You are looking so thin......

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  • bajoyba
    bajoyba Posts: 1,153 Member
    I can kind of relate to what the OP is saying. I spent all of my post-pubescent life being "curvy" and "thick" and was raised to believe that women are beautiful with some "meat on their bones". I always liked how I looked, even at my heaviest.
    And now, people come up to me at work or when I'm out doing some shopping (friends, acquaintances, co-workers, and even people that I hardly know) and tell me that I'm "so thin", or that I look too skinny, or that I should stop losing weight because "your booty is your magic", and that kinda sucks. It's not the word "thin" in and of itself but how they use it that kind of gets to me.

    However, the original post of this thread really rubs me the wrong way. It has never been my intention to be "thin" because that's simply not what I want for my body. But just because I prefer to keep my body fat at or above a certain percentage or would like a certain level of muscle definition doesn't mean I think other body types aren't beautiful. I can have specific goals for my own body without criticizing or insulting someone else, and when I really dig deep to find value in who I am as a person, it has nothing to do with what my body looks like.

    Beauty comes in a variety of shapes and sizes. Yes, attraction and preference are highly subjective, and no, you aren't required to find every body type attractive for the sake of political correctness, but it's unnecessary and mean-spirited to tear others down in order to build yourself up, and that's how the OP reads.

    Random people comment on my body size all the time now, and it really irks my tater. It's not about adjectives, it's about attitude, and it's about the fact that they think their opinion of my body should be important. No one ever commented on my body size when I was 80 pounds heavier, or if they did, it was almost all positive. People certainly never came up to me in the grocery store and said "You look good right now, but don't get any fatter!" or "Your face looks too chubby" or "Are you done gaining weight yet?" Why is it okay to do it at the other end of the spectrum?

    Love yourself as you are, and love the body you have. Compliment people, tell them they're beautiful, and build them up. Or, if you don't have anything nice to say, maybe don't say anything at all.
  • GertrudeHorse
    GertrudeHorse Posts: 646 Member
    Oh. heck. I'm late to the party... I'll have to just get the cliffs?

    For those who argue that there is no wrong way to have a body, are you advocating for pro-ana lifestyle that affects mental, physical, and reproductive health as being ok?

    Firstly, anorexia is a mental illness not a body type. Secondly, no I would never tell an anorexic person they are ugly.

    There are ways to express an opinion without disparaging others. The OP did not do that and rightfully got called out. Body shaming harms people and is not okay. For anyone. Not your body? Not your business.
  • cherrilovee
    cherrilovee Posts: 194 Member
    Thank you so much for throwing your thoughts out on the boards.
    Honestly I couldn't agree with you more!
  • Daiako
    Daiako Posts: 12,545 Member
    Oh. heck. I'm late to the party... I'll have to just get the cliffs?

    For those who argue that there is no wrong way to have a body, are you advocating for pro-ana lifestyle that affects mental, physical, and reproductive health as being ok?

    Firstly, anorexia is a mental illness not a body type. Secondly, no I would never tell an anorexic person they are ugly.

    There are ways to express an opinion without disparaging others. The OP did not do that and rightfully got called out. Body shaming harms people and is not okay. For anyone. Not your body? Not your business.

    The OP never said ugly. She's said not beautiful. There is a lot of space between 'ugly' and 'not beautiful'.

    I don't find short dudes to be attractive. Doesn't mean I think they're ugly.
  • Asherah29
    Asherah29 Posts: 354 Member
    Perhaps it is lost upon you OP, but it is possible to love yourself and express your opinion without shaming or being harmful to other people.

    ie:
    "For myself, I think my body type looks better as a fuller figure."
    or
    "I like a fit figure"

    as opposed to things like

    "No, stick figures are NOT beautiful............but look at something like the Mona Lisa (obviously far from a "Thin" woman) it IS beautiful........Why? She has curves."

