Why do people get so mean?
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Why is it always the people with 46 posts who haven't lost anything in 2 years that think people are mean?
Not sure who this is targeted at, but it is not entirely logical to shame or put down someone's opinion on the basis of his or her weight loss -- or post count, lol -- alone.
Its not directed at anyone, its an academic question. I ask it as someone who was once a low-post count person with little to no success who thought people were mean.
eta: though a low post count indicates that a person does not spend their time in the forum helping others. It is quite amusing to see someone who doesn't help criticize the way others help.0 -
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The weirdest thing just happened...I was trying to catch up on this thread and was overcome with the intense and distinct urge to have an enema? What the heck just happened to my muscles?0
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How to deal with mean people online:
1) Turn off computer / tablet / phone
2) Throw out computer / tablet / phone
3) Cancel Internet and phone / cellphone service
Sorry, OP, I don't think you can be helped if this is your example of a mean post! I really think you need to relax a little and exercise your sense of humor
How many calories can I burn by exercising my sense of humor?
Not so much by itself, but we'd need to count the calories we burn prying the large stick out of our *kitten* first :laugh:
You. I like you.
I like both of you. Stick prying can burn a lot of calories.
Seriously though...the amount of bashing is insane. You don't like someone's response? Ignore it. We're all here to get healthier...we all have goals we're trying to reach. But clearly we shouldn't take advice from those stupid bodybuilders. I mean, they're not in great shape or anything. *shakes head*0 -
But why is it so easy to jump to sarcasm, far-fetched examples, obviously unhelpful comments, etc.?
That would be because it's the Internet. The only thing more annoying than the mean people are the people who lecture about mean people in brand new threads.0 -
Why is it always the people with 46 posts who haven't lost anything in 2 years that think people are mean?
Not sure who this is targeted at, but it is not entirely logical to shame or put down someone's opinion on the basis of his or her weight loss -- or post count, lol -- alone.
How about based on their fitness status (as a body builder, for example)?0 -
Snarky comments are nothing more than passive aggressiveness. It really says a lot about that persons need to feel validated.
I 100% agree. Snark = passive aggression.
An aside: I feel like passive aggression is especially geographically regional in real life, and on myfitnesspal, regional in the sense of people's goals. I.E., the bodybuilders who must count every single number perfectly are more likely to be passive aggressive than people like me or a mother looking to lose 20 pounds, or a casual runner just keeping track of things. Does that make sense? Out of some perceived superiority, people feel they can be passively aggressive.
This was, ironically, a very passive-aggressive post.
It would seem that those who are so quick and certain to see this type of behavior in others (regardless of whether or not it is apt) seem to have great difficulty in seeing it in themselves.
Interesting, no?0 -
...and I've never even HAD an enema! ..o0O(????)0
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Why is it always the people with 46 posts who haven't lost anything in 2 years that think people are mean?
Not sure who this is targeted at, but it is not entirely logical to shame or put down someone's opinion on the basis of his or her weight loss -- or post count, lol -- alone.
How about based on their fitness status (as a body builder, for example)?
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A standard thread on MFP takes the 4th page to derail; we are on track, excellent.0
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Why is it always the people with 46 posts who haven't lost anything in 2 years that think people are mean?
Not sure who this is targeted at, but it is not entirely logical to shame or put down someone's opinion on the basis of his or her weight loss -- or post count, lol -- alone.
How about based on their fitness status (as a body builder, for example)?
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But why is it so easy to jump to sarcasm, far-fetched examples, obviously unhelpful comments, etc.?
That would be because it's the Internet. The only thing more annoying than the mean people are the people who lecture about mean people in brand new threads.
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Mychoclatediet - Your intermittent posts are cracking me up.0
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And very on point as well.Snarky comments are nothing more than passive aggressiveness. It really says a lot about that persons need to feel validated.
I 100% agree. Snark = passive aggression.
An aside: I feel like passive aggression is especially geographically regional in real life, and on myfitnesspal, regional in the sense of people's goals. I.E., the bodybuilders who must count every single number perfectly are more likely to be passive aggressive than people like me or a mother looking to lose 20 pounds, or a casual runner just keeping track of things. Does that make sense? Out of some perceived superiority, people feel they can be passively aggressive.
This was, ironically, a very passive-aggressive post.
It would seem that those who are so quick and certain to see this type of behavior in others (regardless of whether or not it is apt) seem to have great difficulty in seeing it in themselves.
Interesting, no?0 -
A standard thread on MFP takes the 4th page to derail; we are on track, excellent.
But on track to where?
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Snarky comments are nothing more than passive aggressiveness. It really says a lot about that persons need to feel validated.
I 100% agree. Snark = passive aggression.
An aside: I feel like passive aggression is especially geographically regional in real life, and on myfitnesspal, regional in the sense of people's goals. I.E., the bodybuilders who must count every single number perfectly are more likely to be passive aggressive than people like me or a mother looking to lose 20 pounds, or a casual runner just keeping track of things. Does that make sense? Out of some perceived superiority, people feel they can be passively aggressive.
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Snarky comments are nothing more than passive aggressiveness. It really says a lot about that persons need to feel validated.
I 100% agree. Snark = passive aggression.
An aside: I feel like passive aggression is especially geographically regional in real life, and on myfitnesspal, regional in the sense of people's goals. I.E., the bodybuilders who must count every single number perfectly are more likely to be passive aggressive than people like me or a mother looking to lose 20 pounds, or a casual runner just keeping track of things. Does that make sense? Out of some perceived superiority, people feel they can be passively aggressive.
