people talking behind my back at the gym
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I was working out at the gym today minding my own business when a lay comes in and asks to speak with me alone. She told me a bunch of the girls in spin class on Tuesday were making fun of me because i sweat a lot and smell like it after my work out. My response was duh!! They then went on to say they bought me a bunch of hygiene stuff. I take showers i can't really help it that i sweat a lot. I don't know am i being to sensitive? She said they were laughing at me as well. I feel like I'm in school again.
I too sweat quite a bit at the gym. I am also overly conscious about how my 'aroma' is after my hard workout over the course of the day. I don't really care what others think though as it is a testament to how difficult the workout is and how intense I am going at losing this weight.
Don't be mindful of how others perceive you. At the end of the time the only person you have to justify your sweat is yourself. Nobody else. If they aren't sweating then they aren't really pushing themselves in my estimation.
No, I don't have the body that I really desire. I have the body I am working on and shaping into being the best it can be over the time I have worked at making it so. Be happy with the loss of weight and the achievements you have accomplished already. Don't pay attention to those who, in their mind, believe it is their place to point out something they dislike.
Does it really matter what they think? It should never bring your opinion of yourself down. EVER.
You've done well already, keep doing so and just ignore them.0 -
They did give me free stuff
Oooh! What did you get?0 -
In the small chance that this is a medical issue and not just some people being idiots I'll share an experience I had.
I once supplemented with L-Carnitine and had a new bottle arrive from amazon.com. I didn't realize it at the time but I had ordered a strength 3x stronger than my typical bottle. I was already taking the higher end of the recommended daily intake with the reduced strength so for about 4-5 days I was taking a large amount of this supplement (3x the max daily amount). It turns out with L-Carnitine that if you have an excessive amount that your body cannot break absorb it leads to an excess of a chemical that is the same chemical that makes that offensive smell in fish. I smelled HORRIBLY bad for days, had to work from home and I had to avoid the gym. I don't just mean I smelled bad, I smelled utterly utterly offensive. I subsequently researched this and it is a documented side effect and they know the exact cause etc.
I had to discontinue the L-Carnitine and take some activated charcoal and minted chlorophyll for a few days for the symptoms to subside. I had to discard my bedsheets and the gyms clothes I wore as the smell would not go away no matter how much I washed them.
I thought I'd just share that as there is always a small chance something is up medically or with diet etc. I know I would rather have people politely let me know if I smelled *really* bad than to just let me be. They aren't necessarily just being idiots.0 -
When we used to do taekwondo we were constantly flinging sweat everywhere! My son slipped and fell on some of mine because I was literally dripping. It was awesome! My husband actually used to use it as part of his sparring strategy, he was so sweating the kids didn't want touch him so they were totally focused on that and he kept scoring on them. lol
Tell them thanks for the free stuff and that you'll be sure to put it on AFTER you're done working out. And since they're so nice you will be sure to sit right next to them! Then skip the deodorant and eat plenty of garlic. If they're going to complain about something you might as well make it worth their time.0 -
You should get a little mad that she said that to you. It was rude, & IF it's true, then that's rude too. So get a little mad & tough minded. I like the idea of getting the shirt that says if you aren't sweating you aren't working out, then I'd position my self as close as possible to the woman during class (or anyone else you think is actually involved...IF there really is anyone involved), preferably directly in front of her (if she moves, then move w/her). Then AFTER class, if you think it's possible, I'd give her a big hug & tell her (like you mean it, but you know it's a lie) how much you appreciate her being so considerate of you & talking to you in private. IF anyone actually does try to give you any hygiene products, I'd completely ignore them, smile big, turn around & walk away. If they leave it somewhere for you, then I'd act like it's not for you, or take it (with a big smile) to the nearest trash can & throw them away, preferably when the "givers" are watching.
