Why does everyone hate me? The forum Survival Guide.

PikaKnight

Why does everyone hate me?

Because I don't need to lose weight. I can eat what i want, and I look good.

...and because I make posts like this one...very often in response to someone who is struggling to lose weight, struggling with food choices, and struggling with their self-image.

FIFY

ndj1979

And if you are....so? Who cares about the disapproval of strangers on the internet? Bring on the peasants with pitchforks (yawn).

Pretty much this^^ =D

Pretty much the rudeness that I speak of,fortunately, I LOVE the IGNORE feature and I wont see your response (which will be rude I'm sure) so don't waste your time.

stop taking internet forums so seriously …

I can't imagine what you are like in real life..

minibandit

I think you need to lighten up and get a grip ....

You can say that again.. sheesh. Some people need to avoid off key humor like the plague, the wrong powder puff could set off an unstoppable comical murder spree of epic proportions.

Now...you guys saying that so early on in this thread considering how it's panned out...now that's funny! :laugh:

Otterluv

Why does everyone hate me?

Because I don't need to lose weight. I can eat what i want, and I look good.

Don't forget your wealth and expensive clothes.

But seriously, you know what is amusing? When you read several people responding to a quote and you know who said it based on its high degree of smugness.

QFT.

But you forgot the part about being a yogamaster. Can't forget the yoga.

smantha32

So, your new here and you think you've found the support group you've been desperately seeking to hold your hand through the difficult months to come. You gingerly click on "Community" and either browse a few topics or get eagerly right to sharing your enthusiasm for the newest Rachel Ray endorsed magic pill or that diet plan you found on the internet that claims eating only chick peas will burn every once of fat on your body in 28 days. Then suddenly... something unexpected happens, a fellow user who you've pre-judged as an brother or sister in weight loss solidarity... disagrees. But not just disagrees mind you, but firmly and without consideration for your feelings makeing sure you are fully aware that your new plan of attack will not only fail? But they won't even listen to your clearly internet researched proof as to why they might just might not be privy to the bandwagon.

Then, much to your surprise.. several more members agree with your nemesis and it becomes an epidemic. If they would only listen to reason right? Clearly, you've been attacked and the only solution is to start a new topic let them all know how disappointed you are in how they've chosen to use the forum.

Does this sound like you? Then pay attention.

Welcome to - How to use the internet (specifically MFP) socially 101.

Lesson One: Realize... You could be wrong.

When more then one person contradicts a "dieting experiment" you bring to the table with logic (ie. Just eating food like a normal person), instead of arguing with them until your feelings are soaked in your own tears? Try listening. They clearly aren't trying to hurt you by helping you enjoy food, in fact they WANT you to succeed much more then the people who refuse to tell you the truth for fear it will hurt your feelings. Fun fact? There is so much more to learn if you approach a public forum with and open mind.

Lesson Two: You can't fight science.

Unless you have a medical condition that alters the way your body processes food? Chances are your composition directly relates to the calories you eat, just like everyone else. You are not the exception to the rule so don't waste a learning experience with self diagnosed mumbo jumbo. That piece of bread is NOT your enemy, stop villainizing it.

Lesson Three: Read more then you type.

One great way to avoid an onslaught of internet meanies is to learn the lay of the land long before you contribute to it. The forum is awash with hundreds of the same five topics. "How do I eat all of my calories?", "Why am I not losing weight?", "Does the Atkins Diet work?". If you take the time to look through the history of what others have pioneered, you will avoid an embarrassing faux pas. Plus, you joined this forum to lose weight which means you have something to learn about the process. If the elder members who HAVE reached their goal provide you advice (with a hug or a glare) shut up and listen. Arguing your point is like telling your doctor even though he's diagnosed you with a cold, you know it's a fever whether or not you have the symptoms to support it.

Lesson Four: Stop searching the internet for a substitute to hard work and responsibility.

