Female users with 'mommy' or 'wifey' in name

polarsjewel

<< knows her place

JustAboutDelicious_wechanged

I'm going to change mine to "NormInvsWoman"...now you want a sammich?

MB_Positif

Just for the record, EccentricDad is still here. I was missing his antics so I searched his username...still here. Go read his "About Me"

To respond to the OP. I belong to the tribe of the Positif, a very elite group of the awesomest of the awesome.

_Emma_Problema_

How do you feel about that? I am not sure how I feel. Why cant a woman be her own person on a fitness website? Why does she have to define herself as a mommy or a wifey? I dont see any daddios or hubbies!

I'm with you on that one, but I'm afraid all the Jared'sMommy234's will swarm and get angry.

I think maybe people have no imaginations. I hate to think that they really do need to define themselves by men. I don't really have any on my FL, but not for that reason. I think a lot of those types don't particularly flock to a profile like mine. Don't get me wrong, I have tons of friends who are awesome moms and are super proud of their kids and post about them. And that's totally cool. But I think it's a bit reflective of the loveliness of patriarchy when people define their online selves by their kids/husbands.

But how is this any different from identifying themselves by food, sex, or television? If they enjoy those roles enough to identify with them, it could simply be a reflection of their enjoyment of those roles as opposed to a specific ideology. My name has squat to do with Catholicism, any feelings or beliefs about actual nuns, or even about the character in the book/movie I took it from.

I think the point of the post was about the popularity of these usernames and the reflection it has on society. There are more ____'s mom and Mrs.____ names than names about paternal roles or roles as a husband.

And yeah, you can define yourself as you like. But wouldn't UpperMiddleClassWhiteWoman say something about how I saw myself, especially in relation to the world around me? It's not about what you "like", it's about how you identify. And making the most obvious aspect of your identity being your role as a mom or wife says something about how you choose to identify yourself - through a man.

_EndGame_

I'm not too sure.

Perhaps the people who use names like that, are the kinda people that wouldn't shut the hell up in real life about their kids. You know the kind.

NormInv

I'm going to change mine to "NormInvsWoman"...now you want a sammich?

pure love for you

Alluminati

NormInv

LOL

MommaChocoLatte

I personally dont care one way or the other. Mine isnt really because Im a mom per se. I have a friend who calls me Momma just because Im a girl lol. I call all my close girlfriends Momma whether they have kids or not.

This username in particular was given to me by one of my son's a few yrs back mainly because I like chocolate. He thought was being cute putting an emphasis on the ending of chocolate.. now it just reminds me of Starbucks so it kind of stuck. Partially it is because I am a mom but not solely.

makenoexcuses

I don't personally mind it but I can see why some users find it annoying.

Being a mom or someone's wife does not really define who you are as a person -- or well it shouldn't.

FlaxMilk

You really can't compare the achievement of being a PhD to being a mom.

Can't agree with that, unless of course you are not good at being a mom or dad. The average mom will put more blood, sweat, tears, pain, fear, time, and money into raising a child than someone will getting a PhD. I'm not saying one is better or the other. I believe people should put their energy where they are best suited. But I strongly believe that being a good parent is an amazing achievement. I have the utmost respect for good parents, because so much of their lives are now defined by the needs of another person.

People have pets' names as screen names too. I have my pets' names as other screen names, because it makes me happy to think of them. My pets may be in charge, but they are not the patriarchy either, and I know who I am as a woman, an employee, a wife, a friend, a daughter.

NormInv

I personally dont care one way or the other. Mine isnt really because Im a mom per se. I have a friend who calls me Momma just because Im a girl lol. I call all my close girlfriends Momma whether they have kids or not.

This username in particular was given to me by one of my son's a few yrs back mainly because I like chocolate. He thought was being cute putting an emphasis on the ending of chocolate.. now it just reminds me of Starbucks so it kind of stuck. Partially it is because I am a mom but not solely.

Women should not call each other momma, I think.

lilbearzmom

When I became a mom, I did become someone else. I didn't lose my identity entirely, but I was not the person I was before my child, I am lots of things, but being a mom is my most important job and forever will be.

Mother_Superior

How do you feel about that? I am not sure how I feel. Why cant a woman be her own person on a fitness website? Why does she have to define herself as a mommy or a wifey? I dont see any daddios or hubbies!

