Female users with 'mommy' or 'wifey' in name
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Lol. No one's trying to stalk you. Self-involved much?
Nothing like trying to make nice and have the other person shove it in your face to make you realize that first impressions are usually correct.
I have no idea what you are upset about. I don't think you are trying to stalk me. I do have my reasons for limiting my personal info. It's a judgment call. It has absolutely nothing to do with you or any individual on this website.
My preaching to the choir comment meant that we probably have common ground on our views. Why that upset you, I'm not sure. I don't want you to go to the trouble of preparing me a reading list, because to be frank, I'm not going to read it. Not because you gave it to me or suggested it. But because I don't feel like it. Whether or not I need it is something you can't and won't know.0 -
I am just going to spout off some opinions and not support them at all, because that's the mood I'm in.
- SAHMs put themselves in financial risk when they take years off work. They depend for their survival on a marriage, good or not. Sure they can get alimony if it doesn't work out, but who's to say husband will have a job4life in this economy? So maybe, it could mean, staying in a situation that's not great for you personally, because you have to. Everyone who can should work for that reason alone.
- free/subsidized universal daycare would make it easier for SAHMs to stay economically viable.
- paternal leave should be universal and mandatory. when it's not, many company cultures pressure men not to use it. it should be the same length as maternal leave. that way, everyone splits the risk of the time off, and everyone gets to cuddle a baby for a while.
- instead of sterilizing people, you could educate them.0 -
You're throwing numbers at a problem that has lots of ecological, as well as political and social implications. People don't randomly stake out spaces to live. The live in cities and in communities. Also, you're talking about a lot of rain forest and other ecosystems that really shouldn't be plotted out for humanity to live in and use for agriculture.
I live in a rainforest. Works for me and the rest of SE Alaska.
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You have access to the internet how?
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Tongass National Rain Forest... Look it up!0 -
blah blah blah blah, blah blah. Get over it.0
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:laugh: wow, never seen this topic as a thread....
my thoughts? We all get to pick our own user name.. so not sure I understand the problem if someone wants to go with something another might not.0 -
You're throwing numbers at a problem that has lots of ecological, as well as political and social implications. People don't randomly stake out spaces to live. The live in cities and in communities. Also, you're talking about a lot of rain forest and other ecosystems that really shouldn't be plotted out for humanity to live in and use for agriculture.
I live in a rainforest. Works for me and the rest of SE Alaska.
You have access to the internet how?
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Tongass National Rain Forest... Look it up!
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Wow! I just looked it up! That's totally cool! Not sustainable for large populations, so not completely relevant to the argument, but that's pretty damn awesome!0 -
Lol. No one's trying to stalk you. Self-involved much?
Nothing like trying to make nice and have the other person shove it in your face to make you realize that first impressions are usually correct.
I have no idea what you are upset about. I don't think you are trying to stalk me. I do have my reasons for limiting my personal info. It's a judgment call. It has absolutely nothing to do with you or any individual on this website.
My preaching to the choir comment meant that we probably have common ground on our views. Why that upset you, I'm not sure. I don't want you to go to the trouble of preparing me a reading list, because to be frank, I'm not going to read it. Not because you gave it to me or suggested it. But because I don't feel like it. Whether or not I need it is something you can't and won't know.
I wasn't legitimately trying to prepare you a reading list. I really don't put that much effort into strangers on the internet.
And you came off as pretty cold and rude. But that's kind of how you seem to come off in a lot of your posts.
But yeah sure you can have your reasons for not wanting to give out personal information. It still makes you seem self-involved. People on the internet are rarely that interested.0 -
I thought people choose screen names to be anonymous on a fitness website, so they choose something fun that DOESN'T define them.0
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Lol. No one's trying to stalk you. Self-involved much?
Nothing like trying to make nice and have the other person shove it in your face to make you realize that first impressions are usually correct.
I have no idea what you are upset about. I don't think you are trying to stalk me. I do have my reasons for limiting my personal info. It's a judgment call. It has absolutely nothing to do with you or any individual on this website.
My preaching to the choir comment meant that we probably have common ground on our views. Why that upset you, I'm not sure. I don't want you to go to the trouble of preparing me a reading list, because to be frank, I'm not going to read it. Not because you gave it to me or suggested it. But because I don't feel like it. Whether or not I need it is something you can't and won't know.
I wasn't legitimately trying to prepare you a reading list. I really don't put that much effort into strangers on the internet.
And you came off as pretty cold and rude. But that's kind of how you seem to come off in a lot of your posts.
But yeah sure you can have your reasons for not wanting to give out personal information. It still makes you seem self-involved. People on the internet are rarely that interested.
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wow, I decide to go on a hike and this happens while I'm gone?! why can't this go down when I'm settled down with some ganja and guacamole?0
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I wasn't legitimately trying to prepare you a reading list. I really don't put that much effort into strangers on the internet.
And you came off as pretty cold and rude. But that's kind of how you seem to come off in a lot of your posts.
