WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2023
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Tina - I think it is past time for you to get creatively selfish. Space of my own is so incredibly important to me; I cannot thrive without it. You'll be a much more relaxed and enjoyable host for people you care about if you're happy, and if they're not staying in the house with you! No more excuses - make yourself a room of your own, woman! Keep it your own, dedicated to your uses, with those things in it that matter only to you, and above all, cool and comfortable, and not incredibly hot!
Allie - Miles is such a cutie...
Machka - I've lived only one place where there was good, accessible public transportation and that was the total of six years I lived in England, first in Sussex, then in Berkshire. On the first tour there, in Sussex, I didn't own a car for more than two years and seldom needed one. I was on buses and trains all the time. The second time, I lived near a bus line that took me to Reading, which is where I worked, and used public transportation all the time. Even 30 years later, I remember sitting on the brick wall surrounding an old, old, cemetery every afternoon, with a centuries-old church rising up behind it. That was where I waited on the bus that would take me home. Something that would never have happened in any US city I've ever lived in.
Off to bed...
Love y'all,
Lisa at snoozy time in Arkansas...
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LisaInArkansas wrote: »Machka - I've lived only one place where there was good, accessible public transportation and that was the total of six years I lived in England, first in Sussex, then in Berkshire. On the first tour there, in Sussex, I didn't own a car for more than two years and seldom needed one. I was on buses and trains all the time. The second time, I lived near a bus line that took me to Reading, which is where I worked, and used public transportation all the time. Even 30 years later, I remember sitting on the brick wall surrounding an old, old, cemetery every afternoon, with a centuries-old church rising up behind it. That was where I waited on the bus that would take me home. Something that would never have happened in any US city I've ever lived in.
Off to bed...
Love y'all,
Lisa at snoozy time in Arkansas...
I could probably count the number of years I needed a motor vehicle on one hand ... well, one hand and maybe part of the other.
There were 2-3 years in the late 1980s, then parts of 4 years between 2005 and 2009 (a few months here and a few months there).
Some of that may be because of the countries where I've lived - it's possible Canada and Australia are a bit easier to get around without motor vehicles. But some of it is because one of the "must haves" when I or we have selected a place to live is accessibility to public transportation, and the ability to walk to a grocery store etc.
There are some suburbs around Hobart I wouldn't mind living, but the public transportation is worse than the suburb where we live, so they are off the list.
I am really glad we did include accessibility to public transportation and the ability to walk to a grocery store as "must haves" because it gives my husband more freedom too. He is not able to drive, but he can get around.
Things to Look for When Buying a House in Retirement
https://www.chip.ca/reverse-mortgage-resources/retirement-planning/things-to-look-for-when-buying-a-house/
One of the most important steps to buying a house in retirement is to think not only about your current needs but also those of the future. The chances are, you won’t be able to drive forever. Your “buying a house” checklist should include its walkability.
Real estate listings are increasingly adding a walk score to properties; this includes how easy it is to walk to essential services like grocery stores, doctors’ offices, entertainment and restaurants. It also ranks properties on proximity to public transit.
The article includes lots of good tips.
One thing we will need to do in the next few years is to move to a flat lot.
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One of the main reasons we moved to this area of Hove was because I hate having to get in the car all the time to get basic things. Our village had no shop. Public transport was, one an hour, to the wrong (for me) city. Nothing in the evening. I just love the ease here of having excellent food shops, including a butcher and organic grocer, around the corner, and many buses at each end of the road. I am not even on my husband's car insurance any more, and I haven't driven for five years.
In many European countries, the bicycle is king. In Lyon, where we stayed, they are currently converting many of the streets to cycle lanes. It's causing temporary chaos! In Scandinavia, everyone cycles.
I am also thinking of my old age. We could live here indefinitely on the ground floor, if we put in a shower room in the utility room. Food delivery is easy. Our doctor is at the top of the road. Our dentist a few doors from that. Our hospital a direct bus ride away. Buses are electric, and wheelchair and pushchair friendly. Priority for the disabled. I can walk to a train.
We are privileged. Not everyone in the UK is so lucky. I live in a quiet, safe, area. I can walk around at night. Not much traffic comes down our street. We have gardens, and tree-lined streets. Parks nearby. The sea is a block and a half away. All this comes at an exorbitant price of housing. Even rents are way out of a normal person's salary.
