WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR JULY 2023

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  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,290 Member
    edited July 2023
    Thanks Ginny and Michele- I am going to church. If dh wants to go shopping after I am done, I will go with him but if he chooses to go before that, I am fine with that too. He needs to man up and tell his mom no once in a while. We have gone out shopping almost every day this week for something for her because she has decided she wants to cook again-but only tells him a few things she needs. He says she gets mad if he doesn't go shopping right away the night she asks for it- Oh well, always mad about something.

    Betsy- prayers for your sister.

    Tracked my food all week- walked about an hour or so 5 days and did Zumba two nights getting up to 20,000 steps on those days, 10,000 the rest of the week. Weight loss- 00.00

    Tomorrow I will be up early to walk because Ezie is back to her early schedule for the next three weeks then she will be back in school and I am supposed to cut back to two days a week- will see if that still happens. She will be in school until 2:10 and grandparents pick her up by 4:30.

    Dh has calmed down- he will wait for me to go with him after I get back from church. Not sure which store we will go to. I can work in the garden this afternoon after we get back, when it is cooler

    Have a wonderful day ladies-
    Debbie
    Napa Valley,CA
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,408 Member
    Kanye, NH I am a long distance parent/grandparent as well. And as you stated, it is indeed a result of the decisions I’ve made or not made in the past so need to live with it. I do keep in touch will all of them however and that seems to work. My children are ages 39, 40, 44 and step-girls 39, 42. We never hear from the step-girls (at lease 25 years now) but hear from my 3 all the time. It can work. I do know it is better for my anxiety/depression as I am away from the worse of the ‘drama’ but am still informed and can advise if asked.

    2023 Jump Back Up
    Word of the year: appreciate. Today I appreciate my coffee.


    Meditation: daily.25/31 (82%(started Feb)94%,100%, 74%, 93%

    Walking and exercising slowed down because of record heat this month. Emotionally and physically feeling better otherwise.

    1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 8/8–(100%,100%,0%,0%,0%,0%,0%)
    2. Average 7,000 steps a week. 5989, 6411, 5736,7180,(7,700,100%-9851,100%-9526,100%-9,559,100%, -8347,100%—7465,100%)
    3. Update budget every 2 weeks 3/2 —(100%,100%,100%,100%,100%, 100%)
    4. Contact close family every week (4x) 155/208—(100%,100%,100%,50%, 83%, 100% should be 137 by August 1)
    5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)63/94 (100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
    6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2,173.4,175.4,174,(100%,100%,100%,0%,100%,100%)
    7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 17/15 (100%,88%,100,100%,100%,100%,93%,100%)
    8. Read 12 books at least this year. 26/12 (100%)
    9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR/Reach Financial 7/12—(100%.100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
    10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71+700+25+25 +25 (100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%,100%)
    11. April started putting 4% on income in savings. 700,200,200, 107, (100%,100%,100%)

    January Met —100%
    February met —-90%
    March met met —-90%
    April met——86.36%
    May met——-89%
    June met—-99%
    July met — met
    August met
    September met
    October met —
    November met—
    December met—