    I really can't wrap my head about how people just bash themselves through the appropriate door and then defend their poor behavior as if they have done nothing wrong. You would not be correct in saying that ANYONE is disgusting or ugly or unattractive. I don't see how you think its okay to say so because someone is your version of "thin."
    Perhaps it is the fact that you were unable to express your idea's in the manner in which you were thinking them. If so an apology and clarification would be much better received than the mess that has gone forward from here.

    For an ending I go to my favorite edited for bleepiness meme. Its somewhat fitting, if we substitute stick figure for bones anyway.

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    Good day OP
  • GDLAZ
    GDLAZ Posts: 3,784 Member
    I have to side with Sir Mix-A-Lot. :smile:
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
    Oh. heck. I'm late to the party... I'll have to just get the cliffs?

    For those who argue that there is no wrong way to have a body, are you advocating for pro-ana lifestyle that affects mental, physical, and reproductive health as being ok?

    Firstly, anorexia is a mental illness not a body type. Secondly, no I would never tell an anorexic person they are ugly.

    There are ways to express an opinion without disparaging others. The OP did not do that and rightfully got called out. Body shaming harms people and is not okay. For anyone. Not your body? Not your business.

    No kidding? It's a mental illness? I would never have guessed that.

    I also never saw anyone use the word ugly anywhere. Just "not beautiful". Beauty is a spectrum. Ugly is at one end, and stunning beauty at the other. There is a whole range of in between.

    Edited again to remove strikable material.
  • GertrudeHorse
    GertrudeHorse Posts: 646 Member
    Oh. heck. I'm late to the party... I'll have to just get the cliffs?

    For those who argue that there is no wrong way to have a body, are you advocating for pro-ana lifestyle that affects mental, physical, and reproductive health as being ok?

    Firstly, anorexia is a mental illness not a body type. Secondly, no I would never tell an anorexic person they are ugly.

    There are ways to express an opinion without disparaging others. The OP did not do that and rightfully got called out. Body shaming harms people and is not okay. For anyone. Not your body? Not your business.

    The OP never said ugly. She's said not beautiful. There is a lot of space between 'ugly' and 'not beautiful'.

    I don't find short dudes to be attractive. Doesn't mean I think they're ugly.

    I also wouldn't ever go up to an anorexic person and say "you aren't beautiful". Neither would I say that to anyone who was obviously unwell.

    But in any event, the ranty vibe of the OP implied she has disdain for how thin people look rather than simply being neutral łwhich is what you're claiming with your distinction between "not beautiful" and "ugly"). Her OP was judgemental and horrible and totally unnecessary. Her responses subsequently have compounded things. If you want to see a good way to respond when being called out then see the "office treats" thread.
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
    Oh. heck. I'm late to the party... I'll have to just get the cliffs?

    For those who argue that there is no wrong way to have a body, are you advocating for pro-ana lifestyle that affects mental, physical, and reproductive health as being ok?

    Firstly, anorexia is a mental illness not a body type. Secondly, no I would never tell an anorexic person they are ugly.

    There are ways to express an opinion without disparaging others. The OP did not do that and rightfully got called out. Body shaming harms people and is not okay. For anyone. Not your body? Not your business.

    The OP never said ugly. She's said not beautiful. There is a lot of space between 'ugly' and 'not beautiful'.

    I don't find short dudes to be attractive. Doesn't mean I think they're ugly.

    As a short dude, I am going to be over here in the corner crying from the butthurt brought on me by your offensive comment.

    Oh. Wait. No, I'm not. I'm not even offended that you aren't attracted to me.
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
    Oh. heck. I'm late to the party... I'll have to just get the cliffs?

    For those who argue that there is no wrong way to have a body, are you advocating for pro-ana lifestyle that affects mental, physical, and reproductive health as being ok?

    Firstly, anorexia is a mental illness not a body type. Secondly, no I would never tell an anorexic person they are ugly.

    There are ways to express an opinion without disparaging others. The OP did not do that and rightfully got called out. Body shaming harms people and is not okay. For anyone. Not your body? Not your business.

