WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2023

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  • cyntdooley
    cyntdooley Posts: 61 Member
    GodMomKim wrote: »
    Hi Gals,
    Oh my 94 new posts…..
    Rita – I read the posts with your lists for each day and am impressed that you keep to this so faithfully. I am too scattered!
    Lanette – I love the chicken stories….
    Barbie – LOL “chickens or sports cars or cruises” LOL
    Tracey – DONOT do a call with HR everything in writing! Is the only way to go. I see that Karen and Lisa already voted for writing.
    Heather – Max looks great.
    Lisa – congrats on the Amazon air conditioning unit!
    Sue – glad the horses were ok.
    Ran out of time….
    Sunday….
    Allie – the huge play pen for just sleeping is an interesting idea… I can see how it would work for some kids. They must have a nice sized room to make that work so well.
    Heather – lots of storage in DS’s kitchen.
    Pip – great job on fund raising, and riding
    Machka – Sorry about your bees!

    So a few bits and pieces about my month…. I am so ready for September or even for 2024!

    I did turn 65 at the beginning of the month (Thanks Betsy – I saw your wishes) figuring out Medicare was a bigger job than I expected and think it is solved now. Dealing with my mom was another challenge so I was in no real mood to celebrate.

    I did go out for a couple of nice dinners with friends. Always appreciated.

    For at least 10 years I have encouraged, suggested that my mom tell my brother he had to move out of her home. He is 57 and for all but 4 of those years he has lived at home. – of course, the first 18 years are expected. LOL! He has not worked, paid rent, not done chores, not been helpful. But has done drugs and been an acholic most of those years. He does weld and has made some very nice welded art. My mom is 94 and will not live forever. Pushing him out of the nest is overdue. When she dies as the person in charge of the estate, I will push him out.

    But sometime in July she did tell him to go. But did not share that with anyone. As a result, I had some of his artwork here I was trying to help sell and did not know needed to be returned. My brother and my mom are in the running for the world’s worst communicators so now he thinks I stole his art. Lots of awful words have been texted to me, and threats made. The police may end up involved. This has been stressful.

    ***update - he was out 2 nights and then came home – the story is he is leaving again in a couple of days- I am doubtful********

    I have been stung by hornets, as I ended up with a ground dwelling hornet nest in my front yard. I am allergic and ended up on too much Benadryl to be able to stay awake and function but enough to keep the swelling somewhat under control (all doses as recommended by the doctor) That went on for 5 days. After the 4th night of dressing in all the layers I could and spraying/pouring hornet poison on the site of the nest things were quiet enough to to move a pot, a paver and some dirt. Dump in some more insecticide - finally I believe they are all dead. What a hassle.

    Then over the top of all of this Levi got a foxtail in his paw – Vet visit $300+ An ear infection in the middle of the night with so much pain we couldn’t wait – Emergency Vet $600+ and a senior exam at his vet, as he has lost 60% ish of his hearing and a similar about of vision since January and I decided it was time to get a handle on all that is going on with him. $300+ -- Good news is it looks like it might be all old age; but they are doing full labs, so I’ll hear the final in a few days.

    September please come quickly!!!!!!!!!!!

    Kim in N. California

    Cindy from Pensacola. I was the executer for the will. I guess everyone must have a sibling difficult to deal with when it comes to what happens after your last parent passes. Your parent doesn't want to deal with ur sibling so now falls into your lap. Places you in an awkward role. The situation passed. My hubs was my buffer and so gracious to step into that role. I had a lot of medical issues going on at the time. I hope your situation with your brother works out.
  • 1948CWB
    1948CWB Posts: 1,656 Member
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  • cyntdooley
    cyntdooley Posts: 61 Member
    Whidislander wrote: »
    No sound in the wall today. So it might have left? Hoping that is the case.

    Had a night phone chat with middle son. He had started off texting me, " Owain has contacted you"? I texted back for him to phone me, because I didn't want to type, I had a lot to say.😁 We decided to concentrate on the fact that he reached out, and not be concerned about the whys or reasons of his quietness. I said we can chat face to face and bring some of those things up.