    1. Take a small step to help overcome a problem or worry. I am working on helping my son through this tough time by being in contact with his case worker and tracking his location.
    2. Adopt a growth mindset. Change “I can’t” into “I can’t…yet”. I try to never use those words. I follow Yoda’s ‘Do or not, there is no try”
    3. Be willing to ask for help when you need it. I will. My back hurts today so will easily ask for help when I need it.
    4. Find something to look forward to today. Missed posting this yesterday. So today I am looking forward to my therapy session.
    5. Get the basics right: eat well, exercise and go to bed on time. Will do!
    6. Pause, breathe, and feel your feet firmly on the ground. Will meditate today to help me do this.
    7. Shift your mood by doing something you really enjoy. I really need to do this today. Did not do this. Had a bad day all around yesterday.
    8. Avoid saying “must” or “should” to yourself today. I will try.
    9. Put a problem in perspective by seeing the bigger picture. Trying to see my son’s decisions through his eyes.
    10. Reach out to someone you trust and share your feelings with them. I did not do this.
    11. Look for something positive in a difficult situation. My son is bonding with his uncle and grandmother.
    12. Write you worries down and save them for a specific “worry time”. I will try to remember to do this. Write them in my journal.
    13. Challenge negative thoughts. Find an alternative interpretation. I worked on this. I also learned a breathing technique to help.
    14. Get outside and move to help clear your head. I do this every day, but the triple digit heat is preventing it.
    15. Set yourself an achievable goal and take the first step. I have to think about this.
    16. Find fun ways to distract yourself from unhelpful thoughts. Controlled breathing helped here.
    17. Use one of your strengths to overcome a challenge today. I use tenacity often so expect to use it here.
    18. Let go of the small stuff and focus on the things that matter. I will try!
    19. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. I need to really remember this!
    20. When things go wrong, pause and be kind to yourself. I will definitely try.
    21. Identify what helped you get through a tough time in your life. Therapy, someone to talk to, long walks alone all help me through tough times, medication as well.
    22. Find 3 things you feel hopeful about and write them down. 1. I hope my son makes good decisions. 2. I am hopeful that I will find the right place to retire. 3. I am hopeful that I will be able to visit family very soon.
    23. Remember that all feelings and situations pass in time. I won’t dwell on things or situations that happen causing me bad feelings.
    24. Choose to see something good about what has gone wrong. My son has admitted his situation is his own fault.
    25. Notice when you are being judgmental and be kind instead. I will be aware of judging and simply accept.
    26. Catch yourself over-reacting and take a deep breath. I am teaching myself to do this through my meditations.
    27. Write down 3 things you are grateful for (even if today was hard). 1. My family 2. I have a roof over my head 3. More than enough food to eat.
    28. Think about what you can learn about a recent problem. My son is the biggest problem I’ve had lately. I need to accept that he is making the bad choices knowingly and I can’t do anything about them.
    29. Be a realistic optimist. Focus on what could go right. We could have a good Saturday without police or ambulances having to show up.
    30. Reach out to a friend, family member, or colleague for support. Will do
    31. Remember we all struggle at times. It’s part of being human.
    RVRita in NM
  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,408 Member
    teklawa1 wrote: »
    I'm in Anchorage AK and closed up my camp until next summer. My sister's immunotherapy caused a failure of her adrenal glands to produce cortisol and other hormones. She is out of the hospital and taking steroids to try to jump start her adrenals. Lucky it seems her pituitary appears to be functioning. She can't travel so we'll be here until she is totally stable, then we will travel to Washington state and she can be monitored by the Cancer Institute.

    I'm so far behind on reading but I will catch up.

    Betsy

    Betsy, we won’t be mad if you skip. I do sometimes when I need to. Take care of you as well as your sister!

    RVRita in NM
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,933 Member
    edited July 2023
    dlfk202000 wrote: »
    LisaInArkansas wrote: »
    Machka - I've run across similar information on cycling, but blipped over it, as it didn't apply to me. Haven't gotten on bikes other than the stationary type since I was 25. It makes so little sense to me that it would not only not be helpful, but actively harmful to your bones! It's such great exercise. Glad you're getting checked and that you're actively adding weight-bearing exercise to your regimen to compensate.

    Kayne - Never bored, always glad to know how you're doing. We should see the eclipse at mid-day here, too, and my best friend has already made plans to be here. I talk to her two or three times a week, but it's been four years since I visited her in Montana.

    Just dropped in while my breakfast burrito ingredients are in the air fryer - getting more and more used to it and using it more often.

    Later, y'all,
    Love,
    Lisa

    We love our air fryer- have worn out two or three since the first one. That is the most used appliance after the microwave. Even dh actually uses it once in a while(he does not cook anything but may reheat something for himself if he has to).
    We upgraded to the one with the two trays a while ago-just replaced the first one like that. Thankfully I kept the trays from it because they not only fit in the new one but are nonstick which the new ones aren't and, the bottom tray actually fits better than the one that came with it.
    Need the not stick for things like the wings I did last week- pressure cook them first in my teriyaki sauce then air fry with glaze on them to crisp them up a bit and render the extra fat out. I used to not like wings because of the soggy skin and extra fat. After air frying them, they are really good. I pressure cook them first so they are fall off the bone tender and I know for sure they are cooked all the way through.

    I have seen parchment like "coffee filter" things that fit your air fryer so it stays clean.
    Regarding your painful abdomen, do you still have your gallbladder? Does is feel spasms pain wise? Does it come and go? Is it tight pressure across your whole abdomen? You might have gallstones!💖🤔
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,933 Member
    kevrit wrote: »
    On walking…. I love, love, love, to walk outside and do the trails here at the park. I would walk inside, however 10 steps and I’m at the end of the RV. We live 30 minutes away from the nearest store, mall, or adult center so can’t do that everyday. I’ve been struggling with my depression because of not being able to walk or exercise due to the above 100 degree weather here. I know I should get up early and do early morning walks, but (I know its just an excuse) I am a late sleeper. It’s weird because I/we go to bed at 9 pm, I read until 10pm but don’t get up until between 9-10 am. I/we sleep too much and I suspect is a result of depression. I also don’t sleep well at night between my elderly dog getting me up 3-4 times a night and my arthritis/bursitis pain that shows up at night. Oh, well, it is what it is right now.

