Ladies, how do you feel about being a stay at home mom/wife?

WhisperAnne

I'm not a mother, but I'd like to be a stay at home wife one day if it's financially able with my husband. And if I ever have children I would want to be there to raise them. What do you think?

Sinisterly

If you can work from home.. Do et.
If not.. NAY!

-likes to work and help out-

summertime_girl

Well, first don't think that if you have kids, and you're not staying home from a job, you're not "raising" them. Working moms raise their kids too, just like working dads.

That said, it's totally a personal choice to work, stay home, or something in between. If you can afford it financially, and you enjoy it, hen go for it. If you can't, don't. Kids will turn out ok either way.

WhisperAnne

My mom was a stay at home mom and I loved coming home from school and having her there to greet me, or when I was sick she was always there to nurse me. Not saying working mothers don't do any of that, it's just my own experience.

skullshank

my wife stayed home for about 18mo when we first had ours.
she missed having adult conversations during the day and didnt really dig it much toward the end.
she was happy to go back to work.

now that hes older (11), we would both love to stay home with him, but that's financially unwise at this juncture.

sillygoosie

If that is what you want to do then great! I've been both a working mother and a SAHM. They both had their benefits. Ultimately, I am happiest while working AND raising my daughter.

I would strongly advise that you don't just set out to be a SAHM. Have some good job skills and education so that you have a career path to fall back on. Things don't always work out as planned and you don't want to be stuck with a crap job.

WhisperAnne

of course I don't want to not have any work experiences. I've been working for awhile and I went to college.

Fullsterkur_woman

It's probably wisest to get some kind of part-time situation at least to keep your skill set up to date and keep yourself marketable. I wouldn't feel good about taking myself out of the work environment for very long with the economy the way it is. Then again, I don't want any children anyway.

k8blujay2

If I could I would... but I would definitely be cultivating some freelance work or something. But that's just me.

baileyang33

I worked outside the home for 15 years at one company & now I work part-time with my husband at his business and cover all off days & time off with my kids. I thought I would hate it, but I love love love it & I get more time to squeeze in workouts!!!!

VelveteenArabian

I think if you want to and you can swing it financially and your husband is okay with it the do it. Doesn't matter what other people think. I wish I could be a stay at home wife!

victal

I had a stay at home husband. And he was fantastic when our son was a baby till he started school. The kids loved daddy taking them to school and picking them up everyday, making tea, and he does a lot better job than mummy!! :flowerforyou:

BusyRaeNOTBusty

I'm not interested.

UrbanLotus

To each their own, but it is absolutely not for me - I spent way too long getting an education and building a successful career to give it up. And I want to be a productive member of society, I would not be ok with my husband supporting me and not contributing myself.

daliyanin

I was able to stay home with my son for 16 months, before I went back to work. He is now 3 years old. Personally there is nothing I want more in this world that to be home with him, raising him. I don't think there is anything more personally gratifying. Call me old school. But reality is I have to work. And I may never get the opportunity to be a stay at home mom again.

If you can afford to stay home, do it!

Lovely_77

I dont mind it... it is a personal choice right now because I wanted to go back to school to well.... work for more.. If I cant stay home with my child I want to make sure I am making good money in turn for all those hard and long hours.

HeidiMightyRawr

Personally I would want to work, because I feel it's a part of who I am and would appreciate having some time to work on my own projects and socialise with other adults.

That said, spending a substantial amount of time with my children, more than I'd get from a regular job is important to me. Ideally I'd like to be settled in our own business before I have children, so working hours can be more flexible and up to me to decide. If that wasn't possible, I'd rather be a SAHM.

I wouldn't ever be a stay at home wife (with no children). That has no appeal to me, I'd rather be out earning as well regardless of how much money we already have.

PatheticNoetic

The nice thing about being a woman these days is you can choose whatever and it's ok. As long as your kids know you love them and you're doing your best- go to work, stay at home... doesn't matter.

I went from working to staying at home (it's cheaper for us this way). I miss working in my field and I miss adult conversation. One day I'll go back. Right now I'm fine with looking after my kids. I have moments that are hilarious and adorable and make up for the moments I want to rip my hair out.

No matter what- it's going to be hard work. Working mom, stay at home mom- doesn't matter - kids are hard work.

seltzermint555

I'm never having children (by my choice) so I won't even address that issue.

As for being a stay at home wife, I did that for a short time in my past marriage and it wasn't for me. I felt out of touch and bored. I had great plans to get involved with volunteering, new activities, etc...but I found that once I wasn't working, I felt shier and less confident so mostly I wound up thrift shopping, cooking, cleaning, and watching HGTV whilst feeling guilty that my then-husband was working all day.

Everyone's different though.

FancyPantsFran

Personal choice I was a stay at home mom for years. It was a choice I made and for me it was the right one for me and my family. If you can do it and that's what you want then go for it.

Naomi0504

I love (and prefer) to stay at home, Plus I homeschool.