Why do people care so much about height ?

Cait_Sidhe

OP I would suggest you stop worrying about your physical height and try being less of a mental midget.

I give shoe dust worth importance to my height.My next goal is to deadlift 500 lbs :bigsmile: :laugh:

should be easy. you don't have to pick it up quite as high as others.

I'm pretty fond of this advantage myself.

DoNotSpamMe73

I don't see why someone will ask your height randomly. I do get that often someone would like a taller/shorter partner... But in general I don't see it. My partner is taller than me, but I'm not with him for that. Just a weird thing people keep bringing up.

graveflower316

I wouldn't say tall is superior, but I can definitely say as a tall women (5'11") I do look for taller men in dating realms at least. I typically date men shorter than me because most men aren't 6'0" or taller, but don't date anyone shorter than 5'7" anymore. I guess that makes me bias, but having to bend down to kiss someone can be quite a pain. Although, I don't think the best of the best are tall people. I think that's just a discrimination, just like people claiming men are somehow smarter/better than women, or how a certain ethnicity is better or worse than another. Maybe right now tall people are seen as "better" by some, but it's all an unfounded bias people just like to believe in. What can you do?

vtmoon

Just as a general response to many posts in here:

Attraction is socially constructed, not natural.

kthxbye

Oh man! Someone forgot to tell all Gay people, boy will their face be red when they find this information out!

Interesting that you specifically pointed out gay people, i.e. "othering" them. I believe I was born with sexual fluidity and was socialized to be hetero. I think if you take a look at international work on culture and sexuality you will find sexuality cannot be separated from social context and that there is quite a variety of gender and sex constructs that are unlike our constructs in the West.

Easiest way to point out a fallacy. It can be separated, in Saudi Arabia being gay is pretty much a death sentence, yet somehow there are men and women who are living it. You would think they would follow that social construct better to avoid being killed instead of following their natural tendencies.

Eleonora91

It's just the same with weight, and many other traits that are now recognized as "pretty".
In most cases you're considered pretty if you're tall, thin, with muscles (for men) or curves (for women), and so on.
It's not about some people's preferences, it's the idea of beauty that has spread throughout our society.

but there are many different subcultures even within a larger society. if we were all homogenous then i would agree with this, but if it were true that people's idea of beauty and attractiveness is solely a societal construct then there would be absolutely no explanation why someone like me (an overweight black woman with natural hair living in america) has no issues with finding men who find us attractive. : men of all shapes sizes creeds and ethnicities.

Infact I'm pretty sure that height isn't considered attractive everywhere, just like any other trait. I was just referring to the situation described by the OP.
I don't think that being an overweight woman of color makes you unattractive at all, but being an overweight girl myself I've never found anyone who thought I was pretty, I've been made fun of, and I've been surrounded by stereotypes of skinny people since I was a child, at the point that I can say that you're generally preferred if you're thin. This is obviously a generalization, but it's noticeable enough to be mentioned.
I wouldn't really know where the whole skinny thing came from, but, for height, I guess it's something ancestral. Maybe tall people were considered healthier and stronger in the past, so that if you had to choose a partner you would choose the tallest? I still think this has no reason to exist now, and I'm glad that we're finally growing up as a society and valorise the beauty within different people, e.g. short or overweight people. But sometimes those habits are hard to get rid of, since no one really know why they prefer such people to other, they just feel it.

JenX15

Robert Downy Jr. is 5'9".


Also.

Yes, thank you .... salivating here......