rejected by online soulmate b/c of weight
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hi everyone
i cant think straight right now but here is the story that leads up to my issue... i met this guy several months online while i wasn't looking for anyone or anything. back then, i was fit (running everyday, yoga, etc.) and confident, really content with myself but due to circumstances in my life, i was unable to see him. we continued talking for months, falling deeper and deeper into one another. it reached a point where we were talking marriage, and i never felt this way for anyone. our emotional and mental bond was beyond anything i imagined or dreamed of in another human being. i am still deeply in love and i feel i'd do anything for this man, also love him despite all his flaws. he promised and reassured me the same thing, we had open communication through-out the relationship and he swore he wouldn't hurt me, and always be with me through the worst. Well, i ended up moving about four hours away and got sick, therefore gained some odd 40 pounds within a few months. he kept pressing on for meeting yet at this point i was making excuses so i wouldn't have to see him like this, for i stopped being happy with myself. i finally got the medical attention my condition needed and i am confident in losing the weight within the next few months. however, i decided to meet him anyway because i truly believed he would accept me no matter what, considering this would be "me at my worst".
so despite feeling ill about it and kinda having a bad feeling, we met. it seemed fine at first but then over the night he started getting cold. eventually he said he needed to go home because he wasn't feeling well (he drove four hours to see me). i ended up pressing him because i knew it was something else. he admitted it being my physical appearance, which i fully knew. however, i wasnt prepared how hard it would hit me. i ended up bawling for two hours while he hugged me and said he needed time to think when i asked him if he loved me. he called me a "beautiful person" while i said "not beautiful enough for you", and other things like "i think it's going to be okay", "i think i love you" (note: we had been saying we loved each other for months and when he first stepped into the room, he said he loved me). then after two hours of us sitting in the dark with me crying, he left.
i didn't sleep the entire night and i feel numb, empty like a shell. he said he would continue talking to me. i told him i'd "fix" myself and change, learn to love myself again and be the happy, fit me again. however, i don't know what to do now. i feel conflicted and sick, my heart hurts, my head hurts, everything makes me cry. when he said he would love me unconditionally, i believed it. i haven't been this hurt in seven years, and it stings more then any other "relationship" i've been in. while online relationships seem sketchy and unrealistic, our connection was unprecedented. until he saw me, that is. We have communicated recently and decided to keep talking, but it's clear as day that he wants nothing more then friends... if i can even manage that.
Now, from an objective point of view should i look at this as motivation to lose/a giant reality check? I'm not sure if this is the case, if i have been delusional about my body. I don't think I know how big i am, I know I'm overweight but I don't feel "fat". When I work out, I have intense stamina and power. I don't feel like dying exercising and no one has previously rejected me based on weight. Yet, evidence proves otherwise (scale, rejection). I'm devastated and know that fantasy became reality, and reality sucked. I am wondering, should I get myself "fixed" and try for this guy again? It feels like nothing will get better at the moment, like i'm spiraling down a hole and my heart is permanently broken. please. no judgements, thank you.
while I agree that this man was a jerk....I am sorry you kind of were one too
What were you thinking ? Penpals do not lovers make
Words are only a very very small part of attraction
You were lying to yourself
At least admit this?
Yes in my follow up posts I mention that I was probably delusional and not coming to terms about how I looked so I weaved a fantasy. But I truly believed he meant what he said. My pictures weren't fabricates or of someone else. They were me, just a lighter me. I recognize that I should have sent me a very recent one of my body without angles. The weight probably changed my face too. However I never lied to him about how I felt the weight gain and my illness. I regret it. But I saw the true him, while it hurts because I still love him. So much. Yet I know, he is done and will move on quickly. It makes my stomach turn to think of him with anyone else.
this was a truth pill it took me a long time to swallow
you cannot love another until you love yourself
sweetie you are not there yet but I think you know this? that's step one!
Step one!!!! "We admitted we were powerless over _______, and our lives had become unmanageable."
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Could someone please write up this story from the guy's perspective? I have a feeling that he's being unfairly judged in this scenario and I think it would help to have some balance. (Ideally, we'd actually hear from him...but given that that's unlikely, perhaps someone could just make it up using a few likely assumptions?)
