I'm kind of appalled...
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Oh, excuse me. The OP just opened the kid's lunch and then proceeded to gossip with the lunch ladies about it. You think the kid didn't notice?
The child was no where near when I asked the teacher later if that was normal. I seriously think you're delving into your own personal issues here and imagining a scenario that didn't happen.
You asked the teacher if this child's lunch is "normal"? Who the hell are you to ask a teacher about another child? If I was this poor child's mother you and i would have serious issues. Who are you to judge another parent or to discuss it with the teacher? I am appalled by YOUR actions. Disgusting.
Throughout this thread the irony has just been monumental. It's downright comical how many posters are judging the OP for judging someone else.
I love people.
She put herself out here to be judged. The parents of this child sent their child to school with her lunch. They were not looking to be judge by her. Yet this woman is questioning the teacher if this girls lunch is normal? Absolutely she will be judged- she is on a internet forum.
Just so you know...
...I'm judging you right now...
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Poor kid, she can't be doing well in school with that kind of food. No nurishment for the body, no nurishment for the brain either...
The brain runs on glucose. Sounds like lots of nourishment for the brain. The body is what's suffering.
Oh, so is that why you have a high then a crash when you have nothing but sugar for a snack? You can't tell me that that kid can focus after she has crashed...
I don't. I do when I eat a high carb lunch, but that's a different story. The brain still runs on strictly glucose. There is nourishment. It's your endocrine system that is messing you up when you have this problem.
Okie dokie... You got me. Since that is the case, I will now be packing my kids stricktly twinkies and ding dongs so they can be really really smart... :flowerforyou: :drinker:0 -
Being Judged, sometimes make people make better choices ! The problem today is that we don't judge enough!
Only if they know it's an issue.... people talking behind other peoples' backs solve NOTHING. Bringing it to the parents' attention, or asking questions of HOW TO HELP the situation is what gets things solved.
Huh? Awareness and discussion are not part of the solution process??? Egads. What an incredibly simplistic world in which you must live.
Gimme a break... All I'm saying is that if SOMEONE said something to the parents (in this case) MAYBE there would be a change, talking about it HERE doesn't do anything good for this little girl. Turn my comment into whatever you need to in order to make it okay to talk behind people's back instead of helping a kid. No skin off my nose. :flowerforyou:
No, singling out the parent like that is not the best solution.0 -
Poor kid, she can't be doing well in school with that kind of food. No nurishment for the body, no nurishment for the brain either...
The brain runs on glucose. Sounds like lots of nourishment for the brain. The body is what's suffering.
Oh, so is that why you have a high then a crash when you have nothing but sugar for a snack? You can't tell me that that kid can focus after she has crashed...
I don't. I do when I eat a high carb lunch, but that's a different story. The brain still runs on strictly glucose. There is nourishment. It's your endocrine system that is messing you up when you have this problem.
Okie dokie... You got me. Since that is the case, I will now be packing my kids stricktly twinkies and ding dongs so they can be really really smart... :flowerforyou: :drinker:
That's what you took from that?
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I'm in no way trying to tell you what to feed your kids. I'm pointing out (as I did in my very first post in this conversation) that YOU do not have experience with a truly picky eater.
I did not proove your point. I pointed out that a truly, truly, TRULY picky eater will not eat someothing he or she does not like rather than go hungry. I never -- even still -- had a problem with feeling hungry. I actually quite like the feeling of hunger.
And, again, you have NO IDEA.
Spoken by someone who has never truly known or been a picky eater.should have never given her that junk to begin with then she wouldn't be a "picky eater" picking terrible things to eat. Ridiculous.
SPOKEN by someone who was raised to eat it or be hungry. Guess what...I may not have liked it but as long as I was hungry I would eat it or just stay hungry. I don't bring that junk home for my kids...if they are hungry they will eat what we have...and it's not junk food. It's time for parents to be about parenting....can you HONESTLY say you'd feed your children M&M's and crap food KNOWING the results of that lifestyle can seriously harm them rather than "fight the battle" of buying good nourishing foods and them growing up on healthy stuff. 95% of the time how/what children will or won't eat is learned. Yes I am aware of allergies and behavioral issues that cause some children to not tolerate certain foods but if you didn't ever feed her M&M's I'd be willing to bet she would have eaten something else.
