A girl who activeley pursues a man with a gf...
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I totally read "man with a gif."
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I'm sorry but if he really didn't want to contact her or have contact from her he would have either blocked her number or changed his own. He sounds like he likes/gets an ego boost from being in contact with that horrible girl. It is a total 50/50 cheat here. I could never trust him again. How do you know he won't go get wasted and "get talked into" her bed again? I think this is a complete Bull story and you need to cut him loose. A good man won't do this and you can find someone who won't cheat on you girl. Hold out for the Truly Good Guy not the good enough guy. A real man will NOT do this to you.
This is the truth!
also, sounds like you are giving him a pass since you were the one that asked him to leave. You are making excuses for him. Also getting wasted to the point that you dont remember having sex with someone is pretty scary. Does he remember using condoms. You better get tested.0 -
Pathetic? All involved.
Her for keeping after someone who only uses her for sex.
Him for playing both sides.
You for putting up with it.
Glad you are going to get yourself some help with learning how to handle relationships, sounds like you need to learn some things. But just ditch him...he's not worth it.0 -
I totally read "man with a gif."
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Dump him. Dump him fast. Do not look back. Block his calls so he can't play the same game with you, keeping you on the string.0
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You only have his side of any of this. You don't know what kinds of things he has said and done. Emotions are tough to control. You're judging someone for a situation you don't really know anything about.
Thank you! I agree with everyone that it is his fault and not hers- but girls like that ARE just awfulMy husband of 19 years was actively pursued by a woman 15 years his junior. She was relentless. I begged her to stay away, so we could figure out if we could get our marriage back on track. We have two kids. She wouldn't back off. This is the second marriage she interfered in.
Yes, my husband made the choice to cheat. But she preyed on someone who was going through a tough time. She didn't have the decency to stay away. Any girl who will go after someone in a relationship is disgusting.
You're both kind of pathetic, if you ask me. He's a creep and you're both fighting over him.0 -
Good pointIf I felt the need to sleep with someone else every time my girlfriend and I had an argument, I'd question being in the relationship at all.0 -
Hmmm. Has claimed yet that his **ck accidentally fell into this chick?
Admittedly late to this thread (how did I miss it??). Your boyfriend is the douche, as he was the one with a gf that he cheated on. Dump him and move on.0 -
I would have kicked his just for letting it get to my family's doorstep.My husband of 19 years was actively pursued by a woman 15 years his junior. She was relentless. I begged her to stay away, so we could figure out if we could get our marriage back on track. We have two kids. She wouldn't back off. This is the second marriage she interfered in.
Yes, my husband made the choice to cheat. But she preyed on someone who was going through a tough time. She didn't have the decency to stay away. Any girl who will go after someone in a relationship is disgusting.
But see again in this case, clearly that door was even so remotely cracked welcoming the attention from another woman....I really think most women wouldn't even bother trying to pursue a taken, or married man if the man in the first place made it very clear there was not even a smidge of hope. Even something a tiny as a flirtatious smile would be enough to encourage a woman that in inclined to go after a married man.
Agree!
Yes, and there were issues. However, she exploited that for her own satisfaction, at the expense of me and my family. Perhaps I would still have ended up divorced. But a decent person would have stayed away when the wife asked.
I'm sorry, I can't imagine how painful that was for you. I probably would have kicked her *kitten*, just because I don't share and I would be more than willing to prove that to her. But I most likely would have kicked his *kitten*, too, if he was encouraging her at all.0 -
You only have his side of any of this. You don't know what kinds of things he has said and done. Emotions are tough to control. You're judging someone for a situation you don't really know anything about.
Thank you! I agree with everyone that it is his fault and not hers- but girls like that ARE just awfulMy husband of 19 years was actively pursued by a woman 15 years his junior. She was relentless. I begged her to stay away, so we could figure out if we could get our marriage back on track. We have two kids. She wouldn't back off. This is the second marriage she interfered in.
Yes, my husband made the choice to cheat. But she preyed on someone who was going through a tough time. She didn't have the decency to stay away. Any girl who will go after someone in a relationship is disgusting.
You're both kind of pathetic, if you ask me. He's a creep and you're both fighting over him.
The fact that there are two sides to every story is something to keep in mind. You never know if he was telling her to just hold on and promising to get a divorce. I made my ex show me his divorce papers before I would have sex with him. Lol, I just figured better safe than sorry.
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He could have very easily blocked her texts if he didn't want to talk to her. He's as guilty or even more so, since he had a girlfriend. Sounds to me like she has a thing for him and he encouraged it and kept her on the sidelines for when you guys weren't getting along. Cheating twice in 5 months proves that he'll just keep on doing it.
