WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR OCTOBER 2023

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  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,221 Member
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  • Anniesquats100
    Anniesquats100 Posts: 3,278 Member
    Heather another pretty painting! I like how the yellow accents make it cheerful.

    I got the electric bill paid. Yay! And put the whole thing on automatic deduction. Yay! My stress level is recovering. I can do without a lot of things, but I need power and Internet. And Teddy, who was barking at the unseen enemy that had me upset.

    Annie in Delaware

  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,288 Member
    I have 3 pictures for the ‘And Today Is:” post. I had to b/c it covered art, cooking, pizza, and eating sour foods! More effective in pictures! Enjoy your day! RVRits
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  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,073 Member
    Rita-God Bless you
    Annie- you got this..1 day at a time
    Well I got a call from Sean he probably won't be coming to lunch poor guy. With his eye the way it is he is prone to migraines which then makes him feel yucky all over.so I told him to lie down and I bought him thing you keep in the freezer and put over your head and eyes when a migraine comes on.6pcz6w6vzesy.jpg
    This pulls down over his eyes and helps with the migraines
  • SophieRosieMom
    SophieRosieMom Posts: 3,637 Member
    kevrit wrote: »
    Long post in spoiler logging my financial history. Skip if you like, but you can learn a lot about me by reading. Thanks for all your support and empathy. I love you ladies!
    My money management skills were pretty good until my first marriage. All the money I had saved went toward my diamond and wedding rings. Our income was doubled but so were expenses. Two years after marriage, I had had a miscarriage, then a live birth. We waited 4 years while we built a house before having another. We did but the last was a ‘surprise’. I was nursing the youngest at the time and didn’t expect to get pregnant. I just accepted it as Gods will. During this time, the house wasn’t finished as my then DH was doing everything himself. My MDD was born with dislocated hips and was prone to infections, lots of money went to doctors as well as the house. When my last was born, we were still dealing with the MDD’s health issues, then added me having to leave work at 5 months due to sciatica issues that made me fall from sudden pains. Working in a glass plant was dangerous, so falling was much more dangerous. So finances were stretched very quickly during that time. Jump ahead 10 years, we have things caught up, but divorce was happening due to his abuse. We had some money in the saving account, which he promptly took out when he got the papers. He also sold a motorcycle that was mine, he had his Harley, and kept that money too. So I was left with 3 small children a $1000 mortgage, no wood for the wood stove so electric flew up to $600 for one month (this was in mid 1980’s so add in inflation) which all I could not keep up, so fell behind. Started selling what I could. Met my second husband (married 5 years later) who didn’t make as much as my X did, but helped the best he could. I was so far behind at that time (add in lawyer costs, court costs, etc.) there was no catching up. Bankruptcy ensued and we moved to TN. The year of the move, we got married, I lost my job of 22 years due to the company closing, I had tendinitis surgery, and the bankruptcy went through. So moved to TN with no money a DH and 1 child. My oldest was 18 and went off by herself. My MDD chose to live with her dad (that is a whole other story). So I’ll stop there. Long story short, a move back to CT for more money, job loss there to a closing (again!) stuck with 2 houses, couldn’t sell the TN one and bankruptcy once again. Jump ahead once again and took early retirement. Was able to sell the TN house and only broke even. Sold the CT house and made a small profit which paid for the RV and paid off the car loan. Now, we are still playing catch-up from all that mess but treading water. No savings left but all bill accounted for. Not having any housing costs is really helping up get out from under.

    RVRita


    Rita - can we call you "The Come Back Kid?" Thank you for sharing your story. You show a lot of strength and perseverance that has brought you far. So glad you are with us in this group! <3

    Lanette B)
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,180 Member
    for those who are thinking about getting an air fryer, check this one out-
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    Start with a smaller, less expensive one to see if it is something you really will use and upgrade later if you want.
    If you are signed up with BeFrugal and go through their link it is a bit cheaper
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,221 Member
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  • kevrit
    kevrit Posts: 4,288 Member
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  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,776 Member
    exermom wrote: »
    Did the 20-40-60 workout on the treadmill then walked to Food Lion to get potatoes that are on sale for Vince for dinner, the guy who did the trimming of the bushes (I’d told him that for 2 years Vince has been saying “they need to be trimmed”, it never happened just like I predicted) and put down the mulch. Gardeners: Preen is stuff that deters weeds from growing but doesn’t hurt the plants, right? Because one thing I am OCD about is weeds. I see a weed and I have to pull it. So I’d rather put Preen down on the slope where he put down the mulch so weeds don’t grow. Then went to Aldi.

