A girl who activeley pursues a man with a gf...
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Though I'm not saying its right, you're putting far too much blame on the girl and not your boyfriend. She isn't responsible for keeping YOUR relationship together. He is.
In my opinion, its far more pathetic to assume your boyfriend doesn't have control over his own actions and gets a free pass because some girl was pursuing him. Your boyfriend is clearly a POS. Leave him. You'll be much happier.
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^^ LMAO YOU ARE TERRIBLE.So... how should this girl who is actively pursuing a man with a GF log her calories burned while in pursuit? Would HRMs be the way to go here?
Well I couldn't find 'pursuing a taken man' in the exercise database, and Google was not a big help either.0 -
Though I'm not saying its right, you're putting far too much blame on the girl and not your boyfriend. She isn't responsible for keeping YOUR relationship together. He is.
In my opinion, its far more pathetic to assume your boyfriend doesn't have control over his own actions and gets a free pass because some girl was pursuing him. Your boyfriend is clearly a POS. Leave him. You'll be much happier.
You deserve better. Promise.
Exactly. And stop buying his bs "mistake" excuses. It's not like he tripped, fell and landed in her *****. Y'all know what word that is.0 -
Does anyone else think the healthiest, most productive thing from a relationship standpoint that the OP can do is to forget either person ever existed? Take a little time off, cool down, and then start dating others.0
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^^^ LMAO!!! :laugh: :laugh: :laugh:0 -
A girl who actively pursues a man with a g/f.....is seriously the most pathetic person in the world. I found out three days ago that my boyfriend of 5 months lied to me. He had slept with this girl that I didn't even know he knew.......
but opinions please
my opinion (since opinions were requested)
a man with a girlfriend who actively sleeps with another girl is the most pathetic, followed closely by the girl who keeps forgiving him and taking him back. the chick pursuing him would rank 3rd most pathetic in this list.
my second opinion- just break up
Yes. Yes. And YES!!0 -
My husband of 19 years was actively pursued by a woman 15 years his junior. She was relentless. I begged her to stay away, so we could figure out if we could get our marriage back on track. We have two kids. She wouldn't back off. This is the second marriage she interfered in.
Yes, my husband made the choice to cheat. But she preyed on someone who was going through a tough time. She didn't have the decency to stay away. Any girl who will go after someone in a relationship is disgusting.
But see again in this case, clearly that door was even so remotely cracked welcoming the attention from another woman....I really think most women wouldn't even bother trying to pursue a taken, or married man if the man in the first place made it very clear there was not even a smidge of hope. Even something a tiny as a flirtatious smile would be enough to encourage a woman that in inclined to go after a married man.
Agree!
Yes, and there were issues. However, she exploited that for her own satisfaction, at the expense of me and my family. Perhaps I would still have ended up divorced. But a decent person would have stayed away when the wife asked.
I'm sorry, I can't imagine how painful that was for you. I probably would have kicked her *kitten*, just because I don't share and I would be more than willing to prove that to her. But I most likely would have kicked his *kitten*, too, if he was encouraging her at all.
I divorced him. He begs to come home daily. The grass wasn't greener.0 -
He's playing both of you! Move on girl ~ there are more fish in the sea! you'll like yourself better for it!0
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I would seriously question anything he ever said/showed you again. I went through this with a SO for longer than 5 months, then he ended up marrying the other woman; still called me. I had to change the number (before texting got really big). I have since found out, he cheated on her too, and now they are divorced.
They are both at fault, and they do not change!!!! leave now, you'll be much happier in the long run.0 -
^^ LMAO YOU ARE TERRIBLE.So... how should this girl who is actively pursuing a man with a GF log her calories burned while in pursuit? Would HRMs be the way to go here?
Should she make sammiches to eat back said burn?0 -
Having sex with her is kind of leading her on.
Bingo.0 -
Damn girl! Why don't you ask your BF if you can join them? Seriously, a 3some with another woman is very hot!!! Bet he'll love it!