    He mentioned that the doctors want to induce DDIL the first week of Sept, because the baby is on the small size and DDIL hasn't gained much pregnancy weight. So doctors want him out at 39 weeks so he can get as much nutrients etc, because evidently the baby isn't getting all he should be getting in the womb. The baby is at 6 lbs but healthy, and they did an aminocentesis and the amniotic fluid is good. I know he's concerned but he is trying to be strong about it all. I told him that I was a small baby at 4 lbs and did just fine. My DDIL's mother is there, watching Athena because my son has started his fall business college semester. Taking a fairly full load of classes. He will have a stressful September but hopefully will acclimate to it all. DDIL has maternity leave until January so that will be good.💖

    Today up at 5 am, on treadmill for 40 min. My left foot is getting a huge blister on flat part of foot by big toe. So the pad there. Frustrating. I wonder if I should even walk tomorrow or take a day of rest? I will see how it looks tomorrow. Its the same foot I sprained in June, so its bothersome.
    Thank all the ladies for the good thoughts regarding my sweet youngest sailor.
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa

    I had trouble with closed toe shoes and treadmill. I used a good sandal instead. I have vionic flip flops.
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,071 Member
    Pip - love the new RV. Looks like room for everyone. Will you be able to tow it with current vehicle or is a new one in your future?

    DD and I only plant container garden except for blueberries, apple and cherry tree. This year we have tomatoes, chives and potatoes. Slugs got all the greenbeans.

    We have light rain here. Washed the dust off and makes everything look greener.

    Vicki - hope things get better for you and you start feeling better.

    Kim- you have had a rough August. Hope September is much better.

    Welcome back Kate.

    Everyone take care, Sue in WA
  • cyntdooley
    cyntdooley Posts: 61 Member
    Cindy here from Pensacola.
    Got an early start with bike ride w/hubs today. Thankful and blessed for the blue skies, trees, sunshine and the breeze on our faces especially since it's hot. Yes August is the hottest month in the south. Ya know when I was a kid it never bothered me it being hot. We just got out the water hoses and went to town playing. Picking up our grandson Jackson for a stay-over. Oh what fun. We only have one and when he leaves I always say I don't think I could do this every day. So much energy to follow after.
    Toddler everyone,
    Happy and blessed by all of you
    Cindy
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,356 Member
    cyntdooley wrote: »
    grandmallie wrote: »
    Cindy- this is coming from the rheumatologist office
    You mean topicals? You said tropicals that sounds good too lol.hoping to go to the last concert tonight.

    Topicals, autocorrect. Lol

    Yeah, the airstream was the 1st one we called Bette. Actually, we were talking about that. Our first was a tent for 5 people). Next was a cabin that was a storage shed that we made into a”tiny home” for camping. Next was a Minnie Winnie class c, THEN it was the airstream, then the tiny trailer then the one we have now.
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,356 Member
    skuehn48 wrote: »
    Pip - love the new RV. Looks like room for everyone. Will you be able to tow it with current vehicle or is a new one in your future?

    DD and I only plant container garden except for blueberries, apple and cherry tree. This year we have tomatoes, chives and potatoes. Slugs got all the greenbeans.

    We have light rain here. Washed the dust off and makes everything look greener.

    Vicki - hope things get better for you and you start feeling better.

    Kim- you have had a rough August. Hope September is much better.

    Welcome back Kate.

    Everyone take care, Sue in WA

    That’s part of what I have to explain, no we can’t tow it with the car and no we are not going to buy something else.
  • ginnytez
    ginnytez Posts: 1,411 Member
    Betsey-I am glad cases do seem to be getting milder. An official with whom I work has a very major carry over -nerve damage from inflammation that has led to paralysis of his arm. He thought he just had a cold-lots of unknown stuff.

    Annie-good news about your dad.

    Lisa-Perhaps the Zeigarnik Effect https://www.verywellmind.com/zeigarnik-effect-memory-overview-4175150. For some reason I just have to google things

    Decent day today. All three meetings were ok (possibly even worth my time!). Going to walk in house to get 10,000 steps and active minutes in, then go to ladies group.

    Take care all,

    Ginny in Ohio
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 19,147 Member
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  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,356 Member
    Stat for the day-

    Walk w/family- 2hrs 15min 10sec, 201elev, 2.69ap, 83ahr, 101mhr, 6.12mi= 618c
    Strava app= 749c
  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,306 Member
    Allie approved for what?

