Is it norm to watch porn?

strengthandhonour4eva

its normal for me haha

BreeJaxon

Heck yea, love it!

CharleePear

Pornography creates a false ideal that can impact men psychologically and, by proxy, physiologically. It creates a feeling of extreme inadequacy due to all of the male actors having giant members, which only a small portion of the male population possess, and the extreme intensity and length of duration that the actors seem to be able to achieve. And it also teaches men to be poor lovers by rushing things, paying little attention to oral copulation, assuming every girl is always ready for backdoor, etc.

Men are essentially portrayed as a giant penis with legs, giving the impression that they dont matter and are only good for the pleasure of the female gender.

Make me go without for 24 hours and that's pretty much dead on. :ohwell:

You make jokes, but there are male actors out there daily being told to stfu and being forcefed viagra and drugs to perform to the directors standards.

Magnesium

ACTUALLY most of the time it's the women that get portrayed as submissives. The most common thing for women getting into the industry is for them to be taken into a seedy back room where they are filled in every hole without consent for hours while the male actors get to change over, if she cries she has to start again until they get a great film.

markja

No. Watching may be normal but, it is not good. This is because it develops unrealistic expectations in a relationship. The viewer probably will not be able to look as good or do the things the actors are doing.

Besides, it's a moral issue as well. Why should a married man fantasize about sex with another woman?

Ihatecoldsoup

What has this got to do with weight management and fitness? Pick another forum whilst I report this as inappropriate.

Why did you even bother clicking on this thread? It isn't like the title was misleading. We are all adults here.

Ihatecoldsoup

Pornography creates a false ideal that can impact men psychologically and, by proxy, physiologically. It creates a feeling of extreme inadequacy due to all of the male actors having giant members, which only a small portion of the male population possess, and the extreme intensity and length of duration that the actors seem to be able to achieve. And it also teaches men to be poor lovers by rushing things, paying little attention to oral copulation, assuming every girl is always ready for backdoor, etc.

Men are essentially portrayed as a giant penis with legs, giving the impression that they dont matter and are only good for the pleasure of the female gender.

Make me go without for 24 hours and that's pretty much dead on. :ohwell:

You make jokes, but there are male actors out there daily being told to stfu and being forcefed viagra and drugs to perform to the directors standards.

Magnesium

ACTUALLY most of the time it's the women that get portrayed as submissives. The most common thing for women getting into the industry is for them to be taken into a seedy back room where they are filled in every hole without consent for hours while the male actors get to change over, if she cries she has to start again until they get a great film.

See, that is the type of porn that I am not a fan of. I am an amateur, x art, passion hd, type of guy. Porn can be dangerous to a healthy relationship if you abuse it, but that is with damn near anything.

KseRz

I just want to note that you are asking this question in an INTERNET FORUM. I think this is probably a biased subset. Furthermore, most of the people who would choose to reply to this are okay with watching porn because the topic doesn't make them uncomfortable. Just saying. My ex was addicted to porn, and I have to say it was really hard on our relationship.

That part sounds like the problem.

And its also only 1 side of the story.

Sirinya55

anything is okay if you're okay with it.

CharleePear

anything is okay if you're okay with it.

:noway:

wolfsbayne

anything is okay if you're okay with it.

:noway:

My thought as well.

TheVirgoddess

No. Watching may be normal but, it is not good. This is because it develops unrealistic expectations in a relationship. The viewer probably will not be able to look as good or do the things the actors are doing.

Besides, it's a moral issue as well. Why should a married man fantasize about sex with another woman?

That's a fairly broad generalization. I've been with my husband for 12 years. In that time, we've watched lots of porn - together and separately. Our sex life is great - and no one has unrealistic expectations. Just like I don't expect to get a letter from Hogwarts. We know it's not a real portrayal of life.

I don't mind if my husband fantasizes about other women. It's actually a totally natural thing. A fantasy doesn't mean that's what you want in reality - it's pretend.

jhenderson105

I personally think it is a personal preference.
I think that if we didn't have porn to watch, more people would cheat on their spouses.
However, if you have a sex addiction, it may be a gateway to other things...
such as social media porn sites and cheating.

1HappyRedhead

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You make jokes, but there are male actors out there daily being told to stfu and being forcefed viagra and drugs to perform to the directors standards.
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Seriously? And you would know this how? And I'm supposed to feel sorry for them, why? Someone dragged them kicking & screaming against their will do porn? I'm just going to hope this statement was a joke, because, well it's ridiculous. :noway:

StephanieR88

Ok, let me put it this way. Just watching porn is ok. But if he ever crosses the line then that is when it is not ok. My fiance used to have a terrible addiction to porn, he probably still does. He let the occasional watching of pornography turn into an addiction which turned into paying for porn on cable to paying for phone sex which evolved in contemplating paying for an escort. All things that have happened during our now 10 year long relationship. The addictions that stemmed from watching porn have almost ruined our relationship, our lives, and our six year old's life. If he is just watching it once in a while when she is out of town that is better than going out to cheat on her but if he ever crosses the line she needs to take matters into her own hands, no pun intended.

Ladytigerr1980

yes

jasonmh630

What has this got to do with weight management and fitness? Pick another forum whilst I report this as inappropriate.

Because this was posted in the "Chit-Chat, Fun, and Games" category... This category exists to form discussions on things that AREN'T weight management and fitness related. You probably jumped to a conclusion because this thread showed up on the homepage under the popular threads.

wheird

Pornography creates a false ideal that can impact men psychologically and, by proxy, physiologically. It creates a feeling of extreme inadequacy due to all of the male actors having giant members, which only a small portion of the male population possess, and the extreme intensity and length of duration that the actors seem to be able to achieve. And it also teaches men to be poor lovers by rushing things, paying little attention to oral copulation, assuming every girl is always ready for backdoor, etc.

