Why are people so hateful??

sjaplo

Nice is relative. Matter-of-fact is often confused with being mean. Also, disagreement is not being mean. I may not agree with your approach at all, but because I say so doesn't mean I'm being mean to you. If you're juicing, I happen to think juicing is stupid. So, I'm going to say that to you. And, I say that to people in real life too. It's not mean, it actually is stupid.

But calling someone stupid IS mean. As someone who has tried juicing, I agree, it doesn't help you lose weight in the long run and is definitely bad for you. That doesn't mean calling people who do it stupid is called for or reasonable.

This is where some of the misunderstandings come from - this poster did not call anyone "stupid". The poster gave his/her opinion that the act of juicing was stupid. Read the words - not what you think it means.

Edited to say I kept reading and this was covered in depth. There should be an alert when a mean people thread starts, I always come late.

oregonzoo

I really am sorry for anybody with so little real world experience they find a fitness website a hateful place.


Rude awakenings are likely to be coming.

PikaKnight

I'm not saying that these were hateful necessarily just that they could of been done better.

(not gonna search for thread it's not that important to me)
There was a thread where a woman explained her parents took her phone away or television. While this may seem silly (it did to me) later after a bunch of prodding and poking fun of it came out that the woman had a mental issue.

And realize she made that post MULTIPLE times at least 1-2 weeks apart..and the first time she made the post was when she first created the account.

Why would you come on a fitness site, create an account and post that?

Trolls. They don't just live under the bridge. There are legit ones out there.

likitisplit

Definitely seen it. It also seems like people like to pile on here...there's a few that tend to bully and then all of the friends jump in too.

You are over thinking it.

People who are active in the forum tend to have friends who are active in the forums and know the other regulars.

Threads that have frequent posts tend to stay at the top of the message boards.

So, if you have a flame-bait thread, it'll have a lot of activity as everybody who is active in the forums has their say simply because the volume is keeping it going.

It might appear that friends are piling on. For instance, I'm friends with neither PikaKnight nor JoRocka and yet you'll see us responding to a number of the same threads and bantering with each other - and even frequently agreeing. It might appear that we are friends who come in and support each other. But that's not what's happening. It's just an artifact of the way the forums are set up.

Now, if you come on here and personally attack somebody, you may incite a certain amount of support from their friends. I've seen that happen occasionally.

Aaron_K123

I'm not saying that these were hateful necessarily just that they could of been done better.

(not gonna search for thread it's not that important to me)
There was a thread where a woman explained her parents took her phone away or television. While this may seem silly (it did to me) later after a bunch of prodding and poking fun of it came out that the woman had a mental issue. Now is any of this true? Hell I dunno but if a co-worker/stranger/etc came up to you and was shaken for whatever reason. Would you say the same thing that you did on the Internet?

I'm not saying the original poster is right by any means, I think some people here do need to grow thicker skin. However I wouldn't want to be responsible for someone doing something drastic for a laugh. Way reaching here (big time) but if any of you know who Amanda Todd is, she cried out for help on YouTube making a video of people bullying her and the comments ripped into her big time. She later killed herself.

Is someone going to kill themselves over a thread here? I sincerely hope not but the point is still valid. Do you feel bigger and badder because you poked fun at someone on the Internet and someone laughed?

Yeah don't disagree with you there. The difference is of course we are adults and this is an internet website we voluntarily come to. No one is forcing us to read the forums, no one here is bound into social interaction with anyone else here.

yo_andi

Where did I put my BINGO card for today?

JoRocka

this place is pretty bad- god- you should see my sport bike forum- those people are RUTHLESS- they tried to astrick out swear words (like they do here for say- **** the ****ing ****ers)... that did NOT end well for them. (the owners of the forum) LOL
we now swear freely. lol

Or check out some of the gun forums I frequent. Ok, frequent is a little much, I have to bounce when they start blathering about politics... as for the sport bikers. I have a friend who fancies herself quite the sportie. She "loves" it when I say, "Hey Squid. How are things? Squiding out much lately?"

goat gotten. dander up. nuclear winter commenced.

gun people are pretty much bike people- or rather I should say- bike people are pretty much gun people.

People who like toys- like LOTS of toys.
LOL yeah- the politics gets fun- fortunately ours we have a complete subforum that's losely modded- you're pretty much cool to say anything you want as long as it's not a personal attack- seriously- it's insane. .. but the politics gets crazy- also the whole "new rider wants a 600"- it gets a little intense depending on how childish newbey is.

ah well.
But as I sit here in my jacket- and armored jeans (none of my leather/textiles fit any more sad panda face)... I could totally see "goat gotten- nuclear winter commenced:"

it makes me really REALLY crazy when I tell people I ride a sport bike- and they go- oh you mean a crotch rocket?
no I mean a sport bike
"yeah yeah same thing"

MOTHERFUC*KING FUCLRS

crazy town. instant crazy down.

