Do you think size affects someone's attractiveness?
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oh yes, and the person he went off with is a hell of a lot larger than me x0
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I lost 1 guy to a girl with a full set of dentures at 22 and another to a girl with a missing front tooth.
I have nice, straight teeth but something was attractive enough about those girls that the men dropped me for them. I can't base my own worth on douche bags like that and I've went on about my life while those girls worry about their poligrip failing.
(However, I assume they could do tricks with their mouths that I couldn't so I have stepped up my head game)
How sad bd0027... you are not only blaming these girls but belittling them because HE cheated on YOU and happened to pick them. You have a lot to learn in life. No one can force you to cheat, only you can allow that to happen. So if you want to throw rocks, throw them at the cheater not the person/persons they used along with using you.0 -
As previously said beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
I personally think I was never attractive when I was overweight. It just doesn't suit me. I only ever see myself as attractive when I'm at a certain weight.0 -
I lost 1 guy to a girl with a full set of dentures at 22 and another to a girl with a missing front tooth.
I have nice, straight teeth but something was attractive enough about those girls that the men dropped me for them. I can't base my own worth on douche bags like that and I've went on about my life while those girls worry about their poligrip failing.
(However, I assume they could do tricks with their mouths that I couldn't so I have stepped up my head game)
How sad bd0027... you are not only blaming these girls but belittling them because HE cheated on YOU and happened to pick them. You have a lot to learn in life. No one can force you to cheat, only you can allow that to happen. So if you want to throw rocks, throw them at the cheater not the person/persons they used along with using you.
I agree with you for the most part but if the other women knew they were the "other" they are fair game for criticism.0 -
I think you just have ****ty taste in men.
I've been cheated on too. Had nothing to do with me. It had to do with him being a moron.0 -
I lost 1 guy to a girl with a full set of dentures at 22 and another to a girl with a missing front tooth.
I have nice, straight teeth but something was attractive enough about those girls that the men dropped me for them. I can't base my own worth on douche bags like that and I've went on about my life while those girls worry about their poligrip failing.
(However, I assume they could do tricks with their mouths that I couldn't so I have stepped up my head game)
How sad bd0027... you are not only blaming these girls but belittling them because HE cheated on YOU and happened to pick them. You have a lot to learn in life. No one can force you to cheat, only you can allow that to happen. So if you want to throw rocks, throw them at the cheater not the person/persons they used along with using you.
I agree with you for the most part but if the other women knew they were the "other" they are fair game for criticism.
I agree. The girl my husband cheated with knew he was married. Knew I was pregnant with our THIRD child. She's just as much a pos as he is.
It's different if the woman doesn't know the guy is taken...like if he's playing both. But most do know. And mos done care. Which makes them ****ty people too. They're opening up themselves for a life of disappointment and loneliness.0 -
Bit of a strange question, and I know some larger people are totally happy together and the same for skinny and mixed couples.
My question is kind of the opposite of what you my think. Is it likely for a person to go for someone larger and less attractive personality wise and physically, especially when you are already taken?
I have been cheated on twice ( different ex's) with quite large, blonde women (I am brunette and range between slim- skinny fat). Personality wise, I have been told i am very caring and nice, and I know I do a lot to please my partner, but I still maintain independence.
The women I have been cheated on seem very full of themselves and quite rude and mean, and one in particular felt my then partner should droop whatever he was doing to see her, even if he was with me at the time.
So i feel we are nothing alike at all, yet it has happened twice now.
Of course it ruined my self esteem, especially after the second partner did it too, but it has been a bit of a motivation since I never want to look like them, especially since what they did with my partners at the time of the incidents.
I am wondering if anyone out there has had similar experiences, or have some insight into why this ma happen?
Like I know beauty can only be skin deep, but what would make you stray from a partner who is caring and nice, as well as who looked after herself well, to someone who is the complete opposite?
I suppose i am trying to avoid doing whatever i did wrong in the past with my current partner
Did you ask the ex's why they cheated??
What was their reasoning...
I would be curious to know what they said.0 -
Bottom line:
You need to pay attention to the qualities of the men you choose. The only constant in your relationships is you. I'm not saying it is your fault. I am saying you might be picking the wrong men. You have obviously picked cheaters who like rude, ridiculous women the last two times. Maybe think about why that is, or what qualities they had that attracted you to them that....could have been warning signs.
Size has nothing to do with any of this. I think many men prefer Christina Hendricks to many women smaller than she is.
I personally would date Jack Black before I dated Channing Tatum. But, I'm also twice as old as you and looks just aren't as important as they used to be.0 -
Like I know beauty can only be skin deep, but what would make you stray from a partner who is caring and nice, as well as who looked after herself well, to someone who is the complete opposite?
