Why is this girl doing this to me? (Girll help)

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  • ryry_
    ryry_ Posts: 4,966 Member
    This is a stick-up, stick-up (I need them bags and the money...)
    We're gonna stick-up, stick-up (You see them ask, "Where that money? ")
    All my ladies get it up, I see you, I do the same;
    Take it to another level, no passengers on my plane

    And all my ladies, leave your man at home
    Cuz this club is full of ballers and they pockets full grown!

    Take, take, take it all
    But you never give
    Should've known you was trouble
    From the first kiss
    Had your eyes wide open
    Why were they open?

    Gave you all I had
    And you tossed it in the trash*
    You tossed it in the trash, you did
    To give me all your love is all I ever asked**




    *Not all the high end clothes and purses, you kept those.
    ** Among other things

    I told you I was trouble,
    You know that I'm no good*


    But still wanted me, because who wouldn't?

    You must not know 'bout me
    I can have another you by tomorrow*
    So don't you ever for a second get to thinkin'
    You're irreplaceable?**





    *The internet is great. I go to this website, put my card # in and I can order. If I link my prime account they promise free 2 day shipping for all prime eligible purchases.
    **I'm a sad lonely man, please don't leave me.
  • Hauntinglyfit
    Hauntinglyfit Posts: 5,537 Member
    This is a stick-up, stick-up (I need them bags and the money...)
    We're gonna stick-up, stick-up (You see them ask, "Where that money? ")
    All my ladies get it up, I see you, I do the same;
    Take it to another level, no passengers on my plane

    And all my ladies, leave your man at home
    Cuz this club is full of ballers and they pockets full grown!

    Take, take, take it all
    But you never give
    Should've known you was trouble
    From the first kiss
    Had your eyes wide open
    Why were they open?

    Gave you all I had
    And you tossed it in the trash*
    You tossed it in the trash, you did
    To give me all your love is all I ever asked**




    *Not all the high end clothes and purses, you kept those.
    ** Among other things

    I told you I was trouble,
    You know that I'm no good*


    But still wanted me, because who wouldn't?

    You must not know 'bout me
    I can have another you by tomorrow*
    So don't you ever for a second get to thinkin'
    You're irreplaceable?**





    *The internet is great. I go to this website, put my card # in and I can order. If I link my prime account they promise free 2 day shipping for all prime eligible purchases.
    **I'm a sad lonely man, please don't leave me.

    Oh please, you know that..

    Baby I am your everything, all you ever wanted
    We could do it real big, bigger than you ever done it
    I be up on everything, other h&^s ain't ever on it
    You want this forever, I swear you could spend whatever on it
    Cause I hold you down every time you hit me up
    When you get right I promise that we gone live it up
    And I make you beg for it, till I give it up
    And you say the same thing every single time

    You say...
    You the f&^kin' best
    You the best I ever had,
    Best I ever had

    .
  • ryry_
    ryry_ Posts: 4,966 Member
    This is a stick-up, stick-up (I need them bags and the money...)
    We're gonna stick-up, stick-up (You see them ask, "Where that money? ")
    All my ladies get it up, I see you, I do the same;
    Take it to another level, no passengers on my plane

    And all my ladies, leave your man at home
    Cuz this club is full of ballers and they pockets full grown!

    Take, take, take it all
    But you never give
    Should've known you was trouble
    From the first kiss
    Had your eyes wide open
    Why were they open?

    Gave you all I had
    And you tossed it in the trash*
    You tossed it in the trash, you did
    To give me all your love is all I ever asked**




    *Not all the high end clothes and purses, you kept those.
    ** Among other things

    I told you I was trouble,
    You know that I'm no good*


    But still wanted me, because who wouldn't?

    You must not know 'bout me
    I can have another you by tomorrow*
    So don't you ever for a second get to thinkin'
    You're irreplaceable?**





    *The internet is great. I go to this website, put my card # in and I can order. If I link my prime account they promise free 2 day shipping for all prime eligible purchases.
    **I'm a sad lonely man, please don't leave me.