I'm with you on that one, but I'm afraid all the Jared'sMommy234's will swarm and get angry.

I think maybe people have no imaginations. I hate to think that they really do need to define themselves by men. I don't really have any on my FL, but not for that reason. I think a lot of those types don't particularly flock to a profile like mine. Don't get me wrong, I have tons of friends who are awesome moms and are super proud of their kids and post about them. And that's totally cool. But I think it's a bit reflective of the loveliness of patriarchy when people define their online selves by their kids/husbands.

But how is this any different from identifying themselves by food, sex, or television? If they enjoy those roles enough to identify with them, it could simply be a reflection of their enjoyment of those roles as opposed to a specific ideology. My name has squat to do with Catholicism, any feelings or beliefs about actual nuns, or even about the character in the book/movie I took it from.

because people dont lose their identity to a show, food etc... they do lose their identity to people.

Are you sure? I didn't lose my identity when I married my wife. I added another aspect to it, as did she. Obviously our relationships change us, but so what? That doesn't mean we've lost our identities. They're changed by that as much as they are changed by jobs, hobbies and anything else. Can someone chose to lose their identity to a spouse or child? Sure, but that's not always the case, and it seems a bit silly to me that we could presume it to automatically be so based on no more than their profile name.

Tessyloowhoo

I would much rather have an "awesome_strong_mummy" on my friends list than an "ana_smokes_&_dietcokes"... just sayin

Deipneus

I can honestly say I've never thought about this before this thread

You need to get out more bro!

Get out more? I'd have to be smoking pot to come up with a question like this.

NormInv

Just for the record, EccentricDad is still here. I was missing his antics so I searched his username...still here. Go read his "About Me"

To respond to the OP. I belong to the tribe of the Positif, a very elite group of the awesomest of the awesome.

10/10 would hang!

NormInv

I can honestly say I've never thought about this before this thread

You need to get out more bro!

Get out more? I'd have to be smoking pot to come up with a question like this.

Is it legal in SC?

Laces_0ut

How do you feel about that? I am not sure how I feel. Why cant a woman be her own person on a fitness website? Why does she have to define herself as a mommy or a wifey? I dont see any daddios or hubbies!

I'm with you on that one, but I'm afraid all the Jared'sMommy234's will swarm and get angry.

I think maybe people have no imaginations. I hate to think that they really do need to define themselves by men. I don't really have any on my FL, but not for that reason. I think a lot of those types don't particularly flock to a profile like mine. Don't get me wrong, I have tons of friends who are awesome moms and are super proud of their kids and post about them. And that's totally cool. But I think it's a bit reflective of the loveliness of patriarchy when people define their online selves by their kids/husbands.

But how is this any different from identifying themselves by food, sex, or television? If they enjoy those roles enough to identify with them, it could simply be a reflection of their enjoyment of those roles as opposed to a specific ideology. My name has squat to do with Catholicism, any feelings or beliefs about actual nuns, or even about the character in the book/movie I took it from.

because people dont lose their identity to a show, food etc... they do lose their identity to people.

Are you sure? I didn't lose my identity when I married wife. I added another aspect to it, as did she. Obviously our relationships change us, but so what? That doesn't mean we've lost our identities. They're changed by that as much as they are changed by jobs, hobbies and anything else. Can someone chose to lose their identity to a spouse or child? Sure, but that's not always the case, and it seems a bit silly to me that we could presume it to automatically be so based on no more than their profile name.

did i say you did? i believe the OP is talking about the cases where people do lose their identity to another person.

wild_wild_life

How do you feel about that? I am not sure how I feel. Why cant a woman be her own person on a fitness website? Why does she have to define herself as a mommy or a wifey? I dont see any daddios or hubbies!

I'm with you on that one, but I'm afraid all the Jared'sMommy234's will swarm and get angry.

I think maybe people have no imaginations. I hate to think that they really do need to define themselves by men. I don't really have any on my FL, but not for that reason. I think a lot of those types don't particularly flock to a profile like mine. Don't get me wrong, I have tons of friends who are awesome moms and are super proud of their kids and post about them. And that's totally cool. But I think it's a bit reflective of the loveliness of patriarchy when people define their online selves by their kids/husbands.

