Fit For Future Families - November

heathercrist1

AnneElise my prayers go out to you for a happy, healthy, term pregnancy/baby!

Ron, anything worth having is usually worthy of being terrified over getting! lol!

Amanda, awesome CL find! One of my best friend finds the most awesome deals. I really think it has a lot to do with the area you are in. In podunk town MO I rarely find anything worthy of a "good deal". But then again it might be me. She can walk into Goodwill and find the cutest outfit for under $10 while I can't find anything...Sometimes I think bargain shopping is a gift that I just wasn't blessed with!

So...I know this couple (she is my massage therapist and I knew her husband before they married as a mutual friend) who reminds me of Ronnie and Sammy on Jersey Shore (my secret is out...I watch crappy tv! lol!). They are a mess and yet decided to give it a whirl and try and have a baby. She of course gets pregnant on the first shot (no pun intended). She finds out she is pregnant the same week I have my miscarriage. She posts ridiculous things like "I wanted a baby and God always gives me what I want" on Facebook. Anyways, last night I was on FB and IM'ed her to ask her if she had heard the heartbeat at her appt she had told me about at my last massage (which btw she is the BEST massage I've EVER had). She told me that the appt was on Thurs. I said "how exciting" she then proceeded to tell me that she really isn't excited about being pregnant and after watching the Victoria Secret fashion show is actually upset that her body will be "ruined" now.....Now I am PMS'ing and I get that, but I instantly wanted to start crying. All together I've been TTC (first husband included) for 7 years of my life! 7 years! My first husband I know is a blessing it didn't happen, but my husband now is the most amazing person on the earth and is simply perfect (for me of course). We are educated, have stable income, a savings acct, a beautiful home, an extended family around us to help, an amazing marriage full of compromises, compassion, passion, and unconditional love, yet we struggle to have a family. Doesn't seem fair...

I know I am no more deserving of a baby than anyone else. But sometimes you just have to wonder why...

(Sorry for my early morning rant ladies. I'm sure you some of you who have been ttc for a long time understand this.)

Hope everyone has a productive, goal reaching day!

jalara

Hey all - December is up!
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/138399-fit-for-future-families-december-2010

AmandaJ

AnneElise my prayers go out to you for a happy, healthy, term pregnancy/baby!

Ron, anything worth having is usually worthy of being terrified over getting! lol!

Amanda, awesome CL find! One of my best friend finds the most awesome deals. I really think it has a lot to do with the area you are in. In podunk town MO I rarely find anything worthy of a "good deal". But then again it might be me. She can walk into Goodwill and find the cutest outfit for under $10 while I can't find anything...Sometimes I think bargain shopping is a gift that I just wasn't blessed with!

So...I know this couple (she is my massage therapist and I knew her husband before they married as a mutual friend) who reminds me of Ronnie and Sammy on Jersey Shore (my secret is out...I watch crappy tv! lol!). They are a mess and yet decided to give it a whirl and try and have a baby. She of course gets pregnant on the first shot (no pun intended). She finds out she is pregnant the same week I have my miscarriage. She posts ridiculous things like "I wanted a baby and God always gives me what I want" on Facebook. Anyways, last night I was on FB and IM'ed her to ask her if she had heard the heartbeat at her appt she had told me about at my last massage (which btw she is the BEST massage I've EVER had). She told me that the appt was on Thurs. I said "how exciting" she then proceeded to tell me that she really isn't excited about being pregnant and after watching the Victoria Secret fashion show is actually upset that her body will be "ruined" now.....Now I am PMS'ing and I get that, but I instantly wanted to start crying. All together I've been TTC (first husband included) for 7 years of my life! 7 years! My first husband I know is a blessing it didn't happen, but my husband now is the most amazing person on the earth and is simply perfect (for me of course). We are educated, have stable income, a savings acct, a beautiful home, an extended family around us to help, an amazing marriage full of compromises, compassion, passion, and unconditional love, yet we struggle to have a family. Doesn't seem fair...

I know I am no more deserving of a baby than anyone else. But sometimes you just have to wonder why...

(Sorry for my early morning rant ladies. I'm sure you some of you who have been ttc for a long time understand this.)

Hope everyone has a productive, goal reaching day!

I will be honest with you, I got pregnant with my last 3 kids very easily. HOWEVER I have watched my best friend struggle with infertility for years. They did have one son who is now 15 and were trying after him for another. They tried for years before him and actually took a little boy in for somebody through a friend and were going to adopt him and after months and months and almost to the adoption line, the mom changed her mind and they lost him. As crazy as this sounds, I decided that we shouldn't have anymore babies as we have three and having her watch me go through pregnancy is extremely hard on her. However her and her dh divorced last winter and she has been pretty much ignoring me since. So I convinced dh to have our last baby.

I know this all sounds crazy but I wanted to let you know I feel for you, I know how hard this must be on you, and you are in my prayers. HUGS!!!

Editted to add: I do think some people deserve kids more than others. The young mom at the grocery store who was threatening to knock her kid's head off if she didn't crying doesn't deserve kids IMHO!

jalara

Hey all - December is up!
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/138399-fit-for-future-families-december-2010

Sorry - just to clarify for our newest members - this thread is now closed, so we'll see you at the new one (follow the link above)!

All the best!