OK Ladies...Be HONEST!!
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Like I said earlier. The girl in the sports bra and spandex shorts that are basically panties wants more looks than the girl in sweats and tanktop. The girl at the beach in a thong and ultra tiny top wants more attention then the girl in a two piece. I'm not making a value judgement on them for it just pointing out the obvious.
If a tree falls in the forest and no one is around, does it make a sound? If a woman wears less clothing when no one is around, is she still asking for attention?
I never get my own attention at home when I work out at home. Am I doing it wrong?
If around 18% of boys were sexually assaulted, would the parents give pause if the neighbor said, "Do teen guys play football in front of their house because they want me to stare?"0 -
Your not lieing lol i hate hate HATE baggy sweat pants getting in my way im always pulling them up at the thighs.
THANK YOU. I sometimes get a rash if my clothes are too loose. Sweat + rubbing fabric is so gross. Also, another thing - to me having sleeves at all is really gross when I'm sweating a ton. It's like just armpit waterfalls.
Tanktops = avoiding armpit sweat ponds. Tanktops DO NOT mean trying to please men.
The WORST feeling in the world is having sweat run from your armpits down your arm uuuggghhh! -shivers- or having that sweat leak into your sports bra and cause sweat bumps on the lines of the bra and cause chafe
. I prefer a sports bra, a tight tank top, and compression shorts or compression pants 
i cant even do lose fitting yoga pants. 0 -
I have a beautiful pair of 4" Banana Republic sandals that I can't fit into anymore.
I'm not sure what that implies about my consent or lack of it.
That depends. Tell me more about your shorts.0 -
Now, just thinking out loud here, would a woman get upset if someone or all guys just shunned her at the gym? Like actively avoided all looking at her. I wonder if there would be an upset thread about not being looked at? Just a random thought that just came to mind.
Would you get upset if all women banded together and pointedly refused to look at you?
As for just not looking, the only person who notices me in my gym is the (female) trainer who corrects my bad form and would have my business by now if not for being slightly broke. No thoughts given, no threads started. I'm a lot more cognizant of her and where she is than anyone else.0 -
Dear PA,
As long as you're asking, why not ask if size matters?
Signed,
A Concerned Citizen
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i'm really serious about my work out when I'm at the gym so to me it is absolutely annoying. Period. I don't go to the gym to be somebodies eye candy.
I'm going to work out.....I don't go to the gym to stand around and stare at muscular dudes all day either....
taking a quick glance is perfectly fine but when you stare and intentionally try to seek eye contact it gets very annoying. I think men do this more so than women at the gym because men are naturally more visual creatures. this is just my personal opinion and experience but it seems like women look more at other women at the gym then what they look at men. not in a sexual way just the typical " catty woman" way0 -
1) Be sure he's really staring at you. If he's anything like me and doesn't have his glasses or contacts on, he may just have zoned out.
Me, I can't see much more than 10 ft in front of the treadmill.0 -
I don't like it. I'm not there to be checked out. I'm there to work out. Plus, I don't want to worry about someone watching me in some of those positions.0
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If im gross, sweaty and looking like a gumby on the treadmill then no, don't look. If I just finished working out and I feel awesome and accomplished and my face is no longer like beetroot, them maybe yes. but generally, I like to keep to myself like im invisible and hope no one sees me. I personally don't check guys out, even if I was single I wouldn't. I mean I can admire that did an awesome run but I stay away from weights and grunters as much as possible.0
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I don't mind because it boosts my self-esteem. It makes me feel better about myself. But....when a creepy old man is staring, that's just creeepy.0
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I do notice a few beautiful women in the gym. Ha0
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I never get looked at and I'm not complaining. I'm not eye candy.
But then I don't really mix with the riff raff. I either go to a specialist gym where everyone knows each other, or I go to the gym at work. It'd just be inappropriate to check people out in the work gym.0 -
Respect me, I'm not there to be your eye candy. I'm there to get gross & sweaty. Creeper is creepy no matter who you are if it's not obviously welcomed DON'T DO IT!0
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meh- I tend to watch talented/advanced lifters- so I know they watch me too. As long as you aren't making a big production- I don't care- people watching happens- if you have a nice *kitten*- people will DEFINITELY watch- male or female. So meh- just don't make it a thing following/staring- and it's fine.
The guy that came over and stood practically on top of my yesterday while I was doing DB fly's and said "the best part of the gym is walking and seeing you working out"... that was creepy- and rude. I just didn't even look at him- I just grunted and kept going- he's lucky I didn't accidentally knock him in the junk.
I just find it ironic that men don't seem to need skin tight clothes to be "comfortable." Could it be that maybe, just maybe, there's some other reason women's workout clothes are skin tight? And since when do women care about comfort? They prance around in 6 inch heels all day but wearing a pair of semi baggy shorts is uncomfortable? That's just silly.
