Dear Men:

ShutupndMovee257

Exactly, get over it. Man up. Oh, sorry, was that harsh?

You're pretty cool! If all women were that chill.

BeachIron

Now i understand how groupthink and mob mentality begins. Jeesh.

Yes, most men I deal with are just lovely. Yes, many women out there are horrible creatures.

I honestly thought my post was a little funny and I thought a few men may even respond with, "yeah, not cool to get up in a woman's space"...or something like that.

I do enjoy the gifs and notoriety, so thank you for that.

Just for background's sake: I don't work in customer service per se. I work in accounting and a younger man physically imitated an older female employee of mine yesterday and I found it upsetting. I wanted to tell him that I thought his mother did a poor job of raising him. I thought of my own sons and thought of how upsetting it would be if they grew up to behave that way.

I thought this would be an interesting place to extend that parental teaching, in case there was a guy or two out there that may not know to keep his distance from a lady.

I was right about it being interesting.

Thank you all for your responses. I like how the popular opinions are shared over and over and over and over and over.....with gifs! Love you mean it.

Sincerely,
Extremely Sexist Me

P.S. In case I wasn't clear. It is STILL REALLY UNCOOL for a man to get up in a woman's face. If you think that is wrong, maybe you actually needed to read my very unpopular/popular (however you want to look at it) post. You're welcome.

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So you learned basically nothing and continue to blame others for the reaction to your sexist post. You do seem rather emotional and shrill.

suziepoo1984

I am assuming OP you said imitated and not intimidated right? If it was imitation, women are no less at this *****ing behind the back business. Intimidation would cause me to understand why you feel so hurt, but then I would have to ask you if you got help for the old lady!

Carl01

Now i understand how groupthink and mob mentality begins. Jeesh.

Yes, most men I deal with are just lovely. Yes, many women out there are horrible creatures.

I honestly thought my post was a little funny and I thought a few men may even respond with, "yeah, not cool to get up in a woman's space"...or something like that.

I do enjoy the gifs and notoriety, so thank you for that.

Just for background's sake: I don't work in customer service per se. I work in accounting and a younger man physically imitated an older female employee of mine yesterday and I found it upsetting. I wanted to tell him that I thought his mother did a poor job of raising him. I thought of my own sons and thought of how upsetting it would be if they grew up to behave that way.

I thought this would be an interesting place to extend that parental teaching, in case there was a guy or two out there that may not know to keep his distance from a lady.

I was right about it being interesting.

Thank you all for your responses. I like how the popular opinions are shared over and over and over and over and over.....with gifs! Love you mean it.

Sincerely,
Extremely Sexist Me

P.S. In case I wasn't clear. It is STILL REALLY UNCOOL for a man to get up in a woman's face. If you think that is wrong, maybe you actually needed to read my very unpopular/popular (however you want to look at it) post. You're welcome.

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You post a vague,broad brush attack on men with no background info and then have the gall to get pissy over the reaction it deserved?
Seriously...think about it,you are hardly better then what you are enraged about as you try to cyberly get in everyone's face.

drgmac

The world is full of all kinds of people. Regardless, I believe in seeing the good in people and modeling dignity and grace when dealing with contentious situations, I have been dealing with "the public" for 25 years and for the most part if you keep your head about you and see the humor in adverse situations, things tend to go a lot better. If you can't see these issues as learning situations and how to grow from them, then might I suggest a nice therapist who can help with these issues.

delicious_cocktail

Just for background's sake: I don't work in customer service per se. I work in accounting and a younger man physically imitated an older female employee of mine yesterday and I found it upsetting. I wanted to tell him that I thought his mother did a poor job of raising him. I thought of my own sons and thought of how upsetting it would be if they grew up to behave that way.

Physically imitated or intimidated? Because if there is an employee physically threatening another employee, then your employer should take action. If the woman quits, depending on the circumstances, it could be viewed as a constructive termination.

But yes, you throwing this out to all men, lecturing 50% of the world for their inability to control their aggression was a poor choice. Sometimes, when everyone says you said something insulting and sexist, it's not mob mentality. You just said something clearly insulting and sexist.

eric_sg61

Now i understand how groupthink and mob mentality begins. Jeesh.