I was a very picky eater. I would go days without eating if it was between that or eating something I didn't like.
In fact, my parents were vegetarians when I was born and they had to start eating meat again because I would starve myself rather than eat the vegetarian meals.
thank you for proving my point...they started eating meat again...not junk food....
You have totally swayed my thought process. I would so let my kid live on candy now
If you did, if you REALLY knew a REALLY picky eater, you would not be claiming they wouldn't be picky if parents didn't allow it.0 -
Uh oh...the DERP is gaining in strength.
It may be time to bug out.0 -
This is pretty messed up. I always take care to make sure my kids get great nutrition at lunch. Don't just throw crap in your kid's lunch. Give them something healthy.
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So what you're saying us you're opinionated?
Was the child obese? If not, then keep it to yourself. YOU ARE NOT THE PERFECT PARENT
Oh, you are SO wrong there... I am, in fact, flawless.
Flawless and yet on a weight loss website
We're all here for the same reason.
Cauliflower recipes and Booby Friday!!! :drinker:
Boobie. Spell it right. Your driving me crazy and I will loose my mind.0 -
when they come home... the granola bar will be gone, and part of the yogurt drink. The cheese may be completely in tact, it may be eaten. the chicken and rice may or may not be touched.
They don't eat cheese?
You have demon spawn children???
My son won't eat cheese unless it's melted on a burger or a pizza...I has shame
they eat it at home like crazy. I can't get them to leave it alone.
But at school?
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Why is there so much anger in here? Stop for a minute. Yes, we all know kids like to eat garbage food, but if that is what the kid was getting regularly even my 7 year old would bring it up to me. He'd probably even ask her why she doesn't eat any healthy food. It is OUR responsibility to teach our children how to eat! How will this child eat when she grows up? Hmmm? Probably not going to make the immediate switch to lean proteins and vegetables when she heads off to college.
It's your responsibility for your own kid. Christ sake. ''Why you never eat anything healthy''? Do you even know how insulting that sounds? You teach your kids to say things like that? Shame on you. Also a lot of people I know in college ate like normal people growing up, and then ate junk food and gained weight when they lived on their own. So not everything is black and white.
YES! The child the OP is speaking of has parents who are responsible for her. They should be considering her future. And NO, I have not taught my kid to ask that. I have taught him that there are foods that we eat in order to be healthy and grow and there are foods that are occasional treats. He wouldn't judge them, he would be genuinely concerned that they aren't getting healthy food.0 -
This thread has been hugely entertaining. Some of the opinions here are just delicious.
Well at least we know you aren't going hungry....like the OP's little girl whom she gave lovely chicken breast to.
You know since she had sugar snacks in her lunch0 -
Being Judged, sometimes make people make better choices ! The problem today is that we don't judge enough!
Only if they know it's an issue.... people talking behind other peoples' backs solve NOTHING. Bringing it to the parents' attention, or asking questions of HOW TO HELP the situation is what gets things solved.
Huh? Awareness and discussion are not part of the solution process??? Egads. What an incredibly simplistic world in which you must live.
Gimme a break... All I'm saying is that if SOMEONE said something to the parents (in this case) MAYBE there would be a change, talking about it HERE doesn't do anything good for this little girl. Turn my comment into whatever you need to in order to make it okay to talk behind people's back instead of helping a kid. No skin off my nose. :flowerforyou:
No, singling out the parent like that is not the best solution.
I'd love to hear that conversation though.0 -
I know it's no excuse for that kind of lunch to be in a 5 year old's bag but maybe she's a very picky eater and the parents decided that instead of subjecting the entire cafeteria to screaming and hissy fits over a real lunch they'd just give her what she wants at school and make her eat healthy at breakfast & dinner where they're the only ones that have to deal with it.