Ever squat in man leggings bro? Them are comfy.
I find it interesting that women must be the ones to change- why doesn't HE try fitted clothing (not tight) just fitted and see how much more comfortable it is.
Seriously- I wear baggy *kitten* sweats at home- I have no clue how anyone does walking lunges- squats or box jumps in them comfortably- my *kitten* would eat them and or I would trip and or they would just fall off.0 -
If a guy looks I don't mind. However if he stares blatantly or tries to talk to me that's a different story.0
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I like getting looks, even pervy ones
but I'm weird and get flattered like that XD 0 -
Women actually have the right to use public spaces and utilizing those spaces is not an open invitation for leering, catcalls, sexual gestures or noises, touching, or other forms of sexual harassment. Shocking, I know. We are not all trying to become every man's sexual fantasy every time we set foot outside. Unless you are at strip club, don't assume every woman you see wants you to leer at them. What an arrogant thing to think. Curves was created so women could avoid just this pathetically common way of thinking, andthat way of thinking is what needs to change, instead of women's gym usage.
If you really can't handle the idea that your looks are not secretly desired, that's on you. Based on most comments here, I would suggest you be the one to leave the gym and let the women workout in peace. And don't let the door hit ya where the good lord split ya.0 -
meh- I tend to watch talented/advanced lifters- so I know they watch me too. As long as you aren't making a big production- I don't care- people watching happens- if you have a nice *kitten*- people will DEFINITELY watch- male or female. So meh- just don't make it a thing following/staring- and it's fine.
The guy that came over and stood practically on top of my yesterday while I was doing DB fly's and said "the best part of the gym is walking and seeing you working out"... that was creepy- and rude. I just didn't even look at him- I just grunted and kept going- he's lucky I didn't accidentally knock him in the junk.
I just find it ironic that men don't seem to need skin tight clothes to be "comfortable." Could it be that maybe, just maybe, there's some other reason women's workout clothes are skin tight? And since when do women care about comfort? They prance around in 6 inch heels all day but wearing a pair of semi baggy shorts is uncomfortable? That's just silly.
Ever squat in man leggings bro? Them are comfy.
I find it interesting that women must be the ones to change- why doesn't HE try fitted clothing (not tight) just fitted and see how much more comfortable it is.
Seriously- I wear baggy *kitten* sweats at home- I have no clue how anyone does walking lunges- squats or box jumps in them comfortably- my *kitten* would eat them and or I would trip and or they would just fall off.
Check out this thread... seems that some would rather wear fitted clothes, but are too self conscious, feel like they will be judged by men or women, or offend sensibilties...
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1310920-why-don-t-more-men-wear-tight-shorts-to-the-gym0 -
I caught myself staring at some girl last night while I resting between sets. Very nice pooper. But since I wasn't sporting a raging hard on, she didn't really notice.
It was probably more creepy when I was staring at that one guy. But seriously, that dude is jakked, everybody was staring.
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Women are like malfunctioning robots.. they are completely random. They don't like anything, except when they do, and then they are super into it. Except when they're not. Then you can't know, but trust me they do know. They are processing you in their tiny little robot minds, deciding whether to like it or not. Except, again, when they don't want to. Then watch out, cause they made a decision. And you don't know which way things are gonna go, so avert your eyes and back the f*** off, my friend.
But look if she likes it. Trust me on this, women are super creepy this way. Stare like there's no tomorrow... take a snapshot. A mental, sexy, snapshot.
That's my best advice.
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If im gross, sweaty and looking like a gumby on the treadmill then no, don't look. If I just finished working out and I feel awesome and accomplished and my face is no longer like beetroot, them maybe yes. but generally, I like to keep to myself like im invisible and hope no one sees me. I personally don't check guys out, even if I was single I wouldn't. I mean I can admire that did an awesome run but I stay away from weights and grunters as much as possible.
Hold on a second. Did you just say that you stay away from the weights in the gym????
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Getting off fitness gear, why is it women can wear skirts to the office but men can't wear shorts? Is it more professional to see a woman's legs than a man's?
Probably because it used to be required that women wear skirts in most workplaces and it's just one of those commonly accepted things now.
Interesting point you make.
This is kind of what I was driving at before, perhaps poorly. There's a subtle sexualized component to lots of commonly accepted practices. They're so integrated at this point we don't even question them. I'm sure this is true for workout clothes as much as it is office attire.
Radical feminists are the reason women are even allowed to wear pants, have jobs, own property, or get credit.
I also think you are confusing two things:
On one hand, you keep talking about societal gender norms. I would agree with you that these are a problem. Our concepts of "men" and "women" really disadvantage women and men both in a lot of ways.
On the other hand, you insinuate that women who dress a certain way are wanting attention. This is an epic fail on your part.
