My fiance can be such a jerk sometimes

IpuffyheartHeelsinthegym

he seems maddening. I mean, gah, can't he get it together and let you get hot??

Cranquistador

3/10

:yawn:

1princesswarrior

I've been in a controlling relationship and he is not controlling. Maybe he's not tactful by making comments about other women. But if he was controlling your run would be timed or he would be following you or going with you or you would not be going at all. Not to mention that he would control or attempt to control every, and I mean every, other aspect of your life down to the time you go to the bathroom.

If you want to break up for other reasons that you have not mentioned that's one thing. But the guy obviously cared enough to propose and he obviously cares enough to not want you to run in the projects after dark where it is dangerous. Maybe because I'm older but I think you should sit him down and talk to him about this and negotiate a compromise you can both live with. Engaged and married people separate over finances, not being able to live together and get a long, adultery, lying, alcoholism/drug abuse, abuse in general, etc. not where/when one or the other is going to run.

DebbieLyn63

Yet another one of these troll posts so you can see how many people actually fall for it and try to give serious advice, then feel like an idiot when they realize they have been trolled.

Cheap entertainment for some really bored people.

And like I have to remind my son when he tells the same joke for the 20th time,- it was funny the first time, then it gets annoying.

rml_16

Um is there any reason you can't run at the Inner Harbor?

I'm afraid of falling into the water.

jagh1952

Does he typically say obnoxious things or is he truly worried? You can always buy a used treadmill, stand bike, or nu-step. They all burn the calories. I would never walk or run where you are going. Are there steps in the bldg where you work? Go up and down the steps. Any cardio will work. I would always use an alternative before I would place myself in a dangerous situation. I am on board with him. Married 43 years and going strong.

AusAshMommy

Um is there any reason you can't run at the Inner Harbor?

I'm afraid of falling into the water.

Um yeah...sounds like you need to re-think things slightly - given the choice I'd take the Inner Harbor over the Projects any day and six ways on Sunday...

rml_16

well is running through the projects training for a "run for you lives" event? What is your time and stride?

It varies depending on whether I'm being chased. Adrenaline rushes always up my time.

Docmahi

this has to be a troll

SailorKnightWing

Mediocre trolling attempt.

4/10, probably wouldn't report.

IronMikeFox

Yeah, fiancees and spouses who care about your safety can be such A-holes. I really used to like running stairs in this condemned building. It was an awesome workout. Having to navigate the rubble, be sensitive to stairs that started to collapse underfoot, and dodge falling debris all made for an awesome workout. Then my annoying wife made me stop. She "claimed" that she was worried about me getting hurt. She was obviously just worried about me getting too hot. I still resent her for being so selfish and thoughtless!

patrickblo13

OP was trying to be funny but failed miserably...

bloominheck

I think you should find someone in the projects and just do him. That will show your fiance who the boss it.:bigsmile:

JMel86

My husband is the same way. I kept blowing him off until I had a bad run in with a homeless guy. I now hit the gym, if I jog late at night. I know it's hard, I felt he just didn't understand coz I love my jogs. They're one of the best parts of my day. He was just genuinely concerned about my safty & after that incident, I see he had good cause. They have various buddy apps you guys can use. Also, my husband knows my routes, in case I get hit by a car or something. I don't think it's control but safty. I guess you know your fiance best. Maybe he is a jerk. Idk.

Edit; I feel silly. Didn't know it was a troll.

rml_16

OP was trying to be funny but failed miserably...

I never try to be funny.

cupcakes_and_cardio

To me it seems he's just being protective. by the information you're giving, I wouldn't see how he's being a jerk. My fiancé wouldn't want me running near the projects either, it's just not safe, even I know this.

eAddict

Make him go with you when running. Compromise for a safer area or ask him what exercises he'd like to do with you. Make it a team effort and maybe he'll get into being more healthy too and understanding your drive.

THIS

TheSwollMinister

He doesn't want you running near the projects at night and that's because of his insecurity??? Uh, no. Sounds to me like he just wants you to be safe. Is there somewhere else you can run that isn't near the projects? Can you stick to the treadmill until daylight savings time starts? Could you run during lunch? Sorry OP, but if I was in your fiance's situation, I would likely feel the same way.

I'm not going to change my workout routine just to make him happy!

He's genuinely worried about your safety. Look at it from his point of view.

sassyjae21

:yawn:

MiloBloom83

My suggestion? Carry a gun...that's what I do.

You should actual carry an assault rifle, in plain site. Then those thugs will know you are serious about your workouts.