before workouts.
So moving forward this will be another reason I drink less and less. I want to get around to do that push up and pull up.
I did smoke some swiss cheese this am and tasted it....ok I am not going to lie it was good. Last night I smoked a tulip glass and drank some diet tonic water with bitters. What a difference.
was it you @MissMay that says the glass makes the drink???? So true true true
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Hello all, I am having a rough day emotionally and decided to check in on my MFP friends during the day which I usually only check in the morning while Im having my coffee. I am feeling mighty sorry for myself today. I am having financial problems that I am not seeing much of a way out of and every day I get sent new bills for the cancer treatment. My armpit is very painful and I was told today by a nurse this could last for months due to nerves and what was done during surgery. I was told last week that I would get results of the things that were removed during the surgery today or tomorrow but was told today that I wont get results until next week. It has been 4 weeks since my genetic testing, which determines my cancer treatment and I was told it would take 2-3 weeks. I called and they said to just try to be patient. I am depressed and feel isolated.
So. Then I read all of your well wishes on here and I thought "how kind, these people dont have to say these things but they are." I also realized I am 45 days sober which is the longest I have gone since....2018? I cant even remember. It is not very hard, I couldnt imagine being hungover right now in this amount of pain but there have been moments since I have been diagnosed where I would like to forget all my worries and alcohol could maybe help me with that but it is so temporary. I also have a refrigerator full of food, a roof over my head, a purring cat in my lap and had three friends visit this weekend and all were so good to me. When I met with my oncology surgeon in the beginning of November, the first words out of his mouth were "this is 100% curable." I need to hang on to that like a life preserver! Things are not so bad.
Thank you so much for all your kind words, they mean the world to me!11 -
@Womona Geez and ew and yuck I am sorry to hear about the menopause situation! After my radiation treatment I will be put into early menopause (Im 46) due to a pill I have to take for 5-10 years to prevent recurrence. Apparently it makes you gain weight no matter how hard you try to eat right and exercise. This is very depressing to me as I have lost 50 pounds since April and had about 50 more to go. Besides all of the weight gain troubles I hear of hot flashes and mood changes. Were you able to eat better before menopause? Is menopause new to you? I hate cravings, I am struggling with these chocolate peppermint covered Oreos they sell at Aldi this time of year. Many hugs to you!5
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@SunnyDays930 Happy 12th day! I loved your post! My mom had a bread maker when I was in high school and she made this fabulous dill bread and it made the house smell so lovely. She loved that she could just throw everything in and out came a perfect loaf. Eventually it started walking across the counter on its own and she got rid of it and never replaced it. Hugs to you!6
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Dec 1- 2- 3 A
Dec 4 - AF
Dec 5-6 -A
Dec 7- AF
Dec 8-9 -10 A
Dec 11- 12 - AF7 -
All - I found a great web site today that has excellent 30-minute chat sessions, with experts, regarding menopause, but don't stop reading if this doesn't apply to you. Regardless of the M word, the Christmas one works for anyone trying to lose weight. At the end of that video the speaker has a big list of NA drinks that I want to try. Here's the link: https://henpicked.net/menopause-hub/
@joans1976 I'm sorry you're having to go through it early. The good news is less alcohol means less hot flashes! I'm also sorry that you've had a hard day but glad you shared it with us. May tomorrow be a better day for you! I wish there were something I could do to help. I'm sending my thoughts and heart your way.4 -
December accountability: 5 days AF
Alcohol: 7 days (15 drinks)
Goal: Limit 2 glasses per day; 12-16 AF days per month.
Well COVID is definitely running rampant in our family. I tested this morning and again it was negative but I've been up since 2:30am with a headache and cough. DH and I will test again tomorrow before deciding about our plans for the rest of the week. I've cancelled my volunteer teaching ESL for the rest of the week and notified the parties that I'll not make them 12/11-12/13. We'll see how it goes before cancelling the parties for 12/14-15 but I suspect those too will go by the way side.
12/12 - 2 wine ... not sure that the wine hurt or helped but I did enjoy it! My friend that also has COVID right now said she cannot even taste the salt in the water down in Galveston beach LOL! I do not have that issue just the headache. Loved watching The Trouble with Angels this evening ... enjoying the old movies as a treat for staying home.
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dawnbgethealthy wrote: »Sunday December 11 - AF - I was really wanting a Stinger while I stood whisking a Roux from blonde to caramel to dark to put into my Jambalaya and Gumbo that I was making. Once I started stirring I couldn't stop to create a drink, otherwise I would have had a drink in one hand and whisk in the other. Busy week, maybe AF all week until the weekend.