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This is the second time today I've read a posting like this. I tried to comment on the first one but the Mods deleted the forum as i was typing.0
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5 months? Yeah, you need to thank him for not wasting more of your time and move on.0
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I only pursue men who can write and speak with correct grammar.is any of you interested in pursuing a man with gf?
I would like to know urgently.0 -
You only have his side of any of this. You don't know what kinds of things he has said and done. Emotions are tough to control. You're judging someone for a situation you don't really know anything about.
Thank you! I agree with everyone that it is his fault and not hers- but girls like that ARE just awfulMy husband of 19 years was actively pursued by a woman 15 years his junior. She was relentless. I begged her to stay away, so we could figure out if we could get our marriage back on track. We have two kids. She wouldn't back off. This is the second marriage she interfered in.
Yes, my husband made the choice to cheat. But she preyed on someone who was going through a tough time. She didn't have the decency to stay away. Any girl who will go after someone in a relationship is disgusting.
You're both kind of pathetic, if you ask me. He's a creep and you're both fighting over him.
Um, what? I asked her to stay away when she first started pursuing him. She didn't, they had an affair, I divorced him. I'm pathetic?0 -
I didn't read the entire thread...but a couple of thoughts came to my mind:
STDs and AIDS. I know we're living in a day and time where anything goes and being sexually active (with someone other than your spouse--not that spouses don't cheat, but saving your body/intimacy and with someone who willing to commit themselves in more ways than just boyfriend/girlfriend status) having sex outside of a major commitment (living together and boyfriend/girlfriend is NOT a serious commitment) is encouraged, expected and the rule of the days & times and saving yourself for your future husband or wife is (not being sexually active until they "put a ring on it" as they say ) is a joke and considered old-fashioned/prudish or a fate worse than death...but also consider getting yourself tested for sexually transmitted diseases too.0 -
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I only pursue men who can write and speak with correct grammar.is any of you interested in pursuing a man with gf?
I would like to know urgently.
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is any of you interested in pursuing a man with gf?
I would like to know urgently.
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passive agressive or not you're 100% correctIf you can deal with the fact that he'll probably cheat on you again in the future... and that might just be the truth to your relationship... well then, hey - take him back. Just know that it'll probably happen again in the future, and at that point, you really have no one else to blame but yourself. *shrug*
I realize that sounds passive aggressive, but I'm being completely serious. Either accept him - cheating and all - or let him go. He isn't going to change.0 -
First, boyfriend and girlfriend are not the same as married. I used to know someone who would say, "if they aren't married, then they're still available." Basically, best man or woman wins.
Second, the easiest person to get is someone who is already with someone. All you have to do is pay a little attention, listen for him/her to say a bad thing or two about their significant other then kick back and let it happen. Here are some simple rules a friend of mine once listed when we were teenagers.
Rule 1: Never, EVER, say anything bad about the significant other. The second you do that, the person you are after feels obligated to defend their significant other. However, if you say something nice or point out their good qualities, 9 times out of 10, the person you are interested in will put down the sig. other on their own.
Rule 2: Almost always be available. Either by phone, text, chat...whatever. Be there to listen to them gripe when the significant other messes up, and spend more of your time listening rather than offering advice. Occasionally, drop in a positive word or two about the significant other, once again, the person you are interested in will tear the S.O. down on their own. The more you are available and labeled the "good listener" or "just someone to talk to" the more the person you are interested in will rely on you.
Rule 3: Don't smother them. You want to be available more times than not, however, you don't want to end up in the friend zone. You have to let the person you are interested in miss you being around. This will make them think about you more often, especially when things are going bad with their significant other. They will also cause a fight or two over something stupid just to have a reason to contact you.
Rule 4: Don't rush things, let them happen. This way you don't look like you're the one who is tearing them apart. The decision to go beyond "just someone to talk to" has to always be the other person. They have to make the first move, so it will always be their idea.
Of course, married and especially a couple with kids are "off limits," but if they are just boyfriend and girlfriend or just dating, then either their relationship is strong or it isn't.
Remember: Sometimes the beans are worth more than the cow, but if you can get the milk for free, don't log it as water.0 -
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You only have his side of any of this. You don't know what kinds of things he has said and done. Emotions are tough to control. You're judging someone for a situation you don't really know anything about.
Thank you! I agree with everyone that it is his fault and not hers- but girls like that ARE just awfulMy husband of 19 years was actively pursued by a woman 15 years his junior. She was relentless. I begged her to stay away, so we could figure out if we could get our marriage back on track. We have two kids. She wouldn't back off. This is the second marriage she interfered in.
Yes, my husband made the choice to cheat. But she preyed on someone who was going through a tough time. She didn't have the decency to stay away. Any girl who will go after someone in a relationship is disgusting.
You're both kind of pathetic, if you ask me. He's a creep and you're both fighting over him.