When we go to a foreign city, one of the things we really enjoy is getting to grips with the public transport. I loved it in New York. I especially love cities with trams! Montpellier, Nottingham, Brussels, Edinburgh, Vienna etc. Berlin has amazing transport and cycling priority.
Rural areas in Britain are losing their bus services. This enrages me. All older people have a free bus pass, but it's no use if there are no buses.
I would love it if Brighton and Hove had more cycle lanes. There are quite a few, but not enough. I don't have a bike for that reason. I walk, or catch the bus.
Feeling somewhat better, but I am still being careful with my bladder. Still upping the D-Mannose dose and drinking more than usual. No alcohol. The flu jab seems to have had minimal after effects.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
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cityjaneLondon wrote: »One of the main reasons we moved to this area of Hove was because I hate having to get in the car all the time to get basic things. Our village had no shop. Public transport was, one an hour, to the wrong (for me) city. Nothing in the evening. I just love the ease here of having excellent food shops, including a butcher and organic grocer, around the corner, and many buses at each end of the road. I am not even on my husband's car insurance any more, and I haven't driven for five years.
In many European countries, the bicycle is king. In Lyon, where we stayed, they are currently converting many of the streets to cycle lanes. It's causing temporary chaos! In Scandinavia, everyone cycles.
I am also thinking of my old age. We could live here indefinitely on the ground floor, if we put in a shower room in the utility room. Food delivery is easy. Our doctor is at the top of the road. Our dentist a few doors from that. Our hospital a direct bus ride away. Buses are electric, and wheelchair and pushchair friendly. Priority for the disabled. I can walk to a train.
We are privileged. Not everyone in the UK is so lucky. I live in a quiet, safe, area. I can walk around at night. Not much traffic comes down our street. We have gardens, and tree-lined streets. Parks nearby. The sea is a block and a half away. All this comes at an exorbitant price of housing. Even rents are way out of a normal person's salary.
When we go to a foreign city, one of the things we really enjoy is getting to grips with the public transport. I loved it in New York. I especially love cities with trams! Montpellier, Nottingham, Brussels, Edinburgh, Vienna etc. Berlin has amazing transport and cycling priority.
Rural areas in Britain are losing their bus services. This enrages me. All older people have a free bus pass, but it's no use if there are no buses.
I would love it if Brighton and Hove had more cycle lanes. There are quite a few, but not enough. I don't have a bike for that reason. I walk, or catch the bus.
Feeling somewhat better, but I am still being careful with my bladder. Still upping the D-Mannose dose and drinking more than usual. No alcohol. The flu jab seems to have had minimal after effects.
Love Heather UK xxxxxxxx
Europe & Britain really lead the way!
We're eyeing two possible small towns we might be able to move to at some point, and both offer many of the things you mention. Good access to grocery shopping and other facilities. Decent public transportation. Great cycling and walking. Relatively flat.
I use our van on the weekends, sometimes. Not every weekend. But thankfully, I don't need it during the week. It's way too expensive to run it all the time, and I can't deal with all the traffic.
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Heather: I find toothpaste is good for removing lime scale on my bathroom sink. Maybe that would work on the marble groves. Just a smidgen on an old toothbrush.
We also live in a pleasant area with good transport links nearby. 5 minutes takes us to the nearest bus stop which takes us to the train station into Belfast. We have bus passes which are valid all over Ireland, including some of the offshore islands.
Our local shopping area is about a mile away. However, I can drive to many of my activities in about 7 minutes, whereas public transport would take well over an hour as I would have to take 2 buses.
Yesterday’s Monday Painters went well. I have craft group at 10.30 this morning.
We had lovely autumn colours until the storm ripped most of the leaves off. It also did for most of the colour in our planters. Time to clear them out and get the spring bulbs in.
Hey ho! Off we go for another day of fun and frolics
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Grandmallie: I love seeing Miles at Safety Day! He is growing up! I am living your post..it is 4:30 am and I am up and bathed. I will snooze in the chair for a couple of hours!
Machka, Heather, and Lisa, and Terri: I enjoyed reading your descriptions of cycling, walkability and public transportation. Years ago the public transportation in Boston was pretty good. But now there are all sorts of problems and the public transportation breaks down and is in the news.
I am pretty energized but am leaving for the cat rescue at 7 am. I don't want to run out of energy so I will doze for the next couple of hours. I hope to go to a Planet Fitness this afternoon and walk on the treadmill and then I will have meditation group this evening!
