so...this is awkward

hookilau
hookilau Posts: 3,134 Member
in Goal: Maintaining Weight
Lost 30# or so and have joined the world of the living.

Men have suddenly discovered the amazingly sensual creature I am & I have my own theme music.
It plays in my head where ever I go (don't judge me) :huh:

Boys steal glances at me & older (ahem) men of a certain age just outright stare. Apparently, I'm quite the head turner :smokin: No surprise to me of course as I was always a head turning raven haired beauty, it's just that my secret is out now & it's 'red carpet' all the way baby.

Being married kinda puts a damper on the fun this can be, soooo...there's that.

Ladies...what do you do when you get elevator eyes, stares & strangely intent looks?..do you smile back?....glare?....find something incredibly interesting to fuss with?...what?...
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  • Denise1224
    Denise1224 Posts: 150 Member
    Maybe it's just the type of men I've gotten those looks from ...but usually I get the Creepy McStalker vibe and instantly want to RUN LOL
  • I_Will_End_You
    I_Will_End_You Posts: 4,397 Member
    I'm a pretty stand offish and unpleasant person in general, so it's the evil eye all the way for me!
  • Slrajr
    Slrajr Posts: 438 Member
    I've just got to say, I love your writing style and your confidence!:heart:
  • smokeytex74
    smokeytex74 Posts: 55
    about 15 yrs ago I had started going with my sister as her Designated Driver to the bars to dance. I went from a size 16/18 to a size 10/12 in about 6 months.. I have never thought of myself as sexy, beautiful, etc.. but when I lost the inches I got those reactions and they so unnerved me :noway: and felt that they weren't seeing the real me, what was inside, and it actually made me mad :mad: .. so I glared back like WTH are you looking at :explode: . That will be something I will have to work on this time :bigsmile:
  • ctalimenti
    ctalimenti Posts: 865 Member
    LOL I love your writing style too!

    You'll get used to it and after awhile will stop noticing them.
  • SoDamnHungry
    SoDamnHungry Posts: 6,998 Member
    It's only teenagers creeping on me. No need for me to ward off people my own age. Heaven forbid they hit on me. =(
  • Jestinia
    Jestinia Posts: 1,153 Member
    I look down and slink away like I've just been accused of stealing something.

    If someone talks to me, I stammer and flee.

    But I still like it.

    Maybe since I'm single I should try that theme music thing. Might help me come out of this shell a bit and start dating again!
  • MysteriousMerlin
    MysteriousMerlin Posts: 2,270 Member
    I wouldn't know :laugh: I assume if anyone is staring at me it's because I've said something inappropriate or have something on my face. :drinker:
  • emirror
    emirror Posts: 842 Member
    In an elevator, blush and stare at my feet. If walking, wait until they are past (or I am past them, whatever), and grin like a loon. :bigsmile:

    Congrats on your accomplishments!!!
  • mumblemagic
    mumblemagic Posts: 1,090 Member
    You could always be a bold and brazen hussy ..... lick your lips and wink at them. Men get scared if you're too overt :tongue:
  • nxd10
    nxd10 Posts: 4,570 Member
    Glow and hold my head up high - which makes me look even better. Don't make eye contact. Flash my wedding ring.

    It feels great. Love the head turns.
  • Mia_RagazzaTosta
    Mia_RagazzaTosta Posts: 4,885 Member
    I act as awkwardly as I can, but it really comes naturally.
  • Seesawboomerang
    Seesawboomerang Posts: 296 Member
    I'm usually polite. Takes the form of a slight flirt if they're appealing, or a straight no thanks if someone not my type propositions me.
    I'm happily married so it's all for confidence boosting and nothing more.
  • Cranquistador
    Cranquistador Posts: 39,744 Member
    I start biting the string on my jacket and stare.
  • Mexicanbigfoot
    Mexicanbigfoot Posts: 520 Member
    I LOVE that you have theme music in your head, I do the same thing!! :laugh:

    I get more creepy stares than "sensual looks" but you rock that bod girl!!

    Happy for you success and I wish you much more! :flowerforyou:
  • rainbow198
    rainbow198 Posts: 2,245 Member
    This is funny! I have a friendly and bubbly disposition so I attract all kinds of people...even moreso with the weight loss. I try to remain polite but avoid eye contact and keep it moving. This does not work all of time with the aggressive men and women, but I try my best. lol

    Any smiles or eye contact seems to give off a vibe that it's an open invitation to start a conversation. I'm happily taken. :)
  • AZ_Gato
    AZ_Gato Posts: 1,270 Member
    I know you were only asking women, but us guys have the same problem.

