need some help from pervy looks!
girlinteepee
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I've lost some weight and noticed a few glances from the opposite sex but cannot help but still feel self concious! i cannot stand these looks as i wear baggy clothes and still get these looks. is there a mantra you use or some self help book ..?
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Act stuck up.0
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This is what I don't understand about women. You exercise and train to look sexy, drss sexy, show cleavage and then complain about getting "PERVY LOOKS" I disunderstand the whole concept of wanting to look, dress and feel sexy only to have guys NOT look at you. Help me understand!
Am I wrong for not understanding or am I misunderstanding what kind of help the OP is asking for?0 -
Am I wrong for not understanding or am I misunderstanding what kind of help the OP is asking for?i cannot stand these looks as i wear baggy clothes and still get these looks. is there a mantra you use or some self help book ..?
Apparently.0 -
Im sorry, i lost weight so i can feel good about myself, im not the kind that likes to dress up and show cleavage and whatnot, i guess i just need a tougher skin, its just the looks tat make ur skin crawl like someone undressing you, idk,0
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Could always make the nastiest sounds, if you're into grossing people outIm sorry, i lost weight so i can feel good about myself, im not the kind that likes to dress up and show cleavage and whatnot, i guess i just need a tougher skin, its just the looks tat make ur skin crawl like someone undressing you, idk,
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You're just going to have to gain all the weight back. Maybe a little extra for good measure. There is no other way.0
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So now guys aren't even allowed to LOOK at women??? Good grief. We look at attractive women just like you look at attractive men. That's not going to change no matter WHAT you do. Nor should it. Just ignore it if it bothers you and say "thank you" if it doesn't.0
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Its a part of being a human.
Other humans are going to look at you.
And sometimes in 'that way'.
Get over it.0 -
Am I wrong for not understanding or am I misunderstanding what kind of help the OP is asking for?i cannot stand these looks as i wear baggy clothes and still get these looks. is there a mantra you use or some self help book ..?
Apparently.
I totally disagree with you. Why lose the weight in the first place if you plan on wearing baggy clothing the rest of your life?0 -
Because you can't tell others what they can/cannot wear, that's why.
Am I wrong for not understanding or am I misunderstanding what kind of help the OP is asking for?i cannot stand these looks as i wear baggy clothes and still get these looks. is there a mantra you use or some self help book ..?
Apparently.
I totally disagree with you. Why lose the weight in the first place if you plan on wearing baggy clothing the rest of your life?0 -
I don't understand the question.0
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This^Its a part of being a human.
Other humans are going to look at you.
And sometimes in 'that way'.
Get over it.0 -
I don't understand the question.
Pretty much this.
As my body has gotten better, my clothes have gotten tighter, and my *kitten* wiggles more than ever. If I DON'T get a least one pervy look each time I'm out it's classified as a FAIL.
You're hot, guys want to check you out. Maybe even some girls. Enjoy it!0 -
Because you can't tell others what they can/cannot wear, that's why.
Am I wrong for not understanding or am I misunderstanding what kind of help the OP is asking for?i cannot stand these looks as i wear baggy clothes and still get these looks. is there a mantra you use or some self help book ..?
Apparently.
I totally disagree with you. Why lose the weight in the first place if you plan on wearing baggy clothing the rest of your life?
Oh, I see now. For some reason if I thought the total opposite you would argue in the other direction. I get under your skin for some reason I could care less about!0 -
Am I wrong for not understanding or am I misunderstanding what kind of help the OP is asking for?i cannot stand these looks as i wear baggy clothes and still get these looks. is there a mantra you use or some self help book ..?
Apparently.
I totally disagree with you. Why lose the weight in the first place if you plan on wearing baggy clothing the rest of your life?
So everyone that loses weight has to dress in tight clothing?
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Maybe they are staring because you are swimming in your outfit and they can't believe an attractive girl can dress so poorly? If you look sharp, you'll feel sharp, and maybe gain a little confidence, which it sounds like you could use. Not every appreciative glance is pervy. Believe me i know between being pervy and appreciative.
Good luck on your journey:flowerforyou:0 -
Am I wrong for not understanding or am I misunderstanding what kind of help the OP is asking for?i cannot stand these looks as i wear baggy clothes and still get these looks. is there a mantra you use or some self help book ..?
Apparently.
I totally disagree with you. Why lose the weight in the first place if you plan on wearing baggy clothing the rest of your life?
So everyone that loses weight has to dress in tight clothing?
Seems legit
Not everyone has to. But YOU Mia? YOU do have to. Often. And post pics. :bigsmile: :bigsmile:0 -
Am I wrong for not understanding or am I misunderstanding what kind of help the OP is asking for?i cannot stand these looks as i wear baggy clothes and still get these looks. is there a mantra you use or some self help book ..?
Apparently.
I totally disagree with you. Why lose the weight in the first place if you plan on wearing baggy clothing the rest of your life?
So everyone that loses weight has to dress in tight clothing?
Seems legit
Right?
I'll make sure to let my grandmother know this.