This is not to say I advocate the force-feeding of little ones, but the idea of allowing them to choose what they will and will not eat seems a little ridiculous to me. When I was five, my "choice" would have been a chocolate bar every single time! Thank goodness my Mom made me eat real food, whether I liked it or not.
Back in my day, picky eaters weren't rewarded with candy lunches and applause for trying their best, they sat at the table until they ate every last morsel of (now cold) food that was put in front of them. Or, they went to bed hungry -- entirely their choice. Give it a try sometime... If they get hungry enough, they'll eat those peas. Guaranteed.
We didn't throw hissy fits back in my day, either... Kids used to be afraid of pissing their parents off.
^^^^This. All of those reasons just stated above are the reasons that I do not want to reproduce. The world today is full of freaking whimps- (a better word begins with a P and rhymes with "wussies"....)
My mother packed me a lunch and if I chose not to eat it, I went hungry. I learned to eat what she packed or go hungry for the rest of the day.
The way that most of us were parented even 20 years ago would land most us in jail for child abuse these days. But it looks like most of us turned out fine......RIDICULOUS.
Actually, there's an argument that this "clean your plate" mentality is at least partly responsible for some of the obesity problems we are seeing today.
That said, I'm more in agreement with the above concepts than I am in disagreement.0 -
Oh, excuse me. The OP just opened the kid's lunch and then proceeded to gossip with the lunch ladies about it. You think the kid didn't notice?
The child was no where near when I asked the teacher later if that was normal. I seriously think you're delving into your own personal issues here and imagining a scenario that didn't happen.
You asked the teacher if this child's lunch is "normal"? Who the hell are you to ask a teacher about another child? If I was this poor child's mother you and i would have serious issues. Who are you to judge another parent or to discuss it with the teacher? I am appalled by YOUR actions. Disgusting.
Throughout this thread the irony has just been monumental. It's downright comical how many posters are judging the OP for judging someone else.
I love people.
She put herself out here to be judged. The parents of this child sent their child to school with her lunch. They were not looking to be judge by her. Yet this woman is questioning the teacher if this girls lunch is normal? Absolutely she will be judged- she is on a internet forum.
Just so you know...
...I'm judging you right now...
...harshly.
Judgement train!! Everyone hop on!0 -
Throughout this thread the irony has just been monumental. It's downright comical how many posters are judging the OP for judging someone else.
I love people.
She put herself out here to be judged. The parents of this child sent their child to school with her lunch. They were not looking to be judge by her. Yet this woman is questioning the teacher if this girls lunch is normal? Absolutely she will be judged- she is on a internet forum.
I get the impression you're the type of parent who would send their kids to school with candy as lunch, at least that is the impression you're portraying and you are trying to justify it....0 -
This is pretty messed up. I always take care to make sure my kids get great nutrition at lunch. Don't just throw crap in your kid's lunch. Give them something healthy.
In my kids lunch at least 3 times per week. Girl could live on meat, cheese, and crackers.
Not sure, are you saying this is good or bad, because I will change my parenting style depending on your answer, I mean....you are a waffle, I have to listen.0 -
Being Judged, sometimes make people make better choices ! The problem today is that we don't judge enough!
Only if they know it's an issue.... people talking behind other peoples' backs solve NOTHING. Bringing it to the parents' attention, or asking questions of HOW TO HELP the situation is what gets things solved.
Huh? Awareness and discussion are not part of the solution process??? Egads. What an incredibly simplistic world in which you must live.
Gimme a break... All I'm saying is that if SOMEONE said something to the parents (in this case) MAYBE there would be a change, talking about it HERE doesn't do anything good for this little girl. Turn my comment into whatever you need to in order to make it okay to talk behind people's back instead of helping a kid. No skin off my nose. :flowerforyou:
No, singling out the parent like that is not the best solution.
