I'm kind of appalled...

MireyGal76

I haven't read all pages, but hey, it's never stopped me before.

Yes, the kid should eat healthier.

I have a 6 year old and an 8 year old and I HATE packing lunches.

HATE HATE HATE it.

They don't like sammiches, they don't like this, or that, or what have you. I have piles of healthy food, and they want none of it.
I send it anyways, and it often comes home uneaten.

Their food today:
grapes, cheese, yogurt drink, chicken, rice, with ranch dressing, and a granola bar.

when they come home... the granola bar will be gone, and part of the yogurt drink. The cheese may be completely in tact, it may be eaten. the chicken and rice may or may not be touched.

I may throw out a good chunk of what I send, but if I don't send it, then they are hungry.
If I knew that they'd eat jelly sandwiches, I'd send those - just to make sure they are eating.

I really don't want to throw out uneaten food every day. But I can mostly afford it, and TRY HARD to find food they will ACTUALLY eat.

Sooooooooo....

Take a situation with someone who has an even SMALLER income, and a picky child, and yeah... if that's what their kid will eat that day, then I'd send that and make sure they ate better at home.

angryguy77

maybe the parent let the kid decide what she wanted for lunch as a reward?

whierd

So what you're saying us you're opinionated?

Was the child obese? If not, then keep it to yourself. YOU ARE NOT THE PERFECT PARENT

Oh, you are SO wrong there... I am, in fact, flawless.

Flawless and yet on a weight loss website

We're all here for the same reason.

Cauliflower recipes and Booby Friday!!! :drinker:

dbmata

So what you're saying us you're opinionated?

Was the child obese? If not, then keep it to yourself. YOU ARE NOT THE PERFECT PARENT

Oh, you are SO wrong there... I am, in fact, flawless.

Flawless and yet on a weight loss website

We're all here for the same reason.

Yup, tail.

jenbk2

Oh, excuse me. The OP just opened the kid's lunch and then proceeded to gossip with the lunch ladies about it. You think the kid didn't notice?

The child was no where near when I asked the teacher later if that was normal. I seriously think you're delving into your own personal issues here and imagining a scenario that didn't happen.

You asked the teacher if this child's lunch is "normal"? Who the hell are you to ask a teacher about another child? If I was this poor child's mother you and i would have serious issues. Who are you to judge another parent or to discuss it with the teacher? I am appalled by YOUR actions. Disgusting.

Throughout this thread the irony has just been monumental. It's downright comical how many posters are judging the OP for judging someone else.

I love people.

She put herself out here to be judged. The parents of this child sent their child to school with her lunch. They were not looking to be judge by her. Yet this woman is questioning the teacher if this girls lunch is normal? Absolutely she will be judged- she is on a internet forum.

Donna_Renae

Stop worrying about what people do with THEIR kids. I hate when people shove their unwanted noses in other people's business. If a kid wants to have a purple drink, let them. -.-

What if the kid wanted purple drank instead?

LMFAO!!!!

whierd

This thread has been hugely entertaining. Some of the opinions here are just delicious.

SpeSHul_SnoflEHk

Oh, excuse me. The OP just opened the kid's lunch and then proceeded to gossip with the lunch ladies about it. You think the kid didn't notice?

The child was no where near when I asked the teacher later if that was normal. I seriously think you're delving into your own personal issues here and imagining a scenario that didn't happen.

Have fun feeling superior for judging a family that you don't know and exposing the child to embarrassment.

I'm sorry, it seems that you've had a bit of a reading comprehension fail. I've bolded the parts you seemed to have had trouble with in the hopes that you understand better.

Beat me to it...

EXACTLY what I was going to say...thanks Ariel! :flowerforyou:

MFP has taught me well that judging others is *never* acceptable...

...unless those "others" are judging others, and then it's completely fine...admirable, even.


(Likewise, body shaming is *never* acceptable...

...unless the target is "fit" people.)

I am soooooo glad that somebody got the message!

SpeSHul_SnoflEHk

So what you're saying us you're opinionated?

Was the child obese? If not, then keep it to yourself. YOU ARE NOT THE PERFECT PARENT

Oh, you are SO wrong there... I am, in fact, flawless.