    Oh please, you know that..

    Baby I am your everything, all you ever wanted
    We could do it real big, bigger than you ever done it
    I be up on everything, other h&^s ain't ever on it
    You want this forever, I swear you could spend whatever on it
    Cause I hold you down every time you hit me up
    When you get right I promise that we gone live it up
    And I make you beg for it, till I give it up
    And you say the same thing every single time

    You say...
    You the f&^kin' best
    You the best I ever had,
    Best I ever had

    .

    You are right I did. And I meant it. But some things I can't overlook.

    I mean come on What is this?
    Numbers in your pocket
    I remember when you
    Used to throw those things away
    Why do you wanna keep in touch now?
    Who gave you a reason?
    To act so shady
    You think that I don't know what's going on
    Cause you're always home alone
    And I'm always out of town
    You need to stop trying to play me
    Cause you can't even fade me
    I know you're messing around baby
  • Hauntinglyfit
    Hauntinglyfit Posts: 5,537 Member
    This is a stick-up, stick-up (I need them bags and the money...)
    We're gonna stick-up, stick-up (You see them ask, "Where that money? ")
    All my ladies get it up, I see you, I do the same;
    Take it to another level, no passengers on my plane

    And all my ladies, leave your man at home
    Cuz this club is full of ballers and they pockets full grown!

    Take, take, take it all
    But you never give
    Should've known you was trouble
    From the first kiss
    Had your eyes wide open
    Why were they open?

    Gave you all I had
    And you tossed it in the trash*
    You tossed it in the trash, you did
    To give me all your love is all I ever asked**




    *Not all the high end clothes and purses, you kept those.
    ** Among other things

    I told you I was trouble,
    You know that I'm no good*


    But still wanted me, because who wouldn't?

    You must not know 'bout me
    I can have another you by tomorrow*
    So don't you ever for a second get to thinkin'
    You're irreplaceable?**





    *The internet is great. I go to this website, put my card # in and I can order. If I link my prime account they promise free 2 day shipping for all prime eligible purchases.
    **I'm a sad lonely man, please don't leave me.

    Oh please, you know that..

    Baby I am your everything, all you ever wanted
    We could do it real big, bigger than you ever done it
    I be up on everything, other h&^s ain't ever on it
    You want this forever, I swear you could spend whatever on it
    Cause I hold you down every time you hit me up
    When you get right I promise that we gone live it up
    And I make you beg for it, till I give it up
    And you say the same thing every single time

    You say...
    You the f&^kin' best
    You the best I ever had,
    Best I ever had

    .

    You are right I did. And I meant it. But some things I can't overlook.

    I mean come on What is this?
    Numbers in your pocket
    I remember when you
    Used to throw those things away
    Why do you wanna keep in touch now?
    Who gave you a reason?
    To act so shady
    You think that I don't know what's going on
    Cause you're always home alone
    And I'm always out of town
    You need to stop trying to play me
    Cause you can't even fade me
    I know you're messing around baby

    First of all let me say
    You can't accuse me of all the things
    you know that you are guilty of
    And I see that it is easy for you to blame
    everything on me
    If that's the case I should go have my fun
    and do all the things you say I do
    Boy I can't continue to take this from you

    I might as well have cheated on you
    As much as you accused me of cheating
    I might as well have lied to you
    As much as you accused me of lying
    I might as well have gone to the club
    As much as you accused me of clubbin'
    I might as well have threw away my love
    As much as you accused me
  • Mrsallypants
    Mrsallypants Posts: 887 Member
    Wow, you're the typical nice guy.

    It's a good thing to help other people, but don't treat them like a princess or expect anything from it. Women just because they are women do not deserve special treatment (chivalry). Try to establish equality with them by making them pay or invest in some ways half of the time.