Best,
Rosemarie from Georgia5 -
Gratitudes-
Monday: The dog’s excitement when Joe puts on his walking shoes every morning after Tummy Time. Crew is coming today to grade and gravel our lane. Thanks neighbor for spearheading this project. Grateful we can cover our share even if two of the six neighbors bail
Sunday: pew buddy K well enough to get to church under her own steam.
Saturday: another reminder to not insist on my own way, oops! ;{
Friday’s gratitude: Gold Beach road trip with bonus walk at Buffington Park.10/23: Move: 2 sets PT w/d,x&a, line dance class, Jeopardy walking. Steps:9374Accountability’s caught up but only skimmed through pg 48.
Fuel: sugar in vs mfp=34 CI<CO net=953 vits=1
Live: Joe, readings, BP, AF, ptT, ptS, Wt:134.0
10/22: Move: ZERO sets PT, dogs to powerline, Jeopardy walking. Steps:7468
Fuel: sugar in vs mfp=15 CI<CO net=548 vits=1
Live: Joe, readings, BP, AD, ptT, ptS, church and fellowship, groom Tumble, ‘nother load laundry. Wt: 131.6
10/21: Move: 2 sets PT w/d,s&a, dog group. Steps:9227
Fuel: sugar in vs mfp=6 CI<CO net=296 vits=1
Live: Joe, readings, BP, AD, ptT, ptS, M, bill pay, filing, Freddie’s, fellowship prep. Wt:131.4
10/20: Move: ZERO sets PT, stroll with Joe and the dogs at Cape Sebastian and Buffington park. dogs to powerline, line dance class. Steps:8524
Fuel: sugar in vs mfp=-1 CI<CO net=167 vits=1
Live: Joe, readings, BP, AD, ptT, ptS, Post Office, Library Wt:130.7
Later, lighter, lovelies!
Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD
October: Move more: chair yoga, line dance, dailyish PT, play with dogs.
Fuel better: less sugar, dailyish vitamins.
Live NOW: dailyish time with Joe, readings. Open heart and mind before mouth.
2023: Be of good cheer.
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Good morning ladies,
I was up at 12:30 am. I was sound asleep by 7:30 last night so got five hours of good sleep. Cleaner comes this morning at 8, I might take a little nap before she gets here.
I've picked up dog toys, put extra shoes away and generally straightened up a bit so the house will be ready for her when she arrives.
Rosemarie - you sound like me, up early with a snooze needed. Sounds like you have a busy day. Good for you getting your exercise in.
Barbara - won't it be nice to get your road graded and graveled? We neighbors decided to put in a new culvert under our private road this summer, everyone paid right away except one household, which held up the work. I guess they finally paid but it might be getting late in the season to get it done. I personally think the culvert is good for a few more years. Crossing fingers anyhow.
Joy - snow already! I see there's a cold front coming down into the US soon. It's 43 at my house right now and I have the thermostat set at 65 - the heat pump keeps coming on. In a couple days we'll have early morning temps in the mid to upper 20's. No snow at my house, but it sounds like the pass about 50 miles east of me will see some.
Ginny - you mentioned you were working on next year's budget....
Budget: Old habits die hard - I'm now I'm working on my 2024 budget too. I've had a household budget spreadsheet for years and enjoy working on the numbers.
I watch several YouTube channels about frugality and cost-saving. I saw one yesterday where the couple talked about budgeting and going through spending figures on the bank and credit card statements and identifying wants v. needs. For me, now single, it's pretty easy to choose what to cut back and cut out if I had to. I'm recalling many times in my marriage where DH and I differed a lot on this. It took work but eventually we came to agreement on most things. Each of us having an "allowance" helped a lot.
I'm projecting 25% increases in property taxes, utilities, food and medical, which is the lion's share of spending. Anticipated medical insurance costs for 2024 are still coming in. I'm meeting with my insurance broker on Thursday to possibly switch to a different Medigap program which will save me a little.
That's it so far. Make it a fabulous day!
Lanette
SW WA State
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Lanette: I have looked at my budget as well. I plan to end Weight Watchers, paused my regular gym member ship and will go to Planet Fitness which is $10.00 a month. I am going to try and go without Amazon Prime. I cut back on my Audible membership and dropped the Atlanta Journal Constitution. The library is open on Sunday afternoons and I hope to go there more often. I dropped the pricey streaming service as the Fire Cube has plenty to watch. I dropped my membership with an ADD group. I cut back the church pledge....the church is doing okay financially.
