Being hit on/flirted with?

iPlatano

Love it as long as its not too dirty!

JazmineYoli

I've thought of myself as overweight and unattractive for so long, I find it unbelievable that I get checked out or flirted with. Especially with my marriage coming to an end and a husband that hardly ever made me feel beautiful or sexy.

Your husband must be blind if he doesn't see what I see

kershaann

I actually enjoy it. Helps boost my ego a bit. Plus when you are a mom it is nice to know you still got it!

ash190489

I don't mind it! Depends if it's with someone I have been giving a little look at myself or if it's some drunk weirdo that does it untastefully.

jennpaulson

It very rarely happens and when it does it never fails that it's some guy who is as old or older than my dad. Which is weird because people never believe I'm as old as I am so why do I attract the old creepy guys?

MyChocolateDiet

If you hate it the solution is easy. Take down your pic.

I have lots of posts and lots of FL friends and I dont' get flirted with hardly.

It's not really a problem for me b/c I change avatars enough people know none of them are me.

IRL I dont get flirted with that much anymore b/c all the places I frequent are flirt free zones. On the off chance I go pick up take out or something sometimes a man will flirt but I don't feel bad about it, it's short lived and they have no way of knowing right away that I'm not available so it's not like they are being a jerk about it. It's still always flattering b/c nobody does it in a harsh way just friendly obvious checking out and chit chat so no worries. It's not like they are expecting to throw down in the Coldstone parking lot just b/c we both happen to be there.

But, yeah if you "hate it" my advice is take down your pic and put whatever motivates you or makes YOU feel happy when you see it.

dazkeirle

Difficult on here as any conversation between sexes can be interpreted as flirting.

I'm less likely to congratulate a guy on a workout or be kind about a days diet to a guy as it seems kind of gay, and that's kind of the point of the statuses here so that's what guys do to girls I suppose.

Realistically the girls tend to put up such obscure MySpace angle pics showing them in their absolute best that chances are in real life most guys wouldn't even consider flirting, and so I'd take it as a compliment and a bit of role play if they do, chances are in real life the story would be different.

There are a number of people I've seen clearly bating for creeping and then moaning about it. Assume it's a confidence thing.

I obviously don't get hit on so it's no issue for me, and I don't hit on girls as I have a life, a wife, and this is the Internet where you assume nothing is as it seems.

Hardnfast

I admit I've flirted on here and been flirted back, married and single. All in good fun, teasing, joking, stoking each others fire and everybody feels good. Ive never offended or been offended, respect has always been shown both ways.
In reality the chance of ever meeting that person are ziltch so enjoy the banter.

Agree that nobody especially the ladies need to put up with creepy, rude messages and no means no. Block is your friend.

Just respect the other person and have fun.

Now where is my flirt ladies :flowerforyou:

arainiday1

I admit I've flirted on here and been flirted back, married and single. All in good fun, teasing, joking, stoking each others fire and everybody feels good. Ive never offended or been offended, respect has always been shown both ways.
In reality the chance of ever meeting that person are ziltch so enjoy the banter.

Agree that nobody especially the ladies need to put up with creepy, rude messages and no means no. Block is your friend.

Just respect the other person and have fun.

Now where is my flirt ladies :flowerforyou:

nicely said! :drinker:

Chieflrg

IRL I'm usually okay with it unless the lady thinks groping=flirting or she has a stalker' vibe.

siport

its always nice to get hit on or flirted with, its a compliment and make you feel wanted.

Myfitfutureself

Who the hell is flirt and how many of them are there?

MuscleHeadNerd74

personally I like it at 40 makes me feeel good especially younger woman hitting on me, it makes me feel good and everybody likes to feel good and wanted

_Lovely77_

IRL I'm usually okay with it unless the lady thinks groping=flirting or she has a stalker' vibe.

