LESS Alcohol ~ MARCH 2023 ~ One Day at A Time

joans1976

@Womona Yas girl, go get it! Wise decisions will make you see a difference! I hope you have a great weekend!

@mfowler883 Virtually wrapping you in a big hug. These are tough days. I’m glad you’re seeing friends. We are here if you need us!

MissMay

@mfowler883 my heart goes out to you.
And dear Bentley, may he find my 3 dogs up in that dog park in the sky and forever run happily and pain free ❤🐾

Stacimfit

Hi all! I love that I came across this post. I have cut down drinking by TONS over the last year or two. I might have a drink every other month at a birthday party or some big celebration. Would love to have new friends. Feel free to add!

sgsurlord

@Stacimfit, I agree. Hoping to get the motivation here to drink less and have more AF days than not.

Michieb125

@mfowler883 great to see
you back here although I’m saddened to hear of your loss of Bentley. Losing a beloved pet is the hardest experiences ever and they do seem to tell us when it’s time to go over the rainbow bridge. I have lost two dogs myself and know it takes time to heal. Be kind to yourself during this time.

Michieb125

Had a really fun time with my DS and DD’s families last night at the Mexi restaurant. Chose the grilled fish taco plate and enjoyed every bite.
Had a hankering to order a drink but my adult kids abstained as they are doing LA on their own. It felt good to have the plain water which was totally fine. DS ordered a Virgin drink and I haven’t done that yet but seems super reasonable. My clan used to throw back tequila like there was no tomorrow. Healthy progress for all!! I honestly can’t believe we are changing that family dynamic. Thanks for listening

March accountability: 20-23 AF days
AF - 8
A - 2
No more than two glasses per A day

Planning 2 glasses of champagne tonight while at home with husband.

I try to post each morning from the PST time zone.
Have a wonderful weekend whatever you do!!

dawnbgethealthy

I am Dawn, I live in South Eastern British Columbia.
I joined this thread in November of 2018, a daily drinker at the time
My primary goal with drinking less is weight loss.

My usual goal is 16-20 AF days for the month,
I had 16AF days for the shortened month of February.

I do this diary style, I normally post the next morning.

Wednesday March 08 - 2 1/4 drinks. 2 would have been fine. Planned AF now until Saturday.
Thursday March 09 - AF - Working late nights trying to catch up on the jobs that I couldn't get to during my bout with Covid. A cocktail or two would have been nice, but I have a long Friday ahead so didn't.
Friday March 09 - 2 drinks. It wasn't a planned A day, but when I finally crawled home at 10:00 I tucked into a couple, it was nice. Going out for drinks before the Modern Ballet tonight.


Rolling total: 5AF day out of 10 days.

zensome

I'm doing pretty good with have AF days but but need to be more conscious of how many I have on my A days. Overdid it last night but won't let that derail me. I have to keep reminding myself that I am drinking way less now than I was a few months ago and that's not nothing.

4 AF/10

zensome

@mfowler883 My heart goes out to you. It is heartbreaking to lose our pets.

forestdweller1

@mfowler883 ...sitting here holding my HOH on my lap, dripping tears onto his fur [ Catpuccino "WTF is her problem ??} . So sorry that Bentley has left you. You did the best for him that you could , and provided him a loving home when he might have not even had life. Please remember what my Middle Daughter learned too late...Alcohol grieving is not fully entering into the process, just moving thru time.
Sweet thoughts from other posters about Bentley joining their furry loved ones ❤️💙 love it !!

Come back and join us when you can. And bring the photos.

lmlmrn

@mfowler883 I was just catching up and saw your post. I am so sorry for your loss, Bentley gave it his best and so did you. Huge hug to you and your family

My A days and AF days are running neck in neck. While I watch my weight go up and up. My sister and BIL will be here next week for our mothers 89th B/D. I am looking forward to this.

We are having our home inspected next week then the week after meet with our realtor. I am hoping we find a new forever home sooner rather than later, but at the same time I don't want to compromise.

will try and pop back in soon

mfowler883

Thanks, y'all. I'm not staying wasted all day or anything like that; I'm going through the process. I'm just....at the end of the night I am doing what I need to do to get my brain to shut the hell up and let me sleep. I know it hurts and that's okay and I'm missing him and that's okay. My friend and my sister have both been through this as well, and their insight has been really helpful. I know that we gave him six years of good and happy living that he wouldn't have had if we hadn't gone and got him, and there is solace in that.