    I had an exhausting drive but a lovely lunch. We talked a lot about being caregivers to our parents. I had tuna steak bits in tacos with a spicy papaya sauce. Marvelous!

    Annie in Delaware
  • deejoan
    deejoan Posts: 52 Member
    barbiecat wrote: »
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    :) The older I get, the more important it is to me to seek habits, behaviours, and attitudes that will help me stay healthy and increase fitness and happiness. That's what I've found with this thread. I hope you will find that, too.

    :) The name of the thread is "Women Ages 50+" but all women are welcome. Our community includes women just approaching 50 all the way to approaching 80.

    :) We share on many topics but stay away from criticism of others and controversy. We focus on support and encouragement.

    :) Please sign your post with a name or nickname and a location, either specific or general, so it will be easier to identify each other.

    :) Remember to bookmark the page so you can find us again.

    <3 Barbie from NW WA

    "The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non-essentials."---Lin Yutang

    How do you bookmark a particular section? I use the app on my laptop and cannot find any link on the page to bookmark with. Thank you!
  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,306 Member
    I need to face the fact that I tried on a dozen outfits for lunch today and almost all of them were too small. Time to pick up the discarded clothing and make some new resolutions. Time to get back on my bike! I need a reason to buy new clothes!

    Annie in Delaware
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,257 Member
    5PM and still 90 degrees. Going to be hot and stuffy in class. Have two fans in my car to take with me(there are two fans in the building but not strong enough to make it to the back where I stay. Will take two water bottles with me, just to make sure I have enough.
    Class will be 10min shorter tonight. Teacher is doing three back to back classes, all in different places(her only breaks will be driving time)
    Will start the class at just over 10,000 steps.
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,356 Member
    exermom wrote: »
    Woke up early. Didn’t realize that it was only 4 and not 5. So I got to the gym to do the body pump DVD at 5. Usually I’m there around 6. Even the gal working said “what are you doing here so early”? Came home, walked to Food Lion. I didn’t realize that Doritos were so expensive. Guess we’ll continue to have the Aldi brand chips.

    Put down the weed killer, then in the pool then went to get my oil changed. Stopped at Big Lots, now home for dinner.

    Pip – just so you know….I’m available for adoption! I don’t take up much room, either. Beautiful new home

    Allie – when we play music bingo and they have the music from the 60’s and 70’s, my biggest problem is that I’m so busy singing along that I miss marking them on my card.

    Tracey – I am the furthest thing from a landscaper you can possibly imagine, yet I’m the one who takes care of the lawn. Oh, Vince will cut it (on the tractor) but it’s me who has to put down the seed, the weed killer, the weed and feed, etc. Have fun camping

    kate – great to see you again. So sorry about your dh and you. I have the tightest hamstrings this side of the Atlantic. Any different stretches you do?

    Annie – so happy for you and your dad

    Lisa – I’m over the camping thing, too. Trying to get rid of all the camping stuff we have. Jess MIGHT want it, I know Denise would never. Nice chair pads. I love light colors

    A small miracle has occurred. After dinner Vince said to me “I’m going to shock you and go for a walk too” Honestly, I really wasn’t going to go since I’d walked to Food Lion earlier. But I wasn’t about to give him an excuse not to walk. OK, we didn’t go as far as we used to, but that’s OK. He hasn’t gone in months (too hot). I’m finding that I’m getting used to the heat. Many times in the a/c I’m actually cold.

    Heather – I find painting the ceramics very relaxing, so I can understand completely how your painting relaxes you.

    Lanette – I usually get my corn from this one farmer. Usually it is so very sweet but it isn’t this year. Probably because I couldn’t cook it (to prevent the sugars from becoming starch) for a day. Anyway, I do freeze it on the cob. Vince likes it that way. I wish he’d let me freeze it off the cob, would save so much room in the freezer, but alas….. I don’t freeze it in the husk, but I can’t see why that wouldn’t work. Usually, tho, it takes longer than a day in the frige to thaw.