We agreed that as long as I got therapy you wouldn't bring this up again :grumble:

_Lovely77_

I personally enjoy it. However, I am married and freely state so on here, plus my husband is also actively involved on mfp so nothing is hidden from him and vise versa, so some flirting, most is fine but I can't stand it when someone clearly crosses that line knowing I am married and my husband can see these comments. And the average flirting isn't an issue, I know he gets flirted with and he knows that I do too... we realize that being attracted to other people and being attractive to others is inevitable. We definitely greet this with open arms, plus it's a good reminder that even though you're happily married you still got it. You don't lose your identity as just a wife/husband mother/father. You're still an individual and a damn sexy one at that.

MyRummyHens

I can't post photos of myself thanks to a stalking ex, so I've never been on the receiving end of online flirting with a stranger. Funnily enough no one wants to flirt with my dog so I've had no messages telling me what lovely ears, or what a big wet nose I have!

In real life, I adore men checking me out, it makes me feel good. I rarely got approached before I was married as people called me an ice queen. In reality I've always been introverted and shy, not cold at all, it just takes me time to get to know people. The second the wedding ring hit my finger I got flirted with much more, it would seem that being married I am considered less likely to create a storm in a tea cup over a bit of harmless banter, especially by other married people. I actually enjoy a bit of silly flirting now and again, brightens up a dull day.

I find it really sad that there are men out there who don't feel comfortable or confident approaching women, regardless of whether the intention is romantic or not, for fear of unjustly being called a creep. Just as I feel really sad that there are people out there who won't back off when asked, nothing is more disrespectful than continuing to make someone feel bad when they have told you it does and asked you to stop.

MuscleHeadNerd74

well put lovely77

Tiki1978

I love the confidence boost. It's usually truckers and sweaty landscaping guys tho.

mrfreestyle

I personally enjoy it. However, I am married and freely state so on here, plus my husband is also actively involved on mfp so nothing is hidden from him and vise versa, so some flirting, most is fine but I can't stand it when someone clearly crosses that line knowing I am married and my husband can see these comments. And the average flirting isn't an issue, I know he gets flirted with and he knows that I do too... we realize that being attracted to other people and being attractive to others is inevitable. We definitely greet this with open arms, plus it's a good reminder that even though you're happily married you still got it. You don't lose your identity as just a wife/husband mother/father. You're still an individual and a damn sexy one at that.

WOW!! Love this!

mrfreestyle

I honestly can never tell whether a woman is flirting with me or not. But yeah, I'd feel pretty good if a woman flirted with me, and yes, I can unashamedly admit that the hotter she is, the bigger the feel good factor.

Myhaloslipped

I never flirted or hit on a women in my life and I just turned 33 last Friday.I just figure since I am fat and in my mind ugly that they would think it would be weird or creepy but I am also really shy as well so I live in my head and talk myself out of it.It takes courage to go up to a women.Women for some reason don't do it but they have the pick of the litter as we men just wait in line.

Trust me, looks have nothing to do with it. There are a number of gorgeous men who can just be creepy as hell in the way that they approach women.

Myhaloslipped

I personally enjoy it. However, I am married and freely state so on here, plus my husband is also actively involved on mfp so nothing is hidden from him and vise versa, so some flirting, most is fine but I can't stand it when someone clearly crosses that line knowing I am married and my husband can see these comments. And the average flirting isn't an issue, I know he gets flirted with and he knows that I do too... we realize that being attracted to other people and being attractive to others is inevitable. We definitely greet this with open arms, plus it's a good reminder that even though you're happily married you still got it. You don't lose your identity as just a wife/husband mother/father. You're still an individual and a damn sexy one at that.

I flirt with both of you often! :bigsmile:

_Lovely77_

I never flirted or hit on a women in my life and I just turned 33 last Friday.I just figure since I am fat and in my mind ugly that they would think it would be weird or creepy but I am also really shy as well so I live in my head and talk myself out of it.It takes courage to go up to a women.Women for some reason don't do it but they have the pick of the litter as we men just wait in line.