So, I met this girl online. We really connected and I thought I was in love. She was pretty attractive from all the pictures, but we never did video chat or anything. She told me she had gained some from illness but I didn't think it would matter to me. We finally met in person and yeah, she had gained weight but again, I thought I could let it go. However as the night went on it was apparent that she was really self conscious and not the confident, sexy, assertive woman I thought she was and I started noticing the weight more and more. I really thought I could get over it but it seem to really change her personality as well. Finally, at the end of the night I made the decision that it would be horrible to lead her on and pretend that the feelings I thought I had for her prior to our meeting were still there. They just weren't. I can't really explain why. I did what I thought was right and let her know how I felt. Now I feel horrible about the whole thing. I do care about her. I know I hurt her and wish I could help her feel but I don't know how so I guess for now all I can do is try to keep being friends with her.
^^ I can add to that: "and then I talked with my friend who told me if you don't care for her the same way, cut it off now so you don't hurt her, don't show her emotion or closeness so she doesn't get it mixed up. So now when we talk online I don't mention it, so I don't hurt her, I just try to be a friend."
Let him go and move on girl, you can have better anyways!0 -
I love my motorcycle. He's my soulmate.
You know, recently, I thought about how it would be nice to be in a long-term relationship.
Then I mistakenly thought that no man likes a tall, chick-grease-monkey who rides a bike and a bicycle, gets her hands dirty, who's hair is always curly and crazy, works out with weights, likes to watch planes bank in the sky and look at constellations.
THEN I realized, "HEY, I may be a little lonely, but I sure ain't bored and I have LOTS of fun."
I like me. :smooched:0 -
Could someone please write up this story from the guy's perspective? I have a feeling that he's being unfairly judged in this scenario and I think it would help to have some balance. (Ideally, we'd actually hear from him...but given that that's unlikely, perhaps someone could just make it up using a few likely assumptions?)
Exactly.
"Hi, I have been talking to this girl for several months and we were really falling for her. She was funny, engaging, and lead an active lifestyle. She recently moved and I started pressing to meet in person. She was really hesitant and told me she didn't want to because she recently got sick and gained a few pounds. Based on some older photos she sent, I decided that a few pounds didn't matter and set up the meeting anyway.
Well, when I got there, 'a few pounds' was really 60 and I was starting to doubt that this was recent as it's nearly impossible to gain weight that quickly, but I tried moving past it since we have such a great connection. A few hours passed and I kept thinking back to it and I just couldn't let it go. I tried making an excuse so I could go home and think things over but she kept asking what was wrong. I decided to be upfront with her and she started crying. I care for her so I spent the next two hours holding her and saying things will be ok, but I'm not sure they will be."
What's with all the talk?
"Dude what happened with that yoga instructor you were talking to?"
"Catfish'd."
*resume playing X-box*
Tl;dr version :laugh:0 -
"Hi, I have been talking to this girl for several months and we were really falling for her. She was funny, engaging, and lead an active lifestyle. She recently moved and I started pressing to meet in person. She was really hesitant and told me she didn't want to because she recently got sick and gained a few pounds. Based on some older photos she sent, I decided that a few pounds didn't matter and set up the meeting anyway.
Well, when I got there, 'a few pounds' was really 60 and I was starting to doubt that this was recent as it's nearly impossible to gain weight that quickly, but I tried moving past it since we have such a great connection. A few hours passed and I kept thinking back to it and I just couldn't let it go. I tried making an excuse so I could go home and think things over but she kept asking what was wrong. I decided to be upfront with her and she started crying. I care for her so I spent the next two hours holding her and saying things will be ok, but I'm not sure they will be."
Yeah, I'm thinking this is pretty much spot on.
OP said in the beginning she was fit, confident, etc. Then she moved. Then she got sick and gained weight. She also said that she shared a lot of deep personal stuff w/ this guy. All of these things, IMO, came too early in the process of them getting to know one another. You're not going to pique or keep a guy's interest in the beginning with heavy stuff like that. Then she started questioning him when she sensed something was off, asking if it was her weight. Then...2 hours of crying - that alone would scare anyone off, I would think. I understand she was upset and confused but as another poster said, sometimes we women use that to try to manipulate a situation.
What I still can't figure out is why he said he loved her when they first got together, then later said "I think I can love you".0 -
I love how this guy is being demonized for not being attracted to her, lol.
Women do that crap all the time. As a woman, I think it is unfair to demonize him too.
