Spanking your kids yes or no?

lauren3101

I'm just kidding.

My parents did hit me as a child, and I didn't turn out any worse for it. But it's far too general a question. There are huge differences in the way you can hit your child, depending on severity, mood, and reason. That, in my opinion, determines whether or not it was justified. Slapping your child round the face in anger is extremely different from a tap on the bottom and telling them why they have received it.

BlessedJourney29

why is it then that the kids from the days where spanking was common place had so much more respect than the total pricks that are around today.

directed at the topic, not the above poster

great question, I agree!

BlessedJourney29

I do not agree. I love my son with all of my heart. I live by the bible it encourages to not spare the rod.

Will you go all the way and stone him to death if he's gay?




Wow, uncalled for, very ignorant on your behalf. And no, why would I murder my child! Please find someone else to "pick on" not me and my beliefs. God bless you.

Derpes

Taking away the computer, toy, or something that they use regularly seems to sting more than a swat on the backside.

Having said that, spanking is appropriate in rare instances.

michellemybelll

I have a 9-year old and I've never had to resort to physical abuse to teach/guide him from right/wrong. A "disappointed dad" speech works perfectly fine. I also wield the power of my home's WiFi password.

lol. melodramatic much?

BlessedJourney29

I'm just kidding.

My parents did hit me as a child, and I didn't turn out any worse for it. But it's far too general a question. There are huge differences in the way you can hit your child, depending on severity, mood, and reason. That, in my opinion, determines whether or not it was justified. Slapping your child round the face in anger is extremely different from a tap on the bottom and telling them why they have received it.

I love that quote haha

SonicDeathMonkey80

why is it then that the kids from the days where spanking was common place had so much more respect than the total pricks that are around today.

directed at the topic, not the above poster

People said this about me, growing up in the 90s. My generation now says this people that grew up in the 00s, and I'm sure that in a few years, the 00s will say this about the kids from the 10s. I get the feeling that harboring disdain for those younger than you is a natural, irrational phenomena and part of "growing up." Or maybe you're the prick?

sageryu21

Spanking as a corrective action is okay. Beating them into submission is a bad thing.

Derpes

I have a 9-year old and I've never had to resort to physical abuse to teach/guide him from right/wrong. A "disappointed dad" speech works perfectly fine. I also wield the power of my home's WiFi password.

How is spanking lumped in with "physical abuse"?

paperpudding

I do not agree. I love my son with all of my heart. I live by the bible it encourages to not spare the rod.

Will you go all the way and stone him to death if he's gay?

I think your post is a good example of a straw man argument.

summertime_girl

I never spank. There are other much more effective punishments that physically hurting my children. I was spanked as a kid, and it made me even more rebellious. I refused to cry, and so they'd hit harder, with the whole nonsense "this hurts me more than it hurts you".

Now I prefer to take away privileges, electronics, toys, whatever. My son once lost the door to his bedroom for a month.

The one that always killed me was getting a spanking for whacking one of my little sisters. Could never figure out why it was ok for my parents to hit me for doing what I did first.

PennyM140

I use spanking along with time outs and taking toys away. I don't care exactly how other parents discipline their children as long as they do something. I understand different methods work for different children and different ages. But, for the love of god, please get your bratty rugrats under control in public. It irritates the crap out of me to take my very well behaved child somewhere and have our fun ruined by some little out of control heathens.

paperpudding

I would consider a quick light smack on the bottom as more appropriate than removing a bedroom door for a month.

SonicDeathMonkey80

I do not agree. I love my son with all of my heart. I live by the bible it encourages to not spare the rod.

Will you go all the way and stone him to death if he's gay?

I think your post is a good example of a straw man argument.

Sure, it goes a little far, but "living by the bible" doesn't always equate to great parenting.

msf74

No.

Alehmer

I say no just because I don't think it's particularly effective, especially in the long term. My mom tried it with me, seemingly to no avail, and learned that the corner produced much better results.

With my own son I haven't done any spanking very consciously because:

1 - I don't want him to think that hitting when your angry is the right reaction

2 - I am a Zen Buddhist, and don't advocate any non-recreational violence (though recreational violence is so much fun!)

3 - I want him to understand why what he did was wrong and why he's getting punished very clearly. Plus a slow, distinct, look-me-in-the-eye-till-you-understand conversation is much more grueling to the 5 year old psyche than having a sore butt for a few minutes.

4 - Anger begets anger, violence begets violence, and I want to lead by example.

5 - It's worked really well so far. Yes, having an only child makes things much easier without a doubt, but I don't think I've actually had to dole out a real punishment in months.

I am quite strict, and push my son to be very independent. I don't think not spanking means not disciplining at all, and in fact I see spanking as the easy way out. My Kindergartner is exceptionally well behaved and a joy to be around, and I personally think (hope!) it has a lot to do with my strict but calm parenting style.

That said, I'm not going to judge anyone else unless they are being truly abusive. No sentence that started with, "Can I give you some parenting advice?" has ever ended with anything but anger and resentment. (Tell me as a parent just reading that sentence didn't raise your hackles!)

fitfan11

Spank. Nothing wrong with good order and discipline.

vim_n_vigor

I vote no. If spanking worked, you'd only have to do it once (quoting Dr. Phil here).

Well, if only having to do it once is the measure of it working, time-out should only have to be used one time, or saying no only one time.....

EddieHaskell97

Being that my kids are three and five years old, I will only do it if they put their lives in danger doing something they know they're not supposed to do. IE, cross/go into the street without an adult holding their hands, trying to stick a knife in an electrical outlet, etc...

Everything else is a timeout on the stairs, or if it's really bad being sent up to their rooms.

paperpudding

I do not agree. I love my son with all of my heart. I live by the bible it encourages to not spare the rod.

Will you go all the way and stone him to death if he's gay?

I think your post is a good example of a straw man argument.

Sure, it goes a little far, but "living by the bible" doesn't always equate to great parenting.

Nobody said it did.
Even the poster who said she lives by the bible did not say that.

Your post went way too far and was completely uncalled for and irrelevant to the discussion.