Said every person who was wrong, ever..........it's everyone elses fault, right?
I'm right and everyone is wrong so I'll use words like groupthink ,mob mentality , surprised I didn't see the word sheep.

Hendrix7

Because I feel some of your mothers may have failed to emphasize this in your gentlemanliness training

Don't talk about my moms yo.

Cranquistador

I'm sorry to hear about your bad day.

But then, as a man, I'm sorry in an overtly threatening manner. I'm sorry, it's just my nature.

ohai

basillowe66

This is a health and fitness site not a social sight forpeople with issues that are not related to our purpose. I am tempted to make remarks but wont'
Just take part in the site and YOUR issues will disappear


Basil

BeachIron

Because I feel some of your mothers may have failed to emphasize this in your gentlemanliness training

Don't talk about my moms yo.

Apparently some lady training was also missed.

mthr2

I am assuming OP you said imitated and not intimidated right? If it was imitation, women are no less at this *****ing behind the back business. Intimidation would cause me to understand why you feel so hurt, but then I would have to ask you if you got help for the old lady!

Intimidated. Yes I got him away from her. He was just a jerk.

I am sorry for hurting all the fella's feelings and "getting up in their cyber faces" muscley man #3 aka Carl.

Yes, I learned something, muscley man #2 aka beach iron....that apparently everyone thinks a man aggressively breaching the personal space of a woman feels the same way as the reversed would feel to the victim. I disagree.

Mr. Whatever you name is, I seem entitled to what, exactly? Calling me an asshat makes me think you may have gotten up in a female face or two in your day.

You guys are really cute over all. Thanks for all the discussion. :-)

Sorry I don't have a response to you, muscle arm guy aka shutup. Keep posting though. Your posts are very interesting and intelligent.

delicious_cocktail

Room full of people tell her she's out of line?
Doubles down.

Contrarian

I am assuming OP you said imitated and not intimidated right? If it was imitation, women are no less at this *****ing behind the back business. Intimidation would cause me to understand why you feel so hurt, but then I would have to ask you if you got help for the old lady!

Intimidated. Yes I got him away from her. He was just a jerk.

I am sorry for hurting all the fella's feelings and "getting up in their cyber faces" muscley man #3 aka Carl.

Yes, I learned something, muscley man #2 aka beach iron....that apparently everyone thinks a man aggressively breaching the personal space of a woman feels the same way as the reversed would feel to the victim. I disagree.

Mr. Whatever you name is, I seem entitled to what, exactly? Calling me an asshat makes me think you may have gotten up in a female face or two in your day.

You guys are really cute over all. Thanks for all the discussion. :-)

Sorry I don't have a response to you, muscle arm guy aka shutup. Keep posting though. Your posts are very interesting and intelligent.

Your apology doesn't sound very sincere. In fact, you sound kind of sarcastic and angry. The people on this site did nothing to your colleague, so I'm not sure why you felt a group admonishment was necessary.

BeachIron

I am assuming OP you said imitated and not intimidated right? If it was imitation, women are no less at this *****ing behind the back business. Intimidation would cause me to understand why you feel so hurt, but then I would have to ask you if you got help for the old lady!

Intimidated. Yes I got him away from her. He was just a jerk.

I am sorry for hurting all the fella's feelings and "getting up in their cyber faces" muscley man #3 aka Carl.

Yes, I learned something, muscley man #2 aka beach iron....that apparently everyone thinks a man aggressively breaching the personal space of a woman feels the same way as the reversed would feel to the victim. I disagree.

Mr. Whatever you name is, I seem entitled to what, exactly? Calling me an asshat makes me think you may have gotten up in a female face or two in your day.

You guys are really cute over all. Thanks for all the discussion. :-)

Sorry I don't have a response to you, muscle arm guy aka shutup. Keep posting though. Your posts are very interesting and intelligent.