    She is a sociopath, your feelings for her is your weakness, your vulnerability of which she has exploited to her advantage. If you confront her about it, she would exclaim that she thought the two of you were good friends and that you only do nice things for her to get into her pants. Thus manipulating you into continuing the "friendship."

    How expensive condoms are?! I wonder if steam shot out of your ears. This reminds me of the line "THE thousand injuries of Fortunato I had borne as I best could, but when he ventured upon insult I vowed revenge."
  • ryry_
    ryry_ Posts: 4,966 Member
    This is a stick-up, stick-up (I need them bags and the money...)
    We're gonna stick-up, stick-up (You see them ask, "Where that money? ")
    All my ladies get it up, I see you, I do the same;
    Take it to another level, no passengers on my plane

    And all my ladies, leave your man at home
    Cuz this club is full of ballers and they pockets full grown!

    Take, take, take it all
    But you never give
    Should've known you was trouble
    From the first kiss
    Had your eyes wide open
    Why were they open?

    Gave you all I had
    And you tossed it in the trash*
    You tossed it in the trash, you did
    To give me all your love is all I ever asked**




    *Not all the high end clothes and purses, you kept those.
    ** Among other things

    I told you I was trouble,
    You know that I'm no good*


    But still wanted me, because who wouldn't?

    You must not know 'bout me
    I can have another you by tomorrow*
    So don't you ever for a second get to thinkin'
    You're irreplaceable?**





    *The internet is great. I go to this website, put my card # in and I can order. If I link my prime account they promise free 2 day shipping for all prime eligible purchases.
    **I'm a sad lonely man, please don't leave me.

    Oh please, you know that..

    Baby I am your everything, all you ever wanted
    We could do it real big, bigger than you ever done it
    I be up on everything, other h&^s ain't ever on it
    You want this forever, I swear you could spend whatever on it
    Cause I hold you down every time you hit me up
    When you get right I promise that we gone live it up
    And I make you beg for it, till I give it up
    And you say the same thing every single time

    You say...
    You the f&^kin' best
    You the best I ever had,
    Best I ever had

    .

    You are right I did. And I meant it. But some things I can't overlook.

    I mean come on What is this?
    Numbers in your pocket
    I remember when you
    Used to throw those things away
    Why do you wanna keep in touch now?
    Who gave you a reason?
    To act so shady
    You think that I don't know what's going on
    Cause you're always home alone
    And I'm always out of town
    You need to stop trying to play me
    Cause you can't even fade me
    I know you're messing around baby

    First of all let me say
    You can't accuse me of all the things
    you know that you are guilty of
    And I see that it is easy for you to blame
    everything on me
    If that's the case I should go have my fun
    and do all the things you say I do
    Boy I can't continue to take this from you

    I might as well have cheated on you
    As much as you accused me of cheating
    I might as well have lied to you
    As much as you accused me of lying
    I might as well have gone to the club
    As much as you accused me of clubbin'
    I might as well have threw away my love
    As much as you accused me

    Maybe you should. And while you're out

    tell me what am I suppose to do
    Should I stay and wait for you
    My heart is slowly aching for your love
    And I don’t know what to do
  • missomgitsica
    missomgitsica Posts: 496 Member
    1. Just because you're nice to her and you "connect" doesn't mean she has to be into you as anything more than a friend.

    2. You need to cut her off, because if you keep doing things and doing things and doing things that's all your relationship is going to be. At this point, she's using you, and if you let it keep happening it's your fault too.
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    Really sorry this happened to you. I did this to a friend of mine from high school in my early twenties. And the funny thing is, I didn't even have any ill intentions at the time. I feel awful for treating him this way now that I have matured, and I have apologized to him countless times. These days we laugh about it. However, he made an interesting comment about how it was probably hard for me to stop because he kept encouraging it and letting me walk all over him when he should have put a stop to it. So part of it was his fault as well. You are to her what women refer to as "Captain Save-A-Ho" or "A D*** In a Glass Case." Basically, you are a safety net for when things go wrong with other guys. Call her out on her crap, and stand up to her; she will probably start respecting you. Either that or she will stop talking to you, which is a better situation that you being the doormat that you are now. Good luck!
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    Pretty sure we are getting trolled.