But yeah sure you can have your reasons for not wanting to give out personal information. It still makes you seem self-involved. People on the internet are rarely that interested.
I probably came off as cold because I'm restraining myself from saying the actual rude things I'm thinking.
I don't care if you perceive me as self-involved. I don't care what you think about my reasons. You don't know what they are, and I don't need you to.
I also figured you didn't literally mean a reading list. I was again trying to be polite by not sharing what I'm actually thinking. While I don't like you, the only way my thoughts on your reading list comment could be construed would be as dismissive head pats. Again, while I don't like you, I don't need to patronize you to feel better about myself (in the same way I don't need to do a "show me your's and I'll show you mine.")
Since you find me cold and rude, please feel free to put me on ignore. You'll save yourself all this trouble you are going to for this stranger on the internet.0 -
I know a lady whose e-mail is "hislovingwife@..."
... Guh-ross.0 -
Oh look another insecure internet feminist trying to start ****. Sorry, honey, some of us are not ashamed of being mothers and wives like feminism today tries to tell us to be. I am very proud to be a stay at home mom, even if I didn't choose to be. If I was married, I would not be ashamed of it. Most of us don't define ourselves as just one part of our life. Just because they chose to use that important part of their life to represent themselves doesn't mean that's all they do or are.
God, one more of these feminazis spouting off rhetoric without thinking and I will figure out how to strangle someone through the internet.
Oh by the way, before you say anything, I'm not oppressed or subservient to anyone. Including and especially your little Patriarchy fearing cult. *growls*0 -
You're throwing numbers at a problem that has lots of ecological, as well as political and social implications. People don't randomly stake out spaces to live. The live in cities and in communities. Also, you're talking about a lot of rain forest and other ecosystems that really shouldn't be plotted out for humanity to live in and use for agriculture.
I live in a rainforest. Works for me and the rest of SE Alaska.
You have access to the internet how?
Tongass National Rain Forest... Look it up!
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Wow! I just looked it up! That's totally cool! Not sustainable for large populations, so not completely relevant to the argument, but that's pretty damn awesome!
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Relevance... right! The point being "Female users with 'mommy' or 'wifey' in name.
Sustainable for large populations?! We are the largest state in the US as far as land is concerned. We harvest mass quantities of salmon, wild game, mine, log and have a trans-Alaska crude- oil pipeline running through our state. I'm not going to complain about a PFD either! I think we hold our own pretty well. More people would come if they could afford to. So... Fithooker, you should bring the whole fandamily and keep populating up here, we have room for you and the crew!0 -
Oh look another insecure internet feminist trying to start ****. Sorry, honey, some of us are not ashamed of being mothers and wives like feminism today tries to tell us to be. I am very proud to be a stay at home mom, even if I didn't choose to be. If I was married, I would not be ashamed of it. Most of us don't define ourselves as just one part of our life. Just because they chose to use that important part of their life to represent themselves doesn't mean that's all they do or are.
God, one more of these feminazis spouting off rhetoric without thinking and I will figure out how to strangle someone through the internet.
Oh by the way, before you say anything, I'm not oppressed or subservient to anyone. Including and especially your little Patriarchy fearing cult. *growls*
Well, to be fair, emma IS only 23 years old. We can always hope that some life experience will ground her a little.0 -
wow, I decide to go on a hike and this happens while I'm gone?! why can't this go down when I'm settled down with some ganja and guacamole?
Pass both, please.0 -
How about names with bacon?0
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wow, I decide to go on a hike and this happens while I'm gone?! why can't this go down when I'm settled down with some ganja and guacamole?
It could be worse. I have to take part in it to even get to see it. All the good stuff gets deleted while I'm at work.0 -
How about names with bacon?
Good god! Please let's not go full circle I don't think the pulsing vein in the side of my forehead is up to it :sad:0 -
Why does it bother you? I just took the name MFP gave me when I signed up and don't really care but the two things I do best are being a wife and a mother, and I have a very successful career as a Quality Manager as well. None of those things "identify" me but they are part of my identity.0
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Congratulations on "being around" 130 pounds Hat tip!
^^^ This exactly. My first name's Dawn and it's common enough where I couldn't come up with a fun user name. My daughter's name was much easier to work into a user name that wasn't already taken. Plus, I honestly didn't think I'd be around long enough to have to worry about it that much, as I always failed "dieting" before. :blushing:0 -
Very interesting question and I always wondered why people define themselves in those terms. I'm not a mom, so I can't answer, but it would NEVER occur to me to use 'wife' in my name on here.0
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Oh look another insecure internet feminist trying to start ****. Sorry, honey, some of us are not ashamed of being mothers and wives like feminism today tries to tell us to be. I am very proud to be a stay at home mom, even if I didn't choose to be. If I was married, I would not be ashamed of it. Most of us don't define ourselves as just one part of our life. Just because they chose to use that important part of their life to represent themselves doesn't mean that's all they do or are.