Thank you again, all of you, for your kind and compassionate words. They truly help. I'm probably going to take a few more days away, not thinking too much about what I eat or how much I drink. I know at least a few of you were following my ordeal with Mr B and felt like I should at least pop in to update. He was such a good boy, and I will treasure the memories I have of him.

One day, we were getting an oil change. Wife and I were in the front, son and his girlfriend at the time were in the back with Har and B. The guy at the oil change place kept on asking if he could pet the dogs and we kept on telling him no. He reached in anyway and tried to pet Harley, and Bentley flew across the back seat and bit him hahaha dummy was like, but I didn't try to touch him. I'm like, that's his brother, did you really think he'd let you reach in and touch him? You got what you had coming to ya. LOL!

Homemade guac and margs tonight while sitting around and yakking it up with good company.

-m

forestdweller1

Today was a total "oopsy" day.
St, Patrick's Day Parade that I planned to follow on EMS scanner for the drunken idiocy, but since it was snowy & icy, I didn't . Not willing to learn of any sad outcomes, just fogedaboudit.

Instead, made crab egg rolls for the freezer. Underestimated the amount of filling needed for the amount of wrappers. Thought that I could have wrappers left over for "pumpkin ravioli" . Well, only 2 wraps left , so, forget that...whip up some cream cheese-crab filling for 8 won tons. Again, a miss.
The large amount of cream cheese /crab filling left over was enough for a large sandwich...grab some 12 grain bread out of the freezer...oops...that was pumpernickle....Never mind...Rather nice...

Some of the Icelandic chocolate that I ordered this week was for MD. She is crazy about raspberry & dark chocolate.
It was not guaranteed gluten free so I was insecure...I offered her a small taste but she grabbed a larger chunk...then, snatched the whole chocolate bar ...and consumed it within 2 days...Embarrassed, she would not discuss the aftermath for a week.
Basically, if it was possible to bathe in that chocolate, she would be first in line...with a snorkle ...I haven't told her that I have another raspberry bar tucked away in my house.
I haven't had anything more than a nibble of any of the chocolate except a bit of that raspberry bar from the 10 different varieties delivered at the same time . Hoping to trade chocolate for wine in the very near future.

The pretty inspirational future that we imagine for ourselves is so different from the actual reality. Sniffing the Malbec in the glass placed next to our pasta starter, just a sip or two to accompany our friends during the meal, toasting George's promotion, a little bit more with the entree. What is that honey sweet beverage in the tiny glass served with dessert ?? N'ere mind..it's all good ...

Peace, Love & Happiness...{Skipper Chuck - Miami]

joans1976

Hello! I’m Amanda, I’m a crazy cat lady from Michigan! I joined this forum in June of 2022 and since September I have decreased my drinking to one day a month! This is a huge accomplishment from where I was and I absolutely could not have done it without the wonderful mix of people in this group!

March goals: just make it through the month unscathed! (27 doctor appointments)
Alcohol goals: 95-100% AF

3/1-3/7: 7 out of 7 AF

3/8: AF
35 days AF
14 out of 20 radiation sessions done!

3/9: AF
As I was laying on the radiation table yesterday wondering how on earth I was going to make it through another 5 treatments, my mind turned to celebration when it’s done. (Treatment isn’t over when radiation is over but it is a big accomplishment.) Of course I thought of alcohol but I know with how stressed out I feel and all this weird pressure pushing down on me I would not stop at 1 or 2 drinks. Then the hangover and the guilt and all that comes with that. There are other ways to celebrate (like catching a plane to Bali) I just would like to forget about the C word, even for a few hours.

Big snowstorm here right now, an adventure to get to radiation in it!

3/10 AF
TGIF! It’s the weekend people! No radiation for 2 days! 😃 My plan for today is to be awesome and rest up! I may go out and seek out some AF options. Or I might stay in my pajamas all day.