    Lisa – love what you’ve done with your craft area.

    Pip – you have the same popcorn maker that I have! I’m looking for an airfryer lid (just the lid) for the IP to give Jess for Christmas at a decent price. The only one I can find is on Amazon, and they’re asking $150. For a few more dollars, you can get a new IP. So I’ll just keep looking for one. Every place I’ve found they’re out of stock. Love the color of Lucy’s new collar

    Rebecca – poor Athena! That looks nasty. Hope she’s OK, I’m sure she is

    Lanette – Bryan just said that Leo eats a lot (like Bryan did) and giggles a lot. I’m hoping that being a parent he now realizes that it’s not a piece of cake. You try your best. I’m not getting my hopes up because like you said, I’ve been disappointed before and I don’t want it to happen again. Denise did text us a picture of PJ in his Spiderman costume. When we were there, he was watching a Spiderman show. Personally, I thought it was too violent for him at that age. But he’s not my child

    Kylia – so glad you found those keys

    Margaret – regarding your friend who needs to drink water: I find that if I eat something like popcorn or a protein pancake or dried chickpeas, that makes me want to drink. That’s nice of you to have her talk about other things besides her illness

    Annie (not Annie DE) – congrats on your new home

    Now for Annie DE – (((HUGS dear)))). You have so much on your plate. Glad you got your electric bill paid

    joyfulandactive – welcome! Glad to hear that your cancer is in remission. What kind of career are you training for? Many of us on this thread don’t do the “friend” thing, but we’re all friends checking in here. Glad to have you join us

    Allie – I had heard that eating ice cream helps with migraines. Don’t know since I’ve never had one (thank goodness). I think it has something to do with the “brain freeze”. Guess it couldn’t hurt to try…..lol Can you think of a better reason to have to eat ice cream???????

    Rita – you may fall down, but you always get right back up. So very proud to call you my friend

    At the gym I realized that I have coupons to use the Y for free. That’s where they have the olympic size pool and I used to take the deep water aerobics. I have to talk to the gal who is at the front desk (who used to let me go in for free before Covid) to see if these passes are still good.

    Maybe I’ll work on the kitchen towel for the lady who helped my father.

    Michele NC

    Yes she's fine now.💖👍🏼
    Rebecca
    Whidbey
    Wa
  • Whidislander
    Whidislander Posts: 3,776 Member
    edited October 2023
    Today was cookie making day for sons birthday present. I figured since we're down, we might as well bring him the cookies I normally make. They turned out well. Oatmeal with a broken up bar of Lilly's dark chocolate. I made 2 dozen.😁
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    Excited for this weekend.💖
    Rebecca
    Wa
  • dlfk202000
    dlfk202000 Posts: 3,180 Member
    Whidislander wrote: »
    Today was cookie making day for sons birthday present. I figured since we're down, we might as well bring him the cookies I normally make. They turned out well. Oatmeal with a broken up bar of Lilly's dark chocolate. I made 2 dozen.😁
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    Excited for this weekend.💖
    Rebecca
    Wa

    I just picked up some Lilly's white chocolate- I have never used the brand with less sugar- It was cheap (3/$1) want to try making some of our Christmas fudge with it.
    Is it any different than regular cho. when cooking with it?
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,221 Member
    exermom wrote: »
    Did the 20-40-60 workout on the treadmill then walked to Food Lion to get potatoes that are on sale for Vince for dinner, the guy who did the trimming of the bushes (I’d told him that for 2 years Vince has been saying “they need to be trimmed”, it never happened just like I predicted) and put down the mulch. Gardeners: Preen is stuff that deters weeds from growing but doesn’t hurt the plants, right? Because one thing I am OCD about is weeds. I see a weed and I have to pull it. So I’d rather put Preen down on the slope where he put down the mulch so weeds don’t grow. Then went to Aldi.

    Lisa – love what you’ve done with your craft area.