The tighter, the better. Doubt she can rock the stripper heels, though :sad: :sad: :sad: :sad:0 -
Im sorry, i lost weight so i can feel good about myself, im not the kind that likes to dress up and show cleavage and whatnot, i guess i just need a tougher skin, its just the looks tat make ur skin crawl like someone undressing you, idk,
First, congratulations on losing the weight. I don't think you need thicker skin but, need to accept yourself more. People look at both sexes. I'm sure you've taken a glance or to at whomever appeals to you even if you weren't aware. What constitutes a pervy look? I don't know how someone can tell or read other people's mind.
Last year I had a woman come up to me at the supermarket and say "I know why you dress like a slob" (Had worked out, then long hike and wanted a steak). We had some witty banter. At one point I said not all of us get dolled up for a hot date with Michelina. Basically it ended with her pointing out there was enough for two people and me saying you'd think then walking away. People have no tact or class these days.
To the guys/people getting all wound up and personalizing the post just chill. She never said or wrote what you claim to have seen. Also, the women who complain like that are unhappy and run in the other direction, most other women are annoyed by that crap to.0 -
I don't understand the question.
Pretty much this.
As my body has gotten better, my clothes have gotten tighter, and my *kitten* wiggles more than ever. If I DON'T get a least one pervy look each time I'm out it's classified as a FAIL.
You're hot, guys want to check you out. Maybe even some girls. Enjoy it!
Ohai! (pervy look) Love your outfit. Keep up the good work!0 -
This is what I don't understand about women. You exercise and train to look sexy, drss sexy, show cleavage and then complain about getting "PERVY LOOKS" I disunderstand the whole concept of wanting to look, dress and feel sexy only to have guys NOT look at you. Help me understand!
Am I wrong for not understanding or am I misunderstanding what kind of help the OP is asking for?
Totally this. I love that Larry David line when a beautiful woman is sitting next to him wearing a low cut dress and push-up bra. He can't help but look and she moans at him for doing so. He says 'oh sure, you wore that dress so I'd look at your shoes, yeah?'0 -
I don't understand the question.
Pretty much this.
As my body has gotten better, my clothes have gotten tighter, and my *kitten* wiggles more than ever. If I DON'T get a least one pervy look each time I'm out it's classified as a FAIL.
You're hot, guys want to check you out. Maybe even some girls. Enjoy it!
This, although working with the public, I do get the difference between enjoying the attention and feeling like I want a shower. I've discovered that comes down to my feelings about the guy giving the looks - if he's good looking, the attention is welcome. Creepy old dude - not so much.0 -
Same here. Don't understand the question0
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You'll always get stares if you're a guy, girl, w/e and are in decent shape. I even wear hoodies in the warm weather 1) I like the way it feels 2) I don't get bro's trying to compete with me.0
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So, If a guy isn't attractive, his looks are auto magically taken as creepy. Looks from a hot guy make you feel good about yourself and that's welcomed...?I don't understand the question.
Pretty much this.
As my body has gotten better, my clothes have gotten tighter, and my *kitten* wiggles more than ever. If I DON'T get a least one pervy look each time I'm out it's classified as a FAIL.
You're hot, guys want to check you out. Maybe even some girls. Enjoy it!
This, although working with the public, I do get the difference between enjoying the attention and feeling like I want a shower. I've discovered that comes down to my feelings about the guy giving the looks - if he's good looking, the attention is welcome. Creepy old dude - not so much.0 -
I don't understand the question.
Pretty much this.
As my body has gotten better, my clothes have gotten tighter, and my *kitten* wiggles more than ever. If I DON'T get a least one pervy look each time I'm out it's classified as a FAIL.
You're hot, guys want to check you out. Maybe even some girls. Enjoy it!
I agree with this. To the OP...I would bet that people have been checking you out WAY before now, it's probably just more noticeable now as you appeal to a wider range of your audience ;-)
I really think that is the case most of the time.
While it's a different kind of look, I also notice that straight women are checking me out now, sizing me up like competition. As a size 3X I didn't get that very often but as an XL I get it constantly. It seems like half the women I meet size me up and look at my body. I think a lot of it is women who want to immediately assess whether every other woman is heavier or thinner than they are, and so forth. While I've never done that myself, I know a LOT of my friends confess to doing that subconsciously. So there's another potential "issue". It is weird getting used to that but you do...0 -
"Approval" isn't necessarily pervy.
Sometimes I'm a little self-conscious about my body. It sounds like that's what you're feeling, too.
I think you should choose to be happy and realize you can't change others, only yourself.0 -
Man up0
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You should NOT have to tolerate pervy behaviors from anyone. Arguments to the contrary are simply outrageous. If someone is behaving inapproprately, CALL THEM OUT. If one has a modicrum of decency they will be shamed and discontinue the behavior. If not, they need phsycological or administrative intervention.
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/dating-advice/how-to-stand-up-to-a-creep0 -
I equate my success with weight loss and fitness with the expanding number of dudes who would "hit it" ....the greater the number, the more success.
In all honesty, I dont mind, unless the dude is being obnoxious about it and has to say something atrocious, but if I see a guy I think is good looking I stare, so I would expect similar from a dude who though I was attractive
You should try not showering and wearing a moomoo, then people would look at you in a complete non sexual way.0
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