YOU are working hard, people who work hard sweat, she was rude to say anything to you & you shouldn't let it get to you at all. I'd be REALLY suspicious that there were actually any other women involved. She probably has some personal hang-up, but thought you'd listen more & not put it on her if she said there were others. THIS WOMAN is the one with the problem. You go in that gym STRONG and SURE of YOURSELF! Do not let the complainers win! If they think they're upsetting you, then they win...DO NOT LET THEM WIN! ;-)0 -
Lol, my wife says she can tell when I'm in the zone, she says I have an F/U face. But it's obvious these immature girls have not and may not leave their high school mentality. If I was in your shoes (and this is just me) I would sit my happy butt right in between and really give them something to complain about, but again just me. You're there to work, you're there to sweat and kick butt. That's another reason I stopped going to the gyms and do my workouts at home. No one to wait on and no one to critique me, not that I cared, remember the F/U face. ; )0
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its a gym you are supposed to be busting tail and sweating..
I would tell them to shove the gifts where the sun does not shine..
Next time, before you go in there dump a bunch of water all over you so it looks like you are sweating really bad and give one of them a hug...bahahahahahahaha...0 -
They gave me bath and body work kit. It had a poofy with body scrub shower gel bubble bath body spray bath salts and lotion. At least it isn't a bunch of dollar tree stuff. Idk still a little hurt but I'm going back tomorrow0
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No I'm not throwing the gifts away. I have a better idea. Return it get the cash or in store credit and get something i like!0
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Wow, some people are so rude! Ugh :noway: Anyways, you're doing a great job. That just shows how much time they're wasting, having nothing better to do than gossip, while you're working your *kitten* off like a beast! You go, girl!
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First off, please don't make poor eating choices because of the ignorance of others. Do NOT let them have that power over you. Same with the "high school" crowd at the gym. If you take a daily shower, shower after you work out, wear deodorant, wash your work out clothes and you know there's not a medical cause - find a new group to work out with. Maybe during work outs you might use a clinical deodorant/antiperspirant. They are a little more expensive, but worth a shot.
Good for you for working out. Don't let anyone deter you from your goals.
This is a GREAT answer!! I agree with ALL of this!!0 -
I was working out at the gym today minding my own business when a lay comes in and asks to speak with me alone. She told me a bunch of the girls in spin class on Tuesday were making fun of me because i sweat a lot and smell like it after my work out. My response was duh!! They then went on to say they bought me a bunch of hygiene stuff. I take showers i can't really help it that i sweat a lot. I don't know am i being to sensitive? She said they were laughing at me as well. I feel like I'm in school again.
you have lost 87 pounds - tell them to kiss your *kitten*
I hate when I have a crazy workout then go do some cardio and I am sweating a ton and smell (deodorant aint stopping that) and I get looks - it only happens if its a teenager or so most people have the common sense to understand if you aint sweating you aint trying0 -
No I'm not throwing the gifts away. I have a better idea. Return it get the cash or in store credit and get something i like!
Now that's a great idea. BTW - I just noticed that you have lost 87 pounds. That's awesome!!! Doesn't it feel great? Keep going and don't let the idiots in this world determine what you do!0 -
First - wait until they give you the shower stuff because free stuff
Then next, report it to the gym's manager as harassment.
Last....go about and kick butt as usual...sweaty and with a grin
Yup, I vote this ^^^
But HELL YEAH for B&BW stuff!! I have to pay for mine!
ETA It never ceases to amaze me how people can be. :noway:0 -
Ended up eating poorly because of it. Ugh i should have done that
OMG, they make me so mad. Do not eat poorly because of them, because then they win.
I went to a seminar at work about dealing with difficult people.
THE FIRST STEP IN DEALING WITH DIFFICULT PEOPLE IS TO DEVELOP CONTROL OF THE PERSON YOU CAN CONTROL AND THAT IS YOU.
Not sorry for all caps, I just don't want you to let their bitter, jealous, insecure, hateful streak cause you to backslide on all the progress you've made. Your profile picture shows that you are a beautiful lady, with a beautiful smile and a lovely family. Your ticker shows your success. Haters gone' hate.
They are bullying you and bullying comes from insecurity and low self esteem. Please do not give them the satisfaction of knowing that anything they have said or done has affected you in any way.