For now I am keeping knitting which is 3 hours a month for $33.00. I also have Paramount Plus which I will keep for now. The knitting seems pricey for knitting but I am a beginner and it is social!
Best,
Rosemarie from Georgia
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Rosemarie2972 wrote: »Lanette: I have looked at my budget as well. I plan to end Weight Watchers, paused my regular gym member ship and will go to Planet Fitness which is $10.00 a month. I am going to try and go without Amazon Prime. I cut back on my Audible membership and dropped the Atlanta Journal Constitution. The library is open on Sunday afternoons and I hope to go there more often. I dropped the pricey streaming service as the Fire Cube has plenty to watch. I dropped my membership with an ADD group. I cut back the church pledge....the church is doing okay financially.
For now I am keeping knitting which is 3 hours a month for $33.00. I also have Paramount Plus which I will keep for now. The knitting seems pricey for knitting but I am a beginner and it is social!
Best,
Rosemarie from Georgia
Rosemarie - sounds like you have a good plan. These little things add up, don't they? Glad to hear you are keeping on with knitting and Paramount Plus which bring you joy and social contact.
After my DH passed last year, I had to take a hard look at the budget without his social security coming in. I guessed it pretty well for this year, but had so many extra expenses for the house and property that couldn't be put off. Plus car repair. I'm hoping next year things will be better and I can find some overage to put into savings for future roof replacement.
I know I'm spending "want" money on my chickens. But, I don't have any vacations or trips planned and I'll keep driving the old cars so no car payment to keep up with. I can't think of any vacation that would be more fun right now than the time I spend watching the hens out scratching for bugs and worms, lol.
I've been cancelling some Substack subscriptions. I like supporting new writers who do a good job. Many of them now have a healthy following and don't need me anymore - I can read their articles free.
I know there are more expenses I can cut out or cut back on, and I'll keep looking.
Lanette
SW WA State
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Good Tuesday
A wee bit stressed today. Can't locate my shop keys. Will call the person who has our Bronco and have him look in it. I have done so well not misplacing things.....There are no identifying things on the keys so that is good. Breath!
Budget Probably could use one, but I haven't in years. Reckon I am not getting younger, but am not missing the days of figuring out how to pay bills and feed the family. When I do shop, it is in and out. I get what I want/need and leave. DH use to ask why I don't shop around. I told him when I get more than one day off a week, then I will consider it. For now, my sanity is worth the easiest. I am thankful to be in a position that allows that to happen.
Public Transportation When I lived in the DC area it was easy between busses and Metro. I sometimes caught the bus to the metro. Other times I would drive to the closest metro station. I never drove into the city. I did drive to grocery etc. It wasn't always the fastest, but was the least stressful. My son in law works in Cincinnati. Parking and traffic are atrocious. He drives to a park and ride and takes the bus to work. Again, somedays it takes him longer , but like Machka, he uses that time to read, text, or play games. He is less stressed when he gets home. I live in the country. There is no bus service out here. Heck we can't even get pizza delivery. 😒 The county next to us has bus service, but I have never used it. Oldest grand daughter has learned to navigate it okay.
I am happy to have lost almost a pound this week. Water is still key. Picked up a different magnesium, some potassium, and d3 with k. No cramps last night. Still stretching. There is so much I need to do, but small steps. I can't touch my toes or do the seated stretch over leg, hips don't bend that way anymore. That is one goal so will keep stretching.
I should get ready for work. Breath!
Much love,
Kylia in Ohio
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Tooth is out and I'm surprised it isn't very painful. I think I'll skip the pool today and not be very active. I've iced the jaw but it is swollen and have some bleeding from the gum. I'll plan to go tomorrow if the swelling and bleeding are done.
Machka and Allie, what you posted on dementia and traumatic brain injury really hit home. My sister with the radiation to the brain tumors is dealing with cognitive issues. It's so frustrating for her because her husband and kids want her to be "normal", like she used to be. She is so smart and so capable but the radiation left scars and the processing of daily life things is a chore. Some things are impossible now. She feels the anger and frustration that radiates from her husband and kids. They think she isn't trying hard enough. She used to be able to put 10lbs of sh** in a 5lb bag and never will be able to do that again. I've never connected TBI with what Cheri is dealing with.... it's like a light bulb turned on for me. I'll have to do more reading.