I think men do the same thing. I've known plenty of men who were turned down, or dumped by a woman and automatically demonized her as being "too materialistic and a gold digger" when there were no signs to lead them to that conclusion.
This is why we are opposite sexes. We can't live with or without each other. Crazy mixed up humans!0 -
the little one or the big one?
and humble.
devastating, no?
lol what the hell?respectfully this is such a stereotypical take it cracks me up. no no no no no... I had an ex that would mindtease me for two months after a 4year thing, and guess what... it was MY FAULT for even answering back... forget that, she should not be in any contact at all because I have been were the guy has been.. had this freak of nature with rotting teeth on a date and of course all her pics were ubber hot, and then this thing smiles and I wanted to bolt.. instead I told her respectfully I needed to leave... (a guy has to keep his lunch down) and she started to cry and sob... next thing you know this chick is blowing up my phone like a nut and saying she was going to off herself... so I kept talking just like this guy being nice and considerate...
no its the chicks responsibility if he declined her to quit talking, and if the dude is prompting the convo then he really is a scum bag and should certainly be ignored..
and as I said... ummm with tinder you can date anyone you want in any city you want whenever you want... its easy, its timely, its fast, its fun, its witty.. use the app and get happy and get dating!
and last bit of advice.. the only time ever feel hesitant about making the decision to move on with a chick is on the random chance encounter after I ignore her for a few days I notice the girl is ignoring me as well - it is only and only then that you would have a chance at getting him to come back.. but even then I'd say in this case its over over over so run run run away.
I mean, with a nice guy like you out there, who wouldn't want to get on the Tinder saddle?
when i'm the saddle... lots of ladies here would babe.
lmao, your the exact example of a chick over Tinder that I would have absolutely zero ulterior motives with, but manage to be witty enough for me to be friends with... its just a different type of entertainment factor.
thanks for the example!!
I'm pretty sure I just got friend-zoned.
It's just....I thought it was meant to be. He's so charming.
Please... this is going to start going straight to my head..
Will you be my friend?0 -
"Hi, I have been talking to this girl for several months and we were really falling for her. She was funny, engaging, and lead an active lifestyle. She recently moved and I started pressing to meet in person. She was really hesitant and told me she didn't want to because she recently got sick and gained a few pounds. Based on some older photos she sent, I decided that a few pounds didn't matter and set up the meeting anyway.
Well, when I got there, 'a few pounds' was really 60 and I was starting to doubt that this was recent as it's nearly impossible to gain weight that quickly, but I tried moving past it since we have such a great connection. A few hours passed and I kept thinking back to it and I just couldn't let it go. I tried making an excuse so I could go home and think things over but she kept asking what was wrong. I decided to be upfront with her and she started crying. I care for her so I spent the next two hours holding her and saying things will be ok, but I'm not sure they will be."
Yeah, I'm thinking this is pretty much spot on.
OP said in the beginning she was fit, confident, etc. Then she moved. Then she got sick and gained weight. She also said that she shared a lot of deep personal stuff w/ this guy. All of these things, IMO, came too early in the process of them getting to know one another. You're not going to pique or keep a guy's interest in the beginning with heavy stuff like that. Then she started questioning him when she sensed something was off, asking if it was her weight. Then...2 hours of crying - that alone would scare anyone off, I would think. I understand she was upset and confused but as another poster said, sometimes we women use that to try to manipulate a situation.
What I still can't figure out is why he said he loved her when they first got together, then later said "I think I can love you".
My working theory is she surprised him with an "I LOVE YOU!" and he knee-jerk responded in kind.
Just a theory though.0 -
Could someone please write up this story from the guy's perspective? I have a feeling that he's being unfairly judged in this scenario and I think it would help to have some balance. (Ideally, we'd actually hear from him...but given that that's unlikely, perhaps someone could just make it up using a few likely assumptions?)
Exactly.
"Hi, I have been talking to this girl for several months and we were really falling for her. She was funny, engaging, and lead an active lifestyle. She recently moved and I started pressing to meet in person. She was really hesitant and told me she didn't want to because she recently got sick and gained a few pounds. Based on some older photos she sent, I decided that a few pounds didn't matter and set up the meeting anyway.