    RVRita in HOT NM

    I too sleep like you. Bed by 9, then really don't fall asleep until 10 pm. I usually wake up at midnight, 3 am, 5am and then at 9 am, getting up at 9:45/10. I do sleep though, heavy in between all the times I'm up. Sorry your arthritis/bursitis makes itself known😥.
    Hugs
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,980 Member
    teklawa1 wrote: »
    I'm in Anchorage AK and closed up my camp until next summer. My sister's immunotherapy caused a failure of her adrenal glands to produce cortisol and other hormones. She is out of the hospital and taking steroids to try to jump start her adrenals. Lucky it seems her pituitary appears to be functioning. She can't travel so we'll be here until she is totally stable, then we will travel to Washington state and she can be monitored by the Cancer Institute.

    I'm so far behind on reading but I will catch up.

    Betsy

    Betsy, dear heart, so many hugs coming your way down the aether for you and your sister... Hope the steroids do their job soon, and that stability for your sis isn't far off. Was just thinking about you this week, and wondered how your camp was going this summer. Glad to see you back, so sorry it's because the immunotherapy has caused such issues for your sis. <3

    Lisa
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,177 Member
    edited July 2023
    I’ve had a brilliant relaxed day. We got out and finished our planting out. Most of our produce is now yielding well. Excess is being been donated to very happy neighbours. Mostly salad veg, with courgette and green beans. DH always grows too much no matter what I say 😝

    We had a lovely chat on Skype with our elder girl and 2 of her adult children who have their own places. Gson just moved into a new place in Belfast. at the end of June. He did a 5K this morning and was quite tired. Gdaughter lives in Oxford. I love these fortnightly Skyped with them.

    The Barbie film has just premiered in UK and the 3 of them were having quite a discussion about it. Gson thought it was good. Daughter and Gdaughter were more scathing about several aspects.

    Re walking: I do like walking outside, just not in the pouring rain. Love Lesley Sansone. She was my go to for awhile but I have found dance based workouts which are more to my taste.

    Betsy: Good to see you posting again. Sorry about your sister. I will keep her in my prayers.
    Allie: You’ve got a proper little horticulturalist in the making there. 😂

    I’m chilling in front of the TV.

    Enjoy the rest of your Sunday.

    ☘️ Terri
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,177 Member
    Re walking: I do like walking outside, just not in the pouring rain. Love Lesley Sansone. She was my go to for awhile but I have found dance based workouts which are more to my taste.

    Betsy: Good to see you posting again. Sorry about your sister. I will keep her in my prayers.
    Allie: You’ve got p proper little horticulturalist in the making there. 😂
  • cityjaneLondon
    cityjaneLondon Posts: 12,813 Member
    Betsy- big hugs for you and your sister. That is a lot to go through. <3

    Watched Marple and Poirot this evening. :p Too much to drink. ;)

    I've just started reading 'Persuasion', by Jane Austen, again. Third time I think, but it may be fourth. It's amazing how you notice different things on each reread. This time I'm interested in the social plight of unmarried women. She is so good on that. So acute, ironic, and even sarcastic. <3 She doesn't spare anyone, even herself.
    It cost 23 pence, for my Kindle. My old paperback has tiny print. Unreadable nowdays.

    Love to all, Heather UK xxxxxxxx
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,732 Member
    Regarding sleep ... the nights before work, I go to bed just before midnight and fall asleep about half an hour later. Then I wake up just before 7:30 am.

    I need more sleep but I also need alone time.

    Regarding cycling long, long distances and bones ... I will post more after work.

    But as I mentioned, cycling shorter distances like say usually under 100 km isn't too bad. It's the really long distances that aren't good for the bones.

    Machka in Oz
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,290 Member
    back from shopping for MIL- her stuff was about $75 and ours was a bit over $5.
    97degrees in Vacaville.
    DH went straight over to her house as soon as he dropped me off. Glad he didn't want me to go over with him.