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He led her on just enough to have a contingency plan. A real man would have sacked up and gotten a hotel room alone or stayed a male friend's place. You don't text another woman every single day for months and hide it if you're doing nothing wrong. It's time to move on. If he really loved you and believed in the relationship, he wouldn't need a contingency plan.0
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From OP:If they wanted you, they would be with you. Ladies, we are classier than that!! Sorry so heavy for a Tuesday morning, but opinions please
But....He WAS with her.....MULTIPLE TIMES!! (And PROBABLY more times than you even realize)
Open your eyes babe! Stop wasting your time. You only have one life to live.0 -
My husband of 19 years was actively pursued by a woman 15 years his junior. She was relentless. I begged her to stay away, so we could figure out if we could get our marriage back on track. We have two kids. She wouldn't back off. This is the second marriage she interfered in.
Yes, my husband made the choice to cheat. But she preyed on someone who was going through a tough time. She didn't have the decency to stay away. Any girl who will go after someone in a relationship is disgusting.
But see again in this case, clearly that door was even so remotely cracked welcoming the attention from another woman....I really think most women wouldn't even bother trying to pursue a taken, or married man if the man in the first place made it very clear there was not even a smidge of hope. Even something a tiny as a flirtatious smile would be enough to encourage a woman that in inclined to go after a married man.
Agree!
Yes, and there were issues. However, she exploited that for her own satisfaction, at the expense of me and my family. Perhaps I would still have ended up divorced. But a decent person would have stayed away when the wife asked.
I'm sorry, I can't imagine how painful that was for you. I probably would have kicked her *kitten*, just because I don't share and I would be more than willing to prove that to her. But I most likely would have kicked his *kitten*, too, if he was encouraging her at all.
I divorced him. He begs to come home daily. The grass wasn't greener.
So sorry that happened to you! Hopefully you are better off now. Messing with a guy with a girlfriend is not cool at all, but messing with a married guy with a family is just...awful.0 -
My opinion: paragraphs are your friend
*takes 2 tylenol*
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My husband of 19 years was actively pursued by a woman 15 years his junior. She was relentless. I begged her to stay away, so we could figure out if we could get our marriage back on track. We have two kids. She wouldn't back off. This is the second marriage she interfered in.
Yes, my husband made the choice to cheat. But she preyed on someone who was going through a tough time. She didn't have the decency to stay away. Any girl who will go after someone in a relationship is disgusting.
But see again in this case, clearly that door was even so remotely cracked welcoming the attention from another woman....I really think most women wouldn't even bother trying to pursue a taken, or married man if the man in the first place made it very clear there was not even a smidge of hope. Even something a tiny as a flirtatious smile would be enough to encourage a woman that in inclined to go after a married man.
Agree!
Yes, and there were issues. However, she exploited that for her own satisfaction, at the expense of me and my family. Perhaps I would still have ended up divorced. But a decent person would have stayed away when the wife asked.
I'm sorry, I can't imagine how painful that was for you. I probably would have kicked her *kitten*, just because I don't share and I would be more than willing to prove that to her. But I most likely would have kicked his *kitten*, too, if he was encouraging her at all.
I divorced him. He begs to come home daily. The grass wasn't greener.
Good for you!0 -
I've always thought posting your personal issues on the web helps .......0
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My husband of 19 years was actively pursued by a woman 15 years his junior. She was relentless. I begged her to stay away, so we could figure out if we could get our marriage back on track. We have two kids. She wouldn't back off. This is the second marriage she interfered in.
Yes, my husband made the choice to cheat. But she preyed on someone who was going through a tough time. She didn't have the decency to stay away. Any girl who will go after someone in a relationship is disgusting.
But see again in this case, clearly that door was even so remotely cracked welcoming the attention from another woman....I really think most women wouldn't even bother trying to pursue a taken, or married man if the man in the first place made it very clear there was not even a smidge of hope. Even something a tiny as a flirtatious smile would be enough to encourage a woman that in inclined to go after a married man.
Agree!
Yes, and there were issues. However, she exploited that for her own satisfaction, at the expense of me and my family. Perhaps I would still have ended up divorced. But a decent person would have stayed away when the wife asked.