The fact that there are two sides to every story is something to keep in mind. You never know if he was telling her to just hold on and promising to get a divorce. I made my ex show me his divorce papers before I would have sex with him. Lol, I just figured better safe than sorry.0 -
My husband of 19 years was actively pursued by a woman 15 years his junior. She was relentless. I begged her to stay away, so we could figure out if we could get our marriage back on track. We have two kids. She wouldn't back off. This is the second marriage she interfered in.
Yes, my husband made the choice to cheat. But she preyed on someone who was going through a tough time. She didn't have the decency to stay away. Any girl who will go after someone in a relationship is disgusting.
Your profile says you are 30..........You say "my husband of 19 years"........You married him when you were 11? I think your honesty is in question. :noway:0 -
My husband of 19 years was actively pursued by a woman 15 years his junior. She was relentless. I begged her to stay away, so we could figure out if we could get our marriage back on track. We have two kids. She wouldn't back off. This is the second marriage she interfered in.
Yes, my husband made the choice to cheat. But she preyed on someone who was going through a tough time. She didn't have the decency to stay away. Any girl who will go after someone in a relationship is disgusting.
youngest bride of all American time! Congrats!0 -
I know you meant well, but does that mean that if she was not attractive it would have not been his loss?Looking at your pics…I fail to understand how he did not see he had it all…his loss0 -
You only have his side of any of this. You don't know what kinds of things he has said and done. Emotions are tough to control. You're judging someone for a situation you don't really know anything about.
Thank you! I agree with everyone that it is his fault and not hers- but girls like that ARE just awfulMy husband of 19 years was actively pursued by a woman 15 years his junior. She was relentless. I begged her to stay away, so we could figure out if we could get our marriage back on track. We have two kids. She wouldn't back off. This is the second marriage she interfered in.
Yes, my husband made the choice to cheat. But she preyed on someone who was going through a tough time. She didn't have the decency to stay away. Any girl who will go after someone in a relationship is disgusting.
You're both kind of pathetic, if you ask me. He's a creep and you're both fighting over him.
Um, what? I asked her to stay away when she first started pursuing him. She didn't, they had an affair, I divorced him. I'm pathetic?
Well considering that you are 30 and were married to him for 19 years, I'm going to say that you are probably better off without a pedophile and she actually did you a favor... jus' sayin'0 -
Sorry. That was directed at the OP.
You only have his side of any of this. You don't know what kinds of things he has said and done. Emotions are tough to control. You're judging someone for a situation you don't really know anything about.
Thank you! I agree with everyone that it is his fault and not hers- but girls like that ARE just awfulMy husband of 19 years was actively pursued by a woman 15 years his junior. She was relentless. I begged her to stay away, so we could figure out if we could get our marriage back on track. We have two kids. She wouldn't back off. This is the second marriage she interfered in.
Yes, my husband made the choice to cheat. But she preyed on someone who was going through a tough time. She didn't have the decency to stay away. Any girl who will go after someone in a relationship is disgusting.
You're both kind of pathetic, if you ask me. He's a creep and you're both fighting over him.
Um, what? I asked her to stay away when she first started pursuing him. She didn't, they had an affair, I divorced him. I'm pathetic?
But the part about only having his side does work for you, as well. I don't get placing ALL the blame on the women. I know the Taliban seems to think if a man sees so much as a woman's ankle, he will be compelled beyond any control of his own to have sex with that woman, but that really isn't how men in the real world operate.0 -
I think they were referring to me
You only have his side of any of this. You don't know what kinds of things he has said and done. Emotions are tough to control. You're judging someone for a situation you don't really know anything about.
Thank you! I agree with everyone that it is his fault and not hers- but girls like that ARE just awfulMy husband of 19 years was actively pursued by a woman 15 years his junior. She was relentless. I begged her to stay away, so we could figure out if we could get our marriage back on track. We have two kids. She wouldn't back off. This is the second marriage she interfered in.
Yes, my husband made the choice to cheat. But she preyed on someone who was going through a tough time. She didn't have the decency to stay away. Any girl who will go after someone in a relationship is disgusting.
You're both kind of pathetic, if you ask me. He's a creep and you're both fighting over him.
Um, what? I asked her to stay away when she first started pursuing him. She didn't, they had an affair, I divorced him. I'm pathetic?
no, I admire you and sympathize with you- thank you for your insight 0 -
And I thought I was tripping balls.My husband of 19 years was actively pursued by a woman 15 years his junior. She was relentless. I begged her to stay away, so we could figure out if we could get our marriage back on track. We have two kids. She wouldn't back off. This is the second marriage she interfered in.
Yes, my husband made the choice to cheat. But she preyed on someone who was going through a tough time. She didn't have the decency to stay away. Any girl who will go after someone in a relationship is disgusting.
youngest bride of all American time! Congrats!0 -
Nevermind. I wasn't the only one to notice...0
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