@dawnbgethealthy - Roux can be tricky ... best done without a drink in hand. Smart move!
Gosh "Stinger" ... I remember DH and I took off to New Orleans one time from college with an ice chest full of Stinger makings. It was a great trip and we had fun but I don't remember much except I love Stingers LOL
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@mfowler883 it seems counterintuitive to eat more to lose weight, doesn’t it? I struggle to get enough protein. Never seem to have problems with getting enough delicious bready carbs though!
My weakness tends to be salty crunchy. If I resist, I'm fine, but one Frito and it's the whole bag.
@joans1976 45 days is AWESOME. I know recovering from surgery is a drag. I had carpal tunnel release in both wrists a few years ago, and even though in hindsight the recovery was fast, it seemed to drag by. Not long after, my wife had a disc replacement and it was kind of the same deal, it really sucked until it didn't. Keep hanging in there, just tell yourself recovery from surgery isn't so different from our weight loss journeys: slow progress is progress!SunnyDays930 wrote: »@joans1976 I'm sending healing vibes. You are taking it day by day and surely you will start to feel better soon.
This is my 12th day AF. Observations:
I look and feel better. Have lost 2 lbs. It should be more but we bought a bread machine and I am just having so much fun making (and eating) the warm bread that it has stymied any more weight loss. I have to limit myself to just one slice a day at this point.
I am FEELING more. I heard a children's choir singing the most beautiful Christmas hymn on the radio and I just had tears rolling down my cheeks. I find myself crying tears of gratitude during my morning meditation, or even just for no reason at all it seems. I think this is because when we drink to numb the bad going on in our lives, we also numb the good. Alcohol isn't choosy; it just numbs it all. Now I am aware of all this beauty around me. I am taking pleasure in things I was too hungover or numb or depressed to even notice. It's like in the Wizard of Oz when Dorothy's world comes into color. I have more awareness of everything. I am definitely getting cravings, and they are very specific; champagne one day, a bloody Mary another time. But I "play the entire movie" as I said the other day, and it goes away. I am hoping the month I have committed to AF becomes longer, but I am not making any plans other than getting through the end of the year. One day at a time, as they say.
You can eat bread and lose weight?!?!? I'm so jelly. I can be in the same room as bread and I'll probably gain.
Yeah. Feeling the feels is a huge part of it all for me. I get stuck in my head and can't shake it so I do what I know how to do to soften the edges at least.
Sipping on a merlot. Too lazy to figure out the count at the moment, long day. Errands all morning, portioning, seasoning, vacuum packing and freezing a bunch of shrimp, tuna, salmon, and beef tenderloins all afternoon, and hunting for a pair of oxblood shoes all evening. Breakfast and lunch were healthy, dinner wasn't terrible - ate at El Pollo Loco. Two glasses of wine will put me pretty much dead on my calorie goal, and I can't think of anything I want to eat right now, so...
Why the heck are oxblood shoes so hard to find? The coolest ones I've found so far are from some obscure UK website.
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Oh @joans1976 I’m so sorry you’re getting the double whammy of bills and pain. Big Internet hug to you!!! You’ll be able to get through it- eat that elephant one bite at a time. Years ago I had a big balance on a surgery bill that I struggled to pay. My parents told me to show a “willingness and effort to pay”, and every month I sent them something like $5 or $10. I was never sent to collections because I showed a willingness and effort to pay. This went on for over a year, and when I finally got some money, I called the billing office, asked to see if we can settle for a lower amount. They were all too happy to settle and take
the write off!!! You’re not powerless here. Most places will work with you.
Also, check out Dave Ramsey’s podcast- lots of good info on tackling debt using a “debt snowball”- do minimums on all your debts, but concentrate on and put extra money toward the
smallest bill first, then the next largest, and so on. You get a sense of accomplishment and find you can pay off debt faster.
Are they going to put you on Lupron?4 -
Lots of bready carbs today as PMS rages on, BUT, I was AF. I’m taking the win.
Thanks for all the support! I appreciate it!!4 -
@Womona I feel your menapause pain. Bready carbs are fine; I mentioned I bought a bread machine that my waistline doesn't need. We do what we need to do to feel better emotionally.