AND I'm out!
Like I said earlier. The girl in the sports bra and spandex shorts that are basically panties wants more looks than the girl in sweats and tanktop. The girl at the beach in a thong and ultra tiny top wants more attention then the girl in a two piece. I'm not making a value judgement on them for it just pointing out the obvious.
But you are making a value judgement. AND YOU ARE IGNORING THE WORDS OF WOMEN AROUND YOU WHO ARE SAYING THIS IS NOT TRUE.
Plenty of females in here saying that they dress in sports bras and spandex because it is COMFORTABLE and supportive. Not for looks.
ya douchecanoe.0 -
It makes me feel self conscious. I even stay away from the manly side of the gym just in case.0
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It makes me feel self conscious. I even stay away from the manly side of the gym just in case.
I think it's really sad that women avoid the weights because of these types of interactions. And that people in here are still saying "they want it."
This conversation isn't about "men" and "women" it's about basic human decency. It's not that difficult, people.0 -
I think it depends. If it's a cute guy I wouldn't mind a few glances, but even the best looking guy would eventually creep me out if they kept staring at me without trying to start a conversation.
Mostly it's being stared at by people in cars and in the backs of trucks I hate more. Cute or not it's distracting and makes me feel uneasy.
Mostly though, if I come there to work out then I wouldn't really notice. Ear buds in and the world melts away.
eye **** and eye rape are very different things.0 -
I think it depends. If it's a cute guy I wouldn't mind a few glances, but even the best looking guy would eventually creep me out if they kept staring at me without trying to start a conversation.
Okay but here's MY question and I was honestly thinking about this the to other day. Is there ANY scenario where it would be acceptable and invited that a male struck up a conversation with you (or this is for any women here) at the gym with the goal to open up lines of communication for a date?
Because for me, I don't care if I get 3 or 4 smiles from the same girl at the gym while I'm training, I would NEVER try and hit up a chic at the gym. I feel like it's a place of sanctity where we're all there for a purpose, simply use the equipment and don't want to be disturbed. Now anywhere else, I wouldn't hesitate I just don't feel comfortable with trying to "hit on" a chic at the gym under really any scenario unless she opened up the chat first.0 -
Be honest? Maybe this doesn't count because I'm not especially good-looking, but....
I work out in the gym in my apartment building, and if there's already guys in there when I go down, I usually go back in an hour because running while some guy can't keep his eyes on something other than whatever is bouncing in the mirror is the worst. I'm certainly not looking hot with a bright red face and sweat everywhere, and it's not a conceit thing, it's just that nine times out of ten if there's dudes working out at the same time as me, they stare because there's nothing more interesting to look at.
I'm fully aware it's not even a "oh, he thinks I'm hot" thing so much as a "watching the bounce is more interesting than watching the wall", but it still makes me uncomfortable. But I'm a shy girl and I prefer when strangers ignore me like I ignore them. I hate being watched, I don't like performing, and I don't go to the gym to socialize.0 -
But chatting can be just that, chatting! I am a pretty social person and I love talking to people. I do generally want to hide while at the gym but if someone comes to talk with me or share some smiles, it makes me feel more comfortable (provided the guy isn't obviously there for only one reason). I don't think it should be a no contact zone, but don't look for girl to go after there either. Of course, this is stating the obvious, but starting a legit friendship with someone before dating is a super good idea 0
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The fact is, if someone isn't touching you, interrupting your workout or saying something derogatory, it doesn't matter whether you "like" it or not. It's a gym for &%$#@! sake, not an Emily Post party.0
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I think it depends. If it's a cute guy I wouldn't mind a few glances, but even the best looking guy would eventually creep me out if they kept staring at me without trying to start a conversation.
Okay but here's MY question and I was honestly thinking about this the to other day. Is there ANY scenario where it would be acceptable and invited that a male struck up a conversation with you (or this is for any women here) at the gym with the goal to open up lines of communication for a date?
Because for me, I don't care if I get 3 or 4 smiles from the same girl at the gym while I'm training, I would NEVER try and hit up a chic at the gym. I feel like it's a place of sanctity where we're all there for a purpose, simply use the equipment and don't want to be disturbed. Now anywhere else, I wouldn't hesitate I just don't feel comfortable with trying to "hit on" a chic at the gym under really any scenario unless she opened up the chat first.
I think if someone has made a lot of eye contact or is smiling at you a lot (and you're sure it's meant for you) you're probably good to say "hi" and see what the reaction is. Otherwise, I think the gym definitely a no-fly zone. But most people should be able to read signals. What a woman is wearing is NOT a signal, for example. But if she's smiling at you, that certainly could be.
I keep my eyes to myself and my resting witch face firmly on at the gym, so if someone tries to chat me up he's being socially tone-deaf. Reading social cues shouldn't be super difficult, though.0
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