    Pip – you have the same popcorn maker that I have! I’m looking for an airfryer lid (just the lid) for the IP to give Jess for Christmas at a decent price. The only one I can find is on Amazon, and they’re asking $150. For a few more dollars, you can get a new IP. So I’ll just keep looking for one. Every place I’ve found they’re out of stock. Love the color of Lucy’s new collar

    Rebecca – poor Athena! That looks nasty. Hope she’s OK, I’m sure she is

    Lanette – Bryan just said that Leo eats a lot (like Bryan did) and giggles a lot. I’m hoping that being a parent he now realizes that it’s not a piece of cake. You try your best. I’m not getting my hopes up because like you said, I’ve been disappointed before and I don’t want it to happen again. Denise did text us a picture of PJ in his Spiderman costume. When we were there, he was watching a Spiderman show. Personally, I thought it was too violent for him at that age. But he’s not my child

    Kylia – so glad you found those keys

    Margaret – regarding your friend who needs to drink water: I find that if I eat something like popcorn or a protein pancake or dried chickpeas, that makes me want to drink. That’s nice of you to have her talk about other things besides her illness

    Annie (not Annie DE) – congrats on your new home

    Now for Annie DE – (((HUGS dear)))). You have so much on your plate. Glad you got your electric bill paid

    joyfulandactive – welcome! Glad to hear that your cancer is in remission. What kind of career are you training for? Many of us on this thread don’t do the “friend” thing, but we’re all friends checking in here. Glad to have you join us

    Allie – I had heard that eating ice cream helps with migraines. Don’t know since I’ve never had one (thank goodness). I think it has something to do with the “brain freeze”. Guess it couldn’t hurt to try…..lol Can you think of a better reason to have to eat ice cream???????

    Rita – you may fall down, but you always get right back up. So very proud to call you my friend

    At the gym I realized that I have coupons to use the Y for free. That’s where they have the olympic size pool and I used to take the deep water aerobics. I have to talk to the gal who is at the front desk (who used to let me go in for free before Covid) to see if these passes are still good.

    Maybe I’ll work on the kitchen towel for the lady who helped my father.

    Michele NC

    We bought that originally to take camping.
  • pipcd34
    pipcd34 Posts: 17,221 Member
    Stats for the day-

    Walk w/family- 2hrs 7min 30sec, 58elev, 2.88ap, 85ahr, 102mhr, 6.12mi= 552c
    Strava app = 750c
    Walk home to gym- 12.13min, .53mi= 55c
    Strava app= 66c
    Treadmill jog- 38.55min, 144ahr, 180mhr, 3mi @ 6.0sp, .50mi @ 6.4sp, 7.0 & 8.0 for last .50mi, 9.44min mi, 4mi= 400c
    Walk gym to home- 12.41min, .56mi= 62c
    Strava app= 69c

    Total cal 1069
  • CarolGaGal
    CarolGaGal Posts: 103 Member
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  • grandmallie
    grandmallie Posts: 10,073 Member
    Evening ladies
    Doris and I had a lovely time and we stopped at Ocean State job lot..got some markers and pens to try out..
    Poor Sean stayed home and rested today.. his only option is either have the eye removed and have a glass eye put in or wear an eye patch.. neither of which he ready for yet..
    Picked up a few non rawhide treats for Alfie and a new winter coat for him..
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,569 Member
    Anniesquats100 wrote: »
    My dad is driving me nuts again. His hearing aids are out so I can't wake him up without going in his bedroom. I thought we were going to town to pay the electric bill when they opened at 8:00. Now it's nine. If they shut off the power I will be so mad. I tried the doorbell which is very loud, but no response. His car is here, but if he walked he forgot his hearing aids and the checkbook.

    I don't mind doing the chores, it's the struggle for control or even just communication that gets me. I was mad at him yesterday because I was sick and couldn't visit Mom. He didn't go either, but he did go to McDonald's.

    And we missed the trash pickup yesterday. I feel like the house systems are falling apart, but that's not accurate.

    The stupid electric bill requires a PIN to get any info. And of course Dad doesn't have that. Such a mess.

    Annie in Delaware who is overreacting

    Can't you knock on his door, then after a moment, open and call him?

    In Australia, the rubbish gets picked up on the same day about 99% of the time. My husband was in charge of it, but when he was in hospital, I got it out there. Is yours more random?

    You might have to take over the house systems ... or post signs about them.

    M in Oz
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,569 Member
    barbiecat wrote: »
    On the subject of needing a husband to help make tough decisions.

    <3 Barbie in NW WA

    That's something I've never needed. Good thing too because I've been the main decision-maker for much/most of my life.