    The OP never said ugly. She's said not beautiful. There is a lot of space between 'ugly' and 'not beautiful'.

    I don't find short dudes to be attractive. Doesn't mean I think they're ugly.

    Her OP was judgemental and horrible and totally unnecessary. Her responses subsequently have compounded things. If you want to see a good way to respond when being called out then see the "office treats" thread.

    According to you. Others may not see it that way. Which is why we should all engage in civil discourse instead of OP bashing in retaliation for a perceived offense.
  • GertrudeHorse
    GertrudeHorse Posts: 646 Member
    Oh. heck. I'm late to the party... I'll have to just get the cliffs?

    For those who argue that there is no wrong way to have a body, are you advocating for pro-ana lifestyle that affects mental, physical, and reproductive health as being ok?

    Firstly, anorexia is a mental illness not a body type. Secondly, no I would never tell an anorexic person they are ugly.

    There are ways to express an opinion without disparaging others. The OP did not do that and rightfully got called out. Body shaming harms people and is not okay. For anyone. Not your body? Not your business.

    No kidding? It's a mental illness? I would never have guessed that.

    I also never saw anyone use the word ugly anywhere. Just "not beautiful". Beauty is a spectrum. Ugly is at one end, and stunning beauty at the other. There is a whole range of in between.

    Edited again to remove strikable material.

    If you know it's a mental illness why are you bringing it as an analogy in a discussion about body types? Not all anorexics are thin or emaciated. That's my point. Have already responded to the ugly v. not beautiful. Meh I'm out.
  • Daiako
    Daiako Posts: 12,545 Member
    Oh. heck. I'm late to the party... I'll have to just get the cliffs?

    For those who argue that there is no wrong way to have a body, are you advocating for pro-ana lifestyle that affects mental, physical, and reproductive health as being ok?

    Firstly, anorexia is a mental illness not a body type. Secondly, no I would never tell an anorexic person they are ugly.

    There are ways to express an opinion without disparaging others. The OP did not do that and rightfully got called out. Body shaming harms people and is not okay. For anyone. Not your body? Not your business.

    The OP never said ugly. She's said not beautiful. There is a lot of space between 'ugly' and 'not beautiful'.

    I don't find short dudes to be attractive. Doesn't mean I think they're ugly.

    I also wouldn't ever go up to an anorexic person and say "you aren't beautiful". Neither would I say that to anyone who was obviously unwell.

    But in any event, the ranty vibe of the OP implied she has disdain for how thin people look rather than simply being neutral łwhich is what you're claiming with your distinction between "not beautiful" and "ugly"). Her OP was judgemental and horrible and totally unnecessary. Her responses subsequently have compounded things. If you want to see a good way to respond when being called out then see the "office treats" thread.


    I would never tell an anorexic person they were beautiful tho, which is decidedly different from telling them that they aren't beautiful. It's a spectrum and I'm not prepared to place the OP's opinion of thinness at any particular point in the spectrum just because she's ranty.
  • Daiako
    Daiako Posts: 12,545 Member
    Oh. heck. I'm late to the party... I'll have to just get the cliffs?

    For those who argue that there is no wrong way to have a body, are you advocating for pro-ana lifestyle that affects mental, physical, and reproductive health as being ok?

    Firstly, anorexia is a mental illness not a body type. Secondly, no I would never tell an anorexic person they are ugly.

    There are ways to express an opinion without disparaging others. The OP did not do that and rightfully got called out. Body shaming harms people and is not okay. For anyone. Not your body? Not your business.

    The OP never said ugly. She's said not beautiful. There is a lot of space between 'ugly' and 'not beautiful'.

    I don't find short dudes to be attractive. Doesn't mean I think they're ugly.

    As a short dude, I am going to be over here in the corner crying from the butthurt brought on me by your offensive comment.

    Oh. Wait. No, I'm not. I'm not even offended that you aren't attracted to me.

    But. But.