Good grief, yes on budgeting. I keep to a budget but keep reworking it. It's a necessity for me because inflation and less income since Jack died makes it harder to put money away for emergencies. I'm lucky because I have enough but I must be frugal to put money in savings. I just got my tax assessment for this year and it went up again. Just the land they say increased $10K. There is a senior exemption in our county but I'm just above the limit.
Betsy in NW WA7 -
My only personal monthly expenses are my phone, sim only, and Amazon Prime. Something comes from them almost every day. They keep asking me if I am a business! I hate monthly commitments. I have very little income.
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We don't have streaming services as we use Freeview.
No medical insurance.
No car payments.
No gym. No subscriptions.
Monthly bills are utilities, and phone/Internet. Council tax is a big one. DH pays insurances for house and car yearly. It's very simple for me to track what we spend by checking the bank accounts online. If it's going down too fast we rein in expenditure. I know when monthly bills go out and allow for it. We squeak by.
Major expenses come out of savings. We are lucky to have them.
DH is not keen on spending money on home stuff, but I am patient. I mentioned a blind the other day for the bedroom. He was very reluctant. I can wait.
He has been very generous with funding some of our holidays. He paid for the whole visit to his daughter. Very expensive.
I want the cupboard door put back on in the kitchen. I may just ring someone up. I could get them to put up the grab rail in my bathroom at the same time.
I've ordered a catalogue from a kitchen cupboard doors replacement company. That might get him moving on the hinge!!!
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I write down every cent we spend and transfer the data to Quick Books so I know where our money goes and how much we have coming in. We have savings as well as retirement income. Seeing where the money goes makes it easier to see what to cut, as fixed costs go up. Writing down what we spend is as helpful as keeping track of what I eat. It makes it all more intentional. We talk about where our money goes and make decisions about big items together. Our recreation is a few streaming services and our dogs. If we buy any "things" they are only to replace something that has to be thrown away or donated. We are fortunate to have saved during our working years and have sufficient resources for our life now. I remember when my mother was in her later years, she said that if you couldn't eat it or slather it on your body, she didn't need it.
Annie seems to grow every day. The sweater we bought is going to be too small very soon and the weather is going to be so cold that she'll need a warmer jacket and then probably an even warmer one by December.
Public transportation here is not helpful to Jake and me but many people use it. There are people in my neighborhood who have no car but they have neighbors and friends who provide transportation as needed.
Our sleep schedule has been understandably messed up by having a puppy. We go to bed at 7, get up to walk dogs between 11 and 12 and get up for the day at about 4. We have time to nap during the day if needed. I sleep in my morning dog walking clothes so I can easily take the dogs out. Jake has clothes by the side of the bed that he can get into easily so we're both available. Because it's for a puppy, we know that it's temporary and we can do anything for the short term that would be a lot tougher if it had to be done for a lifetime. It's all one day at a time here.
On the subject of needing a husband to help make tough decisions. Yes, Jake is helpful but my decision to finally get a colonoscopy at age 64 came because of the women on this thread who let me know that I could do it, that it was survivable and that it wouldn't be as bad as I thought. Jake and the medical professionals all talked about the horrors of colon cancer and had no idea that I was more afraid of the procedure than I was of the possibility of colon cancer. This community of women gave me comforting information and helped make a difficult decision possible for me.
Barbie in NW WA
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Hello, my dears...
Got the lumber coming in for the sunroom addition sometime today (14-hour delivery window!) but there is something new. I got a text message with a tracker that shows they're on their way, but have six deliveries before mine. That part's kind of cool... if I need to take a quick trip to the store, I'd be able to, anyway.
It's a lovely, cool, cloudy morning. Huge rain system moving through Oklahoma and parts northeast, but it appears it's going to miss us until quite late this evening. A very minor shift in wind direction and it could quite easily engulf us, too. When I finish this, I'll get outside and get some things picked up and off to the burn pile. Looks like it will be a while before the delivery gets here, so I'll have plenty of time.
Fell over and took a nap yesterday afternoon. Cool, cloudy, rainy afternoon, perfect napping weather, and still got more than 7 hours of sleep last night, so I must have been really tired. Today I'll be able to work on a project and see what trouble I can get into...
Budgets - We are on a budget, but it's in very broad strokes. I put anything into savings each month that's left over from the expenses of the month, and I keep track of what those expenses are in order to maximize the amount we put in savings. But some expenses exceed the budget for good reason, like the window air conditioners we bought this year, which have already paid for themselves completely, with our bills dropping hundreds of dollars from 2022 and years prior. They should last three or more years, so were a good buy.