Trust me, looks have nothing to do with it. There are a number of gorgeous men who can just be creepy as hell in the way that they approach women.

Yup. Plus some gorgeous men know they are gorgeous and come off cocky. Confidence is hot, cockiness not so much. Don't come up to me and act like I'm a done deal. When I was single if that happened I would ensure I was definitely off limits to them. Some shyness is actually a turn on for me. My husband was shy, I was the one who asked him for his number, he could barely look at me lol. It showed me that he didn't think he was God's gift to women and that he was aware that maybe he wasn't my type. Guys who think they are everyone's type are just gross. And there are plenty of women out there like this too. It's not just men who have these *kitten* walking around. Lol

mrfreestyle

I never flirted or hit on a women in my life and I just turned 33 last Friday.I just figure since I am fat and in my mind ugly that they would think it would be weird or creepy but I am also really shy as well so I live in my head and talk myself out of it.It takes courage to go up to a women.Women for some reason don't do it but they have the pick of the litter as we men just wait in line.

Trust me, looks have nothing to do with it. There are a number of gorgeous men who can just be creepy as hell in the way that they approach women.

I do agree with your second point that good looking men can be just as creepy, but not with your first point though. Looks do play a huge role in how women, and men admittedly respond to flirting.

_Lovely77_

I personally enjoy it. However, I am married and freely state so on here, plus my husband is also actively involved on mfp so nothing is hidden from him and vise versa, so some flirting, most is fine but I can't stand it when someone clearly crosses that line knowing I am married and my husband can see these comments. And the average flirting isn't an issue, I know he gets flirted with and he knows that I do too... we realize that being attracted to other people and being attractive to others is inevitable. We definitely greet this with open arms, plus it's a good reminder that even though you're happily married you still got it. You don't lose your identity as just a wife/husband mother/father. You're still an individual and a damn sexy one at that.

I flirt with both of you often! :bigsmile:

Yes you do and we love ya for it :blushing:

Silentfool

Innocent flirting and being hit on is certainly fun and flattering. There is a fine line though between flirty and creepy though.

I think some people just tend to be flirty in their interactions in general.

It makes me smile and feel special

:happy:

mrfreestyle

I never flirted or hit on a women in my life and I just turned 33 last Friday.I just figure since I am fat and in my mind ugly that they would think it would be weird or creepy but I am also really shy as well so I live in my head and talk myself out of it.It takes courage to go up to a women.Women for some reason don't do it but they have the pick of the litter as we men just wait in line.

Trust me, looks have nothing to do with it. There are a number of gorgeous men who can just be creepy as hell in the way that they approach women.

I do agree with your second point that good looking men can be just as creepy, but not with your first point though. Let's not kid ourselves, looks do play a huge role in how women, and men admittedly respond to flirting.

brianmccon

My wife had a lot of people on here hitting on her then asking her to kik with them where they would ask for nude photos. Watch out for these trolls.

_Lovely77_

My wife had a lot of people on here hitting on her then asking her to kik with them where they would ask for nude photos. Watch out for these trolls.

This does happen but not in abundance like you're making it out to be. Not trying to make things worst for you but honestly, I found that most of that type of flirting is cause and effect on here. People rarely come out of nowhere asking for this. Usually it's because they were led to believe that was not on their "off limit" list. I mean don't get me wrong, there are definitely a few here and there that ask and they were never given the impression that it was ok. But, it's not common everyday thing to go from stranger to asking for nudes right off the bat. Usually some heavy flirting and lack of boundaries occurs prior to that. I'm married and I make that obvious to everyone, it's on my "about me" section and I don't pm hardly at all, and I've had only the occasional creeps very rare. In fact, I don't even think I've ever been asked to kik and/or send nudes. Idk maybe all that means is I'm a troll and no one would want to see all that anyways.

TheRoadDog

I get flirted with, but rarely. I never get hit on.

I flirt, innocently, and usually in a humorous way, but I never hit on anyone.