No. You seem to continue to miss the point. No one here has defended the guy who clearly acted like an *kitten*. You, however, decided to call out every man alive for this one guy's actions. Then you mention gentlemanly behavior. This picture, however, has already been painted for you and you've already failed to understand. Please do continue with your shrill ranting. I wish I could say that it is cute, but it's not. Pathetic is probably the better word.

Carl01

Keep digging the hole deeper :laugh:

Laces_0ut

i carry halves of grapefruit around with me wherever i go in case i need to rub it in a woman's face if she acts up.

Toblave

Please respect the personal space and humanness of the women out in the world. If you are angry or frustrated about something (as in customer service situations), please keep your distance and watch your approach. The world may be a bit of better place because you did.

We as women instinctively know that you could harm us, so when you get close to us and act aggressively, some of us become intimidated. Others of us must consciously refrain from kicking your *kitten*.

Because I feel some of your mothers may have failed to emphasize this in your gentlemanliness training (as evidenced in my life and not these forums), I would just like to say: When you are angry and you think you are justified, Back off. Chivalry is not dead unless you kill it.

This has been a public service announcement. Thank you.

/agree

Contrarian

i carry halves of grapefruit around with me wherever i go in case i need to rub it in a woman's face if she acts up.

Little do you know that it's a good astringent. You have been accidentally helping us ALL ALONG.

JustAboutDelicious_wechanged

I'm going to go against the grain here and actually agree with the OP. I've had women in my face and men in my face.

A man in my face is far more intimidating then having a woman in my face. Just the facts personally for me. Do I have issues with men in my space, yup. Are my issues bigger with men in my space then they are with women in my space, yup. Do I think this is true of everyone? No.

And a side note....I own all my issues. It's me, not all men. :flowerforyou:



OP: To each their own on their opinions. Don't get mad because people disagree.

mthr2

Oh yeah....and I am changing the title to

Dear more physically imposing humans that may forget that you are more physically imposing:

All better? I seriously did not mean to imply that men are more likely than women to be rude *kitten* in public or anything like that.

I just meant that when some *kitten* does this and that person is a man doing it to a woman, it can have a special level of primal flight or fight attached to it. That is all.

It is OK if you disagree with me. I apologize for being inflammatory to the point of people getting their feelings hurt. Of course, maybe I can now become the MFP super villain I always dreamed of becoming.

Cheers!

BeachIron

Don't worry, OP. there are plenty of permanent victims on MFP. You will eventually find friends with whom you can share a good cry.

Toblave

I agree, men have an obligation to behave in a polite and respectful manner when interacting with a woman; especially one that he is unfamiliar with and is unsure how she will perceive him.

ShutupndMovee257

OP loving this! We all feeding into it. Lol! Well played OP.

saschka7

This is really stupid.

Just saying.

delicious_cocktail

I agree, people have an obligation to behave in a polite and respectful manner when interacting with another person; especially one that he or she is unfamiliar with and is unsure how he or she will perceive him.

FIFY. It isn't okay for anyone to physically intimidate anyone else.

JustAboutDelicious_wechanged

I agree, people have an obligation to behave in a polite and respectful manner when interacting with another person; especially one that he or she is unfamiliar with and is unsure how he or she will perceive him.

FIFY. It isn't okay for anyone to physically intimidate anyone else.

^^^TRUTH

Italia2229

Now just in retail, I would rather work with all men than women at my job. Especially with the military. The higher ranking women in my office are constantly on a power trip.

I am in the military and unfortunately most of us "power trip" women act the way that we do because we have to deal with men that feel that we don't belong there. Comes with the territory at times, but that's not just women in the military because the men do it too. I have seen more "power trip" men than women.

BeachIron

I agree, people have an obligation to behave in a polite and respectful manner when interacting with another person; especially one that he or she is unfamiliar with and is unsure how he or she will perceive him.

FIFY. It isn't okay for anyone to physically intimidate anyone else.

^^^TRUTH

I'm curious as to whether the OP will understand this

Derpes

A little context (at the beginning) may have given this thread hope, however, the sweeping generalizations absent a reference point gave it little hope.