Well, when I got there, 'a few pounds' was really 60 and I was starting to doubt that this was recent as it's nearly impossible to gain weight that quickly, but I tried moving past it since we have such a great connection. A few hours passed and I kept thinking back to it and I just couldn't let it go. I tried making an excuse so I could go home and think things over but she kept asking what was wrong. I decided to be upfront with her and she started crying. I care for her so I spent the next two hours holding her and saying things will be ok, but I'm not sure they will be."
What's with all the talk?
"Dude what happened with that yoga instructor you were talking to?"
"Catfish'd."
*resume playing X-box*
Tl;dr version :laugh:
lmfao!!!0 -
The OP said......."Yes in my follow up posts I mention that I was probably delusional and not coming to terms about how I looked so I weaved a fantasy. "
ValGogo is saying...."Girlfriend, it's not your looks!!! Start to understand that now, NOW that you are only 27."
I spent so many years telling myself that and now, at 46, I know I am flipping REALLY nice looking, but now I'm a little older with more laugh lines but more wisdom too. SO, I have to deal with that and just keeep working out with what I have and be the best person I can be NOW.0 -
The OP said......."Yes in my follow up posts I mention that I was probably delusional and not coming to terms about how I looked so I weaved a fantasy. "
ValGogo is saying...."Girlfriend, it's not your looks!!! Start to understand that now, NOW that you are only 27."
I spent so many years telling myself that and now, at 46, I know I am flipping REALLY nice looking, but now I'm a little older with more laugh lines but more wisdom too. SO, I have to deal with that and just keeep working out with what I have and be the best person I can be NOW.
So, age can ALWAYS be pushed back by the gravity of a bike at full throttle ;P0 -
There is an application and hazing.
the little one or the big one?
and humble.
devastating, no?
lol what the hell?respectfully this is such a stereotypical take it cracks me up. no no no no no... I had an ex that would mindtease me for two months after a 4year thing, and guess what... it was MY FAULT for even answering back... forget that, she should not be in any contact at all because I have been were the guy has been.. had this freak of nature with rotting teeth on a date and of course all her pics were ubber hot, and then this thing smiles and I wanted to bolt.. instead I told her respectfully I needed to leave... (a guy has to keep his lunch down) and she started to cry and sob... next thing you know this chick is blowing up my phone like a nut and saying she was going to off herself... so I kept talking just like this guy being nice and considerate...
no its the chicks responsibility if he declined her to quit talking, and if the dude is prompting the convo then he really is a scum bag and should certainly be ignored..
and as I said... ummm with tinder you can date anyone you want in any city you want whenever you want... its easy, its timely, its fast, its fun, its witty.. use the app and get happy and get dating!
and last bit of advice.. the only time ever feel hesitant about making the decision to move on with a chick is on the random chance encounter after I ignore her for a few days I notice the girl is ignoring me as well - it is only and only then that you would have a chance at getting him to come back.. but even then I'd say in this case its over over over so run run run away.
I mean, with a nice guy like you out there, who wouldn't want to get on the Tinder saddle?
when i'm the saddle... lots of ladies here would babe.
lmao, your the exact example of a chick over Tinder that I would have absolutely zero ulterior motives with, but manage to be witty enough for me to be friends with... its just a different type of entertainment factor.
thanks for the example!!
I'm pretty sure I just got friend-zoned.
It's just....I thought it was meant to be. He's so charming.
Please... this is going to start going straight to my head..
Will you be my friend?0 -
"Hi, I have been talking to this girl for several months and we were really falling for her. She was funny, engaging, and lead an active lifestyle. She recently moved and I started pressing to meet in person. She was really hesitant and told me she didn't want to because she recently got sick and gained a few pounds. Based on some older photos she sent, I decided that a few pounds didn't matter and set up the meeting anyway.
Well, when I got there, 'a few pounds' was really 60 and I was starting to doubt that this was recent as it's nearly impossible to gain weight that quickly, but I tried moving past it since we have such a great connection. A few hours passed and I kept thinking back to it and I just couldn't let it go. I tried making an excuse so I could go home and think things over but she kept asking what was wrong. I decided to be upfront with her and she started crying. I care for her so I spent the next two hours holding her and saying things will be ok, but I'm not sure they will be."
Yeah, I'm thinking this is pretty much spot on.