    Michele NC

    I’ll let kirby know 😍
  • barbiecat
    barbiecat Posts: 17,251 Member
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  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,892 Member
    LisaInArkansas wrote: »
    Rebecca - for reassurance, you might tell your middle son that my niece, born at 1 lb. 13 oz., and at 24 weeks in the womb, is now 26 years old and engaged to be married... she's the one that I'm designing and making the quilt for! Glad the docs are keeping an eye on things for them--and honestly, 39 weeks to 42 weeks is considered full-term. I'm sure it's still unnerving though, for all concerned.

    Lanette - The apples are so pretty... I think Corey will be cutting back quite a bit next year as well. I could be wrong, though. He's always enthusiastic in the spring! We've learned that some things just don't do well from seed here, they need that jump that starting them from partially grown gives them. Tomatoes just don't make it here from seed. Some peppers do, some don't.

    Cynthia / Cindy in Pensacola - Glad you hung in there with us... because this thread moves so fast, sometimes you get no response, and sometimes you get dozens! Either way, it's a lovely bunch of some really wonderful people, always willing to help and support.

    Allie - Love the mani/pedi - hope it's a wonderful trip for you...

    The new med is still making me feel low-key dizzy and fatigued. If it doesn't stop within a few days, I'll let the gastro know, but chances are it will pass. It is already having some effect for what it's being taken for, so I'm hopeful that it will help finally stop the ulceration part of this current flare.

    I have to admit, I did give up on one of my projects. I have planned for more than a year to make chair pads for the four kitchen chairs, the three barstools and my office chair... and finally gave up on it this morning and ordered some from Walmart, which they just delivered. I actually created one at the end of last week, but a) it wasn't as easy as I had thought, b) I wasn't happy with my design or the outcome of my one template chair pad, and c) the thought of making eight of them wasn't making me happy, it was stressing me out. Some things are not worth doing yourself... so I got eight of these, and I'm calling it good:
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    Trying to get floors done when I finish this, but don't know how far I'll get. Got Corey's roses weeded, but that was it for outside work. If I don't get started with the vacuuming, I never will. Not my favorite chore, but don't want to leave it all for Corey on Friday morning, either. So... time to get moving!

    Love y'all,
    Lisa in AR

    That is encouraging!💖🙏🤗💖
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,257 Member
    dlfk202000 wrote: »
    5PM and still 90 degrees. Going to be hot and stuffy in class. Have two fans in my car to take with me(there are two fans in the building but not strong enough to make it to the back where I stay. Will take two water bottles with me, just to make sure I have enough.
    Class will be 10min shorter tonight. Teacher is doing three back to back classes, all in different places(her only breaks will be driving time)
    Will start the class at just over 10,000 steps.

    Only had 7 in class. I think they misunderstood the teacher Monday- they thought she was canceling our class to do the other class, not just leaving 15 min early. Plus, my two friends were not feeling good and one other usually comes with the teacher but I am sure she didn't want to do three classes(she barely finishes one)
    Got in my car at 7:30 and temp in it said still 90. Cooled down when I started driving- wasn't from the sun as it was about down when I left.

    Going to eat a little dinner and take a cold shower.

    Think I will get up early and walk instead of my full hour at the wetlands- It will be at 1PM if I do walk there(an hour before picking up Ezie)- will see how things go tomorrow.
  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,071 Member
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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,687 Member
    deejoan wrote: »
    barbiecat wrote: »
    xvjs56zliovw.png


    :) The older I get, the more important it is to me to seek habits, behaviours, and attitudes that will help me stay healthy and increase fitness and happiness. That's what I've found with this thread. I hope you will find that, too.

    :) The name of the thread is "Women Ages 50+" but all women are welcome. Our community includes women just approaching 50 all the way to approaching 80.

    :) We share on many topics but stay away from criticism of others and controversy. We focus on support and encouragement.

    :) Please sign your post with a name or nickname and a location, either specific or general, so it will be easier to identify each other.

    :) Remember to bookmark the page so you can find us again.

    <3 Barbie from NW WA

    "The wisdom of life consists in the elimination of non-essentials."---Lin Yutang

    How do you bookmark a particular section? I use the app on my laptop and cannot find any link on the page to bookmark with. Thank you!