I also see I'm no interrupting this thread which has gotten slighltly back on track??

WTF- what happened to ice cream and gelato???

Aaron_K123

Definitely seen it. It also seems like people like to pile on here...there's a few that tend to bully and then all of the friends jump in too.

You are over thinking it.

People who are active in the forum tend to have friends who are active in the forums and know the other regulars.

Threads that have frequent posts tend to stay at the top of the message boards.

So, if you have a flame-bait thread, it'll have a lot of activity as everybody who is active in the forums has their say simply because the volume is keeping it going.

It might appear that friends are piling on. For instance, I'm friends with neither PikaKnight nor JoRocka and yet you'll see us responding to a number of the same threads and bantering with each other - and even frequently agreeing. It might appear that we are friends who come in and support each other. But that's not what's happening. It's just an artifact of the way the forums are set up.

Now, if you come on here and personally attack somebody, you may incite a certain amount of support from their friends. I've seen that happen occasionally.

Did you just call Pika stupid? Hey Pika, I think she just called you stupid.

wheird

This is supposed to be a place of help and support, not ripping each other to shreds on who is right and wrong.

Jealously drives people to do/say a lot of mean things. Sorry to hear you've had a bad experience

Jealousy? Really?

*jots down your name* The time shall come.

PikaKnight

this place is pretty bad- god- you should see my sport bike forum- those people are RUTHLESS- they tried to astrick out swear words (like they do here for say- **** the ****ing ****ers)... that did NOT end well for them. (the owners of the forum) LOL
we now swear freely. lol

Or check out some of the gun forums I frequent. Ok, frequent is a little much, I have to bounce when they start blathering about politics... as for the sport bikers. I have a friend who fancies herself quite the sportie. She "loves" it when I say, "Hey Squid. How are things? Squiding out much lately?"

goat gotten. dander up. nuclear winter commenced.

gun people are pretty much bike people- or rather I should say- bike people are pretty much gun people.

People who like toys- like LOTS of toys.
LOL yeah- the politics gets fun- fortunately ours we have a complete subforum that's losely modded- you're pretty much cool to say anything you want as long as it's not a personal attack- seriously- it's insane. .. but the politics gets crazy- also the whole "new rider wants a 600"- it gets a little intense depending on how childish newbey is.

ah well.
But as I sit here in my jacket- and armored jeans (none of my leather/textiles fit any more sad panda face)... I could totally see "goat gotten- nuclear winter commenced:"

it makes me really REALLY crazy when I tell people I ride a sport bike- and they go- oh you mean a crotch rocket?
no I mean a sport bike
"yeah yeah same thing"

MOTHERFUC*KING FUCLRS

crazy town. instant crazy down.

I also see I'm no interrupting this thread which has gotten slighltly back on track??

WTF- what happened to ice cream and gelato???

gaming forums and mother/baby forums...especially the mother/baby ones.

ILiftHeavyAcrylics

Definitely seen it. It also seems like people like to pile on here...there's a few that tend to bully and then all of the friends jump in too.

You are over thinking it.

People who are active in the forum tend to have friends who are active in the forums and know the other regulars.

Threads that have frequent posts tend to stay at the top of the message boards.

So, if you have a flame-bait thread, it'll have a lot of activity as everybody who is active in the forums has their say simply because the volume is keeping it going.

It might appear that friends are piling on. For instance, I'm friends with neither PikaKnight nor JoRocka and yet you'll see us responding to a number of the same threads and bantering with each other - and even frequently agreeing. It might appear that we are friends who come in and support each other. But that's not what's happening. It's just an artifact of the way the forums are set up.

Now, if you come on here and personally attack somebody, you may incite a certain amount of support from their friends. I've seen that happen occasionally.

Also when a person responds to a thread it shows on their newsfeed and their friends follow them in. I rarely come to the Forums page-- I just click the links from my feed.

deksgrl

likitisplit

I've had people jump on an idea I posted in a thread and rip it apart and gif post and "jump" on me.

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1297097-a-simple-thought-on-how-to-set-a-calorie-goal

So what. They didn't like the idea I posted. I explained it, they explained themselves, I got their point and decided to rephrase, we had a good laugh at it and that was that. I really don't see that as "bullying" or "hate"

If I had responded defensively I'm sure I would have gotten pilled on more...again though, that isn't bullying...that is people responding to your responses.

If you are an adult and you are on an internet forum and you claim to have been bullied I have to seriously question how overly sensitive you are.

Looks like you've got some big girl panties there.

PikaKnight

This is supposed to be a place of help and support, not ripping each other to shreds on who is right and wrong.

Jealously drives people to do/say a lot of mean things. Sorry to hear you've had a bad experience

Jealousy? Really?