I suppose i am trying to avoid doing whatever i did wrong in the past with my current partner
Nothing would make a person that is happy in their relationship stray. If a person isn't happy in the relationship that they are in almost nothing can keep them in it, at best you just prolong the inevitable. You just happened to be with jerks (jerks because if they were unhappy or didn't want a monagomous relationship for whatever reason they should have just said so and delt with the consequences). Personally I wouldn't read too much into it except maybe for your ability to chose a mate.0 -
Bottom line:
You need to pay attention to the qualities of the men you choose. The only constant in your relationships is you. I'm not saying it is your fault. I am saying you might be picking the wrong men. You have obviously picked cheaters who like rude, ridiculous women the last two times. Maybe think about why that is, or what qualities they had that attracted you to them that....could have been warning signs.
Size has nothing to do with any of this. I think many men prefer Christina Hendricks to many women smaller than she is.
I personally would date Jack Black before I dated Channing Tatum. But, I'm also twice as old as you and looks just aren't as important as they used to be.
I agree with this message0 -
I think some men cheat. I think some men prefer larger women. I think some men cheat with larger women. I think some men cheat with smaller women. I think the issue should be the cheating though, not the size of the other woman. I just don't understand why her size should have anything to do with anything. He cheated. What does it matter if she was as big a house? It doesn't make what he did any more or less wrong.0
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Something was being offered by these women, that you were not.0
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On the thread title: I believe it does. For multiple reasons.
#1 You are way happier & confident with you and your appearence, thus that happiness shows on your face. You are attracted to people who are happy & confident and when you feel good with your body you have that, you have a better self-esteem and the public likes it.
#2 it looks good! Would you rather a bottom & legs with an excessive amount of fat or one with the right amount of squats? A beer belly or a worked out one? (And I'm not even saying a 6pack, I dont like it that much, either on man or women; i just like a firm belly)
#3 it shows dedication! It shows that person is devoted to be a *better person*. You can't fake a body, you can't buy one either. You have to continuously do your thing everyday. It shows discipline, it shows mentality, and that's the kind of person you want around you.0 -
Going through that scenario right now. Just remember, once a cheater, always a cheater (don't care what anyone says about that).. it's true.
He will realize that the grass ain't greener on the other side. Stay away from him; don't chase him, let him realize that he lost a good woman who cared deeply for him. He'll come running back; just don't take him back.0 -
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I would also just like to point out that in my experience the more weight I lost there was an increase of sh**ty morons I attracted because of how shallow they are. When I was overweight I attracted guys who were interested in how nice and interesting my personality and looked past how my body looked. Those idiots would never have given me a second look when I was at my biggest.0
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You're young. At your age, boys are idiots. It takes a long time for boys to turn into men and learn how to appreciate a good woman. Just give it time. It's not you, it's them.
This.0 -
Confidence is a sexy thing all it's own, and it has nothing to do with size. When one is comfortable with themselves, regardless their size or shape, the confidence exuded is compelling- it influences everything about oneself; how one carries themselves, walks, talks, dresses, acts.
I don't know nearly enough about you or your exes to make any assertions regarding your situation; what I can say is, be confident in yourself, your body and your mind, and you'll attract good things.0 -
You're young. At your age, boys are idiots. It takes a long time for boys to turn into men and learn how to appreciate a good woman. Just give it time. It's not you, it's them.
Does it ever get better? Lol. My husband was in his 30's and still cheated. Some men just cheat. It doesn't necessarily get better with age.0 -
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I would also just like to point out that in my experience the more weight I lost there was an increase of sh**ty morons I attracted because of how shallow they are. When I was overweight I attracted guys who were interested in how nice and interesting my personality and looked past how my body looked. Those idiots would never have given me a second look when I was at my biggest.
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Interesting view on things you have.....
There are certain types that men are attracted to....just as there are certain types women are attracted too....
It is just natural that the physical aspect is big for guys...I mean lets face it....
That is the first thing you see when you meet or see someone.....how they look.
So you basically are selling a product, yourself.
When you were heavier, that product didn't attract as many customers....
Now that you are smaller, you attract more....
When you are out, and see a group of guys, what catches your attention??
Are you all sweet and nice to guys you aren't attracted too??0 -
You're young. At your age, boys are idiots. It takes a long time for boys to turn into men and learn how to appreciate a good woman. Just give it time. It's not you, it's them.
Does it ever get better? Lol. My husband was in his 30's and still cheated. Some men just cheat. It doesn't necessarily get better with age.