    I don't think you're beautiful. I'm pretty sure this is supposed to screw up your entire self worth and you're supposed to tell me I'm mean and not allowed to say that.
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  • GertrudeHorse
    GertrudeHorse Posts: 646 Member
    Oh. heck. I'm late to the party... I'll have to just get the cliffs?

    For those who argue that there is no wrong way to have a body, are you advocating for pro-ana lifestyle that affects mental, physical, and reproductive health as being ok?

    Firstly, anorexia is a mental illness not a body type. Secondly, no I would never tell an anorexic person they are ugly.

    There are ways to express an opinion without disparaging others. The OP did not do that and rightfully got called out. Body shaming harms people and is not okay. For anyone. Not your body? Not your business.

    The OP never said ugly. She's said not beautiful. There is a lot of space between 'ugly' and 'not beautiful'.

    I don't find short dudes to be attractive. Doesn't mean I think they're ugly.

    Her OP was judgemental and horrible and totally unnecessary. Her responses subsequently have compounded things. If you want to see a good way to respond when being called out then see the "office treats" thread.

    According to you. Others may not see it that way. Which is why we should all engage in civil discourse instead of OP bashing in retaliation for a perceived offense.

    According to me and a large number of other people on this thread. In fact there are only one or two people defending the OP. So the majority are offended and called her out. If I knew I'd inadvertently upset lots of people I would apologise and learn what I'd done wrong so I could avoid it in future. But that's just me. Also no one was being cruel, (just frank in their dislike of body shaming), which is more than I can say for the OP...

    Now I'm really out. Your last comment was posted while I was writing my reply so just thought I'd acknowledge this as well. Have a good day.
  • GertrudeHorse
    GertrudeHorse Posts: 646 Member
    Oh. heck. I'm late to the party... I'll have to just get the cliffs?

    For those who argue that there is no wrong way to have a body, are you advocating for pro-ana lifestyle that affects mental, physical, and reproductive health as being ok?

    Firstly, anorexia is a mental illness not a body type. Secondly, no I would never tell an anorexic person they are ugly.

    There are ways to express an opinion without disparaging others. The OP did not do that and rightfully got called out. Body shaming harms people and is not okay. For anyone. Not your body? Not your business.

    The OP never said ugly. She's said not beautiful. There is a lot of space between 'ugly' and 'not beautiful'.

    I don't find short dudes to be attractive. Doesn't mean I think they're ugly.

    I also wouldn't ever go up to an anorexic person and say "you aren't beautiful". Neither would I say that to anyone who was obviously unwell.

    But in any event, the ranty vibe of the OP implied she has disdain for how thin people look rather than simply being neutral łwhich is what you're claiming with your distinction between "not beautiful" and "ugly"). Her OP was judgemental and horrible and totally unnecessary. Her responses subsequently have compounded things. If you want to see a good way to respond when being called out then see the "office treats" thread.


    I would never tell an anorexic person they were beautiful tho, which is decidedly different from telling them that they aren't beautiful. It's a spectrum and I'm not prepared to place the OP's opinion of thinness at any particular point in the spectrum just because she's ranty.

    That's what everyone is saying. Sometimes nicer to say nothing if what you want to say hurts people. That's all. Okay now I'm really really leaving!
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
    Oh. heck. I'm late to the party... I'll have to just get the cliffs?

    For those who argue that there is no wrong way to have a body, are you advocating for pro-ana lifestyle that affects mental, physical, and reproductive health as being ok?

    Firstly, anorexia is a mental illness not a body type. Secondly, no I would never tell an anorexic person they are ugly.

    There are ways to express an opinion without disparaging others. The OP did not do that and rightfully got called out. Body shaming harms people and is not okay. For anyone. Not your body? Not your business.

    No kidding? It's a mental illness? I would never have guessed that.

    I also never saw anyone use the word ugly anywhere. Just "not beautiful". Beauty is a spectrum. Ugly is at one end, and stunning beauty at the other. There is a whole range of in between.

    Edited again to remove strikable material.

