MY RESONSE TO -"SO YOU WANT A NICE STOMACH"

GraceCamD
GraceCamD Posts: 128 Member
in Health and Weight Loss
I KNOW I SAID THIS AT THE END OF THE ABOVE THREAD BUT IT SHOULD BE REPEATED SO WOMEN WITH CHILDREN DO NOT FEEL BAD ABOUT THEMSELVES OR HAVE UNREAL EXPECTATIONS, AND TO THOSE OF YOU WHO HAVE NOT HAD KIDDIES KUDOS TO YOU, I USED TO HAVE RIPPED ABS BEFORE I HAD KIDS ENJOY IT WHILE IT LASTS!! LOL....I don't care how skinny you get, how much weight you lose, or how many sit-ups or training you do, how much self discipline, self will you have, if you have had babies, especially 2-3+ there's no way you will have a ripped stomach EVER AGAIN. Although it can be IMPROVED WITH EXERCISE AND MOSTLY IMPROVED BY SURGURY. There will always be that extra skin from STRETCHING.....but for me I am PROUD AND OF MY STRETCH MARKS those are my BATTLE SCARS and I would not have my BEAUTIFUL SONS WITHOUT THEM :)
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  • MelodyandBarbells
    MelodyandBarbells Posts: 7,724 Member
    The author has children
  • RHachicho
    RHachicho Posts: 1,115 Member
    Eeeerm OK. I think you are more upset about this than you would have us believe. Just know that yes this is probably different for different people. Maybe you are right or maybe you just got unlucky. But I think the OP of that post has had kids too. Don't know that for sure but I seem to remember her mentioning them. In any case your stretchy skin does not define you as a person. Try not to get too upset about it ok. I mean yeah you say they are battle scars and all. But frankly if they didn't bug you, You would not get this worked up about them.

    If it helps I have shelves under my *kitten* that just won't go away. I don't really care too much but hey they're there. Maybe they will go away as I lose more weight. But if they don't /shrug.
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,161 Member
    There are a number of eye popping success stories of ladies on here with kids who have stomachs I could bounce quarters off of. Including the OP of that thread's.
  • Supertact
    Supertact Posts: 466 Member
    Ya I'm gonna call bs
  • _BearNecessities_
    _BearNecessities_ Posts: 432 Member
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    Oh yeah, and BS. That is a complete load of crap.
  • GraceCamD
    GraceCamD Posts: 128 Member
    No I am PROUD of my body especially when I gained 75 lbs with all pregnancys and now I am 113 lbs. I just don't like people giving women that have had babies unreal expectations about their stomachs is all. If I was that upset I would go run out and get PLASTIC SURGURY I certainly have the money too but I have not! And I would like to know HOW many pregnancies the author has had? I have had four. I'm not bashing you author but it is hard to believe that picture is your real stomach if you have had multiple pregnancies, maybe If you have had one, it would be easier to believe. The stand point I am coming from is I have DR's in my family and they have told me it is MEDICALLY IMPOSSIBLE for a womens stomach/the muscles to go back to what they were before pregnancy because they get too stretched and injured. So that is why I made my post, understand? and if that is your real stomach author than I quess I will read your post more carefully so I can tell my Dr's in my family about what you say, did not mean to sound bashing. :)
  • MelodyandBarbells
    MelodyandBarbells Posts: 7,724 Member
    I promise I'm not a stalker. Okay I kind of am, but here's a link to usmcmp's story that she posted:

