Spanking your kids yes or no?
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1 quick swat to get there attention to not do something(example toddler running in the road) as they age 3 swats no more no less as kids age things dont work as well just like my kids no longer care if they stand in a corner or my lil brother when I was a kid would laugh at my mom when he got a spanking...there is a time when it's no longer effective and you find other ways that will prevent further spanking or out of control violence NO MORE THEN 3....well thats what we do in our home.Also goes with the saying "TIME OUT 1 min per year of age any longer and they forget why they are even there or just get angry and stop focusing on the real behavior.0
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Yes I will spank my kids if they need it! I have 4 kids ages 4,5,10 and 14. All of them have been spanked. I save spanking for when they are really bad though and they hardly ever get spanked. In the last year I have spanked my 4 year old probably 4 times and my 5 year old like twice. BUT, the fact is, they are pretty darn good kids BECAUSE they know I will and have spanked them. My 14 yr old has been spanked probably 10-15 times in her whole life. Everyone tells me how well behaved my kids are, and it's because I discipline them. Grounding or standing in the corner usually works, but if not they will get a spanking. I swat them once or twice on the butt, definitely not child abuse.0
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I vote no. If spanking worked, you'd only have to do it once (quoting Dr. Phil here).
Ok. I'm not saying yes or no to spanking, but while he says if it worked you only have to do it once. He also says the other methods need to be done until they work, which is more than once. Dr Phil is a d-bag.
Yeah, I thought the same when I read this. I can't take anyone that quotes Dr. Phil seriously
Tell Dr. Phil to go somewhere and do some push ups.0 -
And to add on, I am also friends with many parents that do not believe in spanking at all, and every one of them has rude, wild, and just all over bad kids. Why? Because they know the parent won't do a darn thing about it!0
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I say yes to spanking/popping. That's what's wrong with this generation. Parents are way too soft. The fact that a kid got off a DUI/Murder charge for affluenza makes me sick.
http://www.nytimes.com/roomfordebate/2014/02/18/affluenza-and-life-circumstances-in-sentencing?hp&rref=opinion
Yes I know this is an extreme version but I do feel like parents are too soft and society is allowing it to happen. This is just an example of what I'm talking about.
I'm not advocating beating your child and I don't spank my children every single time but when they deserve it they get it. Most the time putting my 4 year old in time out is enough and it's extremely rare he deserves a spanking.
The punishment has to fit the crime for example my daughter right before spring break bullied a child on the bus. During the entire spring break she didn't say a word to either one of us, when school started back the principal called me apologizing they didn't reach me sooner and explained the entire situation.
When my daughter came home I asked her maybe half a dozen times how was school and if she had anything she wanted to talk about. She was 8 at the time and avoided all the questions. When we got home I had someone else watch my son (my mom was staying with us) and I proceeded to bully my daughter. I pushed her down, wouldn't let her talk, wouldn't let her get up, and kept asking if she liked this. When she proceeded to scream "why are you bullying me?" I then asked her if she thought that's how the young boy on the bus felt. Afterwards I made her go to her room and write an apology to the young man. The next
morning we walked on the bus together and she read the letter out loud to the entire bus.
To this day my daughter has never bullied anyone. Did I spank my daughter ..nope but I wanted to show her exactly how she made that young boy feel and I think I got my point across.
You, sir.... I bow to you! I would've done the same thing. You taught her a very valuable lesson. I saw on the news one time a girl had bullied someone for not having name brand clothing. What did her mom do? She bought old raggedy clothing from Goodwill and made her daughter where it to school the next day. People were saying the punishment didn't fit the crime. Bull****! She got exactly what she deserved. A taste of her own medicine.
There's a certain respect we need to have for people around us and if kids can't see or understand that they need to be taught those lessons. I'm not saying beat the child, but if you exhaust all means and the child continues to do those things then maybe a swat is the answer. And if that doesn't work then I would say a little family counseling might need to happen because there could be a root cause.
Love both of the bullying examples. Great parenting, in my opinion.
Now that was refreshing to read.0 -
I believe spanking has it's place. I have a 4 yearold who has learned to undo his car seat buckles. As I was driving down the interstate he announced "mom I am getting out". I promptly told him no he could get hurt and it was not safe. I reminded him that mommy has to wear a seat belt to keep her safe too. He undid it anyway and began to crawl into the front seat with me. I calmly pulled the car to the shoulder of the road and told him he was going to be spanked for doing something soo dangerous. He was in tears before I had him across my knee but I gave him 4 spanks on the butt. And then buckled him back in his seat. We sat on the side of the road till he calmed down enough for me to talk about what happened.