    If you know it's a mental illness why are you bringing it as an analogy in a discussion about body types? Not all anorexics are thin or emaciated. That's my point. Have already responded to the ugly v. not beautiful. Meh I'm out.

    Because those who engage in the lifestyle are the ones who usually end up thin and emaciated. The recovering and those in treatment don't actively engage in the lifestyle promoted. I spoke of the lifestyle and not the illness that leads to it.
  • My lighthouse brings all the boys to the yard...

    Dyinggggggggggggggggggggg hahahahaha
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
    Oh. heck. I'm late to the party... I'll have to just get the cliffs?

    For those who argue that there is no wrong way to have a body, are you advocating for pro-ana lifestyle that affects mental, physical, and reproductive health as being ok?

    Firstly, anorexia is a mental illness not a body type. Secondly, no I would never tell an anorexic person they are ugly.

    There are ways to express an opinion without disparaging others. The OP did not do that and rightfully got called out. Body shaming harms people and is not okay. For anyone. Not your body? Not your business.

    The OP never said ugly. She's said not beautiful. There is a lot of space between 'ugly' and 'not beautiful'.

    I don't find short dudes to be attractive. Doesn't mean I think they're ugly.

    As a short dude, I am going to be over here in the corner crying from the butthurt brought on me by your offensive comment.

    Oh. Wait. No, I'm not. I'm not even offended that you aren't attracted to me.

    But. But.

    I don't think you're beautiful. I'm pretty sure this is supposed to screw up your entire self worth and you're supposed to tell me I'm mean and not allowed to say that.

    Oh. I forgot. I think that is in the TOS somewhere. Ah well, I will take the strike for saying that I still think you are beautiful in that dress, and being ok with you not seeing me as beautiful. I have plenty of friends who do... including myself. I'm ok with that.
  • Daiako
    Daiako Posts: 12,545 Member
    Oh. heck. I'm late to the party... I'll have to just get the cliffs?

    For those who argue that there is no wrong way to have a body, are you advocating for pro-ana lifestyle that affects mental, physical, and reproductive health as being ok?

    Firstly, anorexia is a mental illness not a body type. Secondly, no I would never tell an anorexic person they are ugly.

    There are ways to express an opinion without disparaging others. The OP did not do that and rightfully got called out. Body shaming harms people and is not okay. For anyone. Not your body? Not your business.

    The OP never said ugly. She's said not beautiful. There is a lot of space between 'ugly' and 'not beautiful'.

    I don't find short dudes to be attractive. Doesn't mean I think they're ugly.

    I also wouldn't ever go up to an anorexic person and say "you aren't beautiful". Neither would I say that to anyone who was obviously unwell.

    But in any event, the ranty vibe of the OP implied she has disdain for how thin people look rather than simply being neutral łwhich is what you're claiming with your distinction between "not beautiful" and "ugly"). Her OP was judgemental and horrible and totally unnecessary. Her responses subsequently have compounded things. If you want to see a good way to respond when being called out then see the "office treats" thread.


    I would never tell an anorexic person they were beautiful tho, which is decidedly different from telling them that they aren't beautiful. It's a spectrum and I'm not prepared to place the OP's opinion of thinness at any particular point in the spectrum just because she's ranty.

    That's what everyone is saying. Sometimes nicer to say nothing if what you want to say hurts people. That's all. Okay now I'm really really leaving!

    If that's the case then no one should ever say anything ever because people will be offended. Do I think the OP should go around telling people they aren't beautiful? No, I even said it would behoove her to not do so, BUT I also don't think the OP was body shaming or isn't entitled to her own idea of beauty/has to be silent about what she thinks is or isn't beautiful to her because other's will be hurt. I certainly don't think it makes her horrible or awful or ugly on the inside, all of which have been said about her in this thread.

    Everyone likes to shame people for having a preference or daring to speak about not thinking all shapes and sizes are attractive and, frankly, I find that gross. If someone isn't telling you to change or telling you that no one could possibly find you attractive, but merely that they personally don't, it's not body shaming and it's not 'awful'.
  • Daiako
    Daiako Posts: 12,545 Member
    Oh. heck. I'm late to the party... I'll have to just get the cliffs?

