At what age should you fly the nest?

twinketta

In your opinion, what is the age that you think you should move out of the parental home and do your own thing?

I know that most times money will be a problem because you can not fund a place of your own....

,,,but let us suppose that you had the money and opportunity to move out of the parental home...would you stay or would you go and what age do you think is right?

Maybe you are a parent and you do not want your kids to leave?

TheSlorax

I moved out the first opportunity I got which was 20 years old. In my opinion kids shouldn't leave home until they are 100% financially independent. Otherwise it's pointless. Going away for school doesn't really count either, unless you're working and supporting yourself.

twinketta

Had to look him up on wikipedia lol

whierd

If you go from HS to college, then after you finish your degree and get fulltime employment.

If you do not, then it depends.

RunWinterGarden

When you finish your education, whether that be high school or bachelors degree. I'm fine with grad school if you are doing something that you need a PHD for (lawyer, doctor, etc...)

ostrichagain

I left as soon as I was 18. My sister was an emancipated minor. We were all pretty excited to get OUT. At that point I had been working since I was 16, owned my car and had enough saved for a deposit in an apartment. BUT, I had been told from about the time I was 12 that I would be evicted when I turned 18.

My parents believe in the sparrow method.

I want my kid to go to college and I would support them in that. I they are working and living at home, I would expect them to pay something in rent.

MommyisFit

I moved out at 17. I know grown men in their 30's that still live at home. I think it really depends on the person and their maturity levels and finances. Now as a mom, I wouldn't want my child to move out too early!

fitmomhappymom

I moved out at 17(alone), had a child at 20, bought my own house at 21(alone). I'm now 27 and I could never move back in with my parents. I was always independent and wanted to make my own rules.
I think it depends on the person though. If my son wanted to move out at 17 I would freak.I think its normal for women to want to get out of dodge ASAP though, you can't have 2 grown women in a house together. There can't be 2 queens of the castle.

Miepke99

I moved out at 17 as well. My sister is 20 and still lives at home. I guess the time is right when you feel ready, really... I don't think there's a specific age limit on moving out.

lisapr123

I finished high school at 18....got my associates degree and my first "real job" at 20. Bought my own house that year too. I was lucky enough to find work with a good company that paid for my Bachelors degree. Now I'm 35 and our mortgage is almost paid off.

I know I did things a little early, but if the young adult is financially educated I see no reason they can't do something similar.

Most of my cousins/siblings finished school (college, for most of them) and moved out within a year or so. The last couple yrs have been tougher in terms of finding stable employment, but they've made it work.

Pixi_Rex

I moved out at 17, I had a job, a car and an apartment that I rented alone.

Val_from_OH

I think that during college kids should start living on their own (i.e. get an apartment with friends), maybe with some financial support from the parents. After that, its time to fly baby! I don't know how I will feel if my children graduate college and are unable to find employment. My sister and I had both started our careers by the time we graduated.

TheRealParisLove

I was 13 the first time I moved away from home. I worked as a nanny (with the parents in the house. This was a very large family) in exchange for room and board. I went home about 6 weeks later because I got tired of all the kids. My family was going through a rough time when I did this. My parents eventually divorced when I was 15, but the tension in the home was very high a couple of years before they decided to divorce. This is why I chose to leave for a while. I needed a break from all the hot tempers and mean words.

I moved out for good when I was 18. I did live with my mom for about 3 months when I was 21 due to a relationship breakup, but I only stayed long enough to find an affordable apartment. I paid my mom rent while I stayed at her place.

branson101

I moved out when I went to college and moved around a bit. I moved back in with my mother after my dad died and I filed for divorce from my husband. She needed company and I needed her support. I am still there 14 years later. I've raised my son in a stable household and was able to finish my education. Now she is aging and I intend to be there for her. I hate the way the most of America has this mindset that if you don't live apart from your parents you are some kind of loser. I've seen many cultures where multiple generations living together is the norm and expected. Move out only if you really want to and its the right thing to do, not because society tells you that you just have to! And remember all the times that your parents took care of you as you were growing up with emotional support and fixing your boo-boos and caring for you when you were sick and choose to do the same for them. I didn't get that chance with my father and I will regret that for the rest of my life.

75in2013

Depends on where in the world you live.

kt_kat_88

I moved out when I was 20 when I got a full time job. A year and a half later, I decided to go to college. So I moved back home because with full-time work and school, it didn't make since to have a place if I was never home. Plus it majorly help out my mom financially. I'm 25 now and just graduated last May. Officially today I am telling my mom that I am moving back out. Wish me luck.

I also have a brother and sister, 18 and 27 who still live at home as well

Otterluv

My 19yo son is still living with us. He is going to college locally, and it would be silly for him (or us) to spend money to for him to live separately. Rents in the area are fairly high, and the rental vacancy rates are incredibly low. There are chore expectations for him, but other than that we treat him like the adult he is and don't tell him what to do.

If he plays his cards right and lives at home until he graduates, he could graduate with very little debt. Giving up some freedom now for financial freedom later is a good trade off, IMO.

Ed98043

I don't think there's any certain age to move out because everyone's circumstances are different. But at some point it becomes a sponging off your parent(s) situation and it's time to grow up and become self-supportive. If you're an adult living with your parent(s) and aren't at least working toward something that will make you financially independent, then something's wrong.

darkguardian419

I moved out when I was 15. My kids will have a better home than me, and an opportunity to live at home and go to college (on my dime) but they will be working and paying their bills to include groceries, cell phone, car insurance, and RENT. However... if they choose to sit around and not achieve anything, they'll be out the day they graduate highschool.

This is definitely something that depends entirely on the individual and their situation...

Faery_Dust

I moved out at 15yrs old. I was in a relationship with someone older than me who had his own place. I was a nightmare teenager lol.