We do, however, continue to renovate the house, piece by piece. We're not using savings to do them, but each of these jobs does stop us from putting any more into savings. But each of these actions is a decision, and we make it together and we go from there.
Transportation - Being able to get to a doctor and/or medical appointments may well become an issue down the road. There is rural transportation available through government agencies for free, it simply has to be booked up to 48 hours ahead of time. I hope it doesn't become an issue, but if necessary, there are options.
And... I'm going to go play outside. I love the early fall days like this one - this is walking up to the house from the mailbox, and the colors are turning fast.
Later, y'all,
Love,
Lisa in Arkansas10 -
2023 Optimistic October
Word of the Year: appreciate—Today I appreciate the privilege of living at the State Park.Meditation: daily. 24/31 (82%(started Feb)(94%,100%, 74%, 93%,100%,100%)
Recommended exercise: cardio 5 days 30 min 20/23
Strength all muscles 2 x 0/8 a week
Flexible (yoga, stretching) /8 a week 10 min
Balance 5 days 10 min /20
Foods to avoid:
Barley
Bell peppers
Chicken
Clam
Egg white
Eggplant
Ginger
Rye
Wheat
Winter squash
1. cut back drinking and limit to 2 days a week. 0/8–(300%,100%,100%). 69 days SOBER!
2. Average 7,000 steps a week. 7819, 7203, 7906,(7,700,100%-9851,100%-9526,100%-9,559,100%, -8347,100%—7465,100%—6328,90%—6059,87%—6458,92%)
3. Update budget every 2 weeks 2/2 (800%)
4. Contact close family every week (4x) 216/208—(733%) should be 189 by November 1) My mom called me for a change.
5. Contact Donat and sibs once a month (8x)74/94 (800%)
6. Weigh less last day of month compared to first until I reach 140. Start at 178.6,176,174.2,173.4,175.4,174,175.6,173.4, 172.2 (600%)
7. Develop a journaling practice by aiming to journal at least 5 days a week. 19/23 (681%,100,100)
8. Read 12 books at least this year. 44/12
(100%)
9. Pay off credit card debt by January 2024 by making monthly payments to NDR/Reach Financial 10/12—(1000%)
10. Continue building emergency fund at SLFCU (min$25 a month)$25+$25+$71+700+25+25 +25+25 (1000%) I put the money in, but end up taking it out.
11. April started putting 4% on income in savings. 700,200,200, 107, 157,0,0,0
500%) This has stopped. Spending too much.
January Met —100%
February met —-90%
March met met —-90%
April met——86.36%
May met——-89%
June met—-99%
July met — met 81%
August met—met 99%
September met——99%
October met —
November met—
December met—
1.Write down three things you can look forward to this month. 1. Another month of sobriety 2. Cooler weather 3. Decorating for Halloween22. Share a hopeful quote, picture, or video with a friend or colleague. Will do here.
2. Find something to be optimistic about (even if it’s a difficult time). I am optimistic about cooler weather.
3. Take a small step to a goal that really matters to you. I need to call my uncle.
4. Start the day with the most important thing on your to-do-list. Updating this list and My Fitness Pal.
5. Be a realistic optimist. See life as it is but focus on what’s good. I usually hope for the best but prepare for the worst. I think this counts!
6. Remind yourself that things can change for the better. No matter how bad you think it is, it can always get worse. So enjoy life no matter where you are, or what you are doing, or your circumstances.
7. Look for the good in people around you today. I can do this if I try. This was not difficult to do with visitors. Employees were a different matter!
8. Make some progress on a project or task you’ve been avoiding. I need to clean the cabinets out. I am planning to start today. Didn’t happen.
9. Share an important goal with someone you trust. did not do this.
10. Take time to reflect on what you have accomplished recently. I have accomplished coloring pages, making doctor appointments, calming my nerves by taking some actions I never tried before, and more.
11. Avoid blaming yourself or others. Find a helpful way forward. This is hard for me.
12. Look out for positive news and reasons to be cheerful today. With everything going on around me and in me this will be hard, but I will pay attention to good news.
13. Ask for help to overcome an obstacle you are facing. The obstacles I have cannot be solved by me, but by family members.
14. Do something constructive to improve a difficult situation. I will have to think on this. I posted pictures of the eclipse that happened here on the Friends Group FB page, and sent some pics to my son and grandson.