I just...I can't stop watching...0 -
The people here aren't mean; they're smug. It's a small difference, but significant enough that they'll never admit to being mean, only correct, so I wouldn't waste your breath.
I'm mean. I'm also smug. And I'm intelligent enough not to care what the normies think about it.
Dis...and I have been called all of the above in the last week along with "know it all" + "have attitude"
Am I being mean...nope...you don't want to see me being mean...ask my son. I answer questions from people asking for help or advice and if they don't like the answers how is that me being mean???
Sorry but taking 3 hours to do a 30min exercise video and I say suck it up buttercup and stop taking breaks makes me mean and have a know it all attitude so be it...
truth of the matter is this...there are posts on these forums that are mean...and the posters are so called out for it and so fast it's not funny...
it is very interesting to see judgmental posts and passive agressive statements directed at so called "mean" people...I could quote a tonne directed at me ...such as "change your profile pic...." but I wont go much further than that...
*off to find my butt hurt report....found it
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Usually when I am wrong, I want people to tell me I am wrong. So I can stop being wrong.
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Snarky comments are nothing more than passive aggressiveness. It really says a lot about that persons need to feel validated.
I 100% agree. Snark = passive aggression.
An aside: I feel like passive aggression is especially geographically regional in real life, and on myfitnesspal, regional in the sense of people's goals. I.E., the bodybuilders who must count every single number perfectly are more likely to be passive aggressive than people like me or a mother looking to lose 20 pounds, or a casual runner just keeping track of things. Does that make sense? Out of some perceived superiority, people feel they can be passively aggressive.
This was, ironically, a very passive-aggressive post.
It would seem that those who are so quick and certain to see this type of behavior in others (regardless of whether or not it is apt) seem to have great difficulty in seeing it in themselves.
Interesting, no?
*nod nod*
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Some people are just determined to be mean and angry and hateful. There's not a lot you can do about it.
I usually just ignore anyone who strikes me that way on MFP. The only problem I've experienced on these forums is a couple of people who for whatever reason refuse to ignore me, even though they have made it very clear how much they hate me. Then others "quote" their posts to respond in some way (positive or negative) and I wind up seeing it anyway. I wish MFP had a more sophisticated layout that would keep that from happening, but eh...not a big deal really.0 -
Snarky comments are nothing more than passive aggressiveness. It really says a lot about that persons need to feel validated.
I 100% agree. Snark = passive aggression.
An aside: I feel like passive aggression is especially geographically regional in real life, and on myfitnesspal, regional in the sense of people's goals. I.E., the bodybuilders who must count every single number perfectly are more likely to be passive aggressive than people like me or a mother looking to lose 20 pounds, or a casual runner just keeping track of things. Does that make sense? Out of some perceived superiority, people feel they can be passively aggressive.
This was, ironically, a very passive-aggressive post.
It would seem that those who are so quick and certain to see this type of behavior in others (regardless of whether or not it is apt) seem to have great difficulty in seeing it in themselves.
Interesting, no?
I would say it's because they need to feel validated. :laugh:0 -
which kind of kid are you?Actually, I think "sourpuss" might be more appropriate than "mean"; mean suggests an aggression you don't really see before it gets locked by moderators. It's more like, "Hey, you clean eating kids, get off my lawn, rabble rabble!" and then equally sourpuss clean eating kids sulking away.0 -
The people here aren't mean; they're smug. It's a small difference, but significant enough that they'll never admit to being mean, only correct, so I wouldn't waste your breath.
I'm mean. I'm also smug. And I'm intelligent enough not to care what the normies think about it.
Dis...and I have been called all of the above in the last week along with "know it all" + "have attitude"
Am I being mean...nope...you don't want to see me being mean...ask my son. I answer questions from people asking for help or advice and if they don't like the answers how is that me being mean???
Sorry but taking 3 hours to do a 30min exercise video and I say suck it up buttercup and stop taking breaks makes me mean and have a know it all attitude so be it...
truth of the matter is this...there are posts on these forums that are mean...and the posters are so called out for it and so fast it's not funny...
it is very interesting to see judgmental posts and passive agressive statements directed at so called "mean" people...I could quote a tonne directed at me ...such as "change your profile pic...." but I wont go much further than that...
*off to find my butt hurt report....found it
You're the meanest of them all!!!
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which kind of kid are you?Actually, I think "sourpuss" might be more appropriate than "mean"; mean suggests an aggression you don't really see before it gets locked by moderators. It's more like, "Hey, you clean eating kids, get off my lawn, rabble rabble!" and then equally sourpuss clean eating kids sulking away.
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wow. what the?Snarky comments are nothing more than passive aggressiveness. It really says a lot about that persons need to feel validated.
I 100% agree. Snark = passive aggression.
An aside: I feel like passive aggression is especially geographically regional in real life, and on myfitnesspal, regional in the sense of people's goals. I.E., the bodybuilders who must count every single number perfectly are more likely to be passive aggressive than people like me or a mother looking to lose 20 pounds, or a casual runner just keeping track of things. Does that make sense? Out of some perceived superiority, people feel they can be passively aggressive.0 -
but that would be mean...Why is it always the people with 46 posts who haven't lost anything in 2 years that think people are mean?
Not sure who this is targeted at, but it is not entirely logical to shame or put down someone's opinion on the basis of his or her weight loss -- or post count, lol -- alone.
How about based on their fitness status (as a body builder, for example)?
oh.0 -
I don't think the majority of us need info sugar coated.
I prefer my info sugar coated.
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