*jots down your name* The time shall come.

:laugh:

PikaKnight

Definitely seen it. It also seems like people like to pile on here...there's a few that tend to bully and then all of the friends jump in too.

You are over thinking it.

People who are active in the forum tend to have friends who are active in the forums and know the other regulars.

Threads that have frequent posts tend to stay at the top of the message boards.

So, if you have a flame-bait thread, it'll have a lot of activity as everybody who is active in the forums has their say simply because the volume is keeping it going.

It might appear that friends are piling on. For instance, I'm friends with neither PikaKnight nor JoRocka and yet you'll see us responding to a number of the same threads and bantering with each other - and even frequently agreeing. It might appear that we are friends who come in and support each other. But that's not what's happening. It's just an artifact of the way the forums are set up.

Now, if you come on here and personally attack somebody, you may incite a certain amount of support from their friends. I've seen that happen occasionally.

Did you just call Pika stupid? Hey Pika, I think she just called you stupid.

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh:

JoRocka

gaming forums and mother/baby forums...especially the mother/baby ones.

I have heard tell of the tales of mommy boards.

Thank god I never have to go in there- sounds effing terrible. Hormones are a b!tch.

likitisplit

Definitely seen it. It also seems like people like to pile on here...there's a few that tend to bully and then all of the friends jump in too.

You are over thinking it.

People who are active in the forum tend to have friends who are active in the forums and know the other regulars.

Threads that have frequent posts tend to stay at the top of the message boards.

So, if you have a flame-bait thread, it'll have a lot of activity as everybody who is active in the forums has their say simply because the volume is keeping it going.

It might appear that friends are piling on. For instance, I'm friends with neither PikaKnight nor JoRocka and yet you'll see us responding to a number of the same threads and bantering with each other - and even frequently agreeing. It might appear that we are friends who come in and support each other. But that's not what's happening. It's just an artifact of the way the forums are set up.

Now, if you come on here and personally attack somebody, you may incite a certain amount of support from their friends. I've seen that happen occasionally.

Did you just call Pika stupid? Hey Pika, I think she just called you stupid.

I'm so reporting you, bully.

Aaron_K123

I've had people jump on an idea I posted in a thread and rip it apart and gif post and "jump" on me.

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1297097-a-simple-thought-on-how-to-set-a-calorie-goal

So what. They didn't like the idea I posted. I explained it, they explained themselves, I got their point and decided to rephrase, we had a good laugh at it and that was that. I really don't see that as "bullying" or "hate"

If I had responded defensively I'm sure I would have gotten pilled on more...again though, that isn't bullying...that is people responding to your responses.

If you are an adult and you are on an internet forum and you claim to have been bullied I have to seriously question how overly sensitive you are.

Looks like you've got some big girl panties there.

A good number of people currently on my friends list got there by destroying one of my posts in an articulate manner.

ILiftHeavyAcrylics

this place is pretty bad- god- you should see my sport bike forum- those people are RUTHLESS- they tried to astrick out swear words (like they do here for say- **** the ****ing ****ers)... that did NOT end well for them. (the owners of the forum) LOL
we now swear freely. lol

Or check out some of the gun forums I frequent. Ok, frequent is a little much, I have to bounce when they start blathering about politics... as for the sport bikers. I have a friend who fancies herself quite the sportie. She "loves" it when I say, "Hey Squid. How are things? Squiding out much lately?"

goat gotten. dander up. nuclear winter commenced.

gun people are pretty much bike people- or rather I should say- bike people are pretty much gun people.

People who like toys- like LOTS of toys.
LOL yeah- the politics gets fun- fortunately ours we have a complete subforum that's losely modded- you're pretty much cool to say anything you want as long as it's not a personal attack- seriously- it's insane. .. but the politics gets crazy- also the whole "new rider wants a 600"- it gets a little intense depending on how childish newbey is.

ah well.
But as I sit here in my jacket- and armored jeans (none of my leather/textiles fit any more sad panda face)... I could totally see "goat gotten- nuclear winter commenced:"

it makes me really REALLY crazy when I tell people I ride a sport bike- and they go- oh you mean a crotch rocket?
no I mean a sport bike
"yeah yeah same thing"

MOTHERFUC*KING FUCLRS

crazy town. instant crazy down.

I also see I'm no interrupting this thread which has gotten slighltly back on track??

WTF- what happened to ice cream and gelato???

Gelato Fiasco Peanut Butter Stracciatella.

PikaKnight

gaming forums and mother/baby forums...especially the mother/baby ones.

I have heard tell of the tales of mommy boards.

Thank god I never have to go in there- sounds effing terrible. Hormones are a b!tch.

I went there because people kept saying how bad it was and I wanted to go see.

Never again. *shudders in horror*