He can't grasp the consiquences of a possible accident but he knows that taking his seatbelt off while we are driving will result in pain.0 -
LOL I remember the time I was not back inside the house before the street lights had come on. Oh my mother was waiting for me at the front door with a switch from the tree. She tore my butt up! I will surely tell you that before the street lights came back on I was back at home from playing outside each night!!! She would always sit me down and explain why I got my butt whipping and I vowed that I would never spank my kids. I love my mom more than anything in the world. She was a single mom with 4 kids in medical school. She raised 4 very smart and successful girls on her own who all have children and oh yes, I have no problem spanking mine when they get out of order! but they know that I love them and they are smart, happy ones! I will however never use any object except my hand and by the age of 5 or 6 spankings are usually reverted to reading a book with no tv for a few days etc.0
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I vote No
I have two children, I don't spank them and they are well behaved and respectful.
My Eldest child (aged 11) said a bad look from me is more then enough to make him feel like he is doing something wrong. That and taking away computer games!
My youngest says taking away his beloved teddy or his spider man toys does the trick
I always feel that if you smack/spank your children, where do you go from that point when they are older?0 -
Definitely YES! When and if needed. If they are well behaved and respectful, obviously spankings aren't needed. And I'm not talking beating or leaving bruises. Just enough to get their attention. I got it couple times myself when I deserved it.0
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I believe spanking has it's place. I have a 4 yearold who has learned to undo his car seat buckles. As I was driving down the interstate he announced "mom I am getting out". I promptly told him no he could get hurt and it was not safe. I reminded him that mommy has to wear a seat belt to keep her safe too. He undid it anyway and began to crawl into the front seat with me. I calmly pulled the car to the shoulder of the road and told him he was going to be spanked for doing something soo dangerous. He was in tears before I had him across my knee but I gave him 4 spanks on the butt. And then buckled him back in his seat. We sat on the side of the road till he calmed down enough for me to talk about what happened.
He can't grasp the consiquences of a possible accident but he knows that taking his seatbelt off while we are driving will result in pain.
I'm with you on this one! I was at walmart not too long ago and a 3 year or 4 year old child was throwing a major fit in the checkout line. the mother was sooooo calm. she excused herself and took her child into the bathroom. I think i know what happneded in there but that child came out quiet and much calmer. i agree kids will learn the result b/c at a young age they do not understand consequence0 -
Discipline is not abuse. Have you seen the way kids act these days? They are the ones whose parents don't discipline them. Sometimes you have to do more than talk to them and take away their favorite toy. I was spanked and I'm not violent. I learned respect from an early age. Parents let their kids run the show far too often and they think it's cute when that kid is 2, but they're saying something much different when that kid turns 16 and had zero respect for their own parents as well as any other authority figure. Spanking is not abuse.
And is there proof that the reason "kids these days" misbehave is because of lack of spanking?
Every time I see a kid acting out all crazy and being disrespectful. I always think to myself. "That kid needs a good *kitten*-whooping!" It teaches respect! If children are not disciplined and taught respect, I fear greatly for our future. I see kids all the time that don't even get time-outs or scolded, parents just let them run a muck and the parents do nothing, because they want to be friends with their kid, instead of the adult figure that child needs.
So in other words, these kids are brats because their parents are doing NOTHING, as opposed to not spanking? When I see an unruly kid in the store I work at, I think that the parent needs to teach them how to properly behave outside of the home. I don't think that kid needs to be spanked because I don't believe spanking is a good method. It doesn't make sense to hit someone to get them to obey you, and this coming from someone who was spanked as a kid.0 -
I believe spanking has it's place. I have a 4 yearold who has learned to undo his car seat buckles. As I was driving down the interstate he announced "mom I am getting out". I promptly told him no he could get hurt and it was not safe. I reminded him that mommy has to wear a seat belt to keep her safe too. He undid it anyway and began to crawl into the front seat with me. I calmly pulled the car to the shoulder of the road and told him he was going to be spanked for doing something soo dangerous. He was in tears before I had him across my knee but I gave him 4 spanks on the butt. And then buckled him back in his seat. We sat on the side of the road till he calmed down enough for me to talk about what happened.
He can't grasp the consiquences of a possible accident but he knows that taking his seatbelt off while we are driving will result in pain.
I'm with you on this one! I was at walmart not too long ago and a 3 year or 4 year old child was throwing a major fit in the checkout line. the mother was sooooo calm. she excused herself and took her child into the bathroom. I think i know what happneded in there but that child came out quiet and much calmer. i agree kids will learn the result b/c at a young age they do not understand consequence
LOL when my kids act up in the store we make them do push up's in front of everyone works like a charm as well...0 -
Nope, no spanking the kids here.0
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and just to present a counter for the "spanking is abuse" ... (in general not directed at anyone, just thinking out loud)
couldn't it also be said that isolating a child in a corner or putting them in a corner in a hallway or room repeatidly be considered mental abuse as well?
I don't think so but I don't think that spanking as a disciplinary tool is any more abuse than a time out or taking away toys, etc..0 -
you should never spank your kids. just shake the crap outta them
Nothing makes a child behave better than Shaken Baby Syndrome!0 -
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