If the first thing (or 15th thing) you contribute and defend to your death in a public forum is not sustainable and even dangerous? Realize not only will people disagree but they may even do so with prejudice. When you log in, you forget that you are NOT the only new cookie on the dessert tray. There are dozens of others just like you desperate seeking the magic answer to the weight loss goals they've set for themselves... I mean why else would you be here right? But when you post "solutions" that require rainbow colored pills, quarantining food groups, or drinking your meals like a kid with new braces? You are essentially affecting the health of every new virgin soul that stumbles on your witch doctory. I know you may think you are sharing the word of the gods, and the forum gurus just don't know it yet? But had you learned Lesson Three (see above) you'd realize 25 other people posted the same sorted public service announcement last month, each which also met a rather disagreeable end and for good reason.

And last...

Lesson Five: SURPRISE this is a PUBLIC forum.

I know, crazy right? But it's true!! There are people of all walks of life and varied personalities all inhabiting one little corner of the inter-webs. You know what that means? Different opinions, disagreements, and possibility of a lack of emotion when addressing your situation. Now I know you had hoped everyone here was as sweet as your Grandma Ester, I mean she would never say anything without a hug right? But that's NOT the real world. Other members may certainly identify with your struggle but the connection ends there. Don't expect that every one here is looking way to feel special while they shed pounds. Don't expect that everyone has the same level of decorum as you are sure you possess. And don't assume that opposition means "RUDE" when in most cases it's a clear offer of help short spoken or not.

For the most part, if you just read and learn? The forums are a fun place to grow and find success in your weight loss journey. But when you approach a herd of lions like an Alpha and no mane to support it? You will quickly find yourself in the middle of a feeding frenzy with barely enough room to come up for air. Health and nutrition is a very personal subject for a lot of people so when it becomes overly emotional "hurt butt" is a common result. Just realize that even if the lessons are hard? They are ALL trying to help you achieve LONG TERM success not short term Yo Yo-ing.

Now stop crying and start learning and if you feel the need to sniffle? Go spend an hour reading the comments on Youtube, because you've yet to experience "mean".

Good Luck!

Bumping this up just because. WIN

Schlackity

Nobody likes me, everybody hates me,
Guess I'll go eat worms,
Long, thin, slimy ones; Short, fat, juicy ones,
Itsy, bitsy, fuzzy wuzzy worms.

Down goes the first one, down goes the second one,
Oh how they wiggle and squirm.
Up comes the first one, up comes the second one,
Oh how they wiggle and squirm.

I bite off the heads, and suck out the juice
And throw the skins away
Nobody knows how fat I grow
On worms three times a day
Ohh...nobody loves me.


Nobody likes me, everybody hates me,
Think I'll go eat worms.
Big fat juicy ones, Eensie weensy squeensy ones,
See how they wiggle and squirm.

Chomp off their heads and squeeze out the juice
And throw their tails away
Nobody knows how I survive
On worms three times a day.


Nobody likes me, everybody hates me
I'm goin' down the garden to eat worms
Long thin slimy ones, short fat fuzzy ones
Ooey gooey, ooey gooey worms

Long thin slimy ones slip down easily
Short fat fuzzy ones don't
Short fat fuzzy ones stick to your teeth
And the juice goes slurpin' (slurping noise) down your throat

I had no idea there were so many verses to this song! Love it! Never know what I'm gonna learn here!

in_the_stars

Why does everyone hate me?

Because I don't need to lose weight. I can eat what i want, and I look good.

Don't forget your wealth and expensive clothes.

But seriously, you know what is amusing? When you read several people responding to a quote and you know who said it based on its high degree of smugness.

QFT.

But you forgot the part about being a yogamaster. Can't forget the yoga.

Trust me, I won't. After 1000 hours of teaching for a non profit organization just to become a member of IAYT, I'm not a "yogamaster".

*yay, another person to put on ignore.

smantha32

Love it! I would add one more category:

Help Us Help You - Nothing brings out the butthurt like the posts where the OP only gives out tidbits of information. The OP gets upset that people aren't giving them the answer they are looking for, and the rest of the forum gets annoyed that we have to drag things out of you and you're arguing with us. Then it's all cat gifs and burning dumpsters.

This got an actual LOL. :drinker:

Otterluv

Why does everyone hate me?

