tattoo argument with spouse

rml_16 · February 2014

It's OK. He's just being himself. Best to either ignore or make fun of. Your choice, really.

WontShareChocolate · February 2014

You don't have to hide tattoos, the only reason people hide them is because of people who look down upon a personal decision to appreciate a form of art that doesn't fit into their tiny definition of "acceptable". I don't hide my tattoos, I'm not ashamed of them the only reason I would even consider hiding them would be because of close minded individuals that judge me solely based upon my taste in art the older generations still lingering in corporate America are by far the most judgemental.

nutellabrah · February 2014

What about one that says: "I got this tattoo because I have insecurities and I secretly want attention and small talk from strangers because I don't generally stand out or impress people with my default stature, yet I still crave a way to express my existential trauma and subconsciously want people to acknowledge I exist so this is the misguided and permanent way I chose to express that."

rml_16 · February 2014

LMAO

Oh, honey. Just ...

Oh, honey.

DamePiglet · February 2014

QFT.
Which are you choosing?

determinedbutlazy · February 2014

I'm genuinely interested as to why a young guy like this would be so vehemently against tattoos? He's the same age as me, and it just seems odd to me. I totally understand people my age not wanting them, but to be actively "anti" tattoo? I just wonder why.

rml_16 · February 2014

He's fun to play with, I think personally.

MrsG31 · February 2014

I am starting to think the whole issue here is her husband doesn't like her reasoning for getting such a large tattoo and that she apparently decided to have a discussion with him about this after having "only 3 beers." It didn't help that her original post when she came here to share/vent was poorly constructed which lead to 6 pages of responses.

EDIT: make that 7...and counting

rml_16 · February 2014

I don't know that he is against them. He likes to take the most ridiculous stance on any subject to get attention. You can't reallytake anything he says very seriously.

Kimdbro · February 2014

^^That made me laugh^^ Totally an archaic statement. Be sure to pull out the Good Wife Guideas well... touch up your hair and makeup before he gets home from work, have his favorite drink waiting for him,Listen to him, you may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours..... hahaha.

JoRocka · February 2014

Meh- seems to be the lack of communication and part of your drive to get it (the shock factor)

I waited over a year for mine- I waited for the right thing to come to me (my design) drew it- waited- and then hunted for the right artist- I interviewed several people and settled on a guy who liked the design and was happy to do the work. Regardless of what you think of tattoo's there is no question they are art.

Much like any other art- there is good art- bad art and amazing art- trashy art- that's why it's art. To me it is indefinitly ART. It's MY art- done through another artists hand- which is why it was so important it be art to him as well- not just something he traced and threw on my back.

Which is also why I have a beautiful piece of art on my back.

No- I have not changed. I also have not noticed a significant change in how people view me- approach me or deal with me. Granted it's not highly visible but it hasn't affected my life at all.

I also have zero regrets- (prior planning and patience will do that for you) and I am happy to have a memorial/milestone representing a chapter in my life- it's a book end. I love it. I love everything that it means to me and what it represents.

I get a great deal of compliments on it more than anything else.

Good art is good art- no matter what the media. And no question you pay for what you get.

The shock value meh- whatever. Everyone assumes I'm inked everywhere from my personality- and I haven't been. It has nothing to do with the tattoo. It's a shallow side affect- you can revel in it as much or as little as you want- mine was deeply personal so it wasn't about that. I didn't care.

Get the da*n thing if you want it. not because you want to shock people- you aren't 16.

MireyGal76 · February 2014

Ah... He wants his women unmarred, perfect, submissive, and preferably in their late teens so that he can teach them true passion. He's said so himself.

rml_16 · February 2014

And apparently tattooless.

nutellabrah · February 2014

OHHH I know!!

Maybe you can have some creepy bond with your tattoo artist too. Refer to him by first name like you suddenly personally share a piece of each other for life.

It will feel really sexy and you can play it off like its just the intimate logistics of getting a tattoo.

Its pure art and Im sure your future partners will love it.

HDHogger · February 2014

You can remove portions of what people quote and then add what you want to change what the person said in the first place. I congratulate the ones of you that have to done what I just said. Well done! I've done most of those things but I'm not stuck with ink embedded in my body that I'm stuck with for life. Like I said I wasn't judging anyway. So, take the portion of this statement you like or dislike and dub out what will spin it how it works best for you.

determinedbutlazy · February 2014

Good lord, what an utter catch. Excuse me while I go get all my thousands of dollars worth of tattoos (that I paid for with money I earned travelling the world and working for a living as a teacher) lasered off and pack it all in for a white picket fence, an apron and a nice man who will take care of me and show me the mysteries of love.

Or not.

JoRocka · February 2014

you "stuck with" like it's an old weight or a saddle bag that you are saddled with and don't want.

yes you are stuck with it for life- unless you want painful surgery to remove it- but that's why you don't rush it and make sure you really want it- and like it and have an artist who can give you good work. That's the fricking POINT of a tattoo.

I'm not 'stuck' with my art any more than I'm "stuck" with my boyfriend- I chose them- and I want them in my life.

You say you aren't judging- but your condescending tone indicates otherwise.

branflakes1980 · February 2014

He most likely isn't against them. He just needs to feel important, and it appears that the only way he can do that is by starting conflict, and disagreeing with everything everyone says. Kind of like my 6 year old when she feels she isn't getting enough attention she acts out seeking the negative attention. Kind of heartbreaking if you ask me. :brokenheart:

DamePiglet · February 2014

missomgitsica · February 2014

It's so depressing that this attitude still exists, even in an older generation.

Seriously, your husband isn't your boss. And unless you're getting something like a swastika on your face then no big deal in my opinion!

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