    M in Oz

  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,569 Member
    grandmallie wrote: »
    Rita- no worries got it off Facebook of all places..
    Tom still stuck down there forgot that GM is on strike and its a GM part that is needed ,but it has been shipped..
    I say he could have flown home and flown back to pick his car up cheaper than staying 2 weeks in a hotel for goodness sakes but who am I to say.

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    :)
  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,569 Member
    auntiebk wrote: »
    Biopsy came in basal cell. Could be way worse. Told Joe that between consultations, extractions, Mohs surgery, and possible implants I might as well move to Medford for the winter. :{

    Barbara, the Southern Oregon Coastie AHMOD

    Sorry! Where? Mine was on the tip of my nose.
    Implants?


    M in Oz

  • skuehn48
    skuehn48 Posts: 3,030 Member
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  • Machka9
    Machka9 Posts: 25,569 Member
    edited October 2023
    2023 Optimistic October

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    1. Write down three things you can look forward to this month.
    Daylight Savings Time!! - which occurred early in the morning of October 1.
    Spring's developments
    Thanksgiving

    2. Find something to be optimistic about (even if it’s a difficult time)
    There's lots to be optimistic about!
    Daylight in evenings so we can start exercising outdoors after work. :)
    Work going well. Finished that instruction manual and got myself in a good position to make improvements to the project I'm working on. :)
    Reading books. Colouring. Doing sudokus.
    Getting stuff done on my home computer.
    The garden!
    My family.

    3. Take a small step to a goal that really matters to you.
    Taking steps toward the "organise the house" project.

    4. Start the day with the most important thing on your to-do-list.
    I've actually done quite a few things already today. :)

    5. Be a realistic optimist. See life as it is but focus on what’s good.
    I'm definitely not a pure optimist. Too much has happened, especially in the last 5 years, for me to call myself an optimist, but there are a lot of good things going on too.

    6. Remind yourself that things can change for the better.
    I know!!

    7. Look for the good in people around you today.
    Most people have been really helpful and nice lately.

    8. Make some progress on a project or task you’ve been avoiding.
    Not quite yet. Maybe at some point next week.

    9. Share an important goal with someone you trust.
    I don't make a lot of goals these days.


    10. Take time to reflect on what you have accomplished recently.
    I've been reflecting on what I've accomplished over the past 5 years. I look back and wonder how I did it.

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    11. Avoid blaming yourself or others. Find a helpful way forward.
    It helps to try to look at things from other perspectives.

    12. Look out for positive news and reasons to be cheerful today.
    There's lots to be positive about. :) Loved Rita's post with a list of all our positive things. :)

    13. Ask for help to overcome an obstacle you are facing.
    Asking the pharmacist for a recommendation to overcome this allergic reaction?!?

    14. Do something constructive to improve a difficult situation
    One constructive thing I've done today is to wash my pillowcases to ensure they don't have any essential oil residue!!

    15. Thank yourself for achieving the things you often take for granted.
    Being able to drive when I need to.

    16. Put down your to-list and do something fun or uplifting.
    Cycling.
    Colouring.
    Reading.

    17. Take a small step toward a positive change you want to see in society.
    Quietness.

    18. Set hopeful, but realistic goals for the days ahead.
    Oh yeah. :)

    19. Identify one of your positive qualities that will be helpful in the future.
    More tenacity

    20. Find joy in tackling a task you’ve put off for some time.
    Emails.

    21. Let go of the expectations of others and focus on what matters to you.
    I don't worry much about what others expect of me.

    22. Share a hopeful quote, picture, or video with a friend or colleague
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    23. Recognize that you have a choice of what to prioritize.
    Absolutely!!
    1. Sleep. Cool. Quiet. Comfy.

    24. Write down three specific things that have gone well recently.
    Lots of sleep
    Read 3 books, done 2.5 colourings
    Family

    25. You can’t do everything! What are three priorities right now?
    Family
    Work
    I'm not sure I have a 3rd priority at the moment!!


    26. Find a new prospective on a problem you face.
    31. Be kind to yourself today. Remember progress takes time.
    32. Ask yourself ‘will this still matter a year from now?’
    33. Plan a fun or exciting activity to look forward to.
    34. Identify three things that give you hope for the future.
    35. Set a goal that brings a sense of purpose for the coming month.

    Machka in Oz
  • TerriRichardson112
    TerriRichardson112 Posts: 18,974 Member
    Feeling slothful 🦥 today 😝

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