Any young black women looking to get thin?

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  • _John_
    _John_ Posts: 8,646 Member
    Every other cultural group sticks together........why should blacks get judged for it?

    somebody get me a 10 foot pole so I can not touch that...
  • silver_arrow3
    silver_arrow3 Posts: 1,373 Member
    this could have been a totally innocent thread, but you people had to go and make a big deal about this.

    'Scuse me? You people? As in you half-brown people? Stop attacking me.
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    Every other cultural group sticks together........why should blacks get judged for it?

    I dont think you are actually supposed to say kt.
  • JassiBear
    JassiBear Posts: 268 Member
    Don't judge the OP...........
    its about race because there are different cultural standards of beauty within the black community vs. the white community weight wise, at least. Black women typically are built different than white women.......and all you have to do is look at the latest Rick Ross video to see what the idea of beauty is in the black culture..... and its not Kate Moss.

    More than that there is a certain pressure for black women to stay large and then be proud of being large. If you dare to be thin your blasted for trying to conform to 'white' beauty standards. 2/3 of black women in America are overweight and most of them aren't trying to change because that's how we're 'supposed' to be.

    Different cultures are different.

    Do you feel pressure to be "thicker"?

    I absolutely do feel pressure to be "thicker" and have a large *kitten* and be curvacious and all of that..........
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    Don't judge the OP...........
    its about race because there are different cultural standards of beauty within the black community vs. the white community weight wise, at least. Black women typically are built different than white women.......and all you have to do is look at the latest Rick Ross video to see what the idea of beauty is in the black culture..... and its not Kate Moss.

    You can't be serious?

    I'm one hundred percent serious. THE STANDARDS OF BEAUTY VARY FROM THE WHITE COMMUNITY TO THE BLACK COMMUNITY when it comes to the IDEAL BODY TYPE OF A FEMALE............. its very obvious in our pop culture ARE YOU BLIND? Look at Nicki Minaj, Look at Jennifer Lopez, look at rap music videos......

    When did JLo become black?
  • Thanks, JassiBear ... It's funny how people assume so much ... I prefer rock and pop music, and most of my boyfriends have been white ... from some of the posts here, people think I'm Robert Mugabe or something. It ain't that serious!
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    If the post "any young white women looking to get thin" were up, it would get the same amount of hate.

    But white women on this site are the default. Most threads are full of white women, are they not? Is it wrong to want to speak to, see, and connect with people who look like me without paging through 10 pages of content hoping another black woman might show up?

    You don't need a post to seek each other out because you are the default. If you post "looking for young women looking to get thin." Its very unlikely more than one or two non-white women would respond.

    I shouldn't say anything, but I'm going to go against better judgement. Yes, it is wrong to want to find people who look like you. It's no less racist when it's being done by minorities than by the majority. The color of your skin is the least viable way to find people you have something in common with.

    A. Wanting to connect with people of similar appearance isn't inherently racist. Racism is the belief that one is superior or inferior based on skin color; wanting to hang out with other black women doesn't mean I think other races are beneath us.

    B. And the hell it is.
  • JassiBear
    JassiBear Posts: 268 Member
    Don't judge the OP...........
    its about race because there are different cultural standards of beauty within the black community vs. the white community weight wise, at least. Black women typically are built different than white women.......and all you have to do is look at the latest Rick Ross video to see what the idea of beauty is in the black culture..... and its not Kate Moss.

    More than that there is a certain pressure for black women to stay large and then be proud of being large. If you dare to be thin your blasted for trying to conform to 'white' beauty standards. 2/3 of black women in America are overweight and most of them aren't trying to change because that's how we're 'supposed' to be.

    Different cultures are different.

    Do you feel pressure to be "thicker"?

    I absolutely do feel pressure to be "thicker" and have a large *kitten* and be curvacious and all of that..........