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/971636-my-story-of-sweet-revenge-pics
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  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,161 Member
    I'm confused. Didn't you blow up in a thread a couple weeks back about this, then swear off the forums, then come back today and start an apology thread for blowing up, and now you've reignited the exact same thing you blew up about last time?
  • kaseyr1505
    kaseyr1505 Posts: 624 Member
    Um.. okay. I'm sorry you're upset. Maybe forums aren't the best place for you.
  • DMadelineP
    DMadelineP Posts: 50 Member
    My mother is ripped and has abs. I have 3 sisters.
  • GraceCamD
    GraceCamD Posts: 128 Member
    please read my second post before bashing me....I was not bashing or yelling, put yourself in my shoes, if you had Dr's in your family would you not tend to believe what they told you on the subject.....but I do admit I should have read her post more carefully before I posted.....it's the ADHD I can admit it hey I can bash myself lol
  • marieamethyst
    marieamethyst Posts: 869 Member
    Huh... I don't have a problem with my stomach or loose skin, and I'm 14 months postpartum. I also ended up with only one teeny, tiny little stretch mark during the last two weeks before I gave birth. Otherwise my stomach is stretch mark-free and almost as flat as it was in college/early 20's pre-baby.

    I get what you're trying to say, and that's great (I'm still pissed at the people that mocked the mother trying to sunbathe on the beach in a bikini for the first time in years because of her post-children tummy), but I don't think this post is the way to go about spreading the positive encouragement. Especially when there are many women on here who have proven that it is possible to get a tight, lean stomach again.
  • ThickMcRunFast
    ThickMcRunFast Posts: 22,511 Member
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  • GraceCamD
    GraceCamD Posts: 128 Member
    and I'm no gross blob, I'm a hottie if I say so myself...for 43 with three grown kids lol.... still, im just saying I did not think my abs could ever go back to what they were before kiddies.....tell me how to post a pic on here and I will show ya'll a before and after pic of my abs...im brave :D
  • jkal1979
    jkal1979 Posts: 1,896 Member
    please read my second post before bashing me....I was not bashing or yelling, put yourself in my shoes, if you had Dr's in your family would you not tend to believe what they told you on the subject.....but I do admit I should have read her post more carefully before I posted.....it's the ADHD I can admit it hey I can bash myself lol

    ALL CAPS = YELLING
  • stephanieluvspb
    stephanieluvspb Posts: 997 Member
    Ummmm she never sais anything about rock hard abs or bouncing a coin of the stomach. She said, You want to lose belly fat and have a nice flat toned mid section? Are you telling me it is impossible to have a flat stomach after kids????? Sorry but there are a whole lot of women on here, in body builder comp and even my personal trainer who will SHOW you different.
  • GraceCamD
    GraceCamD Posts: 128 Member
    Huh... I don't have a problem with my stomach or loose skin, and I'm 14 months postpartum. I also ended up with only one teeny, tiny little stretch mark during the last two weeks before I gave birth. Otherwise my stomach is stretch mark-free and almost as flat as it was in college/early 20's pre-baby.

    I get what you're trying to say, and that's great (I'm still pissed at the people that mocked the mother trying to sunbathe on the beach in a bikini for the first time in years because of her post-children tummy), but I don't think this post is the way to go about spreading the positive encouragement. Especially when there are many women on here who have proven that it is possible to get a tight, lean stomach again.

    How much did you gain? My problem could be I gained 75 lb with each pregnancy when the recommended is 35? I think....so I REALLY STRETCHED lol and not to mention I had a 10lb baby! lol.....and then the DR said going up and down all the time killed my metabolism!
  • Lyndonbearsmommy
    Lyndonbearsmommy Posts: 1,083 Member
    Completely untrue
  • GraceCamD
    GraceCamD Posts: 128 Member
    Ummmm she never sais anything about rock hard abs or bouncing a coin of the stomach. She said, You want to lose belly fat and have a nice flat toned mid section? Are you telling me it is impossible to have a flat stomach after kids????? Sorry but there are a whole lot of women on here, in body builder comp and even my personal trainer who will SHOW you different.