OP said in the beginning she was fit, confident, etc. Then she moved. Then she got sick and gained weight. She also said that she shared a lot of deep personal stuff w/ this guy. All of these things, IMO, came too early in the process of them getting to know one another. You're not going to pique or keep a guy's interest in the beginning with heavy stuff like that. Then she started questioning him when she sensed something was off, asking if it was her weight. Then...2 hours of crying - that alone would scare anyone off, I would think. I understand she was upset and confused but as another poster said, sometimes we women use that to try to manipulate a situation.
What I still can't figure out is why he said he loved her when they first got together, then later said "I think I can love you".
My working theory is she surprised him with an "I LOVE YOU!" and he knee-jerk responded in kind.
Just a theory though.
yeah I seriously don't think chicks think clearly about dropping those love bombs... it reminds me of a few weeks ago.. I was super funny and witty on tinder with a chick, got her number, call her and am being mr. glib.. and she says "I love you" ... so a date I was excited and looking forward to suddenly didn't happen and I promptly hung up and muted her over fb and ignored the desperate txt.. Girls should have a dumb rule that they never are allowed to say "I love you" first, just like us guys always uphold the dumb rule of never calling within three days of getting out of our comfort zone to ask for the digits.0 -
"Hi, I have been talking to this girl for several months and we were really falling for her. She was funny, engaging, and lead an active lifestyle. She recently moved and I started pressing to meet in person. She was really hesitant and told me she didn't want to because she recently got sick and gained a few pounds. Based on some older photos she sent, I decided that a few pounds didn't matter and set up the meeting anyway.
Well, when I got there, 'a few pounds' was really 60 and I was starting to doubt that this was recent as it's nearly impossible to gain weight that quickly, but I tried moving past it since we have such a great connection. A few hours passed and I kept thinking back to it and I just couldn't let it go. I tried making an excuse so I could go home and think things over but she kept asking what was wrong. I decided to be upfront with her and she started crying. I care for her so I spent the next two hours holding her and saying things will be ok, but I'm not sure they will be."
Yeah, I'm thinking this is pretty much spot on.
OP said in the beginning she was fit, confident, etc. Then she moved. Then she got sick and gained weight. She also said that she shared a lot of deep personal stuff w/ this guy. All of these things, IMO, came too early in the process of them getting to know one another. You're not going to pique or keep a guy's interest in the beginning with heavy stuff like that. Then she started questioning him when she sensed something was off, asking if it was her weight. Then...2 hours of crying - that alone would scare anyone off, I would think. I understand she was upset and confused but as another poster said, sometimes we women use that to try to manipulate a situation.
What I still can't figure out is why he said he loved her when they first got together, then later said "I think I can love you".
I think the OP was putting on a major front about who she is and how she looked. You do not go from being "fit and confident" to "overweight and unstable" within two to three months.0 -
There is an application and hazing.
the little one or the big one?
and humble.
devastating, no?
lol what the hell?respectfully this is such a stereotypical take it cracks me up. no no no no no... I had an ex that would mindtease me for two months after a 4year thing, and guess what... it was MY FAULT for even answering back... forget that, she should not be in any contact at all because I have been were the guy has been.. had this freak of nature with rotting teeth on a date and of course all her pics were ubber hot, and then this thing smiles and I wanted to bolt.. instead I told her respectfully I needed to leave... (a guy has to keep his lunch down) and she started to cry and sob... next thing you know this chick is blowing up my phone like a nut and saying she was going to off herself... so I kept talking just like this guy being nice and considerate...
no its the chicks responsibility if he declined her to quit talking, and if the dude is prompting the convo then he really is a scum bag and should certainly be ignored..
and as I said... ummm with tinder you can date anyone you want in any city you want whenever you want... its easy, its timely, its fast, its fun, its witty.. use the app and get happy and get dating!
and last bit of advice.. the only time ever feel hesitant about making the decision to move on with a chick is on the random chance encounter after I ignore her for a few days I notice the girl is ignoring me as well - it is only and only then that you would have a chance at getting him to come back.. but even then I'd say in this case its over over over so run run run away.
I mean, with a nice guy like you out there, who wouldn't want to get on the Tinder saddle?
when i'm the saddle... lots of ladies here would babe.
lmao, your the exact example of a chick over Tinder that I would have absolutely zero ulterior motives with, but manage to be witty enough for me to be friends with... its just a different type of entertainment factor.
thanks for the example!!
I'm pretty sure I just got friend-zoned.
