which parent is the jerk in this instance

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  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Mom B is the jerk and clearly you are Mom B. :smile:
  • jenny24012014
    jenny24012014 Posts: 83 Member
    I think your mum B.

    I think mum A was maybe over reacting but then if she has children from other families coming it's a bit more understandable - she's making the choice for her kids and also as the responsible adult for a load of other children. To be honest though I don't care that much about head lice so it wouldn't have bothered me. All kids get them.
  • _Waffle_
    _Waffle_ Posts: 13,049 Member
    FYI
    Shampoo hair with special shampoo that kills lice and nits. Follow the instructions carefully. Remove all nits with a fine-tooth comb and by hand. Sometimes a second treatment is needed one or two weeks later to kill the lice that hatched from surviving nits.
    If it's just been a few weeks since the lice were killed then it's still not a 100% sure thing that they're all gone. A second round of treatment might be necessary. I wouldn't want to risk my kids being around either. Not that you'll get anything and yes lice aren't a death sentence but it's a pain in the @ss.

    Second point: Since when does a child crying and being sad have any bearing on making sound parenting decisions? We can't give in to the whims of our children that easily. It sucks when they cry but we're the adults and make the adult decisions. He might not understand it but he'll get over it the very next time he gets a play date.
  • ValGogo
    ValGogo Posts: 2,168 Member
    I know that you can get the lice and nits in one shot. I understand their "fear" but I would not have told the "nit" mom that tey can't come over.

    Did you say they offered to postpone it? Hmmmm, however, I know how the kids get when they have something exciting in thier heads and it's hard to get them to understand without them feeling bad.

    Then again, what did the "nit" mom say to the little kid that made him feel "nacho" mom didn't like him? Is the kid so young that he didn't understand that it was a postponement? Did the mom say something in anger to make him believe the was not wanted?

    It's a tough call. If the families are really close, then the other family should have understood that the lice/nit problem was solved. Or, if a postponement was a possibility, then it could have been postponed for two weeks.
  • besaro
    besaro Posts: 1,858 Member
    good grief
  • Cranquistador
    Cranquistador Posts: 39,744 Member
    One is overreacting and one is passive aggressive.
    pretty much
  • opus649
    opus649 Posts: 633 Member
    Shampoo hair with special shampoo that kills lice and nits. Follow the instructions carefully. Remove all nits with a fine-tooth comb and by hand. Sometimes a second treatment is needed one or two weeks later to kill the lice that hatched from surviving nits.

    Well now you're just nit-picking.








    :smile:
  • deluxmary2000
    deluxmary2000 Posts: 981 Member
    Actually, I lost track of who Mom A and Mom B are... the one who got all pissy that someone didn't want her family to potentially catch lice is the jerk. Sorry if that's you.
  • bugaboo_sue
    bugaboo_sue Posts: 552 Member
    FYI
    Shampoo hair with special shampoo that kills lice and nits. Follow the instructions carefully. Remove all nits with a fine-tooth comb and by hand. Sometimes a second treatment is needed one or two weeks later to kill the lice that hatched from surviving nits.
    If it's just been a few weeks since the lice were killed then it's still not a 100% sure thing that they're all gone. A second round of treatment might be necessary. I wouldn't want to risk my kids being around either. Not that you'll get anything and yes lice aren't a death sentence but it's a pain in the @ss.

    Second point: Since when does a child crying and being sad have any bearing on making sound parenting decisions? We can't give in to the whims of our children that easily. It sucks when they cry but we're the adults and make the adult decisions. He might not understand it but he'll get over it the very next time he gets a play date.

    Also even though Mom B didn't have lice she still should have treated herself as a precautionary measure.

    I hate to say it but I'm kind of with Mom A on this one.
  • meshashesha2012
    meshashesha2012 Posts: 8,329 Member
    Mom B is being a jerk by taking it personally that Mom A didnt want to risk having nachos with a side of lice.

    i think mom b turned into a jerk with the "do you think i cant handle blah blah blah" bit without understanding that mom a would rather be safe than sorry. and there are plenty of people who get lice, and dont treat it correctly even they they think they did.
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  • BigT555
    BigT555 Posts: 2,067 Member
    i dont know a single person who has had lice, i remember inspections at school when i was young and there was always an announcement that we were lice free. considering a few people said lice are inevitable, are they really all that common in other areas?
  • kelsully
    kelsully Posts: 1,008 Member
    I understand both sides of the story as we dealt with lice 6 years ago and I still hate the thought of ever having to deal with it ever again.