Day 13. Almost halfway through the month.2 -
Hello all! I’m Amanda, I’m from Michigan. I am a crazy cat lady and work for a veterinarian. This will be my sixth month with this group and it has helped me cut back on my drinking so much! I am not ready to say I am 100% sober but last month I had 30 days alcohol free 😃
12/1-12/7: 7 out of 7 AF
12/8:AF
The pain is no joke today, yesterday was my first day back at home and I may have done too much. They only give a 2 day supply of narcotic pain meds, otherwise it’s Tylenol and Ibuprofen. I guess it’s Netflix and chill today for me!
12/9: AF
Pain is still here. I wonder if I did too much? I feel like all I did was sit around. I had a friend come visit me, we used to go to the bar together 3 nights a week and get hammered. We talked about all the stupid things we did under the influence and wonder how we made it out unscathed. Neither of us drink anymore. And we both realized last night we are fine with it!
12/10: AF
Healing, healing, healing. Yesterday was rough.
12/11: AF
12/12: AF
I’m getting impatient waiting for results. When I got diagnosed they should have also said “having cancer is also a big waiting game.” Whatever, I think I will go for a walk today even though it is 30 F and grey. I’m a little paranoid to go the stores right now with all the junk going around.
Have a wonderful Tuesday everyone!
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@Lilylady3k Ugh I’m so sorry to hear the plague rages on! Good for you for doing the responsible thing and canceling outings even though you test negative!
@Womona I haven’t gotten to the hormone replacement therapy part yet but I think it will be Tamoxifen. Thank you for the podcast tip!
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I did smoke some swiss cheese this am and tasted it....ok I am not going to lie it was good. Last night I smoked a tulip glass and drank some diet tonic water with bitters. What a difference.was it you @MissMay that says the glass makes the drink???? So true true true
@lmlmrn I would have eaten all the cheese (LOL) and the smoked diet tonic water with bitters sounds good! Maybe this is a new line of drinks you an make and sell.3 -
This group really helps me hold myself accountable, plus everyone is absolutely great. My monthly goal is 16-19 AF days (3A days max weekly) for weight loss and overall health. I post in the mornings about the previous day.
12/12: Drinks (2.5) - I didn't have dinner planned so hubby picked up take-out sushi, clear soup, and edamame (all delicious) along with a bottle of white wine. I had two glasses plus split an after-dinner beer with him. I had a small headache this morning, which I count as a good sign because my tolerance is down. So this is my day one of three A-days for the week.
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Well my intentions were good last night but .... I know I did it to myself. I can make up reasons why but the bottom line was I wanted it.
Today is another day, I have on this journey stopped beating myself up for setbacks, keep looking forward you can't change the past.On a kinda of good news/morbid news type of thing. DH's brother is trying to coordinate a military memorial for DH's dad who passed just after Thanksgiving. His sister just quietly made the decision of no funeral, no memorial because she said "dad didn't want that" well her two brothers need the closure!
They are waiting to get his DD214 to move forward. His sister and BIL live in the mother-in-law house behind the parents. So she feels she should control it all and does right down to the spending of the parents money. They have already been 'gifted' the house and property. Granted the younger brother (an adult of 60yr old) has lived there rent free with his son (who finally moved to CA) for 8 years. Such a dysfunctional family. DH and I were never interested in becoming part of that cluster and opted for much more independence. I understand the dynamics of the how. DH's dad wanted all his kids to live with or very near him so encouraged them not to leave monetarily.
Sorry family drama is on my mind as we get closer to the holiday..However my daughter, spouse and 2 grandchildren will be here a week from thursday....I am so excited, I have not seen them in almost 2 years. Plus this will be the last Christmas at this home.
Ok I am off to workout then off to the shop to do some more packing!
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Feeling good this morning. Slept pretty well, if short. Tuesday is my Monday and we had early clients so I stayed up late, checked call logs, emails, voicemails, etc . Up early and handled all the things, including my normal breakfast - Sara Lee 45 calorie toast, a slice of Canadian bacon, 4 tbs of egg whites and a sprinkle of fat-free cheese with a splash of Valentina, washed down with black coffee. These days it's probably about 3 parts decaff to 1 part regular, I just don't find that I need the caffeine but I do need the ritual of holding a warm mug and sipping on coffee after I eat. It's funny how much the ritual is a part of things. It's the same with smoking, whenever I've quit in the past it was harder to deal with missing the ritual than the nicotine. Sunday, drinking NA Stellas seemed to scratch the itch and I didn't think much about the alcohol part of the equation.
