WOMEN AGES 50+ FOR AUGUST 2024

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Anniesquats100 wrote: »

Lisa my hunger hormones are broken. I had a big meal two hours ago, and (because I'm facing a chore outside my comfort zone) I have been back in the kitchen three times looking for comfort or something. I finally made iced tea which ought to fill me up and give me a little caffeine attitude boost. It's low calorie comfort.

I learned to finish my plate as a child. And overeating was how we celebrated holidays. So either I never had proper hunger signals or I learned to override them.

Now I have to go plug in this trickle charger that I have been fussing about all week. It shouldn't be hard at all, but I guess I have a fear of car batteries like my fear of snakes and heights and all kinds of risky things.

Annie in Delaware

I am usually good until I have something to eat-break that fast and I am hungry for most of the day unless I can stay super busy so I don't think about it.
Yesterday, I didn't eat anything until 6:30PM- that was not planned and I was hungry the four hours before that but was at the hospital waiting room or taking MIL back home then feeding the cats-then I got to eat.
My normal is to not eat until noon or a little later-just have my tea(no sugar/cream or anything added) all morning.
I can go to a buffet, eat and feel the same as when i went in.
I am very methodical when I eat at the buffets- Chinese: sushi first but only eat the filling, not the rice(which drives dh crazy), then just veggies, then meats-usually chicken and fish-then fruit and a tiny dessert, especially if they have the coffee mousse cake-one piece 2"square.
Regular buffet is pretty much the same-just no sushi. Start with the salad bar-get a huge salad, then veggies then meats, again, mainly chicken.
When we go out, I usually eat half my meal and bring the other half home- I am content, not over full that way BUT two hours later, I am feeling so hungry.
I can not sleep if I am hungry. My go to is a spoon full of peanut butter right before bed. Keeps me full for the night. If I wake up in the middle of the night, feeling hungry, I have to get up and grab a few crackers or something or I can't get back to sleep.

Debbie

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exermom wrote: »

Did Upper and Lower Body Boot Camp DVD today then walked to Food Lion to get potatoes (on sale), kiwi, then decided that I wanted peaches (I like the ones they have).

Came home and made cabbage soup (cabbage was on sale for 49 cents/pound so we’re eating coleslaw and I made soup), some sandwiches to take in the car to Denise’s and wrapped some trucks to give to PJ. See, we have some old Hess trucks and a few were still in the box. I just wrapped them up. At 5, he doesn’t care that they’re old, he just likes “things” (probably got that from mom). I’m going to put them in a toybox with a lid, Pete will probably like the fact that the toys are out of sight. Then we cleaned the kitties litter box (we have to dump the litter out as we're using the nonclumping kind right now), vacuumed and swept the floor.



Lisa – I like thrift stores for the same reason as you, you never know what you’ll find. Unfortunately, I can’t seem to get to them much lately. As you know, I used to always go to the Salvation Army but now that they open so late, I can’t make it. It seems the only time I get to go is if I can go with Vince to his allergy shots. But that’s the day I’m usually at the soup kitchen. Vince doesn’t like to go in, either. What is it with guys? I find hunger feeling to be a feeling of emptiness in my stomach. Unfortunately, I know that I tend to be a boredom eater



Nite all.

Michele NC

We used a bag of the non clumping litter(it was given to me)-do not like it. Not only does it not clump but doesn't keep the smell down- With 10 cats using the litter boxes(we have 8 total), we need stuff that is easy to clean and keeps the smell down.

Dh is the odd one- he LOVES shopping.
As soon as he gets out of the shower(after being at his mom's for two nights without getting a shower, he really wanted a long one) We are going to Black Friday(Amazon return place)- He wants something close to our "normal" routine after being there with her. Yep, just about every Monday, after we go to his mom's-he takes care of her and I walk the dog, we go to Black Friday- Monday, everything is $2. Then we will go to Grocery Outlet.
We need to get some lunch- he hasn't eaten any real food and very few snacks(his mom doesn't want him to eat any of her food plus he lost his appetite-) Not good for a diabetic.
The only real time we spend together is going out shopping. He has always loved shopping- buying stuff. He has no interest in any of the other things I like- walking, class, gardening, church, cooking and eating at home.

Debbie

LisaInArkansas

Allie - Hope the rains haven't been too hard on your area. Thinking about you. Whatever happened with your brother? You didn't say anything else about the divorce. Hope all's well.