It's just....I thought it was meant to be. He's so charming.
Please... this is going to start going straight to my head..
Will you be my friend?
Will the hazing involve me or you being in the nude?
(fingers crossed)0 -
The OP said......."Yes in my follow up posts I mention that I was probably delusional and not coming to terms about how I looked so I weaved a fantasy. "
ValGogo is saying...."Girlfriend, it's not your looks!!! Start to understand that now, NOW that you are only 27."
I spent so many years telling myself that and now, at 46, I know I am flipping REALLY nice looking, but now I'm a little older with more laugh lines but more wisdom too. SO, I have to deal with that and just keeep working out with what I have and be the best person I can be NOW.
So, age can ALWAYS be pushed back by the gravity of a bike at full throttle ;P
WORD!!!!0 -
I spent so many years telling myself that and now, at 46, I know I am flipping REALLY nice looking, but now I'm a little older with more laugh lines but more wisdom too. SO, I have to deal with that and just keeep working out with what I have and be the best person I can be NOW.
I'm a year older than you and I spent a LOT of years going about dating wrong, being insecure, and thinking I needed a guy to be happy before I finally "got it". It's amazing what time and wisdom will do for ya!0 -
I spent so many years telling myself that and now, at 46, I know I am flipping REALLY nice looking, but now I'm a little older with more laugh lines but more wisdom too. SO, I have to deal with that and just keeep working out with what I have and be the best person I can be NOW.
I'm a year older than you and I spent a LOT of years going about dating wrong, being insecure, and thinking I needed a guy to be happy before I finally "got it". It's amazing what time and wisdom will do for ya!
Testify Sistah! (raises hands and praises Jeebus)0 -
I spent so many years telling myself that and now, at 46, I know I am flipping REALLY nice looking, but now I'm a little older with more laugh lines but more wisdom too. SO, I have to deal with that and just keeep working out with what I have and be the best person I can be NOW.
I'm a year older than you and I spent a LOT of years going about dating wrong, being insecure, and thinking I needed a guy to be happy before I finally "got it". It's amazing what time and wisdom will do for ya!
Testify Sistah! (raises hands and praises Jeebus)0 -
Stop projecting your insecurities and disorders onto other people.0
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i really am old. I don't understand half of what you write.
lmao.. I'm sure.. but for the pleasure I've graced some women with Tinder should be throwing some money at me for pimping me out.
I hate to burst your bubble, but it is YOU who are pimping yourself out. Also, it seems a bit conceited of you to think you are "God's gift to women" (reading between the lines of your posts). You may have wined and dined and bedded many women but that is not what a real relationship is made of. It takes a very shallow and possibly fake person who has an over-inflated view of himself (or no real self-esteem that he is trying to cover up) to use women that way for your own satisfaction. Just sayin'
I'd say all of your observations are correct! bedded many women though?. .. nha I only let girlfriends get the d.. the other girls only get to give me dome. ;bbbbbbb
lmao.. In all honestly real relationships are awesome! And the day I sit across the table on a first date with the women who finally has the wow factor, then I'd totally embrace that.. till then I got to play the game.
..tonight its a little cutie from Brazil thats only been in the states 2 months, so cross your fingers for me cause mine will all be straight ;PPPPPPPP
dome = head
wow factor = not having to be coaxed into anal or bondage
cutie from Brazil = a girl I am going to date tonight that recently got here from america and is hotness personified - at least in the pics ;PP
fingers straight= lets deduce why would my fingers need to be straight?
-lol jk on the wow factor0 -
just like us guys always uphold the dumb rule of never calling within three days of getting out of our comfort zone to ask for the digits.
If a guy took three days to contact me after I gave him my number, I was assume he's a big pu$$y and that would be the end of that.0 -
There is an application and hazing.
Will you be my friend?
Will the hazing involve me or you being in the nude?
(fingers crossed)
IN for this fun... hehe...0 -
i really am old. I don't understand half of what you write.
lmao.. I'm sure.. but for the pleasure I've graced some women with Tinder should be throwing some money at me for pimping me out.