Men are essentially portrayed as a giant penis with legs, giving the impression that they dont matter and are only good for the pleasure of the female gender.

Make me go without for 24 hours and that's pretty much dead on. :ohwell:

You make jokes, but there are male actors out there daily being told to stfu and being forcefed viagra and drugs to perform to the directors standards.

Magnesium

ACTUALLY most of the time it's the women that get portrayed as submissives. The most common thing for women getting into the industry is for them to be taken into a seedy back room where they are filled in every hole without consent for hours while the male actors get to change over, if she cries she has to start again until they get a great film.

Yes, the man takes the leading role in pleasuring the woman with the camera focused on her and her enjoyment. And if you say it was without consent, then it is rape and another matter entirely.

I forgot to mention that pornography also creates false expectations for men, which further harms the male gender. Women expect every guy to be hung like a porn star and be able to pleasure them at a high intensity for great lengths of time, then is disappointed when the reality is less than the fantasy.

_KitKat_

This. Neither my husband nor I watch it. And yes, I know he doesn't because we have the kind of open relationship. I think it's great that neither one of us have to be tempted by someone other than each other. That doesn't mean that we don't see people whom we think are attractive, but we respect each other and the marriage vows we made.

I am sorry but I take issue with ↑↑this↑↑. You seem to be implying my husband or I would be tempted, don't respect each other, and don't respect our marriage vows because we watch porn. I am sorry 17 years of marriage, and a happy one with an extremely healthy sex life would say you are wrong on your implications and judgments of others.

As for you knowing, that is great but most (not all) men that say to a buddy they don't watch porn, do not tie a moral reason to it....instead it is more of a "my wife would kill me, she has hangups". I feel bad that many men/ women would need to deny a part of their sexuality from their SO because of the others personal hangups on what they believe it implies. I like a little kink, doesn't mean I want raped....watching others have sex, doesn't mean I am secretly desiring another man. Those are all emotional projections that someone puts on an external factor.

For those that mentioned if my husband watched blondes only and I am a red head...it would bother me....I had to laugh out loud. I am naturally dark blond and had light blonde most of my adult life, my husband always noticed a smoking brunette. I am now brunette and my husband notices blondes. I think it just the idea of different and I find it amusing.

For the person with the view of how demeaning and how these women are abused....sure it may happen, but is not the normal. In business I have dealt with the porn industry and in hetro porn, I agree with Weird....the men are the ones subjected to the poor treatment. The men make almost nothing, only get paid on the "money shot".... The women get a higher pay scale, normally choose any action they are willing/prefer to do, and can normally choose the male actor. I am not saying the people in the industry may not suffer some problems, but painting all these women as victims is not the true reality.

besides, it's a moral issue as well. Why should a married man fantasize about sex with another woman?
 

Why would watching porn cause a husband to fantasize about another woman? Psychologically men are more visual, and women are more prone to fantasies of others. Plus you are not in your spouses head, you have no clue whether they are picturing the hottie they saw earlier in the day.


If it is both spouses decision to avoid porn, toys or anything...that is that couples choice, it does not mean another couple needs to have those same hangups or has a lesser relationship. Kinda like toys, my hubby's buddy was talking one day about feeling insulted that his woman wanted a toy....my husband responded " well when my penis vibrates, I guess then I could feel inadequate
, until then whatever makes her happy". :drinker:

Linli_Anne

As people, sex is pleasurable for us. It can be a very intimate, very tender, very incredible bond between 2 people, but sometimes you just need to release all those endorphins that come along with the act. Neither act is either right or wrong.

Porn as a supplement in a relationship is fine - in my view it is a way that we can continue to take care of ourselves and our well being.

Porn as a replacement in a relationship is a big red flag of something else going on.

I watch. Hubs watches. We watch together.

cstringfellow2013

right, so I'm an anarchist now who doesn't believe in any kind of morality or right or wrong. Interesting. Dichotomous thinking is the plague of the modern world. Can you not conceive of the idea that someone can believe in sexual freedom, yet still have other moral values, like believing that rape and murder are wrong and should be punished? In terms of sexuality, yes I have morals and an understanding of what's right and what's wrong. As in, what goes on between consenting adults is their business, and enjoying sex (including variations from heterosexual monogamy) is a normal, natural human thing. But if they're not consenting or not adults then that's totally wrong and people who do that absolutely should be punished, severely.

You did make a judgement, you called it "immoral" - that's a judgement.

yes chimpanzees are relevent, because there is an objective way to measure what is or is not natural. That particular species of chimpanzee is polygnynadrous and bisexual. They're also humans' closest relative in the animal kingdom. Having studied anthropology for years (first at university then after that for fun) I would say that humans are also polygynandrous and bisexual, with variation (as in some people are exclusively homosexual and others are exclusively heterosexual and some other variations in the mix as well, and this is part of normal variation in the species). I don't think it's realistic, fair or healthy to expect everyone to be heterosexual and monogamous. If that's what works for you then great, I'm happy for you and that too is part of normal human variation. But I object to expecting everyone in a species that's as sexually diverse as humans are to conform to this. It actually causes a lot of pain, suffering and serious problems for people who are not naturally exclusively heterosexual.

I completely agree with everything you have said here and want to stress what I have highlighted.
THANK YOU!!!

Edited to clarify my point.