Hey, why is one boob higher than the other?

Maybe they didn't know!?

I noticed.

angryguy77

Today was my first day volunteering in my son's cafeteria for lunch. I'm just there to help open containers, pick up spills, fetch the forgotten salt & ketchup, etc... This is a small private school where hot lunch is made by the women at church, generally not too shabby as far as nutrition goes, and a whopping $1.75.

Todays hot lunch was chicken breast sandwich, corn, applesauce, and dessert with milk.

One little girl's lunch (her zipper was stuck, so I opened it), was Applesauce, Dora Fruit Snacks, M&Ms, and a purple drink thingy. She's five. Pick up your game mom & dad and give your child some real food. If the child is packing their own lunch, they shouldn't be... There's a very off chance the child swapped lunch stuff, so I asked the teacher and she said it's like that daily.

I just judged. Yup. Sure did. Give your kid some real food.

Crazy op is crazy

whierd

Today was my first day volunteering in my son's cafeteria for lunch. I'm just there to help open containers, pick up spills, fetch the forgotten salt & ketchup, etc... This is a small private school where hot lunch is made by the women at church, generally not too shabby as far as nutrition goes, and a whopping $1.75.

Todays hot lunch was chicken breast sandwich, corn, applesauce, and dessert with milk.

One little girl's lunch (her zipper was stuck, so I opened it), was Applesauce, Dora Fruit Snacks, M&Ms, and a purple drink thingy. She's five. Pick up your game mom & dad and give your child some real food. If the child is packing their own lunch, they shouldn't be... There's a very off chance the child swapped lunch stuff, so I asked the teacher and she said it's like that daily.

I just judged. Yup. Sure did. Give your kid some real food.

Crazy op is crazy

She's also hot, so it is ok.

rml_16

when they come home... the granola bar will be gone, and part of the yogurt drink. The cheese may be completely in tact, it may be eaten. the chicken and rice may or may not be touched.

They don't eat cheese?

You have demon spawn children???

AwesomelyAmber

Being Judged, sometimes make people make better choices ! The problem today is that we don't judge enough!

Only if they know it's an issue.... people talking behind other peoples' backs solve NOTHING. Bringing it to the parents' attention, or asking questions of HOW TO HELP the situation is what gets things solved.

Huh? Awareness and discussion are not part of the solution process??? Egads. What an incredibly simplistic world in which you must live.

Gimme a break... All I'm saying is that if SOMEONE said something to the parents (in this case) MAYBE there would be a change, talking about it HERE doesn't do anything good for this little girl. Turn my comment into whatever you need to in order to make it okay to talk behind people's back instead of helping a kid. No skin off my nose. :flowerforyou:

jofjltncb6

So what you're saying us you're opinionated?

Was the child obese? If not, then keep it to yourself. YOU ARE NOT THE PERFECT PARENT

Oh, you are SO wrong there... I am, in fact, flawless.

Flawless and yet on a weight loss website

1. This isn't a weight loss website.
2. Your sarcasm meter is broken.

I wasn't being sarcastic. Seems like the majority on this website are here to lose weight. I'll stick to my original classification.

Yeah, Odus. She wasn't being sarcastic.

Hmph. Guess I really am on the wrong website...

Cliffslosinit

I am now taking donations for lunch money. Kthnx:flowerforyou:

just_Jennie1

It is WAY more expensive to buy the crap than healthy stuff.

I disagree on this.

When I go through my weekly flier for the grocery store 90% of the items that are on sale -- buy one get 2 or 3 free, 2/$5 etc. -- is junk food. Chips, soda, candy, cakes, pre-packaged foods, sugar cereals . . .

Go through any flier that has coupons and you will find coupons for the same items.

Sure the healthy stuff is "on sale" but per pound it's still expensive. Yes, eggs might be on sale but they're only a dollar off. I've never seen any awesome deals on yogurts or milk. The only item I've ever really seen on sale and a good deal is frozen vegetables. The majority of it is crap.

Unless you're shopping at a ware-house type store like Price Rite or BJ's/Costco but even then you have to know and watch the prices on the healthy stuff.