    I carry a large nightstick to beat them off with. But some of them like that so it just compounds my problem.
  • Mia_RagazzaTosta
    Mia_RagazzaTosta Posts: 4,885 Member
    I start biting the string on my jacket and stare.

    It worked on me
  • arghbowl
    arghbowl Posts: 1,179 Member
    Use MFP to find a guy that lives 7 states away, fall in love with him, convince him to move to your state, and then tell him you're married.

    I've heard it works n stuff. From science n shiz.
  • tayloryay
    tayloryay Posts: 378 Member
    If they're not rude or creepy about it (like outright catcalling) then I usually just laugh or smile. One time I wore a dress that was a bit busty to the movies (with my husband!!!), and a man stared with his mouth literally hanging open until his wife elbowed him in the side. How can you not laugh at that! It can be a nice little confidence boost to turn heads. :)

    Of course I've experienced the more negative type as well, and that's not fun. So it definitely depends on the person's demeanor!
  • tayloryay
    tayloryay Posts: 378 Member
    I start biting the string on my jacket and stare.

    At first I thought you said "biting the strap on my straitjacket". I'm not sure what that says about me.
  • jackpotclown
    jackpotclown Posts: 3,275 Member
    I start biting the string on my jacket and stare.

    It worked on me
    would work on me too \m/
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
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  • Seoul11
    Seoul11 Posts: 138 Member
    My reaction depends on if I think I can get something out of it. An encounter at the fish market yesterday that started with elevator eyes ended with me getting free oysters. And all it took was a smile.
  • DamePiglet
    DamePiglet Posts: 3,730 Member
    Usually, I strike up a conversation.
    I use so much profanity that it generally scares men off.
  • doriharvey
    doriharvey Posts: 89 Member
    I also notice that I get asked if I need help by guy workers in the hardware and electronic stores while shopping. Had a semi driver on interstate go random speeds and when I tried to pass he would speed up and look over with a creepy smile. So what do I do? I never forget who I am, where I have been, and what I want from life.

    Who I am ?
    Weight loss didn't make me beautiful, just made me feel better physically and mentally. I don't work hard on my outside to get other men to look at me as a sex object. I work hard in my life to be a respected professional, intelligent member of society, and if a man wants to compliment me I wanna hear things like... "Girl you are gonna get promoted today." Girl your competence shines. Then I want to go home to my best half and be real: insecure at times, eating the sugar free stuff that gives me nasty toots (ok I do try to avoid, but it happens) ..... and still have my guy be always proud to call me his wife. Because I desire a healthy relationship and know my role in getting one...... I also give what I expect.

    Also, remembering that I am still who I was before.
    Although it is flattering to have these random strangers pay attention in a different way .... I am still short tempered when I am hungry, a baby when i don't feel good, hate to clean the toilet, have a week of every month when closeness with my husband annoys me and a week when i can't get enough ... i don't like to be rushed in the morning and don't expect me to think intelligently until after my coffee. I am stubborn, hard headed and still short tempered at times, set in my ways .......

    I've already worked though the hard stuff of figuring out how to maintain a 25 year marriage, keeping it alive and accomplishing my life dreams as well as working through his. I want him there when I have the flu not just when I am feeling sexy or frisky.

    No stranger with a cute smile can give me what I have worked with my partner to achieve.

    Marriage is grand, divorce is 10 grand and if you like the idea of cute younger women smiling and taking everything your husband used to give to you.... then carry on and give it up. If you are unhappy in your marriage, that is a different situation that your appearance should have no impact on.
  • Cranquistador
    Cranquistador Posts: 39,744 Member
    I start biting the string on my jacket and stare.

    It worked on me
    would work on me too \m/
    :wink:
  • silvergurl518
    silvergurl518 Posts: 4,123 Member

    Men have suddenly discovered the amazingly sensual creature I am & I have my own theme music.
    It plays in my head where ever I go (don't judge me) :huh:

    QFT :) love this.
  • lindsaylove07
    lindsaylove07 Posts: 444 Member
    I lost 60 pounds, then gained 30, and am working on losing the rest, last week, sick with stomach flu, in a baggy pair of sweat pants and a hoodie, hair in a sloppy mess on top of my head, I walked into the grocery store to get soup. Got a stare, smiled back, caught him in the security monitors checking out my bum. I can't imagine what would have happened if I was actually wearing fitted clothes and makeup!
  • Jestinia
    Jestinia Posts: 1,153 Member
    Use MFP to find a guy that lives 7 states away, fall in love with him, convince him to move to your state, and then tell him you're married.

    I've heard it works n stuff. From science n shiz.

    I've heard it sometimes leads to an episode of Snapped. Guess this would be the male version. Some sort of true crime episode, anyway.

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