    I educated people on what I knew. Explained the treatments I used and how obsessively thorough I was being about the infestation..then I simply asked.."If I had told you that we had a case of strep throat or the stomach flu 2-3 weeks ago that was such a chore due to all the sanitizing I did and cleaning and treatments etc but that we are all feeling soo much better, would you still be asking to not come?" Catching an infectious germ like a stomach bug is actually more likely than getting lice...if they would attend after an illness but not after lice then they are being paranoid about lice because it gives them the willies..not because they don't trust you.
  • ValGogo
    ValGogo Posts: 2,168 Member
    id never be friends with anyone who ever had lice. dirty people.

    (busts out laughing)
  • FaylinaMeir
    FaylinaMeir Posts: 661 Member
    id never be friends with anyone who ever had lice. dirty people.

    I hope you're trolling because you do realize that lice PREFER clean people's hair.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    I think all of the people involved are over reacting.
  • Mikkimeow
    Mikkimeow Posts: 1,282 Member
    Sounds like both moms overreacted.
  • rml_16
    rml_16 Posts: 16,414 Member
    Is anyone else's head suddenly itchy?
  • LoneWolf_70
    LoneWolf_70 Posts: 1,151 Member
    Is anyone else's head suddenly itchy?

    +1
  • ValGogo
    ValGogo Posts: 2,168 Member
    Papa B is an over-reactive schmuck, Mom A is also over reacting to his over reaction, Mom B is caught in the middle. No good solution other than talk it out over beers and just let it pass.

    Is is just me of is this Drama Free Zone kinda sexy? Whoops, wrong place for this

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  • _Waffle_
    _Waffle_ Posts: 13,049 Member
    According to my calculations you're both women arguing over nothing much of anything. Did I get it right?

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  • JGonzo82
    JGonzo82 Posts: 167 Member
    Is anyone else's head suddenly itchy?

    +1

    me too. ick.
  • morethenjustmum
    morethenjustmum Posts: 170 Member
    I would just like to add that I asked because I genuinely feel like I handle it badly and overreacted just a smidge ;-). My husband was not very helpful cause he is lovely and supports me to a fault. I needed the opinions of people who don't know myself or my friend so I could perhaps look at the situation with different eyes.
  • newdaydawning79
    newdaydawning79 Posts: 1,503 Member
    Mom B is right to be upset (although I think the info regarding the son could have been left out but I likely would have said the same thing lol). My sister did this with my ex sister-in-law and my two nieces and it caused a familial divide like you wouldn't believe. It's quite easy to see if a person is still infected post-treatment. And 2 weeks later? Yeah, lice sucks, it's a valid concern if someone is being treated for it currently. But not once all of the eggs/buggers are gone.
  • Spnneil06
    Spnneil06 Posts: 18,745 Member
    I side with mom B.
  • emdeesea
    emdeesea Posts: 1,823 Member
    You're mom B.

    And I have to say I side with the other folks. And it's nothing personal - you're getting overworked. They just want to make sure that nothing spreads.
  • ValGogo
    ValGogo Posts: 2,168 Member
    I would just like to add that I asked because I genuinely feel like I handle it badly and overreacted just a smidge ;-). My husband was not very helpful cause he is lovely and supports me to a fault. I needed the opinions of people who don't know myself or my friend so I could perhaps look at the situation with different eyes.

    You're being very nice about it. I hope the friendship can be salvaged.

    Good luck.
  • neandermagnon
    neandermagnon Posts: 7,436 Member
    To be completely honest, I also would have cancelled. Better safe than sorry. And they did make an attempt to reschedule, which is exactly what I would have done. That being said if it were my son that had the lice two weeks prior, I probably also would have been upset. Call your friend. We are parents and we all get a little nuts over protecting our children. I got into it with a friend over a TB scare. I called her and said I wanted to meet when she was cleared. I brought some beer we apologized to each other and it was done.

    How is head lice even remotely comparable with TB? One is a harmless, albeit annoying, insect that can easily be killed with shampoo treatments from the pharmacy, the other is a killer disease of which there are several strains that are resistant to antibiotics.... I'm with you on the TB scare thing, but head lice are just an annoyance.
  • lessbounce
    lessbounce Posts: 250 Member
    I'm not a parent but it seems a funny thing to be creating so much of a fuss about. Erm I had lice twice at first school, and yep I'm ok now - good job, nice house, fabulous husband, great friends and family.
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    Family A is overly cautious. Family B is overly sensitive. This is not worth getting upset over. Just let it go. :flowerforyou:

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