LauraMacNCheese

when they come home... the granola bar will be gone, and part of the yogurt drink. The cheese may be completely in tact, it may be eaten. the chicken and rice may or may not be touched.

They don't eat cheese?

You have demon spawn children???

My son won't eat cheese unless it's melted on a burger or a pizza...I has shame :embarassed:

odusgolp

...Todays hot lunch was chicken breast sandwich, corn, applesauce, and dessert with milk.

How much of the "good" stuff of the hot lunch did you see in the trash? My guess is that most of the kids ate the dessert and the applesauce. That was the observation that I was appalled with when I've visited my child's school. Sure parents need to up thier game, but there are kids out there that won't eat it no matter what you put in their bag. Especially a kindergartener.

Honestly, very little. They're given a full 30 minutes for lunch (which is longer than some, which I think is great). Some kids didn't eat the corn, some didn't eat the applesauce, but all of them ate at least 1/2 of the chicken (I was surprised actually), and most of them ate the graham crackers for dessert. The teacher also goes around and dismisses them individually after making sure they've eaten and drank their milk. They actually don't get excused until they've eaten a decent amount of their lunch. I was pleasantly surprised. It wasn't that rigorous when I was little. Every school has their own system, but this wasn't all that bad.

brandyla78

should have never given her that junk to begin with then she wouldn't be a "picky eater" picking terrible things to eat. Ridiculous.

Spoken by someone who has never truly known or been a picky eater.

SPOKEN by someone who was raised to eat it or be hungry. Guess what...I may not have liked it but as long as I was hungry I would eat it or just stay hungry. I don't bring that junk home for my kids...if they are hungry they will eat what we have...and it's not junk food. It's time for parents to be about parenting....can you HONESTLY say you'd feed your children M&M's and crap food KNOWING the results of that lifestyle can seriously harm them rather than "fight the battle" of buying good nourishing foods and them growing up on healthy stuff. 95% of the time how/what children will or won't eat is learned. Yes I am aware of allergies and behavioral issues that cause some children to not tolerate certain foods but if you didn't ever feed her M&M's I'd be willing to bet she would have eaten something else.

And, again, you have NO IDEA.

I was a very picky eater. I would go days without eating if it was between that or eating something I didn't like.

In fact, my parents were vegetarians when I was born and they had to start eating meat again because I would starve myself rather than eat the vegetarian meals.

thank you for proving my point...they started eating meat again...not junk food....

I did not proove your point. I pointed out that a truly, truly, TRULY picky eater will not eat someothing he or she does not like rather than go hungry. I never -- even still -- had a problem with feeling hungry. I actually quite like the feeling of hunger.

You have totally swayed my thought process. I would so let my kid live on candy now

bcf7683

I know it's no excuse for that kind of lunch to be in a 5 year old's bag but maybe she's a very picky eater and the parents decided that instead of subjecting the entire cafeteria to screaming and hissy fits over a real lunch they'd just give her what she wants at school and make her eat healthy at breakfast & dinner where they're the only ones that have to deal with it.

This is not to say I advocate the force-feeding of little ones, but the idea of allowing them to choose what they will and will not eat seems a little ridiculous to me. When I was five, my "choice" would have been a chocolate bar every single time! Thank goodness my Mom made me eat real food, whether I liked it or not.

Back in my day, picky eaters weren't rewarded with candy lunches and applause for trying their best, they sat at the table until they ate every last morsel of (now cold) food that was put in front of them. Or, they went to bed hungry -- entirely their choice. Give it a try sometime... If they get hungry enough, they'll eat those peas. Guaranteed.

We didn't throw hissy fits back in my day, either... Kids used to be afraid of pissing their parents off.

^^^^This. All of those reasons just stated above are the reasons that I do not want to reproduce. The world today is full of freaking whimps- (a better word begins with a P and rhymes with "wussies"....)

My mother packed me a lunch and if I chose not to eat it, I went hungry. I learned to eat what she packed or go hungry for the rest of the day.

The way that most of us were parented even 20 years ago would land most us in jail for child abuse these days. But it looks like most of us turned out fine......RIDICULOUS.