    Not saying that this is right or ethical,, but its reality, so lets face it. And lets also face the reality that BLACKS were torn from their families for hundreds of years during SLAVERY which was facilitated by WHITES and EUROPEANS and still has effects on the way blacks come together nowadays. Dont try to act like it doesnt happen, history is history, you can't sweep 300 years of slavery that built this country and made it what it is today under the rug...... you simply cannot. Yell at me if you want I dont care.
  • SteampunkSongbird
    SteampunkSongbird Posts: 826 Member
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    I came here for this.
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    Don't judge the OP...........
    its about race because there are different cultural standards of beauty within the black community vs. the white community weight wise, at least. Black women typically are built different than white women.......and all you have to do is look at the latest Rick Ross video to see what the idea of beauty is in the black culture..... and its not Kate Moss.

    More than that there is a certain pressure for black women to stay large and then be proud of being large. If you dare to be thin your blasted for trying to conform to 'white' beauty standards. 2/3 of black women in America are overweight and most of them aren't trying to change because that's how we're 'supposed' to be.

    Different cultures are different.

    Do you feel pressure to be "thicker"?

    I absolutely do feel pressure to be "thicker" and have a large *kitten* and be curvacious and all of that..........

    Not saying that this is right or ethical,, but its reality, so lets face it. And lets also face the reality that BLACKS were torn from their families for hundreds of years during SLAVERY which was facilitated by WHITES and EUROPEANS and still has effects on the way blacks come together nowadays. Dont try to act like it doesnt happen, history is history, you can't sweep 300 years of slavery that built this country and made it what it is today under the rug...... you simply cannot. Yell at me if you want I dont care.

    You just want to watch the world burn, don't you?
  • Achrya
    Achrya Posts: 16,913 Member
    Don't judge the OP...........
    its about race because there are different cultural standards of beauty within the black community vs. the white community weight wise, at least. Black women typically are built different than white women.......and all you have to do is look at the latest Rick Ross video to see what the idea of beauty is in the black culture..... and its not Kate Moss.

    More than that there is a certain pressure for black women to stay large and then be proud of being large. If you dare to be thin your blasted for trying to conform to 'white' beauty standards. 2/3 of black women in America are overweight and most of them aren't trying to change because that's how we're 'supposed' to be.

    Different cultures are different.

    Do you feel pressure to be "thicker"?

    My aunt told me when I was in my hometown a few weeks ago that I've gotten far too tiny and that I'd lost my butt and that I needed to gain weight ASAP because no black man would want a woman built like I am now. We're supposed to have lots of meat on our bones and if a man wanted a twig he'd just date a white woman.



    And, so we're clear, the above is racism. People seem confused so I want to make it clear
  • JassiBear
    JassiBear Posts: 268 Member
    Thanks, JassiBear ... It's funny how people assume so much ... I prefer rock and pop music, and most of my boyfriends have been white ... from some of the posts here, people think I'm Robert Mugabe or something. It ain't that serious!

    Most of my boyfriends have been white as well....actually I've only ever had one black boyfriend. I also enjoy pop music and rock moreso than most hip-hop.
  • KrazyDaizy
    KrazyDaizy Posts: 815 Member
    I haz a color, too, it's kind of peachy or more olive like. Are than any other ladies of olive skin tone looking to get healthy with me??? Let's do it.
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  • AlwaysBigSteve
    AlwaysBigSteve Posts: 82 Member
    Man, this just keeps getting better and better. Just look at Nicki Minaj? I try not to.


    Please, go on...
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  • Wait....

    Stop right there....No more racial arguments

    I gotta go get some popcorn first....
  • firstsip
    firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
    If the post "any young white women looking to get thin" were up, it would get the same amount of hate.

    But white women on this site are the default. Most threads are full of white women, are they not? Is it wrong to want to speak to, see, and connect with people who look like me without paging through 10 pages of content hoping another black woman might show up?

    You don't need a post to seek each other out because you are the default. If you post "looking for young women looking to get thin." Its very unlikely more than one or two non-white women would respond.

    I shouldn't say anything, but I'm going to go against better judgement. Yes, it is wrong to want to find people who look like you. It's no less racist when it's being done by minorities than by the majority. The color of your skin is the least viable way to find people you have something in common with.

    Okay, at the most fundamental, people going for people like them is the root of mate selection in evolutionary biology.