    I thought that as well, but the guy I did this to when I was young and stupid was even more in denial than this guy. A neon billboard that said "She's Just Not Into You" would not have helped. It was awful and awkward for all of our friends as well. So I wonder...
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    I still cannot figure out why he is focusing on this $100 though when way more serious things are clearly going on. Lol, that part did make me giggle.
  • vtmoon
    vtmoon Posts: 3,436 Member
    As a professional troll, I hate to see this dude accused of trolling. He is just in a bad situation, it is rough that your first real developed emotions got capitalized on by this girl.

    I know the ladies can be tempting but it is probably cheaper for you to seek the help from a professional street walker. Chivalry is all but dead nowadays because women have options, being chivalrous to your extend makes you an easy target for girls like your roommate. Save your kindness to someone who values you, otherwise you will be real bitter by the time that special person comes along.

    January is almost here so stay strong and minimize your interaction with her, and hopefully she gets reincarnated as someone's whoha in the next life so she can experience how it feels to get screwed over.
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    As a professional troll, I hate to see this dude accused of trolling. He is just in a bad situation, it is rough that your first real developed emotions got capitalized on by this girl.

    I know the ladies can be tempting but it is probably cheaper for you to seek the help from a professional street walker. Chivalry is all but dead nowadays because women have options, being chivalrous to your extend makes you an easy target for girls like your roommate. Save your kindness to someone who values you, otherwise you will be real bitter by the time that special person comes along.

    January is almost here so stay strong and minimize your interaction with her, and hopefully she gets reincarnated as someone's whoha in the next life so she can experience how it feels to get screwed over.

    Hopefully, karma will see to it that she experiences how that feels in this life!
  • Spend time with her! If she makes you happy, chill with her and be a friend. I think you should always hang around people who make you happy in life. If she is causing you emotional distress, distance yourself or stay away from her entirely.:heart:
  • Myhaloslipped
    Myhaloslipped Posts: 4,317 Member
    This is a stick-up, stick-up (I need them bags and the money...)
    We're gonna stick-up, stick-up (You see them ask, "Where that money? ")
    All my ladies get it up, I see you, I do the same;
    Take it to another level, no passengers on my plane

    And all my ladies, leave your man at home
    Cuz this club is full of ballers and they pockets full grown!

    Take, take, take it all
    But you never give
    Should've known you was trouble
    From the first kiss
    Had your eyes wide open
    Why were they open?

    Gave you all I had
    And you tossed it in the trash*
    You tossed it in the trash, you did
    To give me all your love is all I ever asked**




    *Not all the high end clothes and purses, you kept those.
    ** Among other things

    I told you I was trouble,
    You know that I'm no good*


    But still wanted me, because who wouldn't?

    You must not know 'bout me
    I can have another you by tomorrow*
    So don't you ever for a second get to thinkin'
    You're irreplaceable?**





    *The internet is great. I go to this website, put my card # in and I can order. If I link my prime account they promise free 2 day shipping for all prime eligible purchases.
    **I'm a sad lonely man, please don't leave me.

    Oh please, you know that..

    Baby I am your everything, all you ever wanted
    We could do it real big, bigger than you ever done it
    I be up on everything, other h&^s ain't ever on it
    You want this forever, I swear you could spend whatever on it
    Cause I hold you down every time you hit me up
    When you get right I promise that we gone live it up
    And I make you beg for it, till I give it up
    And you say the same thing every single time

    You say...
    You the f&^kin' best
    You the best I ever had,
    Best I ever had

    .

    You are right I did. And I meant it. But some things I can't overlook.