Now I am just even more curious... You don't believe that the best solution to changing the way a PARENT packs a "lunch" is to talk to the PARENT?
Edited to say that I don't even care anymore... I'm completely confused by all of it... If there is an obvious issue with the way that a child is eating, behaving, dressing, etc. I would think that it is well within a teacher's right (maybe right isn't the right word) to speak up and say something... "You know, I noticed that So-so's lunches are lacking in xxxxx and she seems (insert word here: hungry, tired, whatever) a little while after lunch. I just thought you should know. She seems to like chicken maybe we could try hot lunches sometimes?" and see where it goes. But no. you are right. Let's talk about it HERE and hope little So-so's mom figures it out after a while... who knows? Maybe she reads the MFP forums!? Issue solved. See ya folks! It's been... interesting. 0 -
I went fishing for crazy today.0
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^^^^This. All of those reasons just stated above are the reasons that I do not want to reproduce. The world today is full of freaking whimps- (a better word begins with a P and rhymes with "wussies"....)
My mother packed me a lunch and if I chose not to eat it, I went hungry. I learned to eat what she packed or go hungry for the rest of the day.
The way that most of us were parented even 20 years ago would land most us in jail for child abuse these days. But it looks like most of us turned out fine......RIDICULOUS.
See, this works well if you're a wussie child. I on the other hand for example took the "Oh? I will just go hungry? Good, i'll show you. And i'll make you feel horrible and worthless for not feeding me". It seemed to work pretty well.
Was this because my mother was just a *ussy? No, it's because i was strong willed and I'll be damned if someone controls me like that.0 -
I know it's no excuse for that kind of lunch to be in a 5 year old's bag but maybe she's a very picky eater and the parents decided that instead of subjecting the entire cafeteria to screaming and hissy fits over a real lunch they'd just give her what she wants at school and make her eat healthy at breakfast & dinner where they're the only ones that have to deal with it.
This is not to say I advocate the force-feeding of little ones, but the idea of allowing them to choose what they will and will not eat seems a little ridiculous to me. When I was five, my "choice" would have been a chocolate bar every single time! Thank goodness my Mom made me eat real food, whether I liked it or not.
Back in my day, picky eaters weren't rewarded with candy lunches and applause for trying their best, they sat at the table until they ate every last morsel of (now cold) food that was put in front of them. Or, they went to bed hungry -- entirely their choice. Give it a try sometime... If they get hungry enough, they'll eat those peas. Guaranteed.
We didn't throw hissy fits back in my day, either... Kids used to be afraid of pissing their parents off.
Yup - infact my husband and I just took an extracurricular activity one night away from our almost 6 year old. Why, becasue I said if you don't eat supper, you won't go (and she has been doing this for weeks now). I try to serve my kids food they like - but she was trying to "be the boss". So, as she cried we told her she wouldn't be going. We also told her, when she was hungry, supper would be there waiting. And if she didn't eat it, guess what breakfast was and so on.... She ended up finishing supper right before bed and then last night (when her activity was on again) she gobbled up supper.0 -
it is what it is.
most kids are like that
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So what you're saying us you're opinionated?
Was the child obese? If not, then keep it to yourself. YOU ARE NOT THE PERFECT PARENT
Oh, you are SO wrong there... I am, in fact, flawless.
Flawless and yet on a weight loss website
We're all here for the same reason.
Cauliflower recipes and Booby Friday!!! :drinker:
Boobie. Spell it right. Your driving me crazy and I will loose my mind.
What are you, the speling police?0 -
People have serious rose-colored glasses when talking about their own childhoods.I know it's no excuse for that kind of lunch to be in a 5 year old's bag but maybe she's a very picky eater and the parents decided that instead of subjecting the entire cafeteria to screaming and hissy fits over a real lunch they'd just give her what she wants at school and make her eat healthy at breakfast & dinner where they're the only ones that have to deal with it.