    Going to get some chicken started in the pressure cooker then the air fryer- trying out some new McCormick seasonings- I want to try a different one on each leg/thigh quarter.
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,277 Member
    :)Annie congrats on driving to the airport. That is a huge accomplishment 🌼😺🌻
  • margaretturk
    margaretturk Posts: 5,303 Member
    Reading Organized Enough by Amanda Sullivan. It is helping me get motivated to do some deep cleaning. A few ideas so far is to go through your home and look for the areas that are not working and start there. Have the things you use everyday readily accessible. Give yourself permission to get rid of those things that you are someday going to get to examples would be half done projects that have been there for years to get done. My favorite thing to do is think of your home like a garden. You constantly tend to a garden with watering and weeding. So your home needs constant nurturing by weeding out the unnecessary, saying no to anything that does not add value. Just because it is free or cheap does not mean it improves your life. Set a timer to get yourself to start a task. The biggies were paperwork, clothes, hobbies that get out of hand, toys. Limit yourself...one is often better than two. Put things back in their home when done using it so easy to find when needed again. Sort like with like. Right now I gathered all my post it notes and I have a shoe box full of them. My goal is to cut these in half to start. I got most of them when I was teaching.
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,392 Member
    Stats for the day -

    Housecleaning etc-
    3hrs 19min 56sec = 937c
    1hr 36min 39sec = 454c
    vacuum, dust, water plants, make hummingbird food, stain back patio door, sweep front entryway and front patio, trim hedges and front entryway, clean birdbath= 1391c
  • auntiebk
    auntiebk Posts: 2,627 Member
    edited July 2023
    Belated welcome @butterfly3215!
    Tracey, Lisa Etc, KJ et al, sorry to disappoint but had to back off the comments, way too far behind. Also the stats, but yes I’m happy, all’s well here, the Flat fire is not near, no smoke here and 20+ percent contained.
    Kim I keep one of these . https://www.nugonutrition.com/products/nugo-dark-chocolate-pretzel in the car along with an ounce of raw almonds for when the “I MUST EAT SOMETHING NOW”s hit;)
    Belated Happy Anniversary Terri! 57 years, you must have been a child bride!
    Carol ((hugs)) What Lanette said about visiting Physical Therapists, especially to help you with pre-surgery exercises.
    Rita your 7/24 gratitude, WOW. That is HUGE.
    Lisa Etc echoing others joy at your good news, energy,etc.
    Barbie I’m with you on the focaccia, only I’d put cheese and salami on it and chase it with an AF beer, so best not … :naughty:
    Tracey :love: the pic and the happy baby news. Fingers/toes/eyes X’d. I am so excided for you being accepted into the Education Assistant program. You will be a blessing to any classroom, teacher, child you assist.
    Flea ((hugs)) hope the estate settling struggles are nearly over. As for the photos, is there a Latter Day Saints family history center near you? Maybe someone there could help trace any collateral relations who would welcome the pics. Ah I see Kim has already suggested that. And love the suggestions to write up as much of the story as you can. Will be welcome by whoever receives.
    Annie conVERYgratulations! What others have said about taking time to exercise and letting your sister cope with your parents for a few hours, As for cooking, maybe she’d like to cook for herself and her parents for a day and give you a real break?
    Heather ‘I really must get going on a novel about my grandmother's family and how my parents met. (I've been casting around for a next project after the current one)” Impressive passion and energy! Just don’t let your writing edge out your painting, the water colors are just too good.

    Only through pg 60 but that’s enough for one evening.

    Later, lighter, lovelies!
    Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD x8zcp1ya37k1.gif
    2023: Be of good cheer. July: Move more, fuel better (less sugar), live NOW.
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,290 Member
    Whidislander wrote: »
    dlfk202000 wrote: »
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    I have seen parchment like "coffee filter" things that fit your air fryer so it stays clean.
    Regarding your painful abdomen, do you still have your gallbladder? Does is feel spasms pain wise? Does it come and go? Is it tight pressure across your whole abdomen? You might have gallstones!💖🤔
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa

    I have seen the coffee filter type liners and they are great for the basket type of air fryer. Ours has two flat shelves in them. I guess I could use just parchment paper but for things like chicken and other meats, I want as much fat to render out and get away from the meat as possible.
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,087 Member
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  • LisaInArkansas
    LisaInArkansas Posts: 2,980 Member
    edited July 2023
    Annie - Well done getting your dad back safe and sound, and your triumph over the drive to the airport.
    auntiebk wrote: »
    Tracey, Lisa Etc, KJ et al, sorry to disappoint but had to back off the comments, way too far behind. Also the stats, but yes I’m happy, all’s well here, the Flat fire is not near, no smoke here and 20+ percent contained.
    No disappointment here, dear heart... Just awfully glad to see you when we see you. Glad you're not smoked out.

    Got all silly-sophical about getting rid of my home office, finally, and lost three paragraphs when I touched the touchscreen. You're welcome, it was way too deep for 2 a.m.! Time for one more cup of Sleepy Time tea, not that it has worked yet, but it tastes really good.

    Love y'all,
    Lisa in AR

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