    On a less impersonal level, people seek out similar body types, heights, clothing sizes, etc. to them in other people; race and ethnicity both can result in different body struggles, cultural issues, etc. We might all be the same, but there are differences that don't need to be ignored for fear of racism; embracing our differences and celebrating them is what diversity is truly about, not making us a homogenous bubble.
  • Again ... It's not that serious ... now how do I stick to 1400 calories a day? That's the stuff I REALLY want to talk about ...
  • How do you explain my attraction to slender white men? I must be a mutant, lol ...
  • ryry_
    ryry_ Posts: 4,966 Member
    If the post "any young white women looking to get thin" were up, it would get the same amount of hate.

    But white women on this site are the default. Most threads are full of white women, are they not? Is it wrong to want to speak to, see, and connect with people who look like me without paging through 10 pages of content hoping another black woman might show up?

    You don't need a post to seek each other out because you are the default. If you post "looking for young women looking to get thin." Its very unlikely more than one or two non-white women would respond.

    I shouldn't say anything, but I'm going to go against better judgement. Yes, it is wrong to want to find people who look like you. It's no less racist when it's being done by minorities than by the majority. The color of your skin is the least viable way to find people you have something in common with.

    Yes and its sexist when there is a women's conference or when the gynecologist won't make an appointment for me.
  • wheird
    wheird Posts: 7,963 Member
    Again ... It's not that serious ... now how do I stick to 1400 calories a day? That's the stuff I REALLY want to talk about ...

    You are new to MFP. At this point, just sit back and watch the show. :)
  • firstsip
    firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
    Don't judge the OP...........
    its about race because there are different cultural standards of beauty within the black community vs. the white community weight wise, at least. Black women typically are built different than white women.......and all you have to do is look at the latest Rick Ross video to see what the idea of beauty is in the black culture..... and its not Kate Moss.

    More than that there is a certain pressure for black women to stay large and then be proud of being large. If you dare to be thin your blasted for trying to conform to 'white' beauty standards. 2/3 of black women in America are overweight and most of them aren't trying to change because that's how we're 'supposed' to be.

    Different cultures are different.

    Do you feel pressure to be "thicker"?

    My aunt told me when I was in my hometown a few weeks ago that I've gotten far too tiny and that I'd lost my butt and that I needed to gain weight ASAP because no black man would want a woman built like I am now. We're supposed to have lots of meat on our bones and if a man wanted a twig he'd just date a white woman.



    And, so we're clear, the above is racism. People seem confused so I want to make it clear

    Omg. Not only racism, but disrespect of you being goddamn married. AND A LIE, YOUR BUTT IS GREAT. :explode: RAGE FOR YOU.
  • Fiercely_Me
    Fiercely_Me Posts: 481 Member
    Fellow white people, stop inserting yourselves into spaces where you aren't wanted. If this woman wants to connect with other people she feels may relate to her experience better, that's her business. To comment on this just to express your offense because you don't feel included is just gross. White people, historically and to a large degree currently, dominate just about every space imaginable and have never not done so freely. When a person of color requests their own space not be intruded upon, show a little respect and don't intrude. For anyone who doesn't understand why this is not the same as a white woman doing this, start by looking up Jane Elliott.

    OP, forgive me. I just felt compelled to correct the misguided who've hijacked your thread.
    People do know about reverse racism, right? Segregation has NO PLACE in this world!!! Never was a good thing and still isn't. I don't care if you're purple, black or see-through. I'm colour blind - if I have a problem with someone, it's because they are acting foolish. And Jane Elliott? This is starting to feel like the diversity training episode of the Office...

    Although saying your colorblind is a way to show that you do not endorse discrimination, you inadvertently invalidate the cultural experiences of ethnic groups. Racial stratification in society does exist, and the experience of a Black person is completely different from that of a White person. When you look at this in terms of the intersectionality of race, class, and gender, this is even more the case. Whether people are willing to admit that or not is a different story.
  • _John_
    _John_ Posts: 8,646 Member
    Again ... It's not that serious ... now how do I stick to 1400 calories a day? That's the stuff I REALLY want to talk about ...