Walmart and a long nap got my head back on straight. Time to get my weekly chores finished.

Love y'all!
Lisa in AR

cityjaneLondon

I've booked a hair trim for tomorrow morning, and, because I am meeting G at the fish restaurant for lunch, I am actually going to treat myself to a blow-dry instead of my usual wet-cut.

John made the fabulous fish pie for dinner. It truly is a wonderful thing. A lot of work, which is why I let him make it.

We had broccoli with it.

Much love, Heather UK xxxxxxxx

SophieRosieMom

MFP Weekly Check-In August 19, 2024

Rita in Roswell, NM - Up 3 pounds from last week. Has to be water from the antibiotic as I haven’t changed the way I eat or exercise. But still down from 186 to 173 today so still going the right way! I will “Never give up! Never surrender!” To my weight!!

Debbie in Napa Valley CA - finally checking in-missed a few weeks. Weight- 148.6 Down a pound since last weigh in but a bit more than it was before that.

Evelyn on Vancouver Island - Down 1 pound from last week! Hope everyone has a great week!

Lanette SW WA State – weight remaining fairly stable, down 1/2#. Have lost an inch at my waist and inch at my hips in the past 3 months. Exercise plan working fine (some walking, elliptical, farmer’s walk with 8# weights a couple times a week.)

pipcd34

Stats for the day-

Walk w/family- 2hrs 7min 40sec, 54elev, 2.90ap, 84ahr, 141mhr, 6.17mi= 567c
Strava app = 748c
Walk home to gym- 11.11min, 2.79ap, .52mi= 51c
Strava app = 64c
Slow Treadmill jog- 46.25min, 5.2sp, 11.37min mi, 160spm, 132ahr, 148mhr, 4mi= 435c
Elliptical machine- 12.07min, 8incl, 8resist, 122ahr, 148mhr, 1mi= 101c
Walk gym to store then hair salon- 17.40min, 10elev, 3.58ap, 107ahr, 129mhr, 1.06mi= 107c
Strava app = 128c
Walk salon to home- 8.04min, 2.78ap, .37mi= 42c
Strava app= 45c

Total cal 1303

I wish the MS ride and half marathon weren’t so close together. I don’t know why I put myself through this. Did a 4mi jog today at the gym but I’m not training nearly as good as I should for that run. I put pressure on myself to stay close to the top on my riding, still 1st place for the females. I am doing this to myself, I know it.

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OregonMother wrote: »

Kim -- I'm so sorry about your mom's abuse. Parents, more than anyone else, should love their children unconditionally. I think you're amazing, and we all love you here.

Rebecca -- hugs to you. I'm sorry you're feeling vulnerable. And you have me worried. Are you anticipating needing assistance soon?

I'm sad to hear of the disordered eating patterns so many of us were raised with or developed. It's a long going topic of conversation in this house. As we identify unhealthy patterns, my husband and I discuss it and share with the kids when appropriate.

Striking the balance between food as fuel, which it is, and food for enjoyment, which it can also be, can be difficult.

Take care, everyone!

Flea
Willamette Valley OR

No I'm not. I just worry for the future sometimes.
Rebecca
Whidbey
Wa

exermom

Tracey and M – I took the pepperoni off the pizza because Vince says he doesn’t like pepperoni. If he knew it was on the pizza, he wouldn’t have eaten it. Really, there was nothing wrong with the pizza. I just took it off so he wouldn’t see it.

Tracey -The peaches were $2.99 a pound

One reason I don’t eat the same thing day after day is because different foods have different nutrients in them and I want to be sure that I’m getting all the nutrients. Vince could eat the same thing day after day

Rosemarie – when we first moved to this house, we also had mattresses on the floor. But it was a blessing in disguise because we got Lexi who had the dislocated hip and couldn’t jump onto a bed so she could just walk onto the mattress.

Debbie – no, I don’t like the non-clumping litter either. But at one point Yoda was eating the litter and the clumping – well, you know what would have happened

Michele NC
ceramics tonight

Vickil57

cityjaneLondon

I texted my DDIL and we've arranged to have Max over on Wednesday afternoon for a couple of hours, and the girls on Friday afternoon for a few hours. Hooray!
They are off on holiday on Sunday. I hate it when the whole family is up in the sky together. Can't rest until I know the plane has landed.