Take stock and pride I'm the fact that you are taking the high road and not engaging in that behavior.
OMG, they are lucky they aren't at my gym.
Who even has time to worry about what someone else is doing in a spin class; I'm sorry, if you're not smelly and sweating profusely you're doing spin class all wrong.0 -
I'm sorry, OP. I don't know what causes grown adults to act so childish. It hurts, no matter how much you wish it wouldn't. But, I'd take a few of these awesome one liners and keep them in the noggin for just the right occasion. And keep at it... Don't let them ruin the bigger picture... your health. You ARE supposed to sweat, and if they're not, they're doing it wrong. Chin up...0
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Make sure you walk up to them after class and say 'it didn't work'. Then hand them a list if things from Bath and Body that you want. Maybe you can turn this into a side business! Or have all of your Christmas shopping done by October.No I'm not throwing the gifts away. I have a better idea. Return it get the cash or in store credit and get something i like!0 -
Make sure you walk up to them after class and say 'it didn't work'. Then hand them a list if things from Bath and Body that you want. Maybe you can turn this into a side business! Or have all of your Christmas shopping done by October.No I'm not throwing the gifts away. I have a better idea. Return it get the cash or in store credit and get something i like!
Love it *LOL*0 -
Wow, they actually gave you shower products? Tell them you can shower and change, but there is no way to cure b*tch.0
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Oh my gosh!That's so disrespectful!0
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Stuff like this ticks me off because they would be the same individuals complaining if they saw you large and not doing anything. Like I always remind my sister people always yapping their gums. If you poor they talk, rich, tall, fat, skinny.
I would take the free stuff and continue to do my thing. i would report them. I don't go to the gym to smell like roses. Am I the only one who think people ought to be sweaty in the gym? I find it weird when people aren't sweaty.
Years ago, I use to avoid the gym because of how I looked. Then when I lost weight and realized that people still talked down on how fit I was, I learned some people will always have something negative to say. So, I take myself into the gym and do my thing. If people got time to worry about me then they are at the gym for the wrong reasons.
This makes me upset because people are overweight, out of shape and literally are dying because of this negativity. Instead of being mean people should be supporting each other. Girl, do you and never let someone control what you do.0 -
Sending you a hug :flowerforyou:0
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Don't entertain that mess!!!!!...Often times people like to make fun of others because of their own insecurities...keep your eyes on the prize..and stay focused...we got your back: flowerforyou:0
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Sorry that these "ladies" are making you feel bad. Please don't let them scare you away from exercising. I'm sure that the problem is them and not you.
One of the many reasons I prefer to work out with men. They don't seem to care about anything other than getting a good workout.0 -
Oh, they were laughing at you? BIG F*CKING DEAL. Why would someone even tell you that? The 'laughers' and the woman you told you about if clearly have ZERO going on in their lives that they would make YOU (someone they don't even know) a topic of conversation. Don't you dare even skip ONE class.....go, smile and ENJOY....omg, the B*TCHES in this world blow my mind. Be glad that they don't accept you, that means that they see you as one of THEM...and who wants to be that kind of person?0
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seriously, we get online to complain about stuff like this?
oh my geez0 -
The trainer at my fitness centar commented in front of everyone once (when i wasn't on the training) about how much i stink. My sister was there and i actually cried for hours afterwards and got really upset since i am struggling with both low self esteem and an ED BUT you hve to realise that is just showing how immature and self concous they are since all they do is gossip about others.0
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People need to play nice, and apparently these girls need to move their butts a little more if they're not sweaty and gross after their workouts. I know I am! Keep doing what your doing lady 0
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I was working out at the gym today minding my own business when a lay comes in and asks to speak with me alone. She told me a bunch of the girls in spin class on Tuesday were making fun of me because i sweat a lot and smell like it after my work out. My response was duh!! They then went on to say they bought me a bunch of hygiene stuff. I take showers i can't really help it that i sweat a lot. I don't know am i being to sensitive? She said they were laughing at me as well. I feel like I'm in school again.
Keep your head up and don't let it get ya! 0 -
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