Is it wrong/ok to leave someone if.......
ChristinaOrtiz23
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Is it wrong/ok to leave someone if they don't want to get married or have anymore kids?
Break down: 6 1/2 years together and 4 1/2 year old
Im 25 (26 in February) he 30
Break down: 6 1/2 years together and 4 1/2 year old
Im 25 (26 in February) he 30
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nope0
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Not one bit.
But if you're together for 6 1/2 years, how did this not come up earlier? Or did they just change their mind?0 -
Is it wrong/ok to leave someone if they don't want to get married or have anymore kids?
Break down: 6 1/2 years together and 4 1/2 year old
There is no wrong reason to leave someone. If, for any reason what so ever, you do not want to be with a person, then that reason is the right reason to leave them.0 -
back in the day you didnt throw anything away, you fixed it. It seems a lot of people think that the grass is greener on the other side. Its always green over a septic tank :laugh:0
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This is whats knows as having a second, secret family.0
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no, its not wrong,
cleary you are not wanting the same things0 -
Why can't you just accept it? You've been with him this long? Why would you want to get married anyways? Seems like it just complicates things. IMO0
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back in the day you didnt throw anything away, you fixed it. It seems a lot of people think that the grass is greener on the other side. Its always green over a septic tank :laugh:
You can't "fix" having completely different values, fundamentally.. It's a pretty huge dealbreaker when one person wants kids, and the other person doesn't.
There's nothing to fix in that situation. If one person bends so the other person gets what they want, they'll end up bitter and resenting him/her for it in the long run.0 -
Is it wrong/ok to leave someone if they don't want to get married or have anymore kids?
Break down: 6 1/2 years together and 4 1/2 year old
Im 25 (26 in February) he 30
I think the most important thing in this scenario is the child.
And children tend to do better where their parents are separated but on amicable terms rather than together and acrimonious.0 -
i suggest you leave your laptop open to this thread when he is home... things should work themselves out0
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its not wrong if you both wanted to take a different path.. you have to learn to compremise and make sacrifices if you love someone , if you loved each other it would'nt make a difference if you married or not or how many children as long as you had each other.
imo of course (20yrs experience)0 -
If you've been together for that long and marriage is important to you, but he can't make the commitment, leave. By all means, you deserve a man who will do anything to make you happy.0
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If you want to go, go. Sticking around "for the children" usually turns the children into a mess.0
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Not specifically speaking from any sort of experience here, buuut...
I think the big problem is that you're telling us about it and not him?0 -
That's a very personal decision and I don't think anyone else can tell you if it's the right or wrong one for you and your family.
It sounds like marriage is very important to you, and there is nothing wrong with that. If that is a top priority, then it probably is time to reevaluate your situation. There is a mutual child involved which makes this situation all the more difficult, but you need to have the type of family structure that works for you and makes you happy.0 -
You only have one life and if you want more kids you could regret not having them for the rest of your life. Leave and find someone who wants the same thing you do while you are still young.0
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back in the day you didnt throw anything away, you fixed it. It seems a lot of people think that the grass is greener on the other side. Its always green over a septic tank :laugh:
Don't fall in. I'll go to the other side of the fence.0 -
back in the day you didnt throw anything away, you fixed it. It seems a lot of people think that the grass is greener on the other side. Its always green over a septic tank :laugh:
You mean you settled.0 -
Doesn't want to get married or have any more kids?
Not wrong, and definitely don't get pregnant again with this person! Separate, take care of yourself and your child, and move on with life.
Once you're married I believe you should do everything you can to repair damaged relationships, but without that commitment there is no reason to stay.
Good luck.0 -
You're only 25. 6 1/2 years seems like a long time but what are your options? Would you really want to be 75, have spent 56 years with him and still not have ever gotten married or had anymore kids? If that thought appalls you then get it fixed or get out now.0
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