Love to all, Heather UK xxxxxxxx

Whidislander

LisaInArkansas wrote: »

Heather - Love the dahlias!

Rebecca, darlin' - Just all the hugs in the world. These manly men's whole worlds wobble when we aren't on an even keel (ha! Navy joke.🤪). Thinking about you both.

Kylia - Simple is almost always better. Extra words have a habit of taking meaning and shredding it beyond recognition. You're on the right track. Trust your instincts.

Just squirreling all over the place, going from one distraction to the next. I think I'll go down to Walmart and get that over with. Try to settle to one thing when I get back.

Later,
Love,
Lisa

Hugs friend!💖

dlfk202000

margaretturk wrote: »

Carol I believe being mindful of what you are eating now will improve your knee.

I have also told the story about my sister who died at 59 of cancer that tomorrow was when she would start to take care of herself. She didn't get her tomorrow! Today is the day to start! She so wanted a new body... She did not get it was her job to create that new body because you only get one! Your body is your home. How do you want to take care of it? I want to take care of mine with love! So I ask myself do these foods respect and treat my body with love or do they support someone else's agenda? Fortunately many of the foods that love me taste great!

Protect the liver (from too much insulin) and feed the gut (with fiber).

that reminds me of what I tell people about, if you get the feeling you should call someone, don't put it off- do it, You, or they, may not have that tomorrow. I learned this the hard way with my best friend from 5th grade- we did everything together from that day on, including college major, teaching preschool then doing daycare. I was going to call her one day but decide to wait until the next day because her husband liked to listen in to our conversations and he would be at work the next day. Early the next morning, my other best friend called and told me Laurie had passed away the night before. 38yrs old. I never got to have that conversation with her. She would have turned 62 last month. Still miss her. She has missed out on so much, leaving three young kids who now have kids of their own, a few of them are older than her kids were when she died.

If you have that feeling of I need to talk to a certain person, please don't put it off- have regrets later.

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1948CWB wrote: »

Debbie: Is there any way y'all could move her to assisted living? You might have to sell her house to do so but at least you and husband might have some peace.

Carol in GA

we have been looking into it.
She doesn't NEED much help- she can cook for herself, showers, etc. She just wants the company and want someone to wait on her.
Our biggest fear is that we sell her house in order to put her in a assisted living place, she gets obnoxious and they kick her out or she decides she doesn't like it(because they are not treating her like she is the only one and they re there to wait on her every wish.- where would she go?? Not moving in with us. She can put this sweet old lady act on as long as she is getting the attention she wants but IF/WHEN you don't, you pay for it, or at least she tries really hard to get to you.
Eventually we may have to put her in one but she won't be able to leave if she doesn't like it or they kick her out because there will be no place to go to.
Right now, if we can hire help to come in, mainly for company but do light housekeeping so she doesn't have to do it, it will be for the best all around. Give dh a break, she gets to stay in her home, that is totally paid for with all her stuff and her dog and it doesn't use up all her savings in just 2 yrs(that is about how long her saving will last with the cost of assisted living care here)
The biggest thing is to give dh a break and for him to take that time . Not just sit there fighting/yelling/cussing at her.

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OregonMother wrote: »

Kim -- I'm so sorry about your mom's abuse. Parents, more than anyone else, should love their children unconditionally. I think you're amazing, and we all love you here.



Flea
Willamette Valley OR

I think this is a huge struggle with dh right now. He knows his mom doesn't love him, never wanted him, and has treated him like that all his life. Now, he is the only one around to take care of her-out of obligation-but it is done with nothing more that anger and bitterness. He wasn't shown love so in turn he doesn't and doesn't seem to notice that he isn't showing it(except to the cats)
He was told when he was 14yrs old that she wanted to get an abortion but she was too far along.
Last week she calmly said she never wanted him. Wasn't while they were fighting so saying it in anger. Just very matter of fact.

grandmallie

Had a long post and poof!
Will probably end up watching the new little one 3 days a week as Josie can only watch her mondays and fridays
Haven't heard much from my brother but divorce is still on,but he can't talk much because Jean has ears.

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SophieRosieMom

I think this is a huge struggle with dh right now. He knows his mom doesn't love him, never wanted him, and has treated him like that all his life. Now, he is the only one around to take care of her-out of obligation-but it is done with nothing more that anger and bitterness. He wasn't shown love so in turn he doesn't and doesn't seem to notice that he isn't showing it(except to the cats)
He was told when he was 14yrs old that she wanted to get an abortion but she was too far along.
Last week she calmly said she never wanted him. Wasn't while they were fighting so saying it in anger. Just very matter of fact.