Because I don't need to lose weight. I can eat what i want, and I look good.

Don't forget your wealth and expensive clothes.

But seriously, you know what is amusing? When you read several people responding to a quote and you know who said it based on its high degree of smugness.

QFT.

But you forgot the part about being a yogamaster. Can't forget the yoga.

Trust me, I won't. After 1000 hours of teaching for a non profit organization just to become a member of IAYT, I'm not a "yogamaster".

*yay, another person to put on ignore.

See? Somehow she blended yoga into smugness for a very EA concoction in one little line. It's pretty impressive.



I haven't been as active on the forums (stupid schoolwork), but I honestly thought I was on that ignore list AGES ago. I feel much less left out now.

devil_in_a_blue_dress

Why does everyone hate me?

Because I don't need to lose weight. I can eat what i want, and I look good.

Don't forget your wealth and expensive clothes.

But seriously, you know what is amusing? When you read several people responding to a quote and you know who said it based on its high degree of smugness.

QFT.

But you forgot the part about being a yogamaster. Can't forget the yoga.

Trust me, I won't. After 1000 hours of teaching for a non profit organization just to become a member of IAYT, I'm not a "yogamaster".

*yay, another person to put on ignore.

See? Somehow she blended yoga into smugness for a very EA concoction in one little line. It's pretty impressive.



I haven't been as active on the forums (stupid schoolwork), but I honestly thought I was on that ignore list AGES ago. I feel much less left out now.

I am ok being hated by certain people, you know?

snowflake954

OP: I think you should include a category on your report including this phenonmenon, i.e. where people see a bunch of individuals posting funny stuff or agreeing with each other, and they perceive it as some kind of gang, clique or exclusive club, when really it's people who barely know each other, just interacting in a normal way, having a bit of a joke or all agreeing because they just so happen to hold the same opinion, or they all know the same science...

I second this. Thankyou

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gee some people are soooooooooooooo sensitive!

SymphonynSonata

Why does everyone hate me?

Because I don't need to lose weight. I can eat what i want, and I look good.

Don't forget your wealth and expensive clothes.

But seriously, you know what is amusing? When you read several people responding to a quote and you know who said it based on its high degree of smugness.

Oh man I'm not even that active on the forums other than a select few threads and I knew who it was. That's impressive.

in_the_stars

Why does everyone hate me?

Because I don't need to lose weight. I can eat what i want, and I look good.

Don't forget your wealth and expensive clothes.

But seriously, you know what is amusing? When you read several people responding to a quote and you know who said it based on its high degree of smugness.

Oh man I'm not even that active on the forums other than a select few threads and I knew who it was. That's impressive.

I occupy so many members minds. How sad for you. lol

MaryIM

Awesome post!!!

SymphonynSonata

Why does everyone hate me?

Because I don't need to lose weight. I can eat what i want, and I look good.

Don't forget your wealth and expensive clothes.

But seriously, you know what is amusing? When you read several people responding to a quote and you know who said it based on its high degree of smugness.

Oh man I'm not even that active on the forums other than a select few threads and I knew who it was. That's impressive.

I occupy so many members minds. How sad for you. lol

Well, there aren't enough Julia Roberts look alikes in the world.




Uncanny!

healthy4three

for the win!

in_the_stars

Why does everyone hate me?

Because I don't need to lose weight. I can eat what i want, and I look good.

Don't forget your wealth and expensive clothes.

But seriously, you know what is amusing? When you read several people responding to a quote and you know who said it based on its high degree of smugness.

Oh man I'm not even that active on the forums other than a select few threads and I knew who it was. That's impressive.

I occupy so many members minds. How sad for you. lol

Well, there aren't enough Julia Roberts look alikes in the world.




Uncanny!

Ha! Just exif or google my pic. I look nothing like Julia Roberts. loll
That's my sea hag pic.

Here you go... http://regex.info/exif.cgi?b=3&referer=http://www.myfitnesspal.com/user/in_the_stars/status&imgurl=http://dakd0cjsv8wfa.cloudfront.net/images/photos/619/295/32619295_6841.jpg

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