Didn't get in a proper workout on Sunday or Monday, call it recovery. Today I should be able to get back at it. I haven't gained as much as I feared, but it's creeping up. Wondering if maybe a couple of high carb days will help reset things and get me moving again. Eating more has become a challenge, since I've gotten used to portion control and not grazing. I used to do carb cycling, with moderate success. The next time around, I was doing keto and applied the same principles, did a high carb weekend every few weeks and then back into keto and it worked pretty well for four or five months.
I don't have any alcohol in the house, and expect to be AF.
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@Womona
Yikes, menopause is a *kitten*.
I am really glad to have all of that behind me.
I really didn't begin to lose weight until all of that hormonal fluctuation was over.
Last night before bed I ran down a rabbit hole of foods/beverages that increase Estrogen. I feel like when into the (20 years?) of meno that we don't want more Estrogen? Chocolate is very high on the list, as well as some other common things that I wouldn't have known about. Dried apricots are number 1 on the list.2 -
I am Dawn, I live in SE BC Canada
My primary motivation for drinking less is weight loss.
I throw up if I have more than 3 drinks, so moderation on drink days is rarely an issue for me lol.
My recurring goal is 16-20 AF days per month. I squeaked to 16 last month.
I like to do this diary style to keep track.
Friday December 09 - Drinks including a Rye Manhattan
Saturday December 10 - Drinks including a Stinger with Rye instead of Cognac (so technically a Prince). Busy week with late nights ahead starting Tuesday, may try to stay AF until the weekend.
Sunday December 11 - AF - I was really wanting a Stinger while I stood whisking a Roux from blonde to caramel to dark to put into my Jambalaya and Gumbo that I was making. Once I started stirring I couldn't stop to create a drink, otherwise I would have had a drink in one hand and whisk in the other. Busy week, maybe AF all week until the weekend.
Monday December 12 - AF - Setting my mind to being AF during this week. Saying to myself that I can have drinks come the weekend for some reason makes it easier for me to have AF days
Rolling total - 7AF day out of 12 days4 -
@dawnbgethealthy - In a previous month you provided a tip that has been so helpful to me and your comments today reminded me. Instead of AF days, if I turn it around and say to myself that I can have 3A days a week, this works for me. That's the trick I picked up from you. Thanks for that!1
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@mfowler883 I know what you mean about rituals. I like my coffee in the mornings as well. I have decaf on hand but haven't been very good at switching over to decaf after my morning cup. My other ritual is sipping on that glass of wine while cooking. I've switched it out to the NA beers or my virgin Cape Cod and so far it's working.4
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Today is another day, I have on this journey stopped beating myself up for setbacks, keep looking forward you can't change the past.
@lmlmrn - I love the "not beating myself up over setbacks, and to keep looking forward" post. I 100% agree with that. Thanks for the reminder. Also, I'm glad they're working on a memorial for your DH's dad. It does help with closure and it's an opportunity to celebrate his life. I'm hoping all the family drama will be kept at a minimum. I'm glad you have the visit from your daughter and family to look forward to. I
For Christmas, my immediate family is meeting up in Wrightsville Beach. We'll be hanging out with our two grown sons, a daughter-in-law (who's like a daughter) and a new girlfriend that I haven't met. I can't wait to see my boys, which also doesn't happen often enough since we're all in different states.3 -
RockinRobyn672 wrote: »@mfowler883 I know what you mean about rituals. I like my coffee in the mornings as well. I have decaf on hand but haven't been very good at switching over to decaf after my morning cup. My other ritual is sipping on that glass of wine while cooking. I've switched it out to the NA beers or my virgin Cape Cod and so far it's working.
My mornings are absolute chaos, so I've been using instant just because it's quicker, easier and less mess to deal with. I started mixing a little decaf in with the regular, and stepping myself down gradually. Caffeine is a real bear to kick all at once. I haven't been big on drinking soda in years, so that hasn't been a struggle but I've known some people that would start getting snarky without their Cokes or Dr. Peppers...
The part that did suck, I won't lie, is ditching sugar and cream in my coffee. Every now and then I'll treat myself to a cup the way I like it, it's not too bad but on a day-to-day, I'd rather reserve those calories for something else. (Okay I'll say it. Beer.)
It is still really weird talking about these things, but I'm glad y'all are here.
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I’m getting impatient waiting for results. When I got diagnosed they should have also said “having cancer is also a big waiting game.” Whatever, I think I will go for a walk today even though it is 30 F and grey. I’m a little paranoid to go the stores right now with all the junk going around.
Have a wonderful Tuesday everyone!
Kinda like being in the Army. “Hurry up and Wait.” Hope you’re in less pain today! Good for you for taking a walk to shake off the impatience. No one would blame you for masking up again!
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