    I mean come on What is this?
    Numbers in your pocket
    I remember when you
    Used to throw those things away
    Why do you wanna keep in touch now?
    Who gave you a reason?
    To act so shady
    You think that I don't know what's going on
    Cause you're always home alone
    And I'm always out of town
    You need to stop trying to play me
    Cause you can't even fade me
    I know you're messing around baby

    First of all let me say
    You can't accuse me of all the things
    you know that you are guilty of
    And I see that it is easy for you to blame
    everything on me
    If that's the case I should go have my fun
    and do all the things you say I do
    Boy I can't continue to take this from you

    I might as well have cheated on you
    As much as you accused me of cheating
    I might as well have lied to you
    As much as you accused me of lying
    I might as well have gone to the club
    As much as you accused me of clubbin'
    I might as well have threw away my love
    As much as you accused me

    Maybe you should. And while you're out

    tell me what am I suppose to do
    Should I stay and wait for you
    My heart is slowly aching for your love
    And I don’t know what to do

    I think you guys have the right idea. So maybe Drake and 2Chainz can get through to him:

    "She can have a grammy, I still treat her a** like a nominee,
    She's leaving on with that ***** like so one time is fine with me."

    That's more like it! :laugh:
  • _tam_
    _tam_ Posts: 257
    I'm so sorry. She has put you through the ringer. Heartbreak is the worst! She doesn't deserve you. I wish you all the best!
  • OllyReeves
    OllyReeves Posts: 579 Member
    Mate, you just need to move on. Forget the $100, forget how much you 'like' her.

    We've all been there, and we all have to learn from it.

    Remember that she's just a normal girl at the end of the day, you've put her on a pedestal.

    To be completely fair, you've done it yourself, you've made yourself her lapdog for so long that she's just got used to it. You need to enter your next relationship with more self respect.

    Put it down to experience, and move on. But make sure you learn from it.

    I remember when I was about 17 and I was pining hard for this girl, my mate's dad gave me this advice: No matter how hot a girl is, someone is bored of banging her. I don't know if that's helpful, but I remember it really made me laugh at the time!
  • Bloody hell, where's your self-respect?

    Grow a backbone and tell her to f*** off, people will only treat you badly if you let them. Stand up for yourself and move on. She's only a woman, there's plenty out there.
  • 2stepscloser
    2stepscloser Posts: 2,900 Member
    Awe, I'm sorry to hear that you are going through this. Unfortunately, she's just using you and not providing anything to you in return. Walk away, despite having feelings or caring about her feelings. She seems selfish and immature. You deserve someone better.
  • blably
    blably Posts: 490 Member
    im sorry im gonna say that but hell grow some balls.
    you KNOW that she is using you yet youre runing back to her like a wet puppy?

    unless you will make a reality check in your head this is gonna keep on goin no matter what we all say to you.

    and as long as even a tiny bit of you believes its gonna be different...itll be the same.

    just block the number, and ignore her. and yes i did it and i know that its as simple as that. it takes time to heal, but the first step is thats imple.
  • Calliope610
    Calliope610 Posts: 3,783 Member
    Don't let her take advantage of you. Make it clear that u have boundaries she can't cross. You're not responsible for her, and trust me.... at the end? No one's worth the pain.
    Yea, I realized that but I just can't say no to this girl. I've tried and already think that I will say no but when the time comes, yes comes out, lol.

    You can say no. You just don't want to.

    Ding Ding Ding - we have a winner!!!
  • I am sorry to say this; but Wake up smell the coffee!
    You are an easy target. You are nice, kind and sweet.
    You have no problem shelling out bucks and listening to her ramble on.
    Of course she is not interested in you in any other way, Why because you are
    life a "brother" or a family member. Because you will be there no matter what.
    You will never ignore the texts, you will continue to give cash when needed, also
    you have no problem talking to her for hours on in.
    Her new love interest is probably opposite of you, you know not as available. IDK
    Anyway, don't do what you have been doing because clearly it is not working in you favor.
    Switch it up, ignore her, ask her for cash, and lastly when you two talk try to talk mostly about you.
    Good Luck!