    I couldn't do that without lean meats, fiberous carbohydrate sources and keeping fat almost to the bare minimum of 20% my daily calories. That's how I'd do it.
  • BusyRaeNOTBusty
    BusyRaeNOTBusty Posts: 7,166 Member
    Again ... It's not that serious ... now how do I stick to 1400 calories a day? That's the stuff I REALLY want to talk about ...

    Don't. Go for 1600-1800. :bigsmile:
  • Capt_Apollo
    Capt_Apollo Posts: 9,026 Member
    How do you explain my attraction to slender white men? I must be a mutant, lol ...

    sup?
  • _Pseudonymous_
    _Pseudonymous_ Posts: 1,671 Member
    Don't judge the OP...........
    its about race because there are different cultural standards of beauty within the black community vs. the white community weight wise, at least. Black women typically are built different than white women.......and all you have to do is look at the latest Rick Ross video to see what the idea of beauty is in the black culture..... and its not Kate Moss.

    More than that there is a certain pressure for black women to stay large and then be proud of being large. If you dare to be thin your blasted for trying to conform to 'white' beauty standards. 2/3 of black women in America are overweight and most of them aren't trying to change because that's how we're 'supposed' to be.

    Different cultures are different.

    Do you feel pressure to be "thicker"?

    My aunt told me when I was in my hometown a few weeks ago that I've gotten far too tiny and that I'd lost my butt and that I needed to gain weight ASAP because no black man would want a woman built like I am now. We're supposed to have lots of meat on our bones and if a man wanted a twig he'd just date a white woman.



    And, so we're clear, the above is racism. People seem confused so I want to make it clear

    Wow, that sucks! I always grew up with the opposite.

    "You need to lose weight, you'll never get a boyfriend looking like that" From either end it sucks. Especially since my goal is to lift weights, be strong and healthy, and be confident. I honestly don't see myself getting much smaller than a 10, maybe an 8? Either way... It sucks when someone tries to tell you what you need to be and what the world expects of you. I'm sorry. :(
  • firstsip
    firstsip Posts: 8,399 Member
    How do you explain my attraction to slender white men? I must be a mutant, lol ...

    Nah. :wink: We all like who we like. There's diversity desired in the gene pool just like there's the people who get together who get mistaken for siblings *cough*

    It's not wrong to want people like you, and it's not wrong to want people different. In fact, a good balance of both in one's life is probably the key to not being stagnant in how we think, feel, etc.
  • Veil5577
    Veil5577 Posts: 868 Member
    Again ... It's not that serious ... now how do I stick to 1400 calories a day? That's the stuff I REALLY want to talk about ...

    I'm sorry but this is already a hornet's nest... However, I'll go by your original desire to want to lose weight and look good and ignore the rest... Log everything you eat, that's going to be the best way to stick to your 1400 calorie goal. MFP has great tools to use and you can find good support on here.
  • wnt2bhlthy4me
    wnt2bhlthy4me Posts: 121 Member
    Don't judge the OP...........
    its about race because there are different cultural standards of beauty within the black community vs. the white community weight wise, at least. Black women typically are built different than white women.......and all you have to do is look at the latest Rick Ross video to see what the idea of beauty is in the black culture..... and its not Kate Moss.

    You can't be serious?

    I'm one hundred percent serious. THE STANDARDS OF BEAUTY VARY FROM THE WHITE COMMUNITY TO THE BLACK COMMUNITY when it comes to the IDEAL BODY TYPE OF A FEMALE............. its very obvious in our pop culture ARE YOU BLIND? Look at Nicki Minaj, Look at Jennifer Lopez, look at rap music videos......

    Maybe you should look in other place besides what's on tv honey? Beauty is everywhere no matter what color you are. And by the way, JLo is not black. The STANDARD of beauty has to do what's inside of every individual, no matter what color you are. I’m sorry whoever made you feel like you have to have a big booty to feel like a standard woman of your color. The point is, this site is about losing weight and all races lose the same way, calories in vs calories out. If any other race would have posted this, it would get the exact reaction.
  • KeepGoingKylene
    KeepGoingKylene Posts: 432 Member
    Good grief people!

    OP, good luck on your journey. I am working at getting down to 130/140 ish. Feel free to add me.

    and i must add i am offended at the age comment, i am 34 and still very very young! :noway:
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