15. Thank yourself for achieving the things you often take for granted. I got up in a thankful mood today so I should be able to do this. The eclipse yesterday couldn’t have gone better.
16. Put down your to-list and do something fun or uplifting. I will color, walk, and meditate-all things that are fun and uplifting to me.
17. Take a small step toward a positive change you want to see in society. Teaching adults computer use provides a positive change in my community.
18. Set hopeful, but realistic goals for the days ahead. My biggest hope for the near future is a holiday without depression and ‘drama’ caused by my family.
19. Identify one of your positive qualities that will be helpful in the future. I think my tenacity will always be helpful to me and others.
20. Find joy in tackling a task you’ve put off for some time. This will have to wait as I am not feeling too good today. Fall cold.
21. Let go of the expectations of others and focus on what matters to you. I have been working on this, so this will be in progress for a while. Because I did this, my mother finally called me to see what was up after 3 weeks of missed calls from me.
23. Recognize that you have a choice of what to prioritize. I will put myself first for care so I can take care of others and my normal tasks.
24. Write down three specific things that have gone well recently. Some of my close family contacted me instead of the other way around, 2. Getting appointments with a cardiologist, and a nephrologist. 3. I am over 2 months sober!25. You can’t do everything! What are three priorities right now?
26. Find a new prospective on a problem you face.
27. Be kind to yourself today. Remember progress takes time.
28. Ask yourself ‘will this still matter a year from now?’
29. Plan a fun or exciting activity to look forward to.
30. Identify three things that give you hope for the future.
31. Set a goal that brings a sense of purpose for the coming month.
RVRita , Roswell, NM
“There is no need for me to accept blame for another person’s irrational actions. I will deal with my own shortcomings.” ALANON’s One Day at a Time.4 -
I know I'm behind, but am trying to catch up again. So, if I answer or comment on something old, that's why.
Lanette-We've had a "smart" meter for many years. We don't notice a difference in our bill or anything from that. Our bill is crazy high because they keep raising the rates.
Also, what a great idea with the non-slip mats.
Machka-I had to giggle a little when you suggested to Margaret that she take public transport. Other than a few bigger cities in this country, public transport is generally terrible and not available at all in rural areas. We live in a big city and it is terrible here. What takes us 15 minutes to drive, takes 45-60 on the bus. Our trolley is only good for specific places and our train only works for commuters. It stops running around 8pm. Any of these options requires a longish (a mile) walk to the nearest stop, a drive to a parking lot (for the trolley or train) or a ride share to the stop. They are not reasonable options for many/most who could really benefit from public transport. What's even worse now is they are removing the parking at the trolley stops (to build yet more condos), so we cannot even drive to the stop and take it to places we otherwise would (stadiums/concerts/festivals, etc.).
Heather-Glad you're on the mend!
Annie-You are doing a great job with your parents. Hang in there.
Lisa-I'm envious of your sunroom. I am at the point where I really need a space that is 100% mine. My space now is also the guest room, so I give it up a lot. That's a big reason I am considering ditching the guest room.
Allie-There is no such thing as service anymore. I took my car in for the dealer to look at something and they let it sit in the lot for a week and didn't even get to it. It was going to take yet another week for them to look at it, so I reclaimed it. Fortunately, what I wanted them to look at became a non-issue.
Guess I better get back to work and house cleaning. More guests arrive tomorrow. *sigh*
Tina in CA
You are correct about no service! Remember when I had the ‘haunted/possessed/abducted radio? It took them 2 months to fix it. I am glad they gave me a good loaner in the meantime!
Allie, I hope you don’t min, but I ‘stole’ the picture you posted of dementia. I love it. Some of that I already do with my DH! Glad to see I am on the right track with him.
RVRita3 -
Public transportationis poor here. I have never lived where I could use public transportation. As I love the independence of driving, I don’t mind, but the cost of owning a vehicle is very high. I’m looking for somewhere I can walk to most everywhere I need to go, or have it delivered when we leave the park. Closer to town and public transportation would be great.
Budget Must be budget time! I have started my new spreadsheet for 2024 as well. My next step is to check on everything that comes out of bank automatically and reduce if I can. Audible being one of them. My husband and I have bad habit of buying wants whenever we want, which is bad and gets us in trouble all the time. I am needing to get a handle on this. If I do it for me, that will be half of the unnecessary spending next year. We started the year good last year, but slowly got a couple a credit cards and ended up right where we were last year. Bad habit that is really hard to break, especially when DH doesn’t think he does it and won’t admit he is half the problem with me being the other half. I can only change me and try to control his spending. (Mostly alcohol and soda to go with it).