    You, are amazing! I lived my life like this guy, until someone like you told me the truth.

    Haha. The sad truth is there are so many men out there that are this way. Who do you blame him or her?

    Edit: *winning a losing game*

    If she had deceived him, I would say her, in his own words, she seems to have been brutally honest. As far as myself, it was a constant "why is HE doing this to ME. I am so good to him blah blah blah." I blame myself, everything that "he did" I allowed.
  • stumblinthrulife
    stumblinthrulife Posts: 2,558 Member
    Grow a pair and move on. She's not into you, she's never been into you, she never will be into you. Period.

    You fell into the classic friend zone way of thinking. Women aren't vending machines you put niceness into until sex comes out. Plenty of women are well aware of this behavior and happy to capitalize on it. Some are also just as naive as you are and don't realize that your 'niceness' is your idea of courting.

    You lost the money and time, they're not coming back. But you can still salvage what's left of your dignity by moving on. Just like weight loss, you'll look back and wish you started today.
  • rileamoyer
    rileamoyer Posts: 2,412 Member
    RUN RUN RUN from this woman as fast as you can!!!!!!!
  • suziepoo1984
    suziepoo1984 Posts: 915 Member
    Looks like she had great connection with you, but no attraction, so she made up some bs to say no to you!
    Now she know you are crazy about her and might be using you based on that.
    You are only going to hurt yourself more! If you are thinking, she likes me so much! She might fall in love one day, not going to happen or you might be better off of it did not!
    Try keeping some distance from her! Slowly ignore her calls and text and keep your mind busy with some other activities
  • RosaliaBee
    RosaliaBee Posts: 146 Member
    Great post.
    You fell into the classic friend zone way of thinking. Women aren't vending machines you put niceness into until sex comes out. Plenty of women are well aware of this behavior and happy to capitalize on it. Some are also just as naive as you are and don't realize that your 'niceness' is your idea of courting.
  • p4ulmiller
    p4ulmiller Posts: 588 Member
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  • sarahertzberger
    sarahertzberger Posts: 534 Member
    she's totally using you, I really hope you aren't still giving her money and paying for everything for her.
  • deksgrl
    deksgrl Posts: 7,237 Member
    Move on, unless you want to continue to be used. Spend time with other girls, other new friends.
  • msf74
    msf74 Posts: 3,498 Member
    Edited: I've just read your OP again a little more carefully.

    You need to get a grip mate and move on.

    If anything I think you're the problem here, not her...
  • fitterpam
    fitterpam Posts: 3,064 Member
    She sounds immature. She enjoys the attention and that she can crook her finger and you come running. Since you can't change her, it might be looking to see how the experience can change you.

    I don't like the term "used". She actually gave - she gave you a sense of feeling needed, feeling wanted and feeling connected. Gave you the taste of it (as a friend) and then took it away. Those feelings of being needed, wanted and connected trigger certain chemicals in the brain. I really think that's what you're missing - you're not missing her. So how can you use this to help change yourself?

    Bottom line - she has made it clear that she is not connected to you in a way that would indicate something more than friendship. She also made it clear that it will not happen. You are still harboring hope that someday she will change her mind - that is what has to change. She wants you to be happy - but it sounds like you're reluctant to find someone else because maybe....one day......You need to find other things (hobbies, interests, friends) that can help trigger those feelings and chemicals - that's the best way to get over a broken heart. Recognize that she's not perfect - that everyone is complex and capable of doing things to their friends. Ask her not to discuss relationship matters with you - it only serves to associate her with the things that you shouldn't be associating her with. This is where I think she is displaying the most immaturity - by bringing up her boyfriend and stuff with you, she's forcing you to think of her as someone's girlfriend.......I don't know many compassionate women who force their friends to do things daily that they are not comfortable with just so that they can have someone to listen.

    Brace yourself though, it will likely mean that she'll want to find a "real" friend who can listen to her complaints. And that is okay.