I hate to burst your bubble, but it is YOU who are pimping yourself out. Also, it seems a bit conceited of you to think you are "God's gift to women" (reading between the lines of your posts). You may have wined and dined and bedded many women but that is not what a real relationship is made of. It takes a very shallow and possibly fake person who has an over-inflated view of himself (or no real self-esteem that he is trying to cover up) to use women that way for your own satisfaction. Just sayin'
I'd say all of your observations are correct! bedded many women though?. .. nha I only let girlfriends get the d.. the other girls only get to give me dome. ;bbbbbbb
lmao.. In all honestly real relationships are awesome! And the day I sit across the table on a first date with the women who finally has the wow factor, then I'd totally embrace that.. till then I got to play the game.
..tonight its a little cutie from Brazil thats only been in the states 2 months, so cross your fingers for me cause mine will all be straight ;PPPPPPPP
dome = head
wow factor = not having to be coaxed into anal or bondage
cutie from Brazil = a girl I am going to date tonight that recently got here from america and is hotness personified - at least in the pics ;PP
fingers straight= lets deduce why would my fingers need to be straight?
-lol jk on the wow factor
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i really am old. I don't understand half of what you write.
lmao.. I'm sure.. but for the pleasure I've graced some women with Tinder should be throwing some money at me for pimping me out.
I hate to burst your bubble, but it is YOU who are pimping yourself out. Also, it seems a bit conceited of you to think you are "God's gift to women" (reading between the lines of your posts). You may have wined and dined and bedded many women but that is not what a real relationship is made of. It takes a very shallow and possibly fake person who has an over-inflated view of himself (or no real self-esteem that he is trying to cover up) to use women that way for your own satisfaction. Just sayin'
I'd say all of your observations are correct! bedded many women though?. .. nha I only let girlfriends get the d.. the other girls only get to give me dome. ;bbbbbbb
lmao.. In all honestly real relationships are awesome! And the day I sit across the table on a first date with the women who finally has the wow factor, then I'd totally embrace that.. till then I got to play the game.
..tonight its a little cutie from Brazil thats only been in the states 2 months, so cross your fingers for me cause mine will all be straight ;PPPPPPPP
dome = head
wow factor = not having to be coaxed into anal or bondage
cutie from Brazil = a girl I am going to date tonight that recently got here from america and is hotness personified - at least in the pics ;PP
fingers straight= lets deduce why would my fingers need to be straight?
-lol jk on the wow factor
Please do us all a favor and stop talking.0 -
just like us guys always uphold the dumb rule of never calling within three days of getting out of our comfort zone to ask for the digits.
If a guy took three days to contact me after I gave him my number, I was assume he's a big pu$$y and that would be the end of that.
Agreed. I would text near immediately.0 -
just like us guys always uphold the dumb rule of never calling within three days of getting out of our comfort zone to ask for the digits.
If a guy took three days to contact me after I gave him my number, I was assume he's a big pu$$y and that would be the end of that.
lmfao, your dating a ton of desperate men, or they are ALL coming from tinder. the rule of three is a sacred cree to seperate the alpha's from the shemen. Its a sign that we truly are hardly invested, and def not desperate.
Plus, you'd be impressed I call period.. so many chicks compliment me on calling after I get their number... all my male friends txt first... the bottom feeders your dealing with.. now that is being a big kitty kat.0 -
I haven't read all 15 pages, so pardon me if this have been covered ... but is it possible the OP and the OS (Online Soulmate) just didn't jive in person? It's very easy to put on your best face and personality online and over the phone, but keeping up that perfect persona in person is much more difficult..... I mean, I would probably be a little put off by a person being a lot heavier than I expected when we met, and I'd probably want to bail and think things over too - not because I'm shallow, but because it's a huge reality check to meet someone in person that isn't the same person you envisioned in your mind in the months prior.
Lastly, I'm going to say one thing that IS kind of shallow ..... I mean seriously, two words: Online. Soulmate.0 -
lmfao, your dating a ton of desperate men, or they are ALL coming from tinder. the rule of three is a sacred cree to seperate the alpha's from the shemen. Its a sign that we truly are hardly invested, and def not desperate.
Wrong. It's a sign of being a real man who knows what he wants and goes after it, stupid games be damned.Plus, you'd be impressed I call period.. so many chicks compliment me on calling after I get their number... all my male friends txt first... the bottom feeders your dealing with.. now that is being a big kitty kat.
If you're dating girls that are simply impressed by your ability to pick up a telephone and dial a number, then they are sorely lacking experience with a real gentleman.0
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