And Today Is:
United Nations Day
World Development Information Day
World Polio Day
Food Day
Bologna Day
Kangaroo Awareness Day
Library Day
Independence Day (Zambia)
More info on Food Day in Spoiler:
RVRita, Roswell, NM🛸👽
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Budgeting: We were fairly prudent throughout the years, so have ample reserves for our needs, and occasional wants, and we both have a good private pension, plus our government PAYE pension. I keep track of my current accounts, DH manages his. We share household expenses, and each pay our own car expenses and insurance. We have free travel passes which cover all of Ireland, and make occasional trips to Dublin.
I pay minimal expenses (around £2 for 2 hours) for each of the groups I attend to cover rent and refreshments. All the groups are self-financing. We get preferential rates from our local council as we are educational and most of our members are seniors. The tutors are volunteer members like myself.
Like Heather,
We don't have streaming services as we use Freeview.
No medical insurance.
No car payments.
No gym. No subscriptions.
My daughter lives nearby and has Amazon Prime 😝
Monthly bills are utilities, and phone/Internet. Council tax is a big one. Oddly enough, our living expenses have stayed more or less the same, as we made some savings in our energy usage, were less wasteful with food purchases, and stopped buying a lot of expensive snacky foods.
☘️ Terri5 -
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Rita- no worries got it off Facebook of all places..
Tom still stuck down there forgot that GM is on strike and its a GM part that is needed ,but it has been shipped..
I say he could have flown home and flown back to pick his car up cheaper than staying 2 weeks in a hotel for goodness sakes but who am I to say.4 -
Yesterday started out really well- walked MIL's dog then we headed up to do my merchandising jobs. Even had time to stop in Rohnert Park to go to that Grocery Outlet-it is a really nice one.
Did both jobs then stopped in to see mom and have lunch with her. That was rushed which I wasn't happy about but was ok. Hit traffic coming back so took almost 2 hrs instead of 1 hr 15 min.
Got home and the new kitten was really sick-didn't think he would make it the 20min drive to emergency vet. Well, 6 hrs later, 11PM a vet finally sees him. Wants to run tests. Sends us home. I got 1 hr sleep when they called saying those tests were negative and they wanted another $1300(on top of the $800) for the other test and to admit him. We told them the cat is a feral we just brought in. We can't afford that.They said we could come back up in an hour and pick him up and bring him home. So we were up there to get him and got home at 4 AM- went back to sleep finally and awake at 7:30-going to be a long day- got one hour then 3hrs of sleep. I don't do well with that little of broken sleep.
Have to stay awake until the guy comes to fix our phone-it has been out a week or so.
May just take a nap(something I very rarely do. May also switch to coffee because I need something stronger than tea.
Good news is this morning when I went in to check on Koshu(he is isolated in our son's room) he got up and started eating what I gave him then went back to sleep. Will start his antibiotics at noon.
We were told they gave him the first dose up there but the records don't show any-just fluids, two pain meds and four tests. I am hoping they did give him a dose and just didn't record it.
Going to catch up on what everyone posted yesterday.
Debbie
Napa Valley,CA7 -
I have read through again, a lot to comment on but didn’t take notes.
I have been shuttling my cousin back and forth to the hospital and have classes so it’s been busy.
Her son had surgery on Saturday, a plate and two pins in his right hip and a plate and two pins in his left arm.
He will not be able to go home from the hospital until he can move himself about. Today he stood, took a couple of steps and sat on his own so hopefully another couple days.
He will not be able to put any weight on his right leg for 10 weeks. They told him he can’t even crush a grape or eggshell with it.
His income will be greatly reduced and his wife is on maternity leave. They are very fortunate that both sets of parents are in a position to help them.
I’ll be glad to get back to a normal routine.
Tracey in Edmonton
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UK ladies - what is a council tax? I have a hunch it's like property tax in the US that landowners have to pay whether the land has a residence or not. This tax pays for public safety and road/bridge construction/upkeep and schools. Ours have risen sharply in the past couple years as they are based on property value which has increased.
Lanette2 -
Hello ladies!
I had three vaccinations Monday, RSV and COVID and flu. So I am feeling sick today. I skipped visiting Mom. Tomorrow ought to be better.
Annie in Delaware5
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