Do i have the right to be upset?

khara2012

If he's not answering your texts, he doesn't respect your thoughts and feelings. That is worse than the whole weekend screw-up with the shift switching...and, really, I would explain to your co-worker. If she hadn't already made plans, she won't mind switching back. Trust me... I've done the shift switching thing at work.

DeguelloTex

He's seeing someone else.

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Galatea_Stone

I can have my opinion, but what does your gut tell you? Go with your gut. You know the guy. You know why he's acting this way, and the reason you're asking a bunch of strangers on the internet is you probably already know the answer.

My advice:

I don't have any.

My opinion and assumptions:

I have lots based on past experience and a really good BS meter that's never failed me before.

Tigg_er

the amount projection in this thread is ridiculous. have none of you ever wanted a weekend alone after having a sh*tty week? who the hell wants to spend 4 hours on a train in that kind of mood?

im not saying its 100% chance he's not lying, but jesus jump to conclusions much

Seriously.

To everyone stating, "He's lying!" have you never had a fight with a loved one and been in a bad mood? Is that really so out of the realm of possibility?

A lot of people have had really bad relationships, and that is informing the advice they're giving.

Yeah, I do not understand the confusion people are having. If I am in a bad mood I want to be alone. I dont want to talk or see anyone, including my SO. It is therapeutic for me amd ensures that I dont say something that I will regret while upset.

I don't either. When I get that way I shut my phones off so I dont have to deal with any BS till I get my head on straight.

Tigg_er

BUt I do have a quick question for women. If your man did not pick up call number 1-5 why call 20 times and do you think that conversation going to be a good one? I need to understand women logic.
call 1 did not answer. Lets call 10 more times back to back he will answer. Still no answer lets keep calling.

I don't get why women call 20 times. I do understand maybe once or twice. But on the other side of that if a girl calls once or twice and you don't answer and have the ability to text her, send her a text saying you don't want to talk right now you'll call her later. Then she knows you are okay at least and knows she will get to talk to you later. But girls need to take a chill pill to and understand that people don't always want to talk, people need their space, and sometimes people don't have service, don't have their phone whatever. I think if I was a guy and a girl called me 20 times...next time she was out with her girlfriends I'd call her 20 times just to see how she likes it....(even if she answered all 20 times) ha

The only legitimate reason to call someone 20 times is if there is a serious emergency, or they said they would be somewhere at x time and it's many hours later and nobody has heard from them, which I would also consider an emergency.

That would still not make sense. If there actually were an emergency, the other person still wouldn't be able to respond, so calling 20 times STILL serves no purpose other than to make the caller appear clingy and psychotic. To me, it just send the message "I'm pissed and I demand attention NOW, so I'm going to be as obnoxious as possible until you acknowledge me!!"

The picture of a furious toddler holding her breath and going blue in the face until she gets what she wants suddenly comes to mind. I have no idea why, though...

Unless the house is burning, the car was hit by a tornado, and the kiddos have joined a cult it's not okay to call 20 times. Otherwise, it's psycho clinger behavior.

Hense serious emergency. Something along the lines of "Your mom is in the hospital in a coma and going to die in the next 2 hours" type serious.

OP how many times did you call him?

BTW girls in MARYLAND do that Im going to keep calling until you pick up. Even if I use all your anytime minutes I will still keep on calling.

Thats why I shut the phones off . Some people cant seem to get it when you dont want to talk.

haildodger

Someone may have posted this already, but just in case...

“Never make someone a priority when all you are to them is an option.”

― Maya Angelou

nicailyzee

This thread is long and I could not read it all but forgive him. Jump on a train and go see what he is really up to. If you are wrong then take some flowers for his mother and pretend nothing happened just like he is pretending you are not texting him, good luck!

yopeeps025

This thread is long and I could not read it all but forgive him. Jump on a train and go see what he is really up to. If you are wrong then take some flowers for his mother and pretend nothing happened just like he is pretending you are not texting him, good luck!

Like I did say that can lead to a deal breaker.

tar0809

Yes you do have a right to be mad. That is a lame excuse for him bailing on seeing you! Yes I know he is mad and that's fine but he should want to get away from his mother for a little and try to occupy his thoughts with something other then the situation with his mom. I don't think he is being quite honest with you on why he doesn't want to come to see you now. And when you tried calling and texting and he didn't respond well that would make me even more mad and frustrated!! Then to just not really care when you said you think you need to go separate ways? hmm maybe he wasn't that serious about you and in that case yeah its sad but that just means you can find someone near you and better then that toolbag!!!

amylite

He's lying to you. He didn't want to come see you. Also, have you already met?

^^^ THIS :-)