I'm sorry, I can't imagine how painful that was for you. I probably would have kicked her *kitten*, just because I don't share and I would be more than willing to prove that to her. But I most likely would have kicked his *kitten*, too, if he was encouraging her at all.
I divorced him. He begs to come home daily. The grass wasn't greener.
Looking at your pics…I fail to understand how he did not see he had it all…his loss0 -
Seriously, the last person to blame is "the other woman". It's just as much your man's fault. I've been down that path before and I'll you the hard truth "He's just not that into you." He doesn't respect you, he doesn't care about you, he's a liar, and he's not going to change, so decide if that's what you want to live with or you can wake up and realize there are about three BILLION other men on this planet and move on.0
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Don't know if this meme has been pulled out yet, but Cheers. :drinker:0 -
oo ooo here you are. I asked you in another thread but forgot to look and see if you answered.... It is December...did you lose the 75 pounds?Damn girl! Why don't you ask your BF if you can join them? Seriously, a 3some with another woman is very hot!!! Bet he'll love it!0 -
The second your boyfriend is sure you are sold on his "I'm done with her" act, he'll go back to this other chick and explain away the text he sent her. And since she obviously has no self-respect, she'll buy it, and then he'll have two girlfriends again. He really thinks that both of you are that stupid, and, so far, he's been proven right.
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But see again in this case, clearly that door was even so remotely cracked welcoming the attention from another woman....I really think most women wouldn't even bother trying to pursue a taken, or married man if the man in the first place made it very clear there was not even a smidge of hope. Even something a tiny as a flirtatious smile would be enough to encourage a woman that in inclined to go after a married man.
exactly….men are tempted, but when they think about their wives/gf etc… they make the choice to not smile back, or politely end a conversation, or politely leave a room where both are alone….it is possible for man, a real man that is
I think this is true from a male perspective, my husband tells me about it. Most women when they see his ring simmer down, or get embarrassed. Some continue. For those he tells me the actions he does next decides it and he says you have to be pretty clear and blunt with these types. There is no room for even a glimmer of hope like a smile or smirk because they will take it.0 -
oo ooo here you are. I asked you in another thread but forgot to look and see if you answered.... It is December...did you lose the 75 pounds?Damn girl! Why don't you ask your BF if you can join them? Seriously, a 3some with another woman is very hot!!! Bet he'll love it!
inquiring minds wanna KNOW!0 -
If you can deal with the fact that he'll probably cheat on you again in the future... and that might just be the truth to your relationship... well then, hey - take him back. Just know that it'll probably happen again in the future, and at that point, you really have no one else to blame but yourself. *shrug*
I realize that sounds passive aggressive, but I'm being completely serious. Either accept him - cheating and all - or let him go. He isn't going to change.0 -
Moving forward, you don't want a bf where you feel you have to look through his stuff and snoop on his phone. And that's how you will feel. It will be bad for you and death for the relationship. Just find someone who deserves you and your trust.0
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If you're reasonably attractive you'll get hit on regularly, in a relationship or not. That won't change anytime soon.
You're better off picking someone who can actually deal with that fact of life and say "no thanks" if you value monogomy.
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Sadly heaps of women like doing this. They actually get off on "stealing" taken men. If a guy lets himself be "stolen" He was never yours to begin with and he is not worth your time. Sorry to say that. I don't though believe in once a cheater always. I believe there are always certain circumstances and issues and they should be voiced among partners and maybe even addressed with professional help when something like this happens.
Maybe this was a faze.. Maybe not. That's for you to decide. How ever the fact that he actually txt her and sent that shows it may have been his one off and he didn't really care all that much for her. But the moment you suspect something like this again. Just leave him. Find someone better. 5 months into a relationship isn't all that much and for him to be okay with doing this to you, ruining loyalty and most importantly your trust. That's a deal breaker.
I'm a bit all over the place with what I'd do in your shoes but I just wanted to give both positive and negative reasoning. You will make the right choice in the end.
How can you know that? Her track record would indicate otherwise.0
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