    For those who argue that there is no wrong way to have a body, are you advocating for pro-ana lifestyle that affects mental, physical, and reproductive health as being ok?

    Firstly, anorexia is a mental illness not a body type. Secondly, no I would never tell an anorexic person they are ugly.

    There are ways to express an opinion without disparaging others. The OP did not do that and rightfully got called out. Body shaming harms people and is not okay. For anyone. Not your body? Not your business.

    The OP never said ugly. She's said not beautiful. There is a lot of space between 'ugly' and 'not beautiful'.

    I don't find short dudes to be attractive. Doesn't mean I think they're ugly.

    As a short dude, I am going to be over here in the corner crying from the butthurt brought on me by your offensive comment.

    Oh. Wait. No, I'm not. I'm not even offended that you aren't attracted to me.

    But. But.

    I don't think you're beautiful. I'm pretty sure this is supposed to screw up your entire self worth and you're supposed to tell me I'm mean and not allowed to say that.

    Oh. I forgot. I think that is in the TOS somewhere. Ah well, I will take the strike for saying that I still think you are beautiful in that dress, and being ok with you not seeing me as beautiful I have plenty of friends who do... including myself. I'm ok with that.

    I think you have a lovely mind/personality.

    No sarcasm, totally serious.

    :flowerforyou:
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
    Oh. heck. I'm late to the party... I'll have to just get the cliffs?

    For those who argue that there is no wrong way to have a body, are you advocating for pro-ana lifestyle that affects mental, physical, and reproductive health as being ok?

    Firstly, anorexia is a mental illness not a body type. Secondly, no I would never tell an anorexic person they are ugly.

    There are ways to express an opinion without disparaging others. The OP did not do that and rightfully got called out. Body shaming harms people and is not okay. For anyone. Not your body? Not your business.

    The OP never said ugly. She's said not beautiful. There is a lot of space between 'ugly' and 'not beautiful'.

    I don't find short dudes to be attractive. Doesn't mean I think they're ugly.

    Her OP was judgemental and horrible and totally unnecessary. Her responses subsequently have compounded things. If you want to see a good way to respond when being called out then see the "office treats" thread.

    According to you. Others may not see it that way. Which is why we should all engage in civil discourse instead of OP bashing in retaliation for a perceived offense.

    According to me and a large number of other people on this thread. In fact there are only one or two people defending the OP. So the majority are offended and called her out. If I knew I'd inadvertently upset lots of people I would apologise and learn what I'd done wrong so I could avoid it in future. But that's just me. Also no one was being cruel, (just frank in their dislike of body shaming), which is more than I can say for the OP...

    Now I'm really out. Your last comment was posted while I was writing my reply so just thought I'd acknowledge this as well. Have a good day.

    first, I didn't mean to single you out. You were just the person I was responding to. My point wasn't meant to be to deal with you specifically, but the collective you, as in those who found offense. Words and thoughts can only give offense when the receiver lets themself be offended. When I am offended by something, it is only because I choose to let myself be offended.

    As for the upsetting lots of people, it happens. Nobody will make everyone happy. Sometimes, it is important to make lots of people upset. It doesn't always require an apology when you do upset people. People have a difference in opinions, and some are more vocal in their opinions than others. That's actually a nice thing as long as it doesn't lead to criminal bahviour. A diverse world brings color and vibrancy to life. Everyone politely getting along and supressing their thoughts for fear of upsetting people make a dull monotonous world where no real change will ever happen. It's plastic and phony, and stale.

    As long as she wasn't actively calling people ugly and being cruel (which you admitted wasn't happening) than let her express her opinion. You don't have to agree with it. Just acknowledge her right to have it.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    People are missing the point of the thread. The OP is the one that was offended and posted an angry rant about herself being offended.