This is not to say I advocate the force-feeding of little ones, but the idea of allowing them to choose what they will and will not eat seems a little ridiculous to me. When I was five, my "choice" would have been a chocolate bar every single time! Thank goodness my Mom made me eat real food, whether I liked it or not.
Back in my day, picky eaters weren't rewarded with candy lunches and applause for trying their best, they sat at the table until they ate every last morsel of (now cold) food that was put in front of them. Or, they went to bed hungry -- entirely their choice. Give it a try sometime... If they get hungry enough, they'll eat those peas. Guaranteed.
We didn't throw hissy fits back in my day, either... Kids used to be afraid of pissing their parents off.
Yup - infact my husband and I just took an extracurricular activity one night away from our almost 6 year old. Why, becasue I said if you don't eat supper, you won't go. I try to serve my kids food they like - but she was trying to "be the boss". So, as she cried we told her she wouldn't be going. We also told her, when she was hungry, supper would be there waiting. And if she didn't eat it, guess what breakfast was and so on.... She ended up finishing supper right before bed and then last night (when her activity was) she gobbled up supper.0 -
I went fishing for crazy today.
And you caught it. So much you could freaking cook it for dinner. Is crazy healthy and is it served in bag lunches?0 -
I know it's no excuse for that kind of lunch to be in a 5 year old's bag but maybe she's a very picky eater and the parents decided that instead of subjecting the entire cafeteria to screaming and hissy fits over a real lunch they'd just give her what she wants at school and make her eat healthy at breakfast & dinner where they're the only ones that have to deal with it.
This is not to say I advocate the force-feeding of little ones, but the idea of allowing them to choose what they will and will not eat seems a little ridiculous to me. When I was five, my "choice" would have been a chocolate bar every single time! Thank goodness my Mom made me eat real food, whether I liked it or not.
Back in my day, picky eaters weren't rewarded with candy lunches and applause for trying their best, they sat at the table until they ate every last morsel of (now cold) food that was put in front of them. Or, they went to bed hungry -- entirely their choice. Give it a try sometime... If they get hungry enough, they'll eat those peas. Guaranteed.
We didn't throw hissy fits back in my day, either... Kids used to be afraid of pissing their parents off.
My post was purely speculation. I do not have kids, nor did my mother pack lunches full of candy for me as a child. I am also of the mindset that picky eaters can eat what is prepared or go hungry but maybe that's why my nephews never come over for dinner.0 -
Being Judged, sometimes make people make better choices ! The problem today is that we don't judge enough!
Only if they know it's an issue.... people talking behind other peoples' backs solve NOTHING. Bringing it to the parents' attention, or asking questions of HOW TO HELP the situation is what gets things solved.
Huh? Awareness and discussion are not part of the solution process??? Egads. What an incredibly simplistic world in which you must live.
Gimme a break... All I'm saying is that if SOMEONE said something to the parents (in this case) MAYBE there would be a change, talking about it HERE doesn't do anything good for this little girl. Turn my comment into whatever you need to in order to make it okay to talk behind people's back instead of helping a kid. No skin off my nose. :flowerforyou:
No, singling out the parent like that is not the best solution.
Now I am just even more curious... You don't believe that the best solution to changing the way a PARENT packs a "lunch" is to talk to the PARENT?
Taking a single parent aside and telling them that they are packing crap lunches for their kid and need to do better? No, I don't think that is the best solution. It lacks tact and will piss the parent off because they will feel attacked by your throwing their deficiency in their face.
Sending home literature on nutritional needs or having a group parenting meeting is by far better as well as educating the kids themselves.
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I know it's no excuse for that kind of lunch to be in a 5 year old's bag but maybe she's a very picky eater and the parents decided that instead of subjecting the entire cafeteria to screaming and hissy fits over a real lunch they'd just give her what she wants at school and make her eat healthy at breakfast & dinner where they're the only ones that have to deal with it.
This is not to say I advocate the force-feeding of little ones, but the idea of allowing them to choose what they will and will not eat seems a little ridiculous to me. When I was five, my "choice" would have been a chocolate bar every single time! Thank goodness my Mom made me eat real food, whether I liked it or not.
