Being hit on/flirted with?

msbunnie68

I flirt within reason. I state my line in the sand very clearly. I have my husband's full knowledge and his blessing.

He likes me spicy. It's all a little confidence building fun.

Flirty =/= pornographic.

LC458

I always assume people who hit on me are trying to sell me something, trying to rob me, or wants me to join their cult.

Lmao^^^^ totally!!!

In all seriousness there are appropriate ways and then there are just major pervs. :noway:

msbunnie68

I admit I've flirted on here and been flirted back, married and single. All in good fun, teasing, joking, stoking each others fire and everybody feels good. Ive never offended or been offended, respect has always been shown both ways.
In reality the chance of ever meeting that person are ziltch so enjoy the banter.

Agree that nobody especially the ladies need to put up with creepy, rude messages and no means no. Block is your friend.

Just respect the other person and have fun.

Now where is my flirt ladies :flowerforyou:

present.

but wait...I thought we had a date in real life??? You mean...you don't want me :sad:

runnergirl0721

In truth, I never actually believe people hit on me in real life. I'm not that girl who thinks that every guy who talks to me thinks I'm hot. Flirting is fun, but I will say that it can be taken to an extreme on MFP. Whether you love it or hate it, you never know who is going to find what you say offensive or if someone will think it's an opening for them to do something in return. My rule for myself is that if i wouldn't do it in real life, I shouldn't do it on the internet.

I think as long as you're respectful and mindful of the other person or people, a little harmless flirting is ok. It does make people feel good about themselves and will make them smile

MrTolerable

It is a major ego booster when they come to me, sometimes back when I was in the bar scene it would be a little weird though having ladies in their 30's and up though offering to buy me a drink... however one can get desensitized to this.

- its neat as well because it gets most people out of their comfort zone so they are mentally more sharp and alert - aka the jokes are much more witty than usual and the sexual tension can get a lil thick.

miss_jessiejane

I usually assume people are just being nice and not flirting. The last guy that hit on me had to flat out tell me he was asking me out. I just thought he wanted advice on restaurants.

MuscleHeadNerd74

You love nerds? lol I have actually been called a musclehead nerd lol by my friend at work

scarrletti_girl

oh the get in your pants kind??? umm yeah that is extremely annoying and inappropriate. but the harmless flirtation i don't mind. lol but yeah just depends on the person i suppose.

jaxass

That makes two of us, Tanned.:ohwell:

AglaeaC

I never flirted or hit on a women in my life and I just turned 33 last Friday.I just figure since I am fat and in my mind ugly that they would think it would be weird or creepy but I am also really shy as well so I live in my head and talk myself out of it.It takes courage to go up to a women.Women for some reason don't do it but they have the pick of the litter as we men just wait in line.

You know, I have no idea where you got that idea from. The same way as there are men with low self-esteem, there are plenty of women who think like that, too. I was always the tall or the ugly or the less petite or less outgoing/bubbly type next to my friends. Plus I am blessed with a so-called resting b1tchface; people sometimes ask me why I'm mad and then I was simply pondering something in peace and quiet. That in combination with my extremely guarded, sensitive and serious personality doesn't lend itself well to being hit on in bars.

My male friends have had a good time with me on the dance floor, but very few guys have ever tried to "pick me up"; I can count them on one hand. There's a messed up marriage and a string of awkward dating in my past, but the whole theory on having men waiting in line is someone else's life, not mine. In fact, an old classmate said a few weeks ago that he finally saw a new, more open side to me, because when we grew up I was always so guarded. All of a sudden I saw my whole childhood and youth in a whole new perspective and while I had had some of those thought already beforehand, now I'm certain most of my social difficulties regarding the opposite sex simply stem from my own insecurities and distorted self-image. I've done a lot of work to become more secure and these days I view myself as someone, who has something to offer to someone special, but it's been a long road with quite a few tears.

Maybe you shouldn't overthink the "talking to women" part, but simply do what you love to do and meet people, be they women or men, through a common interest and take it from there. Everyone who is passionate about something can talk for hours on end about that topic and you just have to find someone who gets you. The eyes are the window to one's soul? Passionate people are beautiful and attractive to others, no matter what they talk about.

ETA
Re "the ulgy", that was up in my head. With my excess fat gone and a healthy, strong body created, I could go for a model in some fitness magazine. I just thought I was really ugly when I grew up. How sad is that. When I look in the mirror these days I still see "her" and I don't think much of myself, but when I force myself to be objective, the truth doesn't match at all my inner image of myself.

Tiki1978

Flirting is fun and makes things interesting, but if you come off extremely sexual right off the bat or oh I don't know,bagger me to be your submissive thing, forget it

ew_david

Never happens to me :sad:

There's a reason for that

Primal_Warrior_

Flirting is fun and makes things interesting, but if you come off extremely sexual right off the bat or oh I don't know,bagger me to be your submissive thing, forget it

Damn, guess I'll have to think of something else to say.... lol

Primal_Warrior_

I have No issue with flirting, it's healthy and natural. It's an ego boost without going too far. I usually don't pick up on it when a woman is flirting with me, not till way after lol

Tiki1978

Flirting is fun and makes things interesting, but if you come off extremely sexual right off the bat or oh I don't know,bagger me to be your submissive thing, forget it

Damn, guess I'll have to think of something else to say.... lol

hahahaha!

wolfsbayne

I really don't pay that much attention to it. I don't flirt back, though I'm polite.

funforsports

I got hit on once and it was awesome.

Guns_N_Buns

I got hit on once and it was awesome.

Lies. I doubt it was just once.

skippygirlsmom

I mean more the obvious like " I want in your pants" flirting...

that's not flirting - that being a jerk

Me2FitMe

I don't have to worry about that...

Erin_goBrahScience

never

ken_m

How does anyone else feel about it?
I personally hate it.

if your eating below your maintenance caleries will you still poop because your body is using all of your food to make energy?

Alehmer

I'm pretty oblivious to it if it's happening. I just assume folk are being friendly.

This. Other people have to tell me that I've been hit on.

moya_rargh

I'm 40 years old and the only time I've ever been hit on is in the boxing ring.

Being ugly. Yay!*

*Not yay

jaenders06

I'm pretty oblivious to it if it's happening. I just assume folk are being friendly.

Me too! My husband hates it and makes it a point to point out of time it happens that he sees it. I never really seem to get it unless someone flat out tells me.

Jacwhite22

If I had boobs more people would flirt with me.

jaenders06

The creepy vulgar guys with offensive remarks bother me. Also the really aggressive types. Some guy followed me off of the freeway to a gas station recently. That was scary. He asked if I had a boyfriend and some other stuff. Compliments are nice from some but it's really hard to separate the creeps from the nice guys sometimes.

I guess I'm in the not liking it crowd.

Something similar happened to my coworker. She was at a red light and the guy next to her motioned to put her window down. She figured something was wrong with the car or he needed directions. Here he tells her that he noticed she didn't have a wedding ring and asked her out to dinner! That would creep me out!

sw33tp3a11

I hate it when I'm with my children and I get hit on. It's the only time I don't welcome it. I probably shouldn't welcome it at all since I'm married lol

Big_GBake

I don't mind at all. My weight has made me feel invisible, so if someone notices me and wants to let me know... I'm good with it.

MissAnjy

I've never noticed it before so I have always just assumed it never happens. Haha.

I don't notice it either, so I assume it doesn't happen for me lol