3/11 AF
I stayed AF but I did visit the dispensary. Which is right next to the liquor store in my town. I got some gummies with CBN and terpenes in them and I finally slept past 4 am. The clock said 6:30 am but with Daylight Savings Time, that meant 5:30. 5:30 is better than 4 am in my head!
Rolling total 35 days AF

joans1976

@lmlmrn Dont settle. My parents moved from a house to a condo this fall. (The whole process was kind of hell on earth but they are in their 70s.) They let condo after condo slip through their fingers due to not being quick enough with an offer. They finally got one that was beautiful, had a good inspection and a decent move in date. They aren’t happy with the layout now and have had to replace the furnace/AC and washer and dryer. I’m not sure they would be happy anywhere because their old house had plenty of space and a beautiful huge yard and lots of wildlife and trees. A condo community is not that. They couldn’t stay in the old house, it was too much for them but they regret the one they are in now.

You don’t seem like a person that would settle but if there is something you don’t like, walk away or be prepared to fix it. Or live with it. Just my 2 cents.

RockinRobyn672

Hello My "LA" friends! Happy March! I am SO ready for spring! My goal is 16 AF days. I usually post the next morning.

3/7: AF
3/8: Drinks (4)
3/9: Drinks (3)
3/10: Drinks (4)
3/11: AF - Well, I had some but not a lot of discipline while our friends were here, and now my weight is up several pounds. It was a great visit; however, I had three or four A beverages every day while they were here and we dined out a lot. On the back-on-track side of things, I was AF last night, got in a 30-minute Peloton spin AND I finally made it to Total Wine where bought a variety of NA beers. Last night's choice was Brewdog Hazy AF. It was really good!

Rolling Total: 6 AF Days out of 11

RockinRobyn672

@joans1976 I'm so glad you have a break this weekend.

@mfowler883 So sorry about Bentley. Thanks for letting us know.

RubyRed427

Sorry to hear about Bentley- @mfowler883
@joans1976 I have been reading all about your treatments- I am so amazed by your strength and positivity. Happy you slept better with the help of your gummies.

I will go back to work this week. I am going to take my time, sit in my chair, and not push too hard. I have to focus on healing this broken leg. I did enjoy the week lying on the couch watching movies I have always wanted to watch like Pride and Prejudice. I watched that twice!

I drank every day but did not overdo it. My husband has had to be the drinkmaker. We had some gin and tonics and he's a normal drinker and uses a measuring shot to add gin. I am not made that way, I pour and eyeball it, then add a little more.... always overdoing it.

Also, since I can't make it to the fridge for wine with crutches that has curtailed lots of calories.

Michieb125

Sunday - 3/12
I am reading a lot of honestly in the posts this morning. Maybe we’ve overdone it for one reason or other, but I also am learning that we can get back on track with each new day to meet our personal goals for March.

Each of you is a big part of helping me reach my goals for LESS. Thank you! I was a daily drinker for the past 20+ years until February 1 and frankly it was just getting old. My anxiety fueled my drinking wine at night then drinking fueled my anxiety in the day. I had been wanting to find a way to stop that negative cycle in my life and also lose 10 lbs. Then, I found this wonderful supportive group of people on MFP!

March accountability: 20-23 AF days
AF - 8
A - 3
No more than two glasses per A day
I try to post each morning from the PST zone.
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No A planned until next weekend. Looking for a decent AF beer for St. Patty’s day. Doesn’t have to be dark. I think I will check out the choices at Total Wine this week.

dawnbgethealthy

I am Dawn, I live in South Eastern British Columbia.
I joined this thread in November of 2018, a daily drinker at the time
My primary goal with drinking less is weight loss.

My usual goal is 16-20 AF days for the month,
I had 16AF days for the shortened month of February.

I do this diary style, I normally post the next morning.

Friday March 10 - 2 drinks. It wasn't a planned A day, but when I finally crawled home at 10:00 I tucked into a couple, it was nice. Going out for drinks before the Modern Ballet tonight.
Saturday March 11 - 5 drinks!! This was over the course of 7 hours, but it is way more than I usually can handle. Time to rack up some AF days.


Rolling total: 5AF day out of 11 days.