    Personally, as someone that replied, I was not offended. Just judging her, and others (you could say).
  • DjinnMarie
    DjinnMarie Posts: 1,297 Member
    Stopped reading half way through. Shame on you OP.
  • jenifr818
    jenifr818 Posts: 805 Member
    bumping to read when i get home from work
  • SpeSHul_SnoflEHk
    SpeSHul_SnoflEHk Posts: 6,256 Member
    Oh. heck. I'm late to the party... I'll have to just get the cliffs?

    For those who argue that there is no wrong way to have a body, are you advocating for pro-ana lifestyle that affects mental, physical, and reproductive health as being ok?

    Firstly, anorexia is a mental illness not a body type. Secondly, no I would never tell an anorexic person they are ugly.

    There are ways to express an opinion without disparaging others. The OP did not do that and rightfully got called out. Body shaming harms people and is not okay. For anyone. Not your body? Not your business.

    The OP never said ugly. She's said not beautiful. There is a lot of space between 'ugly' and 'not beautiful'.

    I don't find short dudes to be attractive. Doesn't mean I think they're ugly.

    As a short dude, I am going to be over here in the corner crying from the butthurt brought on me by your offensive comment.

    Oh. Wait. No, I'm not. I'm not even offended that you aren't attracted to me.

    But. But.

    I don't think you're beautiful. I'm pretty sure this is supposed to screw up your entire self worth and you're supposed to tell me I'm mean and not allowed to say that.

    Oh. I forgot. I think that is in the TOS somewhere. Ah well, I will take the strike for saying that I still think you are beautiful in that dress, and being ok with you not seeing me as beautiful I have plenty of friends who do... including myself. I'm ok with that.

    I think you have a lovely mind/personality.

    No sarcasm, totally serious.

    :flowerforyou:

    Why, thank you very much! I like you too.
  • Daiako
    Daiako Posts: 12,545 Member
    People are missing the point of the thread. The OP is the one that was offended and posted an angry rant about herself being offended.

    Personally, as someone that replied, I was not offended. Just judging her, and others (you could say).

    People posting angry rants in Motivation and Support?

    This is new and different.

    She was angry. She posted an angry rant. Some people took offense to her rant. (She probably should have said her husband/boyfriend tells her she's 'looking so thin' and then everyone would have told her what a rude thing that is to say while she progresses on her journey/lifestyle change.) I'm not sure what point has been missed.
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    People are missing the point of the thread. The OP is the one that was offended and posted an angry rant about herself being offended.

    Personally, as someone that replied, I was not offended. Just judging her, and others (you could say).

    People posting angry rants in Motivation and Support?

    This is new and different.

    She was angry. She posted an angry rant. Some people took offense to her rant. (She probably should have said her husband/boyfriend tells her she's 'looking so thin' and then everyone would have told her what a rude thing that is to say while she progresses on her journey/lifestyle change.) I'm not sure what point has been missed.

    I never said it was new or different.

    I just posted my opinions. That happens when people post threads.

    Her wording was not about her personal self, It was about her judging other people.

    I can understand if someone said that she looks so thin that she needs to eat a sandwich or something, that would be reason to be offended, in my opinion.

    But, these are just my opinions. It's ok if we all have different opinions. I'm not here to argue with strangers.
  • Cheekies_
    Cheekies_ Posts: 319 Member
    This will probably be lost among all of the OP bashing but I'll give it a shot. Those of us that are friends with the OP know that she is an incredibly sincere person. One that takes the time to personally support, motivate and build up each person on her FL. OP did not mean to offend anyone. This is just sad......
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    This will probably be lost among all of the OP bashing but I'll give it a shot. Those of us that are friends with the OP know that she is an incredibly sincere person. One that takes the time to personally support, motivate and build up each person on her FL. OP did not mean to offend anyone. This is just sad......

    Replace all of the uses of the word thin with fat, and then post a thread like that, and see what happens.

    I'm sure the OP is a wonderful person. I'm not judging her as a person. Just find this thought process a bit bizarre. I always have.

    I'm just suggesting people think things through, and perhaps learn something.