But how is this any different from identifying themselves by food, sex, or television? If they enjoy those roles enough to identify with them, it could simply be a reflection of their enjoyment of those roles as opposed to a specific ideology. My name has squat to do with Catholicism, any feelings or beliefs about actual nuns, or even about the character in the book/movie I took it from.

I think the point of the post was about the popularity of these usernames and the reflection it has on society. There are more ____'s mom and Mrs.____ names than names about paternal roles or roles as a husband.

And yeah, you can define yourself as you like. But wouldn't UpperMiddleClassWhiteWoman say something about how I saw myself, especially in relation to the world around me? It's not about what you "like", it's about how you identify. And making the most obvious aspect of your identity being your role as a mom or wife says something about how you choose to identify yourself - through a man.

I agree with this. But it's no surprise. That's how society is, MFP is no different.

What I don't understand is how everyone seemed to know you were supposed to pick a cool user name. When I joined I thought it was just the name you signed in with. Still trying to figure out what to change it to, unfortunately I don't really identify with anything...

MommaChocoLatte

Edit: forgot to hit quote

"Women should not call each other momma, I think."


Thats your opinion. For me and my close friends, it's a term of endearment.

sophiemama

My daughter's name is Sophie so I'm Sophiemama why? because I tried about 50 different variations on here with my name and it didn't work! My name is Amber, guess how many Amber's there are!? A lot! ehh I love being a mommy, I'm not sure why it matters.

BinaryPulsar

I just changed my name for this thread. I am feeling very subservient now. Thank you.

:laugh: I like it!

My husband once joked about joining mfp just to respond to someone and he said he would need a name that went with mine, so he was thinking either: Massive Gravitational Field (you know, to go along with Binary Pulsar) or just BinaryPulsar'sHusband.

salladeve

Oh my that is really funny! how would you like to be that guy?

SkimFlatWhite68

It doesn't bother me at all. Different things mean different things to different people.

For example - in Australia - "Norm" is a big fat lazy bloke. There's no way I'd have Norm in my user name on a fitness site, but to you OP, it is probably your name, or means something else entirely.

Each to their own!!

FlaxMilk

And yeah, you can define yourself as you like. But wouldn't UpperMiddleClassWhiteWoman say something about how I saw myself, especially in relation to the world around me? It's not about what you "like", it's about how you identify. And making the most obvious aspect of your identity being your role as a mom or wife says something about how you choose to identify yourself - through a man.

What about single moms who got pregnant through artificial insemination or chose to become pregnant knowing they wouldn't have help from the father? I know it sounds terribly cheesy, but I think when people choose a screen name about their kids, it's usually just that they love them that much or get the most fulfillment from their role as mom. Some people thrive on being nurturers. Others thrive on being CEO's. We need 'em all.

I apparently identify as non-dairy milk. But if I had only one pet, I would have chosen my pet's name. When I fill out paperwork that actually identifies me, I use my full first and last name, and when people address wedding invites to Mrs. His Name, I be sure to RSVP with both of our full names.

_Emma_Problema_

You really can't compare the achievement of being a PhD to being a mom.

Can't agree with that, unless of course you are not good at being a mom or dad. The average mom will put more blood, sweat, tears, pain, fear, time, and money into raising a child than someone will getting a PhD.

Agree to disagree. I'm not going to go into why getting a PhD is a greater achievement because I know I'll step on some feelings, especially in a mom abundant thread.

Iron_Lotus

I find it funny what people choose to concern themselves with.

technobunny

wasn't the "feminist" movement to allow a woman to make a choice for herself? whether a woman decides to work/or stay home, take her husbands last name, hyphenate it, keep her own...it is her choice. no one should get their panties in a bunch over what a woman chooses for herself. now if someone was forcing her to have mommy or wifey in her handle, that would be a different story. it is their choice to identify with being a mother (if you are a mother, you know it is a game/life changer) and maybe she wants to scare away the creeps with the wife thing. she's just doing her, no matter.

Deipneus

I can honestly say I've never thought about this before this thread

You need to get out more bro!

Get out more? I'd have to be smoking pot to come up with a question like this.

Is it legal in SC?

Sorry I can't talk to you. Because of Norv Turner, I hate that name.