    The bookmark link looks like a little bookmark. Upper right of thread.
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,687 Member
    LisaInArkansas wrote: »
    Katiebug: Regarding your fear of losing your mental faculties as you age, you are not alone. This is an interesting take on aging as a whole, and age-related mental issues: https://medium.com/crows-feet/confronting-my-fears-of-aging-f39f3ef8ce35 Hopefully it can be reached by non-members. I've put the text in the spoiler, but she links much of the information in the article, and many of the links are interesting, as well.
    AI image, with prompt generated by the author
    It was just another birthday. At my age, no big deal.

    But this one felt different. As the day approached, I noticed my thoughts growing increasingly dark — ranging somewhere between free-floating anxiety and stomach-churning dread.

    Exactly why, I couldn’t say. So I turned to the one trick that always worked for me: Making a list.

    Laugh if you want to. But taking pen in hand has never failed to quiet my anxious mind.

    So I grabbed a pen and paper and sat down to write. Here’s the result:


    Losing my health
    As I pondered each fear I’d listed, I was surprised to feel a bit of relief. The simple act of getting my phobias down on paper seemed to soften their sting and make them feel less threatening.

    For example, when considering what will happen to my health as I age, I recalled an important fact: The vast majority of older Americans can go about their daily activities without personal assistance.

    Granted, we’re probably no longer crushing it at CrossFit or doing our own roof repairs. But we’re cooking, showering, and dressing ourselves (although, in my case, not always stylishly).

    Losing my independence
    Another calming fact I recalled is that fewer of us are living in nursing homes. For Americans over 65, it’s less than 3 percent. For those 85 and older, the number is still less than 10 percent.

    I also remembered that today’s senior housing arrangements are better. A variety of independent living options are available, ranging from 55+ retirement communities and continuing-care communities to senior co-housing and senior home-sharing.

    My spry, 87-year-old mom lives in her own apartment in a “Life Plan Community,” which offers services as needed for every stage of life — including skilled nursing, rehab, and memory care.

    Fortunately, Mom is still able to care for herself and enjoys many amenities located right in her building, including restaurants, a fitness center, a church, and a movie theater. Seeing all this makes me glad to know she’s well cared for. I’m hopeful that when I need more support, I can find a similar arrangement.

    Losing my memory
    When it comes to the terrifying prospect of memory loss, there’s more good news. Around the world, thousands of talented researchers are working to eradicate the illness. Even as the population ages, rates of dementia are falling.

    The fact is, most older Americans can think just fine. We might be moving a bit slower, but we’re still fully capable of outscoring our grandchildren at Wordle…or any number of other focused activities that require setting aside a cell phone for more than 10 minutes.

    Losing my happiness
    The last fear on my list was losing my happiness. Frankly, I have a lot to lose here. For the first time since childhood, I have the freedom (for the most part) to do what I want, when I want.

    My experience is not uncommon. As research tells us, older people are more content and even have better mental health than people in early- or mid-life.

    Knowing this is gratifying. And it’s truly remarkable — especially when considering all the things that fade as we age — including physical attractiveness, strength, identity, and earning power.

    The takeaway
    Through the exercise of making my list, I was happy to discover a yawning disconnect between what I had feared aging would mean for me, and what I knew to be true.

    Making my list was a freeing exercise. In my head, I no longer gave voice to the thieves who were robbing me of my peace of mind. By naming, shaming, and reframing my anxieties, they no longer held their power.

    Of course, no one can control whether or not they become sick or frail or depressed or alone. But we all can take steps to make the most of our happiness or health…or at least control how we think about whatever life throws our way.

    As David Bowie said, “Aging is an extraordinary process whereby you become the person you always should have been.” Having made my list, I couldn’t agree more.

    I've found that studying dementia, as I have been for a while now, and more recently working in the aged care field (at the policy end, not the "hands on" end) ... and especially working with someone whose brain injury shows similarities to dementia to be enlightening.

    Many of the things I do with my husband to reduce his chances of dementia are things I will continue to do when he develops dementia (because his chances of developing dementia are high) and are things I am doing to help prevent my own dementia.

    Like exercising, outdoors especially. :)

    M in Oz
  • spikeyhair
    spikeyhair Posts: 2,078 Member
    MICHELLE just getting started on the exercises physio gave me. Checked online as well seem to be fairly standard. One thing I found was interesting, relaxing the sciatic nerve before you do the stretches. Seems to help with flexibility.
    Kate UK ❤️

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