Debbie, that is just so, so sad. I'm crossing fingers that a caregiver/companion type person can be hired with skills to draw the line with MIL and help stop the abuse. MIL definitely has some mental issues going on that your DH isn't equipped to handle.

Maybe an experienced older nurse or CNA that has worked with older folks with anger/dementia issues and is savvy enough to get the upper hand. We can hope, right?

Hang in there.

Lanette

SophieRosieMom

It's been a long day.

Made an early morning shopping trip - got most of the stops made that were on my list, including an appointment for the Subaru which is going in tomorrow morning for oil change and to check up on that teeny oil leak.

Then in late morning, neighbor Roger came over to scope out the leaking garbage disposal. Took some measurements, said he'd make a run to Home Depot and be back this afternoon.

He arrived at around 2, and by 3 the garbage disposal was removed and a regular drain was installed.

Glad it's done. Now I get the opportunity to go through the cleaning supplies and garbage bag collection that were stored under the sink - haven't decluttered that area in a long time, so it's overdue.

Lanette
SW WA State

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Heather - that’s good news if your knee is going to be good. I know when my hip was bad I overcompensated and hurt everything else.
Great job on maintaining the weight.
I love your flower arrangement.

Lisa - I too have ignored my floors. One reason for me is I really dislike my mop! I should just buy a new one.

Annie - I have to say that even people with lots of family even close family can still end up alone. My poor Mom hardly sees any family member. I feel bad about it but there is nothing I can do to fix it. I am too far away and my brother doesn’t stop in to see her.
How nice that your dad just knew, your calendar is helping him.

Kylia - I took a screenshot of your leadership page. Lots to think about on there.

Carol - isn’t it awful how one tiny comment, that your husband probably doesn’t even remember making, ruled your life for so long.
I am not the biggest Dr. Phil fan in the world but I saw on one of his shows one time “it takes a thousand atta girls to make up for one negative comment”. I truly believe that.
I can remember with vivid clarity the few negative things in my life my dad or anyone has said to me, and I struggle to remember good ones.

Debbie - Did your MIL know you were talking to agencies about a caretaker? Is that why she is hurt all of a sudden?
I feel so bad for you and your DH. I struggle with feeling bad for him with the way he treats you, but he shouldn’t be treated that way either.

Flea - “Striking the balance between food as fuel, which it is, and food for enjoyment, which it can also be, can be difficult”
I so agree! I found quitting smoking easier than losing weight.

Rosemarie - thank you! I did call for a quote last year and was quoted $1000. In the end I’m so glad I did it myself. As I was sanding and working on it I thought it was pretty cool that the only people to work on it was my great grandfather, my dad and I.
I too miss swimming. Our local pool is closing this next week until mid September for its yearly maintenance and cleaning, I’m thinking I’ll start going again when it opens.

Michele - that makes sense now. I am fussy about my pepperoni, I don’t like overly spicy.

Lanette - busy day but that must feel nice having the garbage disposal taken care of.

I had a great first day. Everyone seems so pleasant and helpful. When I was off with a couple of staff members alone they told me how much they enjoyed working there rather than to run like the old place. 😂
It’s an old building and they have some construction going on from a pipe that burst this winter. Of course, that repair opened up a whole host of others.
I’m not sure yet where my office will be or if it will be in the reception area. She is thinking of making some changes, but hasn’t decided yet. I really hope that I am somewhere else it’s a very loud area to be in as the lounge for the residents is right there and the tv is on all day. I think the learning curve will be small as I remember a lot.

I woke up at 3am this morning and the nerves settled in so I ended up not sleeping well the rest of the night. I didn’t take a lunch today, I wasn’t sure what I had for a lunch break or anything so I ended up at McDonald’s. I won’t make that a habit! I did take a little walk too. I get either 2 15 minute breaks and a half hour lunch or an hour lunch. I think I’ll take the one hour for the most part and then I can come home for lunch. It would give me the opportunity to take something out for supper, maybe do dishes or something and not cost money. I don’t really like taking lunches.

Well I’m off to bed. I’m very sleepy tonight.
Tracey in Edmonton