Back in my day, picky eaters weren't rewarded with candy lunches and applause for trying their best, they sat at the table until they ate every last morsel of (now cold) food that was put in front of them. Or, they went to bed hungry -- entirely their choice. Give it a try sometime... If they get hungry enough, they'll eat those peas. Guaranteed.
We didn't throw hissy fits back in my day, either... Kids used to be afraid of pissing their parents off.
^^^^This. All of those reasons just stated above are the reasons that I do not want to reproduce. The world today is full of freaking whimps- (a better word begins with a P and rhymes with "wussies"....)
My mother packed me a lunch and if I chose not to eat it, I went hungry. I learned to eat what she packed or go hungry for the rest of the day.
The way that most of us were parented even 20 years ago would land most us in jail for child abuse these days. But it looks like most of us turned out fine......RIDICULOUS.
Actually, there's an argument that this "clean your plate" mentality is at least partly responsible for some of the obesity problems we are seeing today.
That said, I'm more in agreement with the above concepts than I am in disagreement.
Wasn't including the "clean your plate" mentality in there... I think that's BS also. BUT... I was referring to the mentality when I was growing up that if I didn't eat what I was sent to school with (which was usually fairly healthy) that I was going to be hungry until I got home and ate dinner. The mentality of parents giving their kids junk to eat so that "at least they eat something" is BS.0 -
Well, this makes me feel way less guilty about buying the fruit snacks, I can say that much.(We get the type made with juice, but it's still basically candy.) But seriously, it's not *that* hard to buy "easy" lunch foods that aren't complete junk. Swap 100% juice for the purple stuff and two string cheese for the M&Ms and you're halfway there.
My daughter wanted a peanut butter and jelly sandwich every. single. day. her first half of kindergarten. She's now "branched out" and will also accept ham. A typical lunch for her now would be PB&J (on wheat, I never buy white bread), applesauce, a veggie like red peppers or cherry tomatoes, juice box and graham crackers. The veggies come home a lot, but I figure the important thing is offering them. When I'm feeling really wild I swap in Go-gurt or string cheese for the sandwich.0 -
I went fishing for crazy today.
And you caught it. So much you could freaking cook it for dinner. Is crazy healthy and is it served in bag lunches?
I was thinking I'd steam it and skip the salt to healthify it??0 -
People have serious rose-colored glasses when talking about their own childhoods.I know it's no excuse for that kind of lunch to be in a 5 year old's bag but maybe she's a very picky eater and the parents decided that instead of subjecting the entire cafeteria to screaming and hissy fits over a real lunch they'd just give her what she wants at school and make her eat healthy at breakfast & dinner where they're the only ones that have to deal with it.
This is not to say I advocate the force-feeding of little ones, but the idea of allowing them to choose what they will and will not eat seems a little ridiculous to me. When I was five, my "choice" would have been a chocolate bar every single time! Thank goodness my Mom made me eat real food, whether I liked it or not.
Back in my day, picky eaters weren't rewarded with candy lunches and applause for trying their best, they sat at the table until they ate every last morsel of (now cold) food that was put in front of them. Or, they went to bed hungry -- entirely their choice. Give it a try sometime... If they get hungry enough, they'll eat those peas. Guaranteed.
We didn't throw hissy fits back in my day, either... Kids used to be afraid of pissing their parents off.
Yup - infact my husband and I just took an extracurricular activity one night away from our almost 6 year old. Why, becasue I said if you don't eat supper, you won't go. I try to serve my kids food they like - but she was trying to "be the boss". So, as she cried we told her she wouldn't be going. We also told her, when she was hungry, supper would be there waiting. And if she didn't eat it, guess what breakfast was and so on.... She ended up finishing supper right before bed and then last night (when her activity was) she gobbled up supper.
Seriously, it's like some of them forgot that broccoli sometimes tasted like blood.0
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