    Well good im glad to know quess I better start reading :D
  • Daiako
    Daiako Posts: 12,545 Member
    I KNOW I SAID THIS AT THE END OF THE ABOVE THREAD BUT IT SHOULD BE REPEATED SO WOMEN WITH CHILDREN DO NOT FEEL BAD ABOUT THEMSELVES OR HAVE UNREAL EXPECTATIONS, AND TO THOSE OF YOU WHO HAVE NOT HAD KIDDIES KUDOS TO YOU, I USED TO HAVE RIPPED ABS BEFORE I HAD KIDS ENJOY IT WHILE IT LASTS!! LOL....I don't care how skinny you get, how much weight you lose, or how many sit-ups or training you do, how much self discipline, self will you have, if you have had babies, especially 2-3+ there's no way you will have a ripped stomach EVER AGAIN. Although it can be IMPROVED WITH EXERCISE AND MOSTLY IMPROVED BY SURGURY. There will always be that extra skin from STRETCHING.....but for me I am PROUD AND OF MY STRETCH MARKS those are my BATTLE SCARS and I would not have my BEAUTIFUL SONS WITHOUT THEM :)

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  • ew_david
    ew_david Posts: 3,473 Member
    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/topics/show/1395927-sorry-all

    Less talk. More lurking. That way, in the future, you won't sound like the loon you sound like now.

    Eta: I have three kids.
  • marieamethyst
    marieamethyst Posts: 869 Member
    And I would like to know HOW many pregnancies the author has had? I have had four. I'm not bashing you author but it is hard to believe that picture is your real stomach if you have had multiple pregnancies, maybe If you have had one, it would be easier to believe

    Well, this lady has only had three pregnancies. Maybe the 4th one will be the one that ruins those beautiful abs! :laugh:

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  • DopeItUp
    DopeItUp Posts: 18,771 Member
    There's nothing worse than flying off the handle about something in public.

    Except flying off the handle about something in public...and you were completely wrong to begin with.
  • DavPul
    DavPul Posts: 61,406 Member
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  • GraceCamD
    GraceCamD Posts: 128 Member
    please read my second post before bashing me....I was not bashing or yelling, put yourself in my shoes, if you had Dr's in your family would you not tend to believe what they told you on the subject.....but I do admit I should have read her post more carefully before I posted.....it's the ADHD I can admit it hey I can bash myself lol

    ALL CAPS = YELLING


    Oh I do the all caps all the time without thinking people always complain SORRY LOL
  • jayliospecky
    jayliospecky Posts: 25,022 Member
    :huh:

    I was actually wincing because of all the yelling in here.

    *ahem*

    Anyways.
  • randomtai
    randomtai Posts: 9,003 Member
    Wow. :noway:
  • Cranquistador
    Cranquistador Posts: 39,744 Member
    I am 43. I have kids. My stomach is improving every month. There are some stretch marks...but I think it qualifies as a nice stomach. And I hope with more reduced body fat to see more results. I don't think anyone expects it to be the same as before.

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  • marieamethyst
    marieamethyst Posts: 869 Member
    Huh... I don't have a problem with my stomach or loose skin, and I'm 14 months postpartum. I also ended up with only one teeny, tiny little stretch mark during the last two weeks before I gave birth. Otherwise my stomach is stretch mark-free and almost as flat as it was in college/early 20's pre-baby.

    I get what you're trying to say, and that's great (I'm still pissed at the people that mocked the mother trying to sunbathe on the beach in a bikini for the first time in years because of her post-children tummy), but I don't think this post is the way to go about spreading the positive encouragement. Especially when there are many women on here who have proven that it is possible to get a tight, lean stomach again.

    How much did you gain? My problem could be I gained 75 lb with each pregnancy when the recommended is 35? I think....so I REALLY STRETCHED lol and not to mention I had a 10lb baby! lol.....and then the DR said going up and down all the time killed my metabolism!

    I was overweight when I got pregnant at 165 lbs, gained 14 lbs during the pregnancy, all in the third trimester. My OB was strict about staying under 25 lbs, so I took her seriously and only gained actual baby weight! I was back to pre-pregnancy weight within a week post-birth. Gaining too quickly will definitely do that to your stomach. :(

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