God, one more of these feminazis spouting off rhetoric without thinking and I will figure out how to strangle someone through the internet.
Oh by the way, before you say anything, I'm not oppressed or subservient to anyone. Including and especially your little Patriarchy fearing cult. *growls*
Well, to be fair, emma IS only 23 years old. We can always hope that some life experience will ground her a little.
Kindly STFU. My age has nothing to do with it. And in different respects (i.e. not bearing children or starting a family) I may have a lot more life experience than you do.
Just by saying the word "feminazi" you're spouting your own rhetoric. Refusing to believe that social systems play a role in how we identify ourselves is inane. Fear cult. Oh please!0 -
wow, I decide to go on a hike and this happens while I'm gone?! why can't this go down when I'm settled down with some ganja and guacamole?
Pass both, please.
you got it! :smokin:0 -
Ditto, SrToben!0
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I don't do it, but it doesn't bother me smile The 0504 in my name is the day I got my first iPhone....I guess my iPhone defines me, which is pathetic, LOLI'm guessing it is because they know their place.signed: vincesloveslavelaugh
How's what?
Okay, these just made me laugh. :drinker:What is your feeling regarding mac & cheese in one's screen name?I think all my friends should have food in their names. :drinker:
Anyway...OP, how do you figure that adding mommy or wifey to your name indicates that you're not your own person?
How is adding that to my name any different from people with their favorite food or activity in their name? Are they then defined by bacon?I don't see anything wrong with it. Being a wife or mother is an honorable and important role.
Frankly your implied denigration of something so staggering important by suggesting that people are selling themselves short by identifying as one is sounds more sexist to me than someone picking a screen name with 'mom' in it.
It basically comes across as "Oh you're a Mom? meh, what ELSE are you? Come back when you can put Scientist in your screen name."
Stop telling people who are perfectly happy that they're oppressing themselves. It's obnoxious and misguided.I'm with you on that one, but I'm afraid all the Jared'sMommy234's will swarm and get angry.
I think maybe people have no imaginations. I hate to think that they really do need to define themselves by men. I don't really have any on my FL, but not for that reason. I think a lot of those types don't particularly flock to a profile like mine. Don't get me wrong, I have tons of friends who are awesome moms and are super proud of their kids and post about them. And that's totally cool. But I think it's a bit reflective of the loveliness of patriarchy when people define their online selves by their kids/husbands.Are you sure? I didn't lose my identity when I married my wife. I added another aspect to it, as did she. Obviously our relationships change us, but so what? That doesn't mean we've lost our identities. They're changed by that as much as they are changed by jobs, hobbies and anything else. Can someone chose to lose their identity to a spouse or child? Sure, but that's not always the case, and it seems a bit silly to me that we could presume it to automatically be so based on no more than their profile name.
And these others I just appreciated for various reasons, but I'd rather breeze through here and then sleep than outline them. Call it an honorable mention.
Not much to add at the moment - too tired from the new schedule, leaving home at 4:00 am to go off and earn a living, which if I'm not mistaken is supposed to be my husband's job!
I will say, though, that I wouldn't make too many assumptions based on anyone's screen name. I chose mine, not because I am identified "by" or "through" my husband, but because it reminds me of some of my own goals. And yes, in some cases, these are tied in with the partnership and life I've chosen with my husband. Were I ever to change my name to ShhhDon'tTellMrFowlerISpeakToAnyone, then you certainly have my permission to see if I'm in need of an identity, a voice, an education, or a restraining order.
For now, I'll just console myself for being trapped in my pathetic, subservient role in this oppressive patriarchy under which I've found myself living by being thankful that I don't have to insult anyone else to bolster my opinion or to establish that I "value" education. I would rather be friends with empowered, intelligent individuals who have a little less to prove.
Also, I heard a rumor that BrainyBurro is not really a burro. Now I'm wondering what he's really trying to say!
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wow, I decide to go on a hike and this happens while I'm gone?! why can't this go down when I'm settled down with some ganja and guacamole?
It could be worse. I have to take part in it to even get to see it. All the good stuff gets deleted while I'm at work.
I hope nothing happens tomorrow, I have a helllllla busy day at work. I will miss all the good stuff.
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Not so much on the internet, but growing up I always got introduced as *father or mother's name*'s daughter. Then after I got married it became *husband's name*'s wife, and then *Son's name*'s mother. I'm not sure if it was a Southern thing or just part of growing up female. If someone wants to define themselves by their kids or spouse I guess it's up to them. I just always thought it would have been nice to just be me without qualifying it in relation to someone else.0
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wow, I decide to go on a hike and this happens while I'm gone?! why can't this go down when I'm settled down with some ganja and guacamole?
It could be worse. I have to take part in it to even get to see it. All the good stuff gets deleted while I'm at work.
I hope nothing happens tomorrow, I have a helllllla busy day at work. I will miss all the good stuff.
Well, you know what they say. You can't just wait for things to happen. You have to make them happen.
I may have to mamacat myself now. That's enough internet for me tonight.0
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