I'm with you on that! My husband was 40 when he had the last affair that I know of.0 -
I would also just like to point out that in my experience the more weight I lost there was an increase of sh**ty morons I attracted because of how shallow they are. When I was overweight I attracted guys who were interested in how nice and interesting my personality and looked past how my body looked. Those idiots would never have given me a second look when I was at my biggest.
:huh: :huh: :huh:
Interesting view on things you have.....
There are certain types that men are attracted to....just as there are certain types women are attracted too....
It is just natural that the physical aspect is big for guys...I mean lets face it....
That is the first thing you see when you meet or see someone.....how they look.
So you basically are selling a product, yourself.
When you were heavier, that product didn't attract as many customers....
Now that you are smaller, you attract more....
When you are out, and see a group of guys, what catches your attention??
Are you all sweet and nice to guys you aren't attracted too??
And its the same for women... i wouldnt go to a bar and chat up a fat guy on the off chance he had a nice personality... i would go for the guy i found myself physically attracted to...0 -
I would also just like to point out that in my experience the more weight I lost there was an increase of sh**ty morons I attracted because of how shallow they are. When I was overweight I attracted guys who were interested in how nice and interesting my personality and looked past how my body looked. Those idiots would never have given me a second look when I was at my biggest.
:huh: :huh: :huh:
Interesting view on things you have.....
There are certain types that men are attracted to....just as there are certain types women are attracted too....
It is just natural that the physical aspect is big for guys...I mean lets face it....
That is the first thing you see when you meet or see someone.....how they look.
So you basically are selling a product, yourself.
When you were heavier, that product didn't attract as many customers....
Now that you are smaller, you attract more....
When you are out, and see a group of guys, what catches your attention??
Are you all sweet and nice to guys you aren't attracted too??
And its the same for women... i wouldnt go to a bar and chat up a fat guy on the off chance he had a nice personality... i would go for the guy i found myself physically attracted to...
There you go.
My thoughts also.0 -
You're young. At your age, boys are idiots. It takes a long time for boys to turn into men and learn how to appreciate a good woman. Just give it time. It's not you, it's them.
Does it ever get better? Lol. My husband was in his 30's and still cheated. Some men just cheat. It doesn't necessarily get better with age.
^ THIS... my husband cheated, my exes cheated, my best friend cheats... most men cheat, period. They can't control temptation, tisk, tisk...0 -
^ THIS... my husband cheated, my exes cheated, my best friend cheats... most men cheat, period. They can't control temptation, tisk, tisk...
MOST men!? noooooooo.... some men, yes, and some women... but i think saying 'most' men is unfair!0 -
You're young. At your age, boys are idiots. It takes a long time for boys to turn into men and learn how to appreciate a good woman. Just give it time. It's not you, it's them.
Does it ever get better? Lol. My husband was in his 30's and still cheated. Some men just cheat. It doesn't necessarily get better with age.
^ THIS... my husband cheated, my exes cheated, my best friend cheats... most men cheat, period. They can't control temptation, tisk, tisk...
People cheat.
Women aren't saints in this area.0 -
Based on you being with the man you are with now for a year, you must have been no older than 18 while dating a 23 year old and a 21 year old. Age differences can work. It's not even that big of an age difference. But, at the age you're at, two things could be the culprit. Some people get with someone younger at that age because they can take them less seriously but get treated really well. The other side is that at that age, there can be a really big difference between being a teenager and someone in their early 20's. Sometimes the connection suffers just because of different life stages.
I wouldn't assume that people disagreeing with you are larger. You are saying a lot that you don't have fat hate, but what you're saying around it shows the attitude that you're stung from being cheated on with women larger than you (because they are larger than you). You list their size in the same breath as their bad personalities and inferior looks. You say it's because you want to make sure it doesn't happen again, but how can you ever prevent that? No matter where you go or what size you are, there will be people the opposite of you. I'm not overweight, and the implication is still there in your posts. I don't think this makes you a fat hater. I don't even think you're aware of how some of your words are coming across.0 -
^ THIS... my husband cheated, my exes cheated, my best friend cheats... most men cheat, period. They can't control temptation, tisk, tisk...
Completely and utterly false. Most men cheat? No mam... some, yes. But to go as far as to say most do because you, unfortunately, have had bad luck with men who cheat? That's like me saying that most women are nothing but gold-diggers looking for a bank account, rather than a good man. I know that's not true, so it's not even an issue. I do realize some men do cheat, but to lump most men into that category is really not fair, considering there are just as many women that cheat as there are men that cheat. This is not a one-way street. Unless someone has met EVERY single man on the planet, then there's no pretext to put a blanket